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Acidosis:
What do you want, and what would you teach your sons and daughters?

Acidosis:
Do you think a man should take responsibility for leadership in the home?


NB: The home means husband, wife and children, and their relations with outsiders, extended families, etc.

crackhaus:
Another faulty inference.

Same way you wouldn't walk into a fire just because you love someone, is the same way you don't have to do what your lover wants every time.

As for compromise, this is not even a function of love but altruism.
People make compromises for you every day without feeling that 'love' for you - your bosses, the sellers you're buying from, etc.

If your conditioning is to equate submission/being submissive to having no voice of your own, then I fear we are just going to keep going in circles.

Mariangeles:
Babe I swear, you no get wahala atall

crackhaus:
But that is exactly what the definition of love is.

Anyway, agree to disagree.

Acidosis:
How do you define love?




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I really hope you won't end up defining self-centredness and selfishness[/s]

crackhaus:
Then they have never experienced true love in its raw and purest form.

Mariangeles:
Seriously girl, the situation up here is so...melancholic

Acidosis:
Women naturally want a man they can submit to...even in bed.

The problem is, many look for the wrong reasons to "submit". Genuine submission comes only from loving genuinely.

Mariangeles:
Seriously girl ?

Watch them come for you like you've committed a crime

Darevofpeace:
You said you are single and not searching, Do you want to be a Celibate?

Acidosis:
absolutely!

liberalchick:
Abi, that escalated very quickly! Many are reaching here to confirm their biases.

oboy81:
Take your Stupidity to the Ashewo beer Parlor

Acidosis:
The question of submission does not come with many conditions. The only condition is, do not marry a man you cannot submit to. That means, do not marry a man you do not (genuinely) love.

Darevofpeace:
If I should get you,it shows that your wedding date is fixed already.

Thegamingorca:
It will be less boring that way.


Religion tends to give room for cheats to thrive in hopes that Deyll seek forgiveness and all will be forgotten

ornicus:
That depends on the man.the die hard chauvinists will take the contributions and still expect the wife to be a doormat. Friend I discussed previously - he and his wife built their house together, then the guy put it in his own name.

Aaronsrod:
Our God of Fire must kill!!

nahzyla:
I honestly don't understand why many men in this thread are so angry

Is it because of the amount I said I would be receiving? You all don't think it's right for women to earn more than men? Oris it because I wrote 'my children' instead of our children? Does it even matter? My husband calls our baby 'my son', ' my boy', 'my capon' etc when we are at home or with other people and I don't even see the big deal, he isn't wrong to say that so why is my saying 'my children' now a sign of disrespect?

Or are they angry because I said I want to use the money to better my kids lives instead of saying I want to spend on my husband? Personally I too would prefer him to spend his money on the children before considering me because they are the most important people in our lives right now.

I honestly don't understand the outrage and the wrong conclusion about my disrespecting my husband. If I didn't have respect for him I would not even seek second opinion from people for a job that pays so much. I would just leave.

AntiBrutus:
Lmao. Naija men ehn.
You chop their money... gold digger.
You say you no wan chop, make you go hustle your own...feminist!

Which kind wahala be this?

AntiBrutus:
Them never start...

AntiBrutus:
You never see anything.

Reason I avoid these broke elements or those ones whose lives/egos revolve around money.

Some are already seeing prounouns, talking DNA, that is just how they are wired. Taking decisions with their penîs and egos.

My friend said, it is no more TDH (Tall, dark and handsome). It is now, tall, dark and handsome with SENSE.

What next? E get as the woman go waka, e go say she no get respect again. Marry a broke or ego-filled Naija man at the risk of your sanity. Godforbid!!

mrblessed:
My brother, the title of this post -- "Should I leave him?" -- clearly betrays the lack of respect this young lady has for her husband, solely because he is currently incapable of providing the type of material comfort she requires. When I saw first the post, I thought it was the usual, run-of-the-mill boyfriend-girlfriend relationship challenges that litter the entire landscape of nairaland.

Imagining a future without the husband, and with no intention of being cynical, cast a huge doubt of paternity on those children.

Thegamingorca:
I only got to know it was called swallow when I came down south

Jayb20:
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martineverest:
no I vomit or regurgitate them...very useless question.

the op IQ is very low.thw question is self-answering.why is it call 'swallow?

nuelyoyo:
please are u gay, or you just sympathize with them?