₦airaland Forum

trendy:
Idiot, u can wait forever

OUCH! LOL

Razorr:
Does that mean such agencies truly exist in nigeria? If yes, then are they efficient?

If you haven't done anything wrong why are you concerned?
Let him do what he pleases you will come thru it as white as snow, then he would owe you an appology.
If you stay with him know TRUST will always be an issue in yo relationship.

PDF:
Which is better?  
1)  Trusting someone and find out later that the person isn't faithful/loyal
OR
2) Having doubts and later realising that the person had always been faithful.

Neither - Trusting someone and them deserving and living up to that trust.

I have to agree with Joyblinks on this - if the guy doesn't care or wasn't looking to settle down with her he wouldn't bother going into all this trouble. Fact is we don't know the full story:
1. Has he got reasons to doubt Razorr's commitments and words?
2. Why is Razorr so concerned if she knows her heart n mind are clear?
3. What has the guy been through/put up with in the past?

Fact is hiring a private detective is not an easy process, time, money and energy would have been invested and if he's not for real that would then be very unlikely.

Coming from an objective point of vew - such a service does exsist and they do run back-ground checks into a person's life, employement, family, relationships - marriages/divorces, children, travel, studies, roommates, financies - banking, credit status and history, businesses - insolvencies/bankrupcy, criminial records/activities, health - hospital admissions, abortions, illnesses, blood types etc. Pretty much anything.

This service is available in the US and Europe, but more prominent in the US with new relationships and someone wanting to verify their partner's history before commitment of marriage for example. Also in this day n age - TRUST is overrated, marriages end due to the fact that a partner lied about their back-ground/history thereby making the other partner financially crippled, unable to have children, previously married with kids etc.

People do use this service, whether it is available in Nigeria and their accuracy is another question, but for a big brother State it is possible and freely offered if you know where to look.

Treasure27:
hahahahahah , don't have such time

Aight Treasure27 what exactly are u after? u're asking for mature then it's the case that someone is too old, u're asked to mail, again u don't ave such time - so what do u want?

SAD

Holding bk n resisting the urge  - ave read Odd Thomas, but i seem 2 fall short of the remaining pre-requisites 

Sorry o but yo dilema is redunant. If you date someone that u find unattractive initially, then it means that u feel for their personality. The only way yo statement can be true is if u were forced or you're doing it for money. If willingly then something about them appeals to u.

[quote author=blue-sky link=topic=44345.msg1047261#msg1047261 date=1176842008]and whos that one Not that many people upload there pics, im sure theres a lot of 'fine' girls in nairaland.[/quote]I don't doubt it, but for the sake of fairness & sanity we just ave to pick out of those that upload their pics, so hurry up time is running out!

Have dated interracially before, both White and Asian. It wasn't a problem for anyone except my mother who just had to ask the question as to whether i was serious. Aside from that people, friends, brothers, sister, father and hers were all cool with it.
The Asian one proved more difficult as her father was not prepared to accept it but everyone else including her mother was fine, but it wasn't a major as we both knew it wasn't going anywhere and it was her chance to be experimental & rebellious.

That is an interesting question and the answer can have to do with either attention seeking, low self-esteem and a mission. Depending on the girl or occassion the answer will defer. But there are some that will tell that it is how they feel comfortable/personal preference and don't care what other judgemental people might think of them.

Are u serious? and does that work for U?

tascoray:
Thank you all 4 all your advice. I am very Gratefull.
But one thing I want to get clear is if she comes back to Lag, should I go to her, I mean meet her? or I should simply ignore her, 'Cos we will still jam one way or the other, and remember I told you we attend the same church, but different Branch Location.

No don't go to her, leave her as she is and don't go out of yo way to jam wit her either. Find yoslf another girl, there are plenty out there and be confident in yoslf. Trust me you don't want any girl to have the upper hand on you cos they will play u like a yoyo. If you two do jam, don't bring it up, just be cool wit no hint of bitterness or anger.

Omo Eko:
There is no reason for bitterness
But have seen most females pics on Nairaland and i don't see no FINEST girl yet and that my own opinion and i don't know about anyone else

I agree with you there are quite a few fine ladies (the brave ones that upload their pics - true pics?) here on NL, but as in the Miss World competitions there can only be ONE!

Not to come across as being insincere but i would simply advise that u forget about this girl. She seems shallow to me, simply asking u not to call her again after speaking wit her friend about her first impressions of u, and not actually giving u any valid reasons. If she won't talk or meet wit u there is very little u can do, try and find someone else thar would appreciate u for u!

Have u spoken or texted her since?

I ask God 2 make u happy - make u smile - guide u safely - thru every mile - grant u wealth - give u health - most of all, show u what it means to be truely loved.

Are u a girl??

@ozino4real - My mistake, but do try uploading a favourable pic to sweeten the offer.

@guyman2 - that is a redundant statement you've made. Yes i can understand yo level of worry and corncern, but thruth be told safety is not previledged to anyone individual. As DewDrop mentioned every Country has it's own limitations and issues, even the UK has it's muggings and stabbings as for you being safe in America - you would actually feel the same way if you lived in Nigeria.

Omo Eko:
Th finest Girl is NoBODY

Do i detect some element of bitterness?

kattie:
@masterpwar
It is because you and your girl friend are ugly, so you think everyone is as ugly as you both?

Ouch!! The guy is just feeling himself.

@ Creamish - what is your criteria for your selections, because objectively Denise should be included on that list.

@ Acidrop - we need a close up!