₦airaland Forum

Chii59:
Aunty leave that one. I'm tall, pretty and very much single. This life no just balance.

Nonexistent:
I stopped shooting since I made money. Now I only point fingers at the ladies or wait for them shoot at me if not, I place order online like people do on Amazon. No time for nonsense. All those "excuse pretty lady" stopped with poverty, now we move.

xProfx:
Let me ask you a sincere question: the financially stable guy, what happens when his financial advantage goes away as in if he eventually goes broke in the future? What would sustain the marriage? Love is very important cos once money disappears, everything will become sour.

The one you love; is he lazy or just has not made it big yet? If he is lazy and you marry him for love, you may have issues in the marriage when the pressure is all on you, especially with kids in the equation later, but if he is hardworking, he will eventually make it, so I'd advise you go for him but only if he is hardworking and has a solid plan for his life. Ask him questions about his plans for the future and how he hopes to get there... Money doesn't come overnight.

I know someone in your shoes who married a man he loves but the man is lazy and now the pressure on her is so much...

Above all, pray about it cos marriage is a lifetime commitment that eventually determines how the rest of your life will go.

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

Raydos:
Is Buhari the one ruling other Africa countries too?

It's just a black man problem jare!!

SilverNorGold:
We have unscrupulous southern elements pretending to be Northerners just to mock us, even here on Nairaland. Members like Kaduna1stSon, Yenefer, etc are examples. They start by praising our beloved father, President Mohammadu Buhari and Northerners and then subsequently unleashing their anti-North agenda.. They don't mean well for us. So they can continue to fool themselves..

That said, I strongly condemn the Kankara GSS attack. The government should do everything possible to arrest the situation and bring the perpetrators to book! More military personnel should be deployed as a matter of urgency to ensure that all civilians are safe and sound. Nothing must happen to anyone otherwise the repercussion may not augur well for the government.. But I strongly believe in the leadership/capability of President Mohammadu Buhari and I am 100% sure he'll handle this issue professionally and intelligently, being an experienced, brilliant and intelligent retired General.

While we await the outcome, I appeal to my brothers and sisters in the North to remain calm and patient.

God bless Nigeria.

CalliDora1:
Not all. Some are also helpful.

If I see a lady who's truly in need, I help if I can. Even if it's a guy. The thing is I don't have friends except those who come around me through my twin.

I also get help from ladies too. So no biggies.

Vyolet:
Ladies should stop dating for 5years, that's total waste of time.
May God save us from time wasters.

Finnese001:
Twitter here I come


It's seems they have better ladies there than this bitter midnight newspapers that litters everywhere here on NL

Kyase:
Okay my people, the Igbo people say they don't want the presidency......
We should know how to vote

Secondly, I'm not a muslim

Kyase:
Forget 2023 bro, they won't smell it, I also thought they are up to it but I was wrong, some of them will come online and without sensor spew rubbish and expect everybody to like them at the same time....

AuntRose:
History have shown if given the chance women perform better in those aforementioned field. Ask yourself this first, have we been given the chance to proof if truly we have what it takes to be the 'superior'??

Darealudeme:
Politicians nko?

AuntRose:
You just ended up saying nothing, it's this same mindset that makes you men bash women all the time. Superiority complex I must say is a common disease found in all men.

BadBitch:
First of all, we're still very much in a patriarchal society, where women are shamed and bullied for not being married before thirties, I mean, the males on nairaland, even have a term "evening newspaper" an insult reserved for "single women" that are older than 27... Parents join in the circus as well, and you're wondering why some women "pressure" for marriage in the Nigerian society? For peace of mind, security, going with the "norm" and all the other privileges that come with being a married woman in this country. Anyday I step out without a wedding ring, I see the difference in how men and women regard me. And as for praying and religion and whatnot, we pray for everything in this failed state. Pray for light, water, security, health, admissions, food, so why the heck won't people pray for husband, or wife or children??





Many women are working their asses off, to make income to support the family. Many are even breadwinners, and you're here claiming women don't share financial roles? In Nigeria the poverty capital of the world? You must be kidding. Even the stay at home moms, still do business, and cover chores that would have cost a lot of money to get done if outsourced.
Catering, laundry and cleaning services are expensive services in saner climes. Not to talk of when children are now in the mix. Also the cost of them not pursuing their dreams and career goals, just to keep the home front in check.

And as for red pills or whatever the fok they call themselves, dem go dey alright. This is Nigeria, ignorance is the order of the day. Keep your pills within your borders tho'

Godeppme:
Hello nairalanders,

I have a very big problem here.
I have been at home for close to 3 years now and i am loosing hope daily. I feel worthless. I graduated since 2012, then i traveled abroad and returned in 2015, then i did all my clearance and all and got my statement of result from uniben which read 2012.

However while registering at NYSC portal in 2017, i realized they made errors such as wrong names,wrong date of graduation. I graduated when i was 26 but nysc portal says i graduated in 2017,i have done everything possible,wrote student affairs,submitted copies of documents to back my claim,greased the palms of the stupid staffs at student affairs for my complaint to be posted to abuja,but even after that no difference.

I am really frustrated and i feel someone is after me why was it when it got to my turn,the idiot person feeding the computer at student affairs entered my details all wrong,right from my names to date of graduation.

Please who can help me out, i am eligible for service cos i graduated at 26,now till now they are telling me to take exemption letter with the error like that on the exemption.

I do not want it, it is not my portion..

i want to serve. please help me

smirn:
which youths are you talking about, you better be specific. It's your right to protest but not your right to disturb the peace and freedom of other Nigerians who do not buy your approach for a better Nation.

Charmingrascal:
Any brutality against peaceful protesters will result in full blown anarchy that will consume even those who you least expect.