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iCauseTrouble:
I for make First Class too if not for brezz wey I dey always for Night class. No regret though
Amaka, Jennifer, Opeyemi, Dammy, Yemisi, Grace, Biola, thank you for always allowing me. I miss you all.

I salute you brother #hug

Leezah:
Choose. Your girlfriend has reason to feel the way she does and you know it.

Maybe.

2 out of 2 times I have ever been jealous of an ex boyfriend's friend (not with every ex boyfriend was this an issue) it was found out later that the female friend was indeed crushing on my boyfriend. Women unlike men tend to “read” people well, especially other women. When in love a woman's intuition especially tends to intensify. Then again so does her jealousy so this can be a tricky situation that requires some reflection and honesty with yourself and openness with your girlfriend.

Some of what made me feel jealous in these times was intuition, but some things I just simply understand by being a female myself and having many female friends. I knew certain subtle things females do when they like a guy and saw it. Even personally I crushed on guy friends before and some never suspected it. So it's definitely possible your girlfriend sees something you don't.

Anyways, aside from intuition and certain gestures i saw, I noticed that these 2 boyfriends would run to the female friend with all the problems we had as though she was his “refuge”. This is growing intimacy with your friend instead of your girlfriend and a BIG NO-NO. It would have been better that they went to an older and wiser man for counsel than to her.

Although you may go to your female friend for advice with other problems you should never ever come to her with relationship problems. Friends of the opposite shouldn't know all the intimate details of your relationship. As soon as you have a girlfriend this is the most immediate way in which your friendship to your friend should change. By you coming to her you are now showing her what sort of romantic partner you are and how “romantically compatible” you now are with her.

Women are weird. As soon as you deeply open up about these conditions of your heart, etc, we cant help but to at least wonder if we are romantically compatible especially since we come out the womb being relationship/love oriented. Unless you want your female friend trying to now question secretively if you and her are compatible its best you leave her in the dark about this “intimate” side of you or only expose this side of you when you are single. Also don't break up with your girlfriend and the next day run to your female about the issues. Especially in young love people break up then 2 months later are back together.

Overall allowing a female friend to see these aspects of you should be when you are single (via the title of being single and via emotionally being untied to anyone). Then and only then you should share your romantic/relationship characteristics with your opposite sexed friend and even then just know you are opening the strong possibility that this friend will now start qualifying and disqualifying you as a romantic partner.

If you want female advice then ask older women but maybe not your mom or those who would have too much bias and too easily take your side. Maybe Nairaland could be good however take every answer with a grain of salt including my own. Honestly relationships and determining what is acceptable and not acceptable is personal and takes personal reflection. You can't just take advice for everything.

I especially think in todays world with so many boys raised without fathers its not good to get all your relationship do's and don't from females. You shouldn't think like a female when dating a female. You should think like a man. For the most part men have to be more patient and giving in certain areas of relationships and women should be more patient in othe areas. Learning intimate relationships is not like learning to be politically correct or learning what's publicly proper. Although I do recommend reading relationship books from people who share your same vision of intimate relationships dating someone is the foundation in an intimate world you are creating and everyone is different in what they can accept or what they prefer. People's preferences in love ranges from the most traditional to the grotesque…

Meditate on what you want. Overall if this is a woman who fits every aspect of your vision of an intimate relationship than her opinion does matter. At the end of a day you and HER will be the main creators of a world between your walls and conforming to her in all aspects that's reasonably possible and vice versa is key in making a lasting relationship (keyword:reasonable).

Overall there are many questions you have to ask before you seek to end your friendship. In my own situation both of these boyfriends much later “confessed” that they deeply knew the female friend liked them since I first mentioned my jealousy but they thought it wasn't a big deal unless they fed into it. Personally I felt these were feeding into it (again men don't tend to know the world of female emotion as well). Can you honestly and I mean SINCERELY look at all the encounters with your female friend say that beyond a shadow of a doubt this friend has absolutely, and I mean absolutely has no crush on you? Honestly not even her having a boyfriend matters. Having a boyfriend doesn't stop one from having basic human desires towards another. In divorce courts we see this clearly, so of course in simply dating we can't deny this simple fact of life.

Anywho, despite my own experiences, at the end of the day I would not say it's the best solution to always cut off the female friend just because your girlfriend is jealous especially without considering these things I mentioned.

Many times we date just to date and practice a long term commitment.

Look at everything mentioned here, reflect, keep intimate problems away from opposite sexed friend, and determine your motivation in dating the woman you're with. Is she practice or is she the one?
Is she seeing something you don't or is it jealous?
Is it every female friend and interaction that makes her jealous or is it just this one friend?
Is not conforming to her in this way worth risking a lifetime of not having her by your side?
Many questions to ask before you take any action.

What is your aim in life?

Rgade:
Okay.... heat ethanol(alcohol); it should boil at 75°C.
Drink the hot alcohol,it should decolorize(bleach) your tongue to it's normal color.
Swallow some as well to decolorize your poo.
Administer same treatment to all your affected friends.

Then go learn how to make proper popcorn at a catering school or from a professional caterer.
Thanks.

Why are you people like this nah?? Lwkmd

CyberEBOLA:
That is how you will end up putting dangerous chemicals that will harm people, all in the name of colouring.
Las las thunder go fire all of una.

Lmfao

Don't jump into conclusion

How many likes for the Talented young man

Smh

Smh.. Now you're blaming the devil.

My people please always try tame your anger.

The amount of blood that gushed out of shina's nose after I headbutted him in Jss3 (Vetland junior grammer school) nobody caution me again oo.

RandomVic:
Lol

Why you dey laugh?

No Vetland student here??

Jegiosowor:
The Presbyterian Church of Nigeria
Hope Waddell parish, Calabar

My people, too bad I'm just seeing your comment, a link up won't be a bad idea right?

Ogilinsaka:
I hope and pray this woman wasn't a victim of envy and jealousy from competitors cos it happens all the time...

This is pathetic

My point exactly

Ekakamba:

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One of the effects of porn...
The lad must have googled and watched unlimited versions of 'dicking my sleeping landlady/gf/president' etc.

Ambassador Sir

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mansakhalifa:
You see this^^^ silly last line of yours? Good.
It confirms the fact that you haven't heard of the 'sneak tactic'. It's a very old tactic perfected over the years by major predators- from wild cats to even humans. Just watch Natgeo and you will get my point. That's if you have Pay TV to start with.

To deploy the sneak tactics effectively and efficiently, you must deploy the elements of camouflage, stealth, agility and surprise. All four are important because they leave your victim in shock the minute you pounce, leaving them totally crippled enough to be able to do anything.

The slave raiders of the past used that tactics sometimes to ruthless advantage especially when abducting people working on their farms alone or walking through lonely paths.

Pray to whatever you believe in that you don't fall prey to me one day. Say you get me angry because no "stone" or "stick" will save you. Talk more of a weeny thirteen year-old girl. That is a bloody easy job.

Start thinking like a strategist from now my friend. And watch more lions hunting on Natgeo wild to understand the stealth strategy better. You don't see the enemy until he pounces. Wham! Matter of seconds before you become a meal.

Never you underestimate stealth. Always watch your back. Unfortunately, many women hardly do that.

This guy is very Intelligent

Mandelus:
Never believe you did wrong by reading your hubby chat... Both of you are one and there is no 2 .
Secondly don't mind this quote up here.
Thirdly all the things you desire him to do for you do it for him with time he will reciprocate it...
Fix a date with him
Cook his favorite.
Play with him... Ask him to please you if not he will not get his phone do it laughing.
Tell him you miss him if he is outside late (call or text).
Tell him you missed those moments you cherished while you where dating.
Secondly dress nice, mannered not like a LovePeddler but in modesty..
Kia he will see you as a mother if you will treat him as your grown up son.
Never take advice from a divorcees or widow ...

F*ck!!! you're a genius

godblessuyirich:
NEVER NEVER NEVER EVER. WORST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE

I'm so sorry ma'am. I hope you're not in such relationship anymore?

Bola146:
Same here... but I pray for my own bone

Shot

Only if the life of a Nigerian matters to our leaders, Iran would have think twice before making such decision.... I just hope our Government do something.
(Giant of Africa)

Nanatrendy:
over this one? No way, we have a lot of African Americans on waiting list for Ghanaian citizenship, she knows it's not that easy that's why she opted for Nigerian citizenship

Lmfao... Lot of African American you say

Nanatrendy:
dude we have alot of stripers in ghana we don't need another one you can keep this one

You sound like you're in pains

TheFacelessMan:
Amir Khan has fast hands...BUT

I was able to knock him down last year.

It was during Ramadan though

My man!!!
Where have you been?

Waiting

KING DAVID

Erediauwa:
Hello 9ice,


Ruggedman is still in town.

Burst my brain with that picture

Smh

If this gets to FP, I will bath naked

Temidayo9:
How much does it cost to also complete what you have started, instead of directing us to a link that is not working

Local man is also in safia pains

And some people want to kill themselves