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jaxxy:
Do u have a problem with what u bolded?

ornicus:
Naija equivalent of swallowing I guess

HBB1:
Sorry about the Bible reference...

Have you lead a team before, have you ever been a head of anything? Did it mean you were superior to your colleagues or you were the most "responsible'' for any happenings?

I have led teams of people older and younger and nothing changed. We were teammates, partners and we helped one another.

But whatever works for you luv, cheers!

HBB1:
That's the order of life.
The buck stops somewhere.

God did not question Eve, he questioned Adam!

A head should never lord it over people he is responsible for-- that's positional leadership, which is weak. He is supposed to lead. He is on the front-lines, he is the most responsible, the most caring, the most selfless, he sacrifices for those he is responsible for.

Any association where there is no assigned "head" is doomed.

Marriage is not a competition, its a partnership-- 2 people should be more effective than when they are single. 2 people working towards a common goal.

HBB1:
hahaha...

A man is a shield, a provider, a covering, a priest, a coach...

He has muscles ( without working out) for a reason, he can commit suicide when he looses his job for a reason, he is naturally bigger than the female for a reason.

He is the one most responsible for the successes or failure of the home-- God made it so.

As there is a head of department and captain of a team, a man is the head of the home.

How he interprets it depends on how much 'maturity' he has!

kingxsamz:
I'm angry being a citizen in a sh!te hole country...
Why dem no born me for US?




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pocohantas:
Man like this shaaaa.

Ibkayee come and see the main alpha male.

Ugosample:
lmao

what's funny

pocohantas:
My guy

Why Yoruba women though, you mean Igbo women do not do such?

Ugosample:
the one wey I see na im I talk.



Or you want me to lie on this forum?

I respect those women tho
they hustled like mad

tho it is now telling on their bodies

pocohantas:
Why are they always looking for who to wash their clothes and sweep their houses? Who trained these ones?

kmcutez:
Lol. The husband sounds like a loser. Imagine ordinary dishing of food causing wahala. As if there are not more important things in life to worry about. Poverty mentality. I’m sure you all reside in face me, I face you. Na dem dem. Lmao.

ibekwe97:
[s]Through thought my brother, it just happened to recently.The girl I dated for years, no respect, she can't wash my cloth, she can't sweep my house. The worst part of it is that she always do what she likes. Thank we are no longer together. We guys should be careful seriously [/s]

nwanneni:
ibkayee money stop nonsense.
How you go make like 10 million dollars come dey worry about say your wife no dey contribute
How much she want even contribute to start with
Money good oo ibk

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

nwanneni:
I see.is that what you want?
Well I will personally support my woman to forge ahead in her career but if I make big money my dear she will turn to a trophy wife
Excess bread tinz
ABI you no want dey sleep for house dey collect major
G wagon and all

nwanneni:
ibkayee listen wella.
Out here guys that tell their wives not to work are odogwus
In other words you will become oriaku
Chopping his money
No worry when I make that kind bread I go put you on

Miarose:
U are an idealist, I worry for you cos human nature is brutal. Unfortunately , people are not always ALL we think they are. Humans are a sum of all parts. As a partner, do you know all their parts before marriage, heck, do they even know all their parts?
If the implementation of the agreement is postponed indefinitely, what can you do?

Before marriage, all there is is promises and vows. You better pray your spouse has high doses of integrity and selflessness, else, those words all come to nothing.

Acidosis:
Someone posted this earlier "submissiveness doesn't mean a man having his way over his wife". Nothing is wrong in having certain prejudices about about situations, job, in-laws, place of worship, etc. It is not gender specific.

People should focus on marrying sane partners. A man can allow you to work 24/7 so he can merry in peace and tour the world with his side chicks, not necessarily because he wants the best for you. Some want you to work so you pay most of the bills.

Marrying sane and loving/lovable partners should be our focus. Submissiveness, and the rest are extremely natural when love prevails.

Btw, the decision to work or not should be talked about before marriage.

bukatyne:
Someone's husband I know refused her getting a better paying job so she doesn't earn more than him.

Same woman is responsible for most things at home.

Acidosis:
Absolutely. If he doesn't want her to take a job in a brothel or strip club, then she can't essentially.

Willy7:
Dear Nairalanders,
A friend of mine is having issues with his wife because he does not wear his wedding ring often. She has even threatened him that she would stop wearing hers too,to which upsets this friend of mine. He explained that it makes him uncomfortable sometimes wearing the ring and so doesn't see any trouble in his resolve not to wear it always. It doesn't mean he is cheating or something.
He is asking to know if it's a must to wear his ring always and if it has any spiritual implications.
Matured response and advice needed.

eeshiemokha:
Hmmmmm...

Temptations are everywhere. It doesn't matter whether one is single or married. I am particularly blessed with a great gal whom I am proud to call my wife and quite frankly I would have loved to tell you that being married to one so precious makes me immune from such 'temptations' but this however is not the case.

Like every warm blooded human out there, I am prone to temptations and would definitely fall if I decide to dine with the devil, no matter how long my spoon is. Given that I know these for a fact, I make a conscious effort each day to flee from any place or person that would likely make me fall.

ornicus:
Submit, stubborn wench!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ugUaxot1UgE

crackhaus:
This is exactly how we got here in the first place.
We are back to the beginning of our conversation.. Didn't I just type something about how we will keep going in circles?

Like I noted earlier, ‘when you truly love someone, your consciousness doesn't even get to make a distinction between agreeing to submit or disagreeing. Don't you get it yet?
It happens automatically and at that point, you would just see yourself doing things to and for your man which an outsider will see and tag you a submissive wife.


I will post a response to your friend in my next comment. Wait for it.

Acidosis:
Don't you think the "mutual agreement" is the problem here and the essence of the endless contests on this forum? If "mutual agreements" are so easy to achieve, all families would run smoothly. People do not keep to terms of agreements, so don't dwell on that.

You have to preach what you believe, you can't claim to stand for nothing in the guise of "mutual agreement". And what you stand for, you practise.

Acidosis:
More like, you can't tell us what you practise in your home?

You see why I don't take most of your comments seriously? Not just you btw


Let's know how it works in your marriage or relationships