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Loving up? This ain't loving up. Iyanya just realizes that he might be entering 'one chance' with this one. As the amala-eaters will tell you, gbese re o!

No big deal. Actors and Pastors are the same thing. They are both ACTING.

Excellent7:
Actually, it is not a Nigerian thing, It's sort of a global thing.
In some climes prevailing circumstances have made it more obvious.
I was in a country and a friend pointed to some frail old men in wheel-chairs, and told me a good number of these folks were top guys, and their issues started when their marriage collapsed and their women grabbed their resources. Some of them could not get over it!
Check out divorce in a lot of the west, it leaves the man stripped of his resources.
It was in the news sometime when a guy had to continue paying upkeep after divorce for a child that was not his own the lady passed on as his. The courts said no, the guy has to continue paying. (Please see the links at the end of my post)
In the light of this scenario, some rich guys opt for pre-nuptial agreements to limit his potential losses, but you guess what, some babes will whine that it is not "love"!
Sometimes a guy just pays and is even denied the chance to see his child.
This is happening in "civilized" climes!
So I agree with you that resources is the major thing.
If we have those kinds of laws in Naija, knowing the way our people tend to overdo things, plenty wahala go dey for guys!

http://fox2now.com/2015/02/18/judge-orders-man-to-pay-30k-in-child-support-for-kid-who-is-not-his/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3010327/I-went-without-electricity-days-didn-t-eat-Fury-man-forced-pay-child-support-13-years-girl-s-never-met-despite-DNA-test-proving-s-not-his.html
http://dailycaller.com/2015/02/19/judge-outraged-at-man-ordered-to-pay-30000-for-a-kid-thats-not-his/

Indeed its a global phenomenal. Men in Western society have it worse because of their insane feminazi laws. Most men in the west did not realize it (that laws were been designed to enslave them) until it was too late. Like men everywhere they are told never to complain UNTIL they die. Remember, it was easy in the West to make these INSANE laws because the 'gist' of the law (e.g the White Knight that risks life and limb for the fair princess) was already embedded in their culture. Nigeria (and Africa) is no different and I won't be surprised when similar laws start creeping in to continue the financial and emotional subjugation of our men.

Adaeze003:
I have always known guys to be crybabies but the rate at which NL guys are going about it is just alarming.

And in that "mind" of yours, only the "men" have been conditioned by society to perform certain roles? Women don't do nothing at all, all they do is open the vag and get paid for it abi?

You even had the guts to refer to all women as prostitutes and got likes and hailed by your fellows [b]forgetting that [b]a woman birthed you. If you don't have regard for her, it gives you no right to insult women in general.

Just keep your opinions to yourself if you're incapable of thinking from both sides like a normal human being.

Mtcheew...

Lets interpret this women-speak from Adaeze:

First bolded: "I have always collected vaginamoney from men I date and I hate when they complain." Also notice she use the term cry-baby. This is very deliberate on her part and here is why. As little boys we were brought up to see tears (our own) as a sign of weakness. This is all part of the social engineering to make sure that even when we are suffering we should pretend all is well - this way women can continue to take advantage of us financially and emotionally. Adaeze realizes that I am exposing the programming so she tries to shame me and the men that see reality (instead of propaganda) as cry-babies (aka weak men). She hopes that by doing this she would shame us from posting on Nairaland. Now when this fails I assure you, she will try to get me banned - because by all means necessary women will make sure this GREATEST of scams is NOT exposed.

Second bolded: "I am worried that more and more men I gonna see the truth and this will mean women will have to start taking responsibility for their lives instead of feeding off men."

Third bolded: "What you are saying is endangering my 'market' so I am gonna label you as weird, so people don't listen to you."

Fourth bolded: "I know we women make men suffer for vagina but don't blame us blame the society." Notice how she admits passive-aggressively that men have been given a raw deal but she won't stop there she has to justify it of course because well she is woman. See 'Fifth bolded.'

Fifth bolded: "I can't think of something of value in society that women are known for so I will leave it as a rhetorical question." Adaeze is quite smart I must say. This was her attempt to justify the suffering meted out to men but she quickly realizes that cleaning the house and cooking is not comparable (by a long shot) to going out in this real mean and indifferent world and making something of yourself. Hence her rhetorical question. Women use this technique ALL the time to manipulate men - guys beware.

Sixth bolded: "Even though you never used the word ALL I will put it there to make my weak point anyway."

Seventh bolded: "I can't believe other men are seeing this, I have to do something to STOP it." See 'Eight bolded.'

Eight bolded: "Let me see if I can try to shame you (and the men that agree with you) by equating the truth you speak with you guys not having regard for your mothers. Maybe that will shame you to stop exposing the truth." Women use this trick quite often to discourage men from criticizing women. Women are evil creatures. When they argue, NOTHING (I mean nothing ) is off limits. Women never stop accusing men of being dogs, worthless and cheats. But one thing you will NEVER hear is a man saying 'Is your father not a man.' Certain lines men will never cross but not women, they are ONLY interested in protecting their GREAT scam by ALL means necessary.

Ninth bolded: Notice how she admitted (inadvertently) that my criticism is directed at women in general and not the ALL women accusation she tried to peg on me.

Tenth bolded: "Please! Please!! Please!!! stop exposing our scam I beg you. We love feeding off men but if you educate them we will have to go out in the real world and make something of ourselves."

Eleventh bolded: "Let me remind other men that your are not normal. Maybe if I can make them believe you are crazy, they will stop listening to you."

Adaeze, nice try but you failed.

bugzbunny:
You are already dead
Bloody fustrated tribalist

Wrong. I dey kampe.

You on the other hand,

DEATH IS KNOCKING
at your door.

Die.

Excellent7:
Bros I salute.
That's a mature and experienced guy talking. Listen to him!
I can see you are well versed in feminine "hieroglyphics".

Tuale for you too. Depth recognizes depth. Feminine "hieroglyphics" I like that. . I got my 'PhD' in that area long time ago. Now I try to educate the young men - the earlier they figure women out the better for them, their health and their future.

Excellent7:
Sir, what you have said is nothing but the truth.
It takes courage to say things the way you see it.
I hope that guys read you correctly.
Women are after resources and resource control from my own observation of people and incidents/events.
Little wonder Solomon had a 1000 women to himself, and at this time there must have been matured guys without any.
Most of the time the trouble starts when the man's resources is lost or threatened.
I wonder how many ladies will opt to settle with a "poor but good man" and desires he gives her "his time"

Good observation on the Solomon angle. The Good book was probably trying to warn men about how women flock towards resources like flies to fresh feces. A "poor but good man" has ZERO chance with today's women. In fact when a woman says he is a 'good man' she invariably means that he has resources (or potential for it) to take care of her for the rest of her life. Notice how when a Nigerian girl tells her girlfriends that she just met a man the first question they ask her is "he get pay?." This tells you everything you need to know about this useless generation of women.

bugzbunny:
Shut down.... Bloody programmed robot
Stewpid useless tribal bigot
God punish u

Satan visit your life.
Sango fire your yansh.
You this she-goat
Die quickly.

1shortblackboy:
so why u see isreal yet u kon open d thread abi u been no see d topic?

This na NAIRAland NOT NEWSHEKELland. U no sabi read?

bugzbunny:
The first time you are right

Shut up - you don't know me beyatch.

Hannysmilez:
You said women measure men's love by resources. I hope you know resources could also mean time. No mature and sensible woman will measure love using money.
I did not decide what normal is,he did the moment he stated that he shows care by giving money. If my husband stops sending the cash but every aspect of our union cont., I would'nt be bothered. If he stops the cashflow,starts keeping late nights,ignores me,then,i know something is wrong. I dnt know the type of girls you've met but i know that being curious means i'll politely ask him if something is wrong. If I ask him and he says he wants to stop,that's okay.
As a matter of fact,it has happened once. I jokingly if he was having financial issues,he asked why i thought so and i told him why and he said he just didn't feel like it. Long story short,he actually sent it to the wrong acct. nd didn't want to tell me.

First bolded: When a man is not making money women are not interested in their time. Quote me ANYWHERE. The idea that a woman will marry a guy, not for his money, but to spend quality time with him is an absolute lie and you know it. The moment the guy loses his job she will start nagging him to get out of the house and look for job even when she has a good job herself. This is the reality.

Second bolded: U na see how men dey enter one chance with women? Society tells the man constantly to give his women money she did not work for and when he does it the woman says I didn't tell him to but now he has decided the WHAT is normal.

Third bolded: where are all these NICE women that politely ask their husband if they suspect he is seeing another woman? I suspect by politely she means that passive-aggressive bullcrap that women an expert in doing. In fact the normal mode is to nag the man until he develops high blood pressure.

Women want too things from men. 1. Resources (aka money) and 2. Children.

As a matter of fact, its very common for a woman to start starving the man of sex when she feels she has had all the children she needs. At this point, the man has entered 'one chance' as divorce could be closely and could also mean losing his kids. Hence, why so many men prefer to cheat behind their wives backs. QUOTE ME ANYWHERE.

The toto is arguably the most delicious of God's creation from the point of view of a man. However, God decided to attach the toto onto the CRAZIEST of his creation, the woman, hereby forever ENSLAVING men to women forever and frustrating many men's lives in the process. Walahi God must be a woman.

Migan:
As an African American I love ALL OF AFRICA.

You better locate your African roots and stop calling yourself American. Everybody calls themselves Americans these days. Even the descendants of European invaders think they are Americans. When we all know that the ONLY true Americans are the Native peoples. The Navajos, the Accohanocs, the Bahacehacs, the Cayugas, the Dakotas, the Eyaks, the Eskimos, the Gabrielinos, the Kiowas, the Yakamas etc. No person of European or African descent is AMERICAN - they claim it but it ain't true. Quote me ANYWHERE.

Eluwilussit:
I guess FC Sion is in naija abi? With all them black boys everywhere!

FC Sion is still a relatively small club. But the moment they start becoming big they will STOP taking young African players and focus on European and South American talents. MARK MY WORDS. Look at Ajax today and compare with Ajax of the 90s - the difference is VERY clear.

Hannysmilez:
It depends:
If he stops giving me the allowance and still acts normal,then I would'nt be bothered. Although,I would be a bit curious as to what triggered it.
If he stops the allowance and changes towards me completely,then,I would think he has stopped caring.

The problem with the condition you have laid down is this:

You and ONLY you decides what normal is and what changes towards me completely is - it appears to me that IF your husband STOPS your allowance e don enter one chance be that. The truth is women measure men's love for them by the resources he makes available to them. This is the reality. Most women, will deny that because it exposes the entire scam of man-woman relationships.

And guys when a woman becomes curious dat mean say u don enter one chance be dat.

Hannysmilez:
Why not. I would give him an allowance. I think its cool,but the lady shouldn't demand it from him,it's not her right.

Now what if your husband decides to stop giving you that allowance would you still believe he cares for you?

Hannysmilez:
It's not really bad. Personally,i'm against babes asking guys for cash(never done that). My hubby gives me an allowance monthly,at first i felt insulted because I can damn well afford myself. I withdrew the money,took it to him and began ranting. Long story short,that was his own way of showing affection;Providing. He just feels better about himself knowing he caters for me. I respect that,so I take it.
Babes should'nt depend on guys for cash. They should go ahead and earn theirs.

Men have been conditioned by society to give women money even when they haven't earned it. My question for you is would you do same (give him a monthly allowance) if the tables where turned? I am assuming he earns more than you do. Over to you.

Toto is overrated. My advice to men all over the world. Pump and Dump (aka use and replace). If you don't understand what that means, you are still sleeping on a bicycle.

Sommyangel:
lol.. Ur just looking for argument but I'll pass

See what I mean, Sommyangel, has ZERO reason to disprove my stated fact. Once again, a typical woman for you.


Madam, just accept the truth and move on with your life. No worry, I no go fit spoil market for you - there are enough gullible men out there that will still fall for your (women's) schemes

papiforreal:
There is this girl I met like 3 months back. I collected her number when she brought her phone to my friend to repair it for her. We started talking on WhatsApp like normal friends and within few weeks one thing lead to another, we started dating.

We got into each other within short time, she calls almost everyday and I also call her back.

She said we won't have sex until marriage and I agreed. Well, I don't care about sex too much. I'm introvert type of a guy. I am 22 and was still virgin until last week when I had sex with her.

Last week she called and she said she just wants us to be together in a room , she wants sleep in my arm. I booked a hotel room for us and we went to there. We sat down in the room for a while ,then she started pulling out her cloth. I asked her why she said she just want test me if I can hold my self seeing her naked.

To cut the long story, we started romancing and I find my way with her help.

To my utter surprise, when I entered her she wasn't virgin. She's wide as Bleep. I didnt feel anything when i entered her. I asked her am in and she said yes. And this is the girl that lied to me she is virgin.

I confronted her and she confessed to me she used to have sex with her ex.

I told my friend and he said she must have sampled more than 1000 diiiicks if what I described is true.

Now I am really worried because I'm seriously in love with this girl. I enrolled her to nursing school this year. Paid a school fees and everything. I'm in my final year now but already started making arrangements for our wedding immediately after my graduation.

Im really hurting mentally now. Is my friend right that this girl is LovePeddler? Do I really deserved such type of a girl being a good guy myself?

Nairalanders I need your advice please. Should I run for my life or i should continue dating her. I just don't want be regretting my some of my decisions later in my life.

She promised me she would be whatever I want her to be, as in she can change her life for me. She even asked me to seize her phones if I don't trust her.

But should I really trust her? I heard from many guys that once a LovePeddler always a LovePeddler.

Okay let me break this down for you so that you understand COMPLETELY what is going on. Pay attention:

Love means one thing for men and ANOTHER (entirely different) for women. When a woman shows you affection and calls you non-stop or even tells you she loves you, it means ONLY ONE THING: She sees that you have resources (or future potential for resources) that she hopes to rely on for the rest of her life. While you see her as someone to love, hold and live with; she sees you as ONLY one thing a SLAVE. Yes. A slave. Someone who will come to her life and take over the responsibility of her feeding, clothing, shelter etc. including extraneous wants and desires. I guarantee you, the moment she realizes you do not have resources ( or the potential FOR it) then she will so easily and effortlessly fall in 'love' with the next SLAVE. Get it?

chukwudi44:
If only you dont get to go to prison before anyone of them oponu!!

And who ask this Biafra goat? Ewu - stay off my mention and while you are at it STOP defending LOOTERS. HEEDIOT.

Sommyangel:
would have loved to but it's obvious ur stuck with ur myopic view so I won't waste my time..

For those who don't understand woman speak this is what sommyangel means by her above post: "I see you know the truth about women and I don't have any argument to counter you, so I will just call your TRUTH myopic so that some stupid people can still believe the truth is a lie."

If you understand woman speak women know and they look for ways to discredit you.

Nigerian guys need to wake up sharp sharp. U na dey sleep for bicycle.

And please! please!! don't forget to also follow him to prison. HEEDIOTS HE-GOATS.

Sommyangel:
a very myopic view

First prove me wrong. If you can't then kindly keep quiet.

Yes. Basic amenities and good organization make life more comfortable.

We don't care about Israel. Please look for an Israeli site to post your rubbish propaganda.

look at this Arewa al majiri - so what's wrong with amala-eaters defending themselves against criminals? Abeg amala-eaters carry go jare. If they attack you next time return fire for fire.

because women are prostitutes. Sometimes you pay right away sometimes you pay once a week or once a month. Even when you marry them you still pay for that kittykat. Either way EVERY MAN pays for sex either he likes it or not. SHIKENA.

Very good and informative post op - keep up the good work

See CORRECT LEGEND - NOT this TUFACE nonsense idiots are screaming about.

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