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instinct57vm:
I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

Your female friend was never married in the first place. She was only cohabiting with a man, and when the man got tired of accommodating her, he chased her away.

Let your friend just forget about the useless man and prepare her mind that she is single and was never married at all!!


Some men are idiots that torture people's daughter in the name of marriage, I don't blame them, I still blame ladies for that

Premiumwriter:
This Life is just not fair.

How will you dupe someone merely because of their innocence and naivety?


This Life is not fair if these scammers are not brought to book. God knows I've never felt any iota of pity for them

Honestly, and you will see them using the proceeds of their evil acts to buy luxury cars and carry women and form big boys, and our society respects them just because of illegal paper called money they acquired by blood

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Watch the touching video here https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/ve-cried-says-74-old-082024374.html

Kingrexyl:
Lately I've been thinking of starting a business complex, 10 shops upstairs and 10 downstairs probably by January next year, so I want to ask if 30 million can do everything, including the roofing, tiles e.t.c, your advise will be appreciated.

it depends on the location of the building. If its in a waterlogged area like Lagos island, or some parts of Lagos and Ogun, the raft foundation required alone may end up consuming 30% of your budget.


So if you want accurate response, specify your interest area.


And I hope you have bought the land already because if you haven't, cost of acquiring the land in a viable business area and in a lucratve city alone can cost 90% of your budget.

hahahaha

Randy100:
I pointed out Ogbunigwe for you because it is well documented and a lot of people who told the story of the Nigerian civil war made mention of it.
You failed to address the Philip Effiong part, where I told you that he would have made mention of all those atrocities you came up with in his book since he is also from the minority group the question is why didn't he? The answer is because it didn't happen.

I cringed when you said that your article is well documented, it is a well documented lies. I would love that you quote a minority soldier that fought with Biafran soldiers coming up or supporting this lies. Who is Arua Oko Omaka? A Phd holder in war speciality. Nigga you can do better than this. You can deceive a lot of people with this gibberish you wrote above not me that have read widely about the civil war, you can't change the narrative.

Biafran soldiers killed thousands of Hausa-Fulanis, Yoruba's, Bororos, Biroms, Idomas, etc, but mostly soldiers. They were lucky Biafra didn't have air power to penetrate core northern States back then, maybe around 10 million of them would have been wiped out with Ogbunigwe or something.



They love telling the lies that Biafran soldiers killed civilian minority tribes in Niger Delta as a way of pushing the so called Niger Delta people to hate Igbos and reject Biafra which they are not even forced to join in the first place.


Shame don't allow them tell their children how Biafran soldiers without preparation, without foreign power backup and without much population and ammunition killed thousands of their Nigerian soldiers in their battalions....they always avoid telling their children that side of the story to make it seem like they won Biafra on a platter of gold which make their young generation underestimate Igbos today because I am sure if their fathers that witnessed the Biafra-Nigeria civil war told them the real truth about the war, most Yoruba youths that come here to attack Igbos and brag about killing mostly vulnerable, innocent unarmed Igbo kids, old people and women during the war through the Awolowo hunger policy will never be proud of such.


The only way Nigerian soldiers attack Igbos is by targeting the vulnerable unarmed Igbo civilians, they did it during the civil war, they did it during IPOB protest, they cannot face armed Igbo youths and boys, so they usually go for the unarmed ones their soldiers can easily overrun and they still have the shame to brag about it.




So allow them run along with their cock and bull story of the war they narrowly won by the help of Britain, Egypt, Russia, Lebanon, etc

Op you are right, of course Igbos killed thousands of Hausa-Fulanis, Bororos and Yorubas during the war and it is a welcome development.

That is to tell you the might of Biafra in an unprepared war in far back 1967, think about another war now that Biafrans are more sophisticated, more spread, more empowered and more connected, bombs from modern jet bombers will be raiding cities like Kano, Kaduna, Ibadan, Akure, Katsina, Taraba, etc like a heavy rainfall.


Remember, Biafra didn't have air power in 1967 to drop any bomb in any Nigerian side city back then, but if such happens now, I promise you, bombs must touch every part of Nigeria.


Ordinary Boko Haram have held Nigeria under rampage for 10yrs counting, think of another full blown civil war today.


This is why Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas must give peace and fair leadership a chance. stop attacking Igbos politically and allow peace and fairness to reign....or allow Biafra to peacefully secede and you can run Nigeria the way you want with your beloved Hausa-Fulani friends and if Niger Delta region decides to stay with you guys in your Nigeria, they are allowed, but all Igbo speaking and Igbo connected communities in Niger Delta who wish to join their brothers in Biafra must be allowed to join Biafra.


Let it be known to all that the key players of modern Biafra freedom today are not interested in forcing any community or region to join Biafra, so Niger Delta region should stop listening to naysayers that Biafra will force them to join them, it is a lie, Niger Delta have the freedom to form their own nation if they wish, and if they wish to join Biafra as a united region of nations, they are allowed cos they remain our closest brothers in Nigeria.


But all Igbo speaking communities in today Niger Delta carved into Niger Delta by the envious and wicked Hausa-Fulani and Yoruba controlled federal government of Nigeria after the war must be allowed to rejoin their Igbo brothers in Biafra if they wish to join Biafra nobody can stop them, that's all.


The rest of Niger Delta are free to either join Biafra if they want or join Hausa-Fulani and Yoruba in Nigeria or maybe form their own country if they will be allowed to under UN charter.

Oselu28:
Leave the house for a month or more,don't tell her about your whereabouts, don't leave money for upkeep..see if she would call u.

She believes she already own u and there's nothing u can do,u also sound calm which is something she's using against u

But how did u expect someone to change after marriage

Good ladies like this guys won't marry them, na ogbanje and mami iwota Naija guys go de rush marry, and after they will come online to be disturbing our peace of mind



Op you saw the signs and decided to chook your head inside. How can u expect a lady to change for good after marriage Have u ever seen any politician that didn't campaign and then start campaigning after he has won the election


Just carry your wife de go, de manage her like that, una have like 20 more years to live as couple and everybody go face him aging wahala so endure

noakchukibadan:
Hello,

Please no ethnic banters. One of us is from Ekiti, and the other is from Benue. I am married for 8 years with 2 kids. It has been one problem to another.

I must be very frank, before marriage, my wife had many very questionable characters, but unfortunately we did the marriage counseling in a church were the pastor happened to be her family member. Many of the issues would have been resolved, but when I raised those issues about her character the pastor promised me that everything will be fine after the marriage.
Although this is not an excuse, but looking back now I would have been more patient and taken my decision myself instead of rushing into the marriage. For this I HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE

There is hardly nothing we do not quarrel about, I have always been the one to initiate settlement. The only way I ensure that there is peace in the house is for me not to complain about anything. Even at that, there is always trouble. If the children do anything wrong, she always says those characters the children are exhibiting are not from her and that she is not surprised that they inherited such characters from me.

She can go for months without talking to me, even if I tried to, I have done all I could do, I have begged, cried prayed. I just feel tired and exhausted from trying to make the marriage work or have peace in the home, the sad part is that she often reminds me every time there is misunderstanding that I should remember that she can stay on her own without talking to any body. Just to add, she is very prayerful.

OTHER INFORMATION.
1. I can say conveniently that there is no money problem at home. Finance is okay.
2. I went to see her father 2 years ago, the man said unfortunately he can not do anything. This is true because she was raised away from her Father, she has no contact with any of her fathers family and her father has a zero say in her life.
3. she has 5 elders ones, non of them is in communication with her because of many unresolved issues. Of her 3 younger ones she only maintains a relationship with the last boy who is just 14 years. .
4. Her mum can not talk to her because she simply dares not. However, behind, her mother use to beg me and she kept saying she understands her daughter's character and that she is doing her best by praying and doing deliverance for her.
5. She is not in contact with her maternal uncles and aunt because she said they supported her elder ones when she had problem with them.

So I am stuck with no one to help call the both of us and resolve the issue.

Every year for 5 straight years, she always forgets my birthday, last year, she forgot also, three days later, she bought me a present and I refused to collect the present and I asked her why does she keep forgetting my birthday, year after year for 5 years. She just said sorry, but I left the present in the room, she never bothered to bring the present to me. Another birthday was gone yesterday 2nd May, and as I write, no happy birthday yet.

I literally cook for myself, and all domestic things I do for myself.

I will end this by saying that in fairness to her, her character was not too different before the marriage and courtship, sincerely only once, that was like one year before the marriage I broke up with her, she came to apologize and promised that she will change. Her mother also came to apologize to me also.

This woman has refused to change or allow peace to hold sway, she is right every time, while everybody around is wrong. Sincerely, I do not know what to do anymore.

I am tired and exhausted. I do not know what to do anymore. I am 42, I was diagnosed of high blood pressure 2 years ago.

lol

Nigeria is doing well, let's wait till the end of May for the actual report card of Nigeria in this coronavirus exam

By the time Pa Buhari leaves office in 2023, his second wife appointed as Minister of Social Disaster and Humanitarian affairs will become the richest person on earth.



People don't know that that woman's ministerial post is the most lucrative portfolio ever, free money without any means of monitoring her activities because if you accuse her of anything she will gather 4 million almajiris or people in IDPs and present them as the people she used the funds to uplift from poverty, how do you want to proof her wrong then



Buhari may appear as a dull man, but that nigga sure knows what he's doing, very smart looting machine fighting corruption corruptly

Foolish Access Bank management, fools!! Buhari and his league of lying liars of Presidency have corrupted most Nigerians, everybody now see lying publicly as a hobby

That is the disadvantage of having liars at the helm of affairs of a nation, others emulate them

Taye4j:
Ekiti and Ebonyi are not in the same league pls. Ekiti is still better than Ebonyi (akosi bero).

So you have agreed your fellow Ibos are not only in Lagos but all over south west. Let me ask, why are you people filled with the spirit of lying?

You will claim South West is a shithole and yet, your people are rushing in their millions to those slums.

Now I get it, when God was giving people common sense, Igbos were already on their way to South West.

25 - 30% of Lagos state is made up of Igbos, u don't care what you think, migration has been a part of progressive man since the start of the world.


Why won't Igbos flood Southwest when Hausa-Fulanis and Yorubas use national politics to deny southeast states federal developments and instead cluster every federal infrastructural developmental projects in Lagos and Ogun since the end of civil war, so what do you expect when every organization have its head office in Lagos or Abuja, you expect south easterners to remain in the southeast to prove to dumbheads like you that southeast is a paradise while the Hausa-Fulani and Yoruba controlled federal government since the end of civil war intentionally marginalize and sideline southeast in federal developmental projects just to impoverish Igbos and undermine their region.

Igbos are smarter than you all.


If you want Igbos to return back to their region in droves, just allow Biafra to secede peacefully and watch Igbos pack their loads and flee from Southwest and North, even abandoning their landed properties for your lazy brothers to fight and take over as usual.


So long as Nigeria's federal government continues to marginalize and undermine southeast states when implementing national projects, expect more Igbos in Southwest and other regions and there is nothing u or anybody can do, u can only bark online, if u want to stop them allow Nigeria to divide and let them have their Biafra then you can order them out of your paradise region!!!



Take a look at the implementation of the national railway project, Southeast states were intentionally removed to the joy of Yorubas and their political couples, yet they will come online to talk nonsense of how southeast state is generating small IGR, you guys are so wicked and foolish at the same time, time and nature will judge you all at the set time, just wait and see

Mrs Omotola want to make her own billions out of this coronavirus pandemic in Nigeria, just as Burutai and co are cashing out billions from Boko Haram terrorist menace in the north.

This coronavirus will really enrich many Nigerians, including those at the Presidential Task Force, to an average Nigerian, every societal problem is an opportunity to steal and become rich

Benevento:
So the people living in Enugu, Imo and Ebonyi (the poorest state in southern Nigeria) are from Somalia.


Are you not mad like this? Your mother too will be boasting of having a child like this?

Olohun oni je ki iya wa fi Obo jona'n

Ebonyi is sure the poorest state in Southeast, Ebonyi and Ekiti are in the same league, forget figures.


Igbos living in Southwest contributed to the better rating Lagos and Ogun got....you know all these, but your bigotry won't allow you to see beyond your big nose

Sammy07:
Ekiti should buckle up


And some people want us to believe "An average (......) is a millionaire

Most of the people counted in Lagos, Ogun, Abuja are Igbos....a good percentage of them, and you know it

SpaceTour:
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Useless dirty frustrated he goat. Coronavirus is ravaging your Delta state, so your people are the ones moving in droves to Onitsha to dodge the pandemic ravaging your state. No Anambra person is interested in your anioma rubbish, take it along with your coronavirus you wanna spread across the Niger

Both of you are disgracing the east, quench it plz!!

Nwanyiogwashi:
Why can't this people still in Onitsha? Must they enter Asaba with this madness

Why do you like being controversial of recent They are moving from Asaba direction towards Onitsha, pls I used to respect your comments, but sometimes you go overboard, try and exercise caution plz

Stereoo:
I think you meant to say Hausa. We fulani know nothing like hausa-fulani
That's what you'll never hear any sane fulani saying (hausa-fulani)

during national politics, you guys lump yourselves together as one united North, and in some cases as Hausa-Fulani....we learned that name from you guys.


To people in the South, Hausa = Fulani = Bororo = Kanuri = Nupe

When Buhari dies tomorrow, his daughter Zhara will com out to tell Nigerians that her dad does not like to appear on TV as an achievement to be applauded, kolomental people

Arrewa:
kano state has all these and still more developed than the entire South east put together??

An average illiterate in the north is more politically enlighten than a professor in the south east!!

Before calling northerners illiterates... How many Covid19 testing centers do you have in the east??

Do you know you have the most foolish governors in Nigeri??

Are you aware that your governors are not testing people meanwhile you have the highest number of foreign returnees in the south east??

Your governors have lifted ban on churches and markets places since last with no effective measures to slow the spread!

The virus is gradually spreading in your region!!

You're here on Nairaland calling northerners illiterates!!

I weep for your Generations!

You don't need to loud it, if Coronavirus penetrates the east, it is like pregnancy, it is only a matter of time and it will show via increased number of people falling sick and those dying off.


The difference between Igbos and Hausa-Fulanis is that Igbos cherish life and progress....no Igbo man or woman or boy or kid or even elder will be dragging to touch the corpse of a dead king just to collect whatever perceived blessing wrongly believed to be carried by the late king....especially in this era of a deadly pandemic that spreads like wild fire.


But you Hausa-Fulanis don't use your head at all, you allow religious doctrines and bigotism to becloud your sense of judgment that you guys behave foolishly all because of religious practice and ancient outdated religious beliefs.

As for Eastern Governors, they are as corrupt as Western, Northern Governors, all are the same corrupt fools, the ones that seem to be working are the ones with huge state revenue to do more work and of course loot more too, that is why it seems Lagos and some other big states are working, all of them are rogues, criminals, none of them is working.


My only problem is with the average northerners, not even your ruling class....you guys need to rise up against those ancient, barbaric and outdated religious doctrines and practices that are dragging you guys backward, aside that, u guys are good to go

Pubichairs:


The Chinese doctors that came to Nigeria..of what importance are they to this present situation

We haven't heard of them for long...

APC stray dogs ...I believe u guys have answers to it

lafmaoo

Why can't Nigerian useless government track these wicked idiots down, catch them and not just jail them but possibly hang them in public, this is the height of human wickedness, oh my goodness

Kayouzka:
That's true that what civilization and colonization brought us, we where peacefully in our hut then came the Europeans

My brother lol....who knows maybe you for be in one thick forest in your village with your arrows and bows and animal skin clad on your waist chasing lions and tigers for dinner, while your dark skin Olori waits for you at the village square to welcome her champion, what a lovely life we would have been enjoying in our huts



Thunder will fire British people

TooMuchStuff:
Audio statistics......!

Extreme Poverty should be 90 million

Normal Poverty is around 85 million

Comfortable ones are 19 million

Rich ones 1 Million

Stinkingly wealthy 25, 000

Extreme Poverty should be 130 million

Normal Poverty is around 60 million

Struggling & a bit comfortable ones are 8 million

Semi-rich ones 500 thousand

Rich ones 200 thousand

Stinkingly wealthy 4, 000

Fixed

mvem:
so Nigeria problem started with Buhari. I am nonpartisan but the way some people talk you will think Nigeria was UK before 2015

Its not as if Nigeria was like UK before 2015, you know each President of Nigeria takes Nigeria backward by 5 years, but you see Buhari eh, he has taken Nigeria backward to 20 years.....it will take another 50 years to correct Buhari's failures and mistakes

82.9 Million x 2 is the actual figure.

Sense wee nor keel me

This is no death case for anybody to panic or worry about.....he died at 86, what else is left for him on earth He died at a good age, and also as an achiever....if its only people of 80yrs and above that are dying, then it is a great news for the Nigerian youths to become leaders of today and not leaders of tomorrow they have been waiting for the tomorrow forever


Rest in peace Professor Isa, you will be remembered

damesilver:
Hello sir, I do read your post and many of them resonate with me. I like your train of thoughts too. May I ask if you were born around September?

Oh really? No, I wasn't born around September,

Freeminda:
This is the herbal plant Madagascar use for their Covid Organic. Who knows the local name in NIGERIA cause most said it grows in Africa

I know the plant, it grows near local streams in Southeast.


How is it prepared when found


Because the most important thing is the preparation method not just knowing the plant or leaf used

landmark86:
This leaves is common in the South-West now.
We call it padide padide in yoruba name cos once u touch it the leaves will close together.

it's not the same, the one you are talking about is the popular flower plant nicknamed "touch and die".


The plant the op posted is mostly found in riverine areas where there is local stream, it grows mostly in local streams in the Southeast, especially Imo state