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Liliantalks:
infact 80% of nigerian married women r treated like slaves, just that the society hv subdue them to keep shut.

You are a small girl so what do u know aside dating, hangouts, flirting and crushing

gypsey:
women have become so cheap nowadays.

women have always been cheap to the rich and the powerful or you didn't hear that King Solomon in the Bible had plenty wives with over 5000 concubines


If they tell you how many wives and concubines the king of your community had back in the days of your forefathers, you will marvel.


In fact, women have even become a little expensive in our time because there is laws enforcing gender equality and trying to paint polygamy as evil

Eniolakiite:
Yea I know there are some people enjoying their marriages in Nigeria, I have relatives there.
However there are some not enjoying theirs and I’m saying the number is not insignificant and should not be neglected.

In the end, everyone should be watchful and all the best.

Marriage is sweet when with the right person.

Good, so don't make the unfortunate ones who are not enjoying their marriage in Nigeria out of their own making the focus point.....they shouldn't even be a topic of discussion cos I insist they are insignificant number today.


American men treat their women worst than Nigerian men treat their women.

How can a man expect to split every damn bill with his wife, what makes you the man, I will be ashamed to do that even if I live in the US or with Queen Elizabeth.


That is an unfair treatment of a wife to start with.


American men also kill their wives but you guys won't focus on that! Homicide cases are high their, same as domestic violence why are u not focusing on that Why is the divorce rate in the US and most western nation so high if all is well with their marriages


You ladies should stop allowing western media and crazy feminists to deceive you with wrong figures and news of Nigerian married women being treated as slaves when almost all Nigerian wife have a house help, some have drivers, cook, cleaners, etc, so I ask again, who are these suffering Nigerian wives who have been turned to slaves by their Nigerian based husbands


If your husband pays for a house help for you who takes cares of most domestic chores and only require that you prepare his best meals and serve him yourself, is that too much for a man to ask from his wife, does that make his wife a slave

For instance, my house right now is almost automated, everything, automatic wash and dry machine for laundry connected to water supply or u need to do is pour detergent and turn on water and put it on to wash and spin for u, and if u want faster drying u put on the drying bag and it dries it.


Everything in my kitchen is also automated as we speak...even a lazy idiot can cook within few minutes....I have automatic mopper for mopping the floor....tell me what a wife will do that is too tedious to scream slavery in this scenario which has become rampant in modern Nigerian homes all thanks to China affordable technology.

I repeat, don't buy those nonsense stories being peddled online and on TV, they are not many okay

efosky1246:
I was having this conversation with a friend yesterday. I keep telling her that all this fears you have about marriage will be allayed if you can train your perceptive powers in order to vet and choose the right person. When a man loves you, all this insipid fears created by feminists to make it seem like all women are suffering in marriage suddenly becomes a joke to you.

I really don't know any Nigerian man that wants to treat his wife like a doormat. or control her like a bull. most men just want to lead, albeit with love and then respected and cared for in return.

simple!!


It is an insult to Nigerian based Nigerian guys for one ekuke as Emma put it to come here and yan dust that as a Nigerian guy, that before u come to the US, u must throw away that your nonsense mentality this and that as if American men are more civilised than Nigerian based men or more intelligent or something, what kind of nonsense is that


If not that Donald Trump have put so many visa restrictions on Nigerians visiting US, most of us will be strolling into US every end of the year in style to chill and charge our phones and check out in style.


The op should go and yan this dust he did to his mates and those in his remote village, not on a public forum where there are people and relatives of people living larger than US President Trump in Nigeria, who chose not to live abroad permanently working their ass off hourly and not because they couldn't secure a good job back in Nigeria or couldnt start a profitable business and couldn't survive in Nigeria and managed to escape from Nigeria through one chance visa opportunity and only to come online to brag and act like living in the US or wherever have made him the yardstick of civilisation and good life, I hate nonsense in my life

Eniolakiite:
Well, They are not few and not insignificant.

I just looked at your profile, you live in US, what do you know about marriages in Nigeria except what you are told and what you read online or watch on TV

All my sister-in-laws are enjoying their marriages, if u see some, they look hotter than most single ladies all thanks to their beautiful marriages to my brothers....my own wife will enjoy heaven on earth, all I ask for is good health and long life to shower her with love and care.


You single ladies are you problem, you make long list of qualities your man must possess or nothing, and when you attract and accept the foolish boys into your life as a result of your wrong list and personality, you start to cry fowl.


Marriage is sweet to those that chose the right partners, it doesn't matter where they live, what matters is who they are; their personalities

Eniolakiite:
That you don't know of it doesn't mean it's not happening.

Anyway, as said, marry for the right reasons and hope for the best.

I am not saying it doesn't happen...I know some ladies are facing marital crises....but they are very few and insignificant number but people will like to blow it out of proportion like it is the norm.....and most of the ladies who have marital issues and being treated like the slaves u all are talking about are the ladies who married out of selfish reasons and greed. They threw caution of the window and chose the wrong partners thinking they would cope.....and in the process they discover they can't cope and they start to scream FOWL and start to tell nonsense stories of how Nigerian men are beasts and this and that just to discourage other ladies from getting married....if you believe them, that is your own wahala......



Most ladies married to Nigerian men based in Nigeria are enjoying their marriages.....marry the right person and you won't have any marital issue whether in Nigeria or abroad, simple!!!

emmaodet:
Hahahahahaha
My brother no vex, doohh
I was really angry too when i read all he wrote. I had to restrain myself just to comment politely on this thread.
I work 6 months out of a year (6 weeks in,6 weeks out) and that means i have a Whooping 6 months every Blessed year for myself to go on vacation, course, be with family and do anything i like while i still earn more than 500k per month flat whether at work or home and here we are, a nobody thinks he is better off than people at home when he will have to combine 3/4 jobs together and work virtually 11 and half months in a year.
I spit on him.
If he thinks he his better why don't he do just 1 job and 6 months a year in his Eldorado abroad if he is even going to be able to pay his house rent not to talk of having any investment or achievement at all.
Person go just open thread dey yan Opata.
The guys making cool cash in abroad sef, the businessmen, sport men, drug dealers are not talking but this Ekuke dey yan dust.
It's well.

I tell you....my mates and cousins who live abroad and make good cash as doctors and nurses still respect we in Nigeria....reason they roll with me cos they know I am living a great life in Nigeria despite working less hours......na all these wakapass abroad boys no go gree us hear word just because they want to impress some girls online to razzle them cheaply when they return back to Naija, it is well like u said

Eniolakiite:
yea right...

I will never really understand why you will be okay with someone you love acting like a slave and you're pleased with it.

Many marriages are just slave trade really.

Young lady stop believing that crap, it is all lies peddled by ladies who failed in their marriage by choosing the wrong guys out of their selfishness and greed!!!


Lots of ladies I know married to Nigerian guys living in Nigeria and abroad are all enjoying their marriages to the fullest....stop believing nonsense stories told online.......go into your own marriage with joy and expect the best and forget people talking nonsense and the process of having a wonderful marriage start with who you chose to marry......don't marry out of selfish reasons and greed....marry for genuine reasons....marry who you believe in and strong believe in his vision and goals....work with him to build that goal....stop marrying out of greed and you won't be crying that your husband is treating you like a slave, where does this even happen today How many married ladies in Nigeria of today are being treated like slaves like you guys are forcing us to believe

emmaodet:
My brother God will bless you.
These are the points i raised too initially that nigerian men and ladies in nigeria are not as bad as he painted it. To even make it worse, a lot of guys reading the thread are even supporting him and clicking likes.
I work and earn decent salary but when you see me at home, you will think am jobless.
I cook sometimes for my wife and son, i do go to market regularly, wash toilets, plates or our clothes in washing machine and spread them.
The way he portrayed us, like backward, archaic and uncivilized people and we need to drop our native way of thinking when coming to US.
A lot of people around me / my circle of friends treats their wives well likewise my extended family and in-laws.
I don't know where he got his mentality from and he also thinks people at home are Failures for not been in abroad.
I believe he is one of those who after graduating looked for job until he became frustrated and by chance, God answered his prayer after so many fasting, praying, night vigils and going to prayer mountains.
Most people around me travel out and come back easily to nigeria and not thinking of running out as Economic Refugees a Leech or Parasites to other country's economy, a burden.
I can travel in and out of the country for vacation or education without problem. I don't need a visa agent to help me or pad some documents for me.
I will save 2/3 months salary into my account, apply and go for interview on my own and they will give me.
Our wives are not slaves, they are happy with us. They have their freedom and respects and never regret marrying us.

Exactly!!


People like him think because they live in the US or UK or wherever they live outside Nigeria, it makes them more civilised, more exposed and more successful and knowledgeable than those in Nigeria which is a stupid thinking of mostly young boys that managed to travel abroad by chance through either visa lottery, sham marriage or by chance process.

Anybody earning NGN400,000 and above in Nigeria is far better than most Nigerians living abroad.

With a monthly income of NGN500,000, you will live a very comfortable life of your dream in Nigeria and even go for vacation abroad, but you will see these guys doing up to 3 jobs and overtime abroad coming online to brag and feel like they are now rich, not knowing that most of us here now do vacation abroad and also have friends and families living abroad that envy us back home.

I live in Nigeria and I am more civilized and more comfortable living my dream life than most people living abroad who work their ass off hourly to earn wages whereas people and money work for me....I treat everybody around me with respect and dignity not because I live abroad but because I know what is right and wrong...so I don't need to live in the US to treat my wife well and make her enjoy her marriage to me.

My immediate elder brother who also lives here in Nigeria changed his wife's car around February to a latest model car...and just because he was transferred to another state....he changed their generator to a brand new automatic starter generator so the wife won't labor to on the gen whenever light goes off.....the wife is living larger than most of her friends living and married to guys abroad....yet these op was here talking nonsense


The op really angered me that I tried to restrain myself from giving him a direct attack that would make him deactivate his account on this forum, what nonsense is that!!


When did living abroad translate to being the best or being wiser and more civilised than those in Nigeria.


I am writing a book on this nonsense practice Oyimbo is doing; their hypocrisy of castigating patriarchy practiced in Africa while promoting matriarch practiced by the west; what is the difference


If they want equality, then don't be bias by giving women upper hand in marital cases......make it equal treatment and equal judgment

MichealKin50:
This is the same girl December last year before proposing to her, I asked her if she has cheated on me before. To get the truth from her, I lied to her that I've cheated on her she also told me she has cheated on me. When I finally told her that I was lying about cheating on her that since we met I've never seen another girl she also told me that she was lying too about cheating on me. When I told her to swear with the Holy Bible she refused to swear. I went ahead and proposed to her on 31st December hoping to marry her before end of this year.

You and this your fiance really need to relocate to the US or UK or Canada after marriage so that you guys can enjoy a blissful marriage, she is good mhen

All these fiancé's from alpha beach will never let sons of men to drink water in peace

Zornes123:
One guy man go open account Dey catch trips with una, una go even Dey reply.

I love smart people


The same guy fronting as:

The op: preciousb https://www.nairaland.com/precioussb and also
as banigoprecious https://www.nairaland.com/banigoprecious


Nairaland is becoming a place for junkies. I just pity the mumu guys already sending PMs

lenghtinny:
This is the origin of the problem.... It’s evil to hold on to a fellow human’s freedom.

They come to naija to marry the so called naive village girl not because they are looking for a wife. They are looking for a robot without a mind of their own they can tame, control and turn into a money making machine if possible.

They will often bring a naive village girl to America to work as a nurse while they suddenly become leeches.

Then they want to control the money she makes simply because they bore the expenses that brought her to God’s own country which isn’t much different from the modus operandi those Italian based madams use for naive edo girls (no apologies)

Most of the blame lies at the man’s doorstep. Why not develop yourself instead of looking someone you will treat like a lab rat

MOnkeyBabe:
ye ye ye! That BUllDoG PaRt. Them go still transfer the innoCent bulldog too? ROtfl

But on a serious note tho, women need to stop ABuSing the system

I was angry while reading the op's post, but that bulldog comment cracked me up and lightened my mood lol.



Women are women all over the world, be it in the village or in the city, once you give women rule, they become ruler, no surprise. It is left for the men to apply their number 6.


And who knows what you yourself will do to your own hubby, maybe you might take even his last waist belt

abbey621:
Y'all ned to chill out with these scare tactics. I've been married to my wife for 5 years now in this America and she still cooks, serves me food and even water to wash hands. It's all about what you have to offer and how well trained your wife is. Any woman abroad or at home that feels such is beneath them can go to hell, yes in the USA women reign supreme but there are ways to be diplomatic yet be in charge. Give a woman access to bank accounts, let her control the shopping in the household, maintain your sexual prowness and continue to bring in good income and I emphatically tell you as a man you can get away with almost anything. Let her think she's driving the ship, for example, give her acces to your bank accounts and credit cards but keep certain accounts private for rainy days. This is America , most people have 4 or more accounts. Get life insurance and investments list her and the children as beneficiaries, this kind thing will sweet her die. Encourage her, build her up, let her have a career. In short let her win the many numerous little battles while you win the war. As time goes on, you'll realize you've gotten her to do exactly what you wanted without force...This is how real men in America operate....BE PREPARED FOR THE WORSE WHILE HOPING FOR THE BEST, SEE IT AS A BUSINESS ARRANGEMENT, EVERYONE MUST DO HIS OR HER PART!

This is what I have been saying all along.

It depends on the lady you married, what you as the man is up to....and your own personality too.

A bad woman is a bad woman whether she is in the village oh, Lagos oh, Abuja oh, America oh, China oh, Saudi Arabia oh.....bad woman remains a bad woman, society didn't change her, she was bad from the get go but pretending or waiting to sprout

lefulefu:
if na u u go gree lose ur asset to a woman
just imagine u have been doing 4 jobs in the US without sleeping and u able to build ur assest then one mgbeke wey u marry for village carry come US come divorce u then collect that ur beautiful expensive house wey u use ur sweat buy,she also collect ur children then the courts come give her ur expensive cadillac plus the exotic bulldog u bought on ur trip to england the courts still order u to hand ur bulldog to her plus to add insult to injury she go come to invite her boyfriend wey dey smoke weed with dreadlocks to be fucking her inside ur house and inside that ur expansive bedroom and ur beautiful bed......all wetin u use ur sweat buy ...tell me how will u feel

Lol, you made me laugh so hard

Kobojunkie:
You just made the case for me without even realizing it.

A woman is in allwise your equal. If you do not see that at your age and stance in life, you already are proof of the Nigerian problem.

Plus, the laws consider women as second class citizens meaning they are considered less than men, which is wrong and needs to be corrected so that people like you are put in their place.

The op is writing jargons!! Complete nonsense!!



He should change the topic to:

My Bad Experience Dating Nigerian Women Living in America!!!


Most Nigerian guys living abroad are their own problem, they are the reason Nigerian ladies show them pepper once they land abroad.


These guys will never tell these ladies the truth of what they do and how much they earn.


They will be saving money for months or years and maybe after some years they gather the cash which is hard currency, change it when they land Nigeria and it becomes huge money in Naira and they start to spend it anyhow forming rich guys when they are just nobody in the US but because of exchange rate difference and good environment they stay to snap pictures and post online to deceive these Naija based ladies, these ladies assume them to be rich guys working with US President lol.


On arriving the US after they use money they don't even have much to entice and lure these ladies into marriage, these ladies discover that these guys are like the downtrodden people, the lowest of lowest in the US and you know women, they feel betrayed and start to harbor anger against these guys that brought them to the US and these guys will never tell people the truth of what happened, they will start telling people that the Nigerian girl they married and brought from Nigeria no longer respect them, how can she respect you when u lied to her from the beginning and used fake life and lies to lure her into marriage

Kobojunkie:
Nigerians laws and cultures have women living as subhumans aka slaves.
Why do you think women continue to fight for equality in the eyes of the law ? Have you not been able tp put 2&2 together by now on that ?

says who If you treat your wife like a slave and subhuman, say it......many women married and living in Nigeria with their husbands are living the best life most ladies married in US and UK wish and dream of.


They enjoy everything they desire, because they married the right men.


Don't blame the outcome of bad people's lifestyle on the society.


A bad man is a bad man no matter where u take him to.

A bad woman is a bad woman even if you take her to heaven!

Op, in as much as you made some valid points, I am sorry to say you are assuming a lot of things based on your personal experience and also making up things by exaggeration.


America is not as bad as you paint it for guys when it comes to dating women or getting married to American based Nigerian women or exported ones.

8 of my childhood friends who stay in my own house whenever they return back to Nigeria before traveling to their villages or destination in Nigeria are all living happily in the US with their wives whom they married from Nigeria; mostly their old girlfriends and some ladies they married after they relocated and none have any issue. In fact their wives still respect them and accord them the respect they deserve.

One is a nurse, his wife still serve him food even when they return too and she too is working as an insurance broker.


Another is a force guy and married to a nurse and she respect him just like a Nigerian wife in Nigeria respect her husband.

Then if I come to my family side, all the ones married and living in the US for years with their wives have no issue.


This thing is about the lady you married.


Even in Nigeria some ladies disrespect their husbands, we read hundreds of such stories here on Nairaland....so its not just about America that the ladies you are making reference with changed, they are bad ladies with bad upbringing and didn't cherish the men they married that much, maybe they married them for some hidden selfish reasons best known to the ladies alone.


America or UK or Canada does not change Nigerian ladies, bad Nigerian ladies who live pretentious life in Nigeria due to poverty, etc make it seem so when they leave Nigeria.


One of my friends I am talking about, the wife he married from Nigeria and took to the US don't wear trouser till date because she was a staunch Deeper Life girl born and raised by a strict parents and she is still a dedicated born again Christian over there no change.


The last time they came back, I was just smiling because of her, if you see her, a practicing medical doctor in the US, she looks like mgbeke that has no kobo but you need to see her achievements and investments and still she respects her hubby even in the US and they are living a wonderful life.



Please stop corrupting already corrupted Nigerian ladies and making them feel they can treat guys anyhow abroad, this your thread is a negative influence, it is nonsense.


And for guys taking care of their home, doing dishes, cooking etc, of course modern Nigerian guys in Nigeria do that.


I do my laundry, I cook my meals, sometimes I wash my cars myself when free and have the strength, I clean my house....only foolish guys today will marry and over labor their wife while watching football and allow your wife to overwork herself in the name of forming big boy.


My elder brother that works with a top IOC babysit his own kids....the last time his wife gave birth he is the one that babysit the baby, changes his diapers, wear him his rompers and more. He also helps his wife in several other ways like doing laundry all thanks to washing machines today. So stop painting Nigerian men in Nigeria as lazy men or archaic or as men that maltreat their wives its a lie because many men in Nigeria treat their wives like queens to the envy of their friends and relatives, it depends on the man you married and also on the lady you married. Not when you marry mami iwota Lady pretending to be human and she starts to misbehave you blame it on America or exposure to western life.


Yes some Nigerian ladies change on tasting western life and culture but it still boils down to the lady, marry a virtuous woman and you won't worry even if you take her to Queens palace.


All you wrote is your own individual experience and circle of friends don't generalise it okay

I pity guys who fall in love with ladies online just because of their pictures, it always end in disappointment

Tissaia:
Lol. Funny headline
I don't understand., what standard moderators use to push news to front page this days

anyone that promotes tribalism, especially one that favors the Yorubas, one particular bigoted mod will rush to send it to fp, it gives his fast erection

AnthonyAk:
OP is cute dawg leave am. If she travel overseas for a few years she can level up even more but i like how she is now

lol ok

AnthonyAk:
Not possible , just look at my girl this past February in lagos. When it comes to naija girls its only the purest. I can post the ones from the previous time i was in naija i went alone.

you are good to go, I see u just want more birds in your nest, carry on bro lol

bukatyne:
Heavy makeup in that picture she posted? Eyelashes?

I hear you.

The op is not ugly, plz don't get me wrong....she is okay but she is not as beautiful as she hyped herself, that's my point

ajademola2000:
So person see lady wey set like the OP and started saying trash make those bros show their picture make we see

a man doesn't need to compete with a lady in looks, only teenage boys do that. How many well to do men married to the finest women on earth and dating the hottest ladies u can ever imagine are handsome


When will you teenage boys realize that the beauty of a man is not measured by how handsome he looks or how cute his face is but how fat his wallet is and how commanding his personality is


Grow up, the op picture u are dying of is not natural, it is filled with addons and artificials, stop falling for ladies' social media pictures if u don't want to have lots of disappointments

bukatyne:
I think you should take your own advice.

Except the other guy knows the OP outside NL, we all equally have only her profile picture to work with.

For all we know, it might not be the OP sef.

However, as long as she claims to be the one and we do not have any contrary information, she is beautiful.

If she is the guy's spec is another discussion.

As a man who have seen and dated truly gorgeous ladies, the op is not that beautiful the way she hyped herself, she is just okay from the picture.....look beyond her heavy wig and makeup and eyelashes and posture and picture quality and you will see what I am seeing.


Just that its a waste of time and not necessary, would have posted some pictures of truly beautiful ladies in a natural photo and appearance for u to understand what it means to call a lady beautiful

AnthonyAk:
Me i nor mind that one oh. As far as say when we dey commot she dey on point.

I see, you must be really sex abi woman-starved, it is well.


Ladies full online na, from Instagram to Facebook to twitter to everywhere, if u are sure u live in Canada and u are comfortable financially, in fact just for the fact that u live in Canada alone, u don't even need to have money, u should be able to get hundreds of hot Nigerian ladies that full everywhere.....unless something is wrong somewhere

In as much as this is bad, it also serves as a warning to those who eat what belongs to others thinking they are smarter, especially money and still form arrogance on top. A small boy can waste your precious life just because of NGN1,000 debt you refuse to pay intentionally.


Stop cheating people. If you have agreement with people, keep to it. All you Yahoo boys who know you are already doing nonsense job and still go ahead to try to outsmart your fellow Yahoo boys by eating their own share, you are playing with fire. Anybody that have the mind to do Yahoo or armed robbery or kidnapping for ransom can kill even his own mother for money, don't joke with their money if you love your life. Some can go to any length to revenge you especially when you no longer expect they would strike.



Be warned!!

AnthonyAk:
Not sure what you guys mean but @Banigoprecious is pretty. If she will let me bring her to Canada omo forget she no go dey discuss this with nonsense men for nairaland

Where in ph are you from?

But to be honest pretty girls seldom get asked cause dudes like a challenge. Which in reality it really isn't. The whole point is the challenge

Don't be deceived, take away the heavy artificial wig off her head, remove the makeup and addons....you will see her true beauty.


Don't let women's social media photographs deceive you, I am speaking from experience..when I see some of my cousins' pictures on Facebook, I keep wondering if they are the same ladies I know in real life.


Unless beauty means anybody with breast, ass and wig to you, if not, it means you haven't really seen beautiful girls, maybe you need upgrade

bukatyne:
If that's her, she looks very good with a beautiful skin....

WITHOUT MAKEUP.

You are a woman, allow men to judge the beauty of a woman while you focus on judging which man is handsome or not.


On Nairaland rating and social media photo rating, the op is beautiful, but in real life, you don't know how she truly looks....women and social media pictures can be deceptive! I am done talking

The problem is every woman that has breast and ass believes she is the finest woman, but if only they know how men see them after sex




Putting on artificial wig, makeup and wearing a high waist jeans or trouser with a crop top doesn't make a lady beautiful because even when a guy wears same things, he would look tight and sexy too.

Ladies don't overrate yourselves, don't let the fine girl fine girl some horn.y boys are calling u just to get you laid deceive you into thinking u are truly beautiful

Bbbwings:
The brother inlaw is stupid
He even has the audacity to bring hiss gf
I'm sure they'll be having sex in there too

the husband is a fool, the brother of the husband is an idiot, their mother is a bad omen!!


That Lady was never married at all! She was married to herself!