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fyzaila:
Can please summarise? You can summerbeans too

Lazy youth

atheistandproud:
Now it is important that we draw a clear line between acquaintanceship and friendship. The two are not the same.

An acquaintance is someone that you are just familiar with. Someone that you are cordial to and share greetings and small talk with. Beyond the surface, they do not know anything deep about you. Such a person is an acquaintance and not a friend because Nigerians tend to abuse the word friend.

A friend is something much more different. Someone who knows you all the way in. Not just on the surface. If you hit "Friend definition" on Google, what you'll get is

a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection e.g. "she's a friend of mine"

I want you to take note of the mutual affection part because it will come back in soon.

So back to the topic, why is it that men and women cannot be friends?

1. Aim

Believe it or not, every friendship has an aim even when it seems like there isn't any. A friendship can have a parasitic or mutualistic aim.

Apart from the rare occasion, what is generally the aim of a man who is chasing a friendship with a woman or women; or a lady who is chasing friendships with men?

Some of you are thinking that you're the exception. Poppycock and nonsense. Odds are that you're not.

You don't need me to spell out the obvious.

2. Foundational interests

There are friends that are your crypto guys, others for football, or sports in general, betting, gaming, politics, work, academics etc. These are the foundations on which friendships are built.

How many women bet or enjoy sports? How many men truly love Zee World or Telenovela? Are you seeing a pattern here?

3. Costs

It is no news that male friendships generally cost nothing. Zero. Even if you're broke, your guys will chip in to cover your part of the bills if you guys go out. Whatever resources are doled out in the course of male friendships are done mostly willingly and without coercion.

On the flip side, female friendships are expensive! This is more so if you're the guy. You must spend money, by hook or by crook. You must spend time, expertise, physical energy etc. You have to be the psychiatrist, psychology, therapist, electrician, engineer, phone technician, driver, escort, body guard, teacher, assignment solver etc.

On the other hand all she mostly has to do is show up, be nice to you and maybe make food for the both of you. Of which more often than not, you paid nothing less than 50% for.

4. Benefits

Besides sex, there's no benefit to female friendship. In fact, you get to see her jump from one relationship to another and trauma dump on you. She would block your opportunities with other girls because that would mean losing you. You will stay single and miserable.

5. Feelings

The way men and women express feelings is patently different. The way one person expresses the same feelings to different people is absolutely not the same.

If two real men were to share the same space for a while, (if they don't hate each other) there is usually forged a brotherly union. Both men will stand up for and defend each other.

However if a man and a woman were to share the same space when they're not biologically related. More often than not, it's romantic feelings that develop.

Conclusion

This is why when ladies say they have serious make friends, the first male instinct is to laugh but if she's actually serious, we feel pity.

During my NYSC days, I met this Yoruba babe from Kwara, three years my senior and her male friend from Fed. Poly Offa. They attended the same CAC from home and after camp soon moved into the same CAC family house at Koko road in Sokoto.

True story.

I always told her that this your friend wants you but she'll maintain that they're just friends. This lady left Sokoto to my village PPA for premium knacks and I still went to their family house to give her premium knacks under his nose.

One night he was outside calling her phone while we were getting it on inside the room. She didn't pick so he left her a message. The next day she admitted that she knew he likes her but he's not her type.

I felt really terrible and couldn't look him in the eye the next day because he was absolutely very nice to me. I returned to my PPA and never went back. Ever. I also stopped picking her calls. Last time I checked, she was with someone else whilst he was still there. A friend indeed.

It may be the other way around, it could be your man parading different ladies as his friends.

Excellent write up, detailed and properly delivered.
It is in a woman's nature to manipulate, deceive and pretend because this is the only way she can obtain power. No matter how much you expose female nature they will always deflect, this is to maintain the illusion of power. Men know this aquire knowledge and power

col2bod:
i have been using Dotmac internet for about 7 months , i stay around airport road lugbe , Abuja. there services is terrible has i no get choice i still dey manage them, slow internet, downtime is too much. this award na buy dem buy am abeg.

100% they are terrible and expensive. I dropped them and went back to mtn

Dont give up. Change strats and try again

AImiron:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.voanews.com/amp/romanian-prosecutors-send-andrew-tate-to-trial-for-human-trafficking-/7144724.html

Biased one sided,uninformed report. No charges has been made. All allegations

Nova15:
How true is this?

most likely Kishimoto wrote himself into a corner with the power balance. maybe when he wrote the story about white wolf he did not fully grasp the power scaling. recall that initially itachi said even he and kisame would die if they fought jiraiya solo, I just don't see that being the case at end of shippuden

Skiborobo:
If you're a man and you can't buy this please don't come near me

Please move away corona V

fg

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Wawelexy:
What's up with artist slumping dying during performance recently?

Too much intake of hard substances might be the primary cause, who know.. RIP man

vaccine

Kk4:
Don't be quick to welcome Starlink to Nigeria. There is a reason most developed countries don't have it or let it operate in their countries.
Can you imagine the amount of Nigerians information that will be at the United States disposal when Starlink becomes fully accessible by Nigerians.

ogbeni getout

Divoc19:
You don't give her money
You don't want her to hustle for money from other guys

Hmm

Guys
You like when girls don't ask you for money
You complain that girls like money
You don't want to give girls money
You want young and decent girl
You forget that girls are human that have daily needs too

what is this garbage write up, a relationship between a man and woman is not transactional, if a woman feels entitled to finanaces from her BF and actively seeks it from other men if her said BF does not provide that then she is a WH0RE not a girlfriend and belongs to the street.

Guys
You like when girls don't ask you for money

yes we do, it makes men feel like a provider. however we detest it when we sense she is just being a greedy Wh0re (which most girls are) then it repulses us. the thing here is genuine need rather than a worthless spending thrift

You complain that girls like money

because that most of them ask for, send me money for hair, makeup, phone, lipstick and many other useless vanity filled things.

You don't want to give girls money

we do, only to someone we really care for, not wh0res that are parasites

You want young and decent girl

we do

You forget that girls are human that have daily needs too

so girls being humans means that the other human (men) must always be forking out cash to her like an atm machine. just another parasite logic

Probably got her millions from child support or divorcing her former husbands. Either/or

Marnez:
Hi beautiful am interested

Are you mental or dumb, didnt u see the lady is in russia not nairaland. What does you hi beautiful fulfill now. Garbage simp

Rokiatu45:
Nobody is forcing anybody to date. You could remain single na force?

See parasyte

After admitting strains of the hiv virus was used in the jab, now they are testing massively. Well ppl allowed theor plans get this far

obiekunie01:
Davido needs serious therapy and prayers.

just look into his eyes and you will see he is almost dead inside from deep soul pains.

Even chioma looks much much more alive.

May help come his way really fast.

You assumed his problem you also purported his solution. I think you need mental help

squash47:
I trust Nigerians never to accept this future abominations. Even though we All hate ourselves, at least we are united in upholding good morals and decency in this country.

Nigeria is a puppet state, they will accept anything

MufasaLion:
It's nobody's business.

When its on a public platform, its everybody's business

3nity7:
One of my relationship thought me alot about the nature of women. I won't forget how I simped because people told me not to give up on her. I was calling and she won't pick my calls and when she does, she was rude. Now people kept advising me not to give up too soon despite the cold shoulders. I did some simp stuff that am ashamed of mentioning like crying over the phone( Too much of romance movies) thought that will work but it made things worse, because women are attracted to masculinity.

Well, why I simped so much was because I was advised by simp men to simp more. Their reason was that if the relationship should end, it shouldn't be from my end.

Women are attracted to signs of masculinity, that's their nature, that's why opposite attract. You can't impress a woman by being over her, That's feminine.

When you start exhibiting feminine characteristics, she will go out in search of a real ( Masculine)man.

Take the lead. Show affection but not excessive. Dominate, most especially in the other room. Be assertive. There is power dynamic, women always test men to know if they are man enough, don't blame them it's the way they are wired. They would want to dominate, and if they do, they would feel your not man enough.

All am saying is that treat your woman like your Child, afterall you call her baby. Respect, Spoil and pamper her but be firm and assertive. Women love this.

Now women love masculinity that's why they love men who are;

Finer than them,
Richer than them,
Taller or bigger than them,
More educated than them,
Spiritual than them,
Older than them.
Lead them Etc.

When your woman starts insulting you then she sees you as a woman, and it's your fault. Some men try to do damage control by hitting her and that's wrong. Let her know she is replaceable by your actions, whether your married or not. Women knows am saying the truth.

Lastly, there's a thin line between fear and respect. The goal is to make her respect you not to fear you because there's no love in fear.

never endure in a toxic relationship whether you are a man or woman.

GO FORTH AND SIMP NO MORE

SerikiFulani:
I won't lie.

Things are only going to get worse....I'm not a negative person but what's coming is child's play to what will hit the world starting from next year..

If you're a family man on this platform,go and dget enough foodstuffs and groceries for your family and make sure you save and don't spend anyhow cos the world is I'm serious trouble

Only those awake would understand this.

Gospel2Day:
Then you should have heard from the guy before criticizing her.
Your comment shows that you have already taken sides with the guy.
If people tell you that you're rude, disrespectful and proud, all of them cannot be wrong. Check yourself.
Whenever someone says I don't care what people say or think about me, they have attitude and arrogance issues.

When you say all of them do you mean just the family which is the example that was given or the larger society as a whole because if its a group of people that says you are rude aka family then they can be wrong due to their traditions or belief, on the other hand if it is a group of different random people in the larger society that makes rude remake then its probably true. In this example its only one family and they may be wrong or crazy or anything. So your example is absolutely wrong

NoonMasamune:
FINALLY FOUND IT! it's hard being a jrpg fan in Nigeria

Ff7 remake is cool. Jrpg fan since zelda ocarina of time. We plenty

Does anyone have any performance rating on IPNX compared to FOB

ibawon:
I am about to Spend 120k on Router and 25k/months for "unlimited" that throttles down to 1mbps after 30GB and caps at 25mbps. I just have to order Starlink this month.

How do you order the starlink please. I cant seem to see their nigerian based website or contact details

SlavaUkraini:
Approach any of them for their hand in marriage and the first question they would ask is

What do you do for a living ?

In an effort to try and gauge the man's financial capacity...

As Liabilities, They have been gauging the Financial capacity of men, that is why they are still single

If you reply their question with "what is your body count" or "are you a virgin" they immediately go crazy.

Obavoh:
God just blessed me and my wife with a bouncing baby girl at 6:15am early this morning. My home has 3 soldiers and 1 princess . I am happy.

Join me to celebrate. For the women looking for fruit of the womb, your prayers will be answered.

P.S: I might not be a millionaire but I do not beg to feed, clothe or house my wife and kids.

My eldest child is 4 and will begin school next January by the special grace of God. I will see all my kids to university level.

I will give birth to as many children as God blesses me with. As long as I keep on performing my responsibilities, I will not lack to provide for my family.

I rather spend on my wife and kids than carry multiple women and live a reckless life.

Stay blessed

Congrats , God bless you abundantly

Following i would like to read different opinions about this. It looks interesting

LadyD22:
I mentioned the qualities he had that I liked and here you are body shaming men trying to put words into my mouth in other to prove a point , I don't know who made you bitter but I do hope you recover soon

lie number 1
nobody ever shamed any man or woman for body type. the qualities u mentioned are typical to what every female on earth claims they want, how many percentages of men meet those standards? about 10 to 15% worldwide, this is hypergamy. like I said virginity was not your leading draw to the man it was the hypergamous traits and qualities you saw that most likely drew you to this person, and then you try to front-load virginity as the main reason for choosing this man. if this man was a virgin and lacked all the other qualities you would not choose him...most likely. this is a typical trait of women, they want to secure resources first, then DNA SECOND, they also want to be able to mask all that in pretence. all other talks are attempts to mask their parasitic nature.

There is nothing wrong with having a preference but just because you have a preference doesn't give you or anyone the right to bully a person for their individual characteristics, that is where a lot of men fail

have all the preferences that you want but bear in mind that if your preference is above your sexual market value you would most likely get used and dumped, this is what is happening in society today where all the women want tall, fine, rich, nice, sexy guys to marry, however, they are not qualified for such men, hence get fvcked for fun and dumped, then they carry that used body and claim brand new to a s1mp.
women are greedy and think they can get away with no accountability for their past. 80% of women are sleeping and aiming for 15% of men. hypergamy

"I like a woman that is younger than I am , I like to be in charge and I feel attracted to their adventurousness" this is a preference that is uplifting to young women and does no harm to anyone

that is almost all men's choice for good reasons, men look for purity, loyalty, and beauty in a woman. it's more of biology than a preference. do a survey and find a man with a preference for a woman that has slept with 500 men, has 4 bastard babies, broken up all her past relationships, and is 50 years of age.....for marriage specifically..(because men will sleep with anything regardless of what she is...but marriage is different)

"I don't like fat women, they're just useless "this is bullying , what business do you have trying to shame people whom you have no interest in , and some people say things like this and call it a preference and then go ahead and say "if you're offended it is not my fault

saying fat ppl are useless is a step too far for me and I don't condone that. however, society does not allow men to say they find fat women disgusting to look at. this is speech control. in the west, it's gotten to a point where you cannot reject a lady because she is fat. what rubbish, being fat is a sign of laziness and lack of care and understanding of what is appealing to the opposite gender. there are those that like fat, but there are few who do not make the rule.

I can also say" I like tall dark men " this is a preference that is uplifting to my kind of men

look at it this way. if a man says he wants a virgin for marriage, women will bring pitchforks in anger because they have been used and deep down they want to be wives, but they no longer qualify due to their stupidity in believing feminist lies and propaganda.
if men said you are not allowed to choose men that are tall, smart, and all those jazz, that you must accept short bald men and cannot reject men you do not fancy, you would cry foul. furthermore, women have the govt enforcing their nonsense on men worldwide because of their feelings.

"I don't like light skinned short men who can't speak English" I have no business with them and this is just unnecessary bullying because there are plenty of other people who Fancy them just the way they are , so what is the point?

I don't know why u keep repeating bullying, maybe the programming that women are all nice, sugar and spice is hard to deconstruct from your head. but women are manipulative, calculative and wicked to hell. your preferences are hypergamous and almost all women want that, so you women will throw themselves at this type of man and get used and dumped, then come and say all men are trash. but you all choose to sleep with the same type of men.
women will never ever choose steve urkle for dating or marriage but complain when tom cruise uses them for fun and blame steve urkle for tom cruises damage to them

Your response proved one thing right and that is the fact that a lot of men lack conversational skills , you proved it when you attempted to put words in my mouth about men who are opposite my ex , to get the response that would've been satisfactory to your grain sized ego

I don't know how you can make a claim that something is proven while absolutely saying nothing, it almost seems like you need to gaslight yourself into believing what you say to make yourself feel better. no words were put anywhere. just stating the facts and stats of women in today's society and their lies and delusions which should be public knowledge for men to hear and decide if they want to marry a willing th0t or not

LadyD22:
I have dated a male virgin , and many people have , it actually makes you curious and puts you on your toes because now you don't want to share him , worse part was he was a handsome fine tall man , smart and kind , you probably do not believe it , I didn't get to be his first coz we broke up ( )

I am looking for another virgin , I want to use my hands and spoil him , I understand men small but they're just so petty with it , like they are entitled to it , when they're not , when anyone asked me that stupid question in the past

"are you a virgin ?"

Yes I was but it's very irritating to say yes or no , coz I immediately know the kind of person I'm talking to ,
When I felt comfortable with someone I tell them myself and sometimes they ask indirectly, politely and I get the hint , "you look very innocent with these your baby face "

Then I can say " yes I've done this and I've done that"

But because Nigerian men lack conversational skills , they interrogate you and demand to know
and when you start losing vibe to answer

"aha! Come my brothers for I have caught myself a prostitute and a witch "

and most questions only need a yes or a no and you? and then they say Nigerian women are too proud , I asked if she has eaten for the 100th time today and she got angry

Male virgin, tall, fine, smart, kind....all the traits of hypergamy fulfilled only except the virginity part. I am pretty sure that the guy was rich or financially okay. Why dont you get a male virgin that is poor, short, ugly.
The fact of the matter is women choose men based on all the other factors you listed apart from virginty so the tall, rich, smart were the leading factor for you, then virginity was icing for you. It didnt really matter because u had already chosen him. Now for a man youth and purity and virginity and beauty are the leading factors for marriage selection. Other factors come later.