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genesistearz:
A lady I supported during her hardest moments in life, dump me just a week after my bank account was freeze,

Many men make the same mistake like you, if she's not your wife, you owe her nothing. If she's not carrying your child don't spend on her. So when the relationship ends you won't have loss to count.

Zeeknow3245:
Although she is a minor. You can date her if you want to marry her ooo. Don't ruin her future please oo.

12 years age gap? What he should offer that girl is guidance and counselling. That girl is too young to face the complications of a relationship

Don't let religion or parents decide your future. They won't be there with you for the rest of you life. Be with someone you can build a home / future with

Swtbabyvee:
to me there are jobs everywhere, just that many guys hv a standard they want and money they want , forgetting that many people started from somewhere . If u are looking for a 20k job u would see one in weeks .

This is 2020, how can you be looking for 20k job. You cannot build a home with that. Please if you're earning 20k as a guy don't think of relationship. Yes I'm also a guy. A fresh graduate too. Please take away that idea off your mind. Don't father children you won't be able to take care of that's wickedness. Just imagine your child struggling the same way you're struggling with your career now? Please in our quest for love and building a home, let's think about our unborn and make provision for them so when we pass away they will have a soft landing and something to fall back on.

Tiola1:
Help!she has turned me to Guinea pig and milking ny sperm!

This life no balance at all

SirMichael1:
Lol. Always use a condom for your first time. E get why.

I swear make okay no go burst �

P test is 70 naira buy it and run the rest yourself. She should do it in your presence. You seem young naive and inexperienced. She might b playing you to get money for abortion.

For me I would never condone such

Zabiboy:

If you read what the doctor said up till his last fullstop and you think the doctor said something wrong THEN YOU ARE A HYPOCRITE..
The above quoted text from the doctor is pure FACT!!!
90% of rape cases are fabricated lies, 5% are caused by the ladies( their dress and how they present themselves) 3% is due to mental or spiritual problems on the guys part...the remaining 2% is not caused by any of the above...
If at all that uwa was raped( which is yet to be confirmed), i'll give you 5 good and valid reasons why it was as a result of FOOLISHNESS on her part..
GL

That's true. Most of these girls behave so slutty around you and youd be confused as to what their true motives are. When you do nothing they go around spreading sh*t about you. I've known this for a long time so whenever an opposite s*x comes around, she locks the door behind if she wants to and I always make sure I keep receipts of chats so there won't be any false accusations that I rape you.

University expose you to certain things of life. It's worth getting the exposure

Opeexclusive04:
This mentality is what keeps making Toyota Corolla maintain it's over priced state.
Before you reply just confirm the price of 03-05 corolla Engine and also the Engine of OP's supposed BMW.
Any small thing in 9ja they'll say buy Toyota

So I changed my mind and I'm going for Camry 2011 model

I think 2004 is outdated or something

Hello guys, I've never had any experience when it comes to car. I've never been behind wheels before. I'm a complete learner when it comes to car and any issues about it. However, a friend of mind just sent cars from CA and he's offering me to get BMW 320i 2004 for 1.150.
Please I'll like to know the pros and cons of getting it before even proceeding to getting a mechanic to follow me. Any advise or suggestions are highly welcome. I'll be active to answer any questions that you might have.

Hello family.

Last night I transferred money from my bank UBA to another UBA Account. While carrying out this transaction I made an error. Instead of ********38, I transferred to ********83. Immediately I called the bank and they said they'll place DND on the account and ask the account holder to come verify my claims however I have no way of reaching the account holder neither will they tell me if the person has debited this money from his account.


Please any advice would be appreciated

Gabbyodogwu:
So in your delusional mind anybody without a university education is an illiterate

I came from a poor home. Without education which my mom had, I don't think we would have be able to make it. If I had never gone to school I probably won't be where I am today. I don't know where you're from but I respect education not the certificate but the experience you gain from attending formal education. You may never know the difference if you've never been to one


Just so you know, I don't have a delusional mind. I'm only acting based upon my experience.

Davash222:
1: she drinks and seem a bit slutty
2: she's 20
3: she stays alone
4: she's yet to be admitted yet she stays alone
5: her parents are not the one providing for her necessities.
6: you're just 23
7: your friends are 90% right. Listen to them
8: you don't need a messiah to tell you that girl is into illicit acts. have you met any of her female friends?
9: investing on a Nigerian girlfriend is Investment of no Return.
10: stay away from Nigerian girls!



Bye.

You're the sign I needed from God.

Myhusband:
If you're dating a jobless and financial handicapped lady you can't be so sure that you can't beside you're not focusing on the right direction


Can't she express herself? I'm not saying she shouldn't go to school but what other potentials does she have to move the future with you


See I don't want you guys to fall victims anyhow, my babe I've to nurtured, enlightened and orientated her despite she was a graduate before we could be reasoning together. Now imagine i met a lady that was already nurtured, enlightened and orientated before I met her? I go don move pass this level

In a nutshell, what do you suggest?

Inferno001:
With all you have said and responded to the contributions of people, its obvious you know what you want period!!!
1. She "looks" slutty to you
2. She drinks gin
3. She is an illiterate
4. She can't have kids now because of her educational pursuit that will last 4yrs or more
5. You said all these yourself!!!!

So now with all these you've said about her, what more do you want people to advice you on? You already have your answer...cheers

;DYou highlighted the keynotes out. I worried how it will make her feel even though I know it's the best thing for her

eleko1:
@ 23,u are spending money on a ‘FISH ‘Yes! Fish cos she drink.U still have a long way to go.Save/invest dat money on property.What if u eventually married and she use broken bottle draw OYO tribal mark on ur face/smash ur coconut head ? How much u don give ur parents/wetin u don buy for dem?

Quite where I said I spend on her? I'm not a simp

Maggento101:
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Which is ?

AfroKnight:
Firstly, she’s not illiterate bro.

Secondly, what makes you think her parents won’t pay her school fees? You said they still provide for her.

Help her get ready for admission. You should not pay her fees. Just give her lots of motivation.

I do that in the best way I can

EM123:
I don't think u know what u want in a woman , if love her u can marry her and train her to he level u want her to be , thank GOD she has interest in continuing her education, if u marry her and train her in school she is urs forever , another person will not impregnant her . Go for what u want , if u don't want her then let her know instead of wasting her time.

Take a blue pill bro. I won't train her to university, that's one of the worse decision you can make as a young man

Myhusband:
At 23years it's too early to carry another person pikin burden for head but Op na salary work you won take dey help someone and tomorrow if they pray for you that you will be rich like Dangote you go scream Amen? If na so Dangote dey do santa Claus e go reach where e dey today


Which company your papa get wey you won dey get money from? Your income reach 200k even if he reach, are you forbidden to invest with it?


See hustler should stop following and dating all these broke girls, dey will consumed you and make you stagnant

Lol, bro I don't spend exorbitantly on girls. It's not my duty to do that, I don't owe them that. I'm not their parents so I don't owe them that. I no carry her burden for my head only thing is I don't want us to waste our time if road no day there

[quote author=Joevics post=89634497][/quote]I'll try but it's the least I can do. I'm just trying to play safe so in the end I won't be the person who will be till "Bro, count your loss and move on" after wasting Time and resources

dawnomike:
I mean no to undermean you or you're readiness for life...But please, suspend the thoughts of marriage for now for you to see clearly and be more established.

I'm not saying immediately, would have to date till about 25 or 26 there after, I'll have my kids and think of settling down. I want to use the time to study my partner.

MelaninSkinGirl:
You are 23, still a child, live a little before you get married.

Thanks for your advice but like I said, I want to to have my kid growing up with me while I grow. That way they would have grown old enough before I get to 50.

izzou:
[color=royalblue] Sincerely, if you have many doubts, just leave her. Don't waste your time, her time and injure her emotionally

Despite the fact that she wants to enroll in school, you still dey talk say she be illiterate. No be person wey go school go be literate?

Just go for another lady in your class. You may end up messing with her feelings because of your doubts[/color]

Not unless she starts school and make her grades else she's still an illitrate to me. Besides 4 years in college is a long time and anything can happen in college, she may end up getting pregnant for another guy. You know how University life is.

mediocre:
Have you seen any signs to suggest that she's a slut besides her looks?

Not really except the fact that she says she loves drinking gin. But like I said I may be blinded by love or she may be hiding that aspect from me. Girls are like a two face of a coin they only let you see the aspect they want. Mom had the same feeling too when she saw her.

Morning Nairalanders, I met this girl August last year and ever since then we've been dating. When I met her, I was in my final year in college, she was applying for PJamb which she didn't gain admission so she reapplied for jamb again December which she's still waiting for 2020 post jamb while I'm done with school.

I introduced her to some of my friends and they seem to like her except she drinks and seem a bit slutty from looks. I won't say they're wrong because a man in love tends not to see his partner flaws easily. She's 20 and I'm 23. I've got a Job and I can afford my needs.

Bottom line is I have the impression that now that I'm done with schooling, any girl I'll date would be the one that I'll eventually get married to. I've left the flirting school life I used to leave because even momsi wants me to start planning ahead. She loves me no doubt but I don't want to get married to an illitrate. My friends are constantly warning me against the effect of doing that. My mom too. However, I know she loves me and would do anything for me. Before you suggest I assist her in pursuing her dreams and gaining admission, I've seen stories on NL that it always end in tears. Her choice of institution is my place work. So which means we get to see everyday. She doesn't stay with her father or mother for years, she stays alone with all necessities provided by her parents. If eventually she gains admission, I'll likely help her in little way I can but if she doesn't she has to wait till next year and I don't see myself not having a child within the next two years.

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I also don't want to waste her time so it won't be I'm the one who didn't allow her to find someone else who I know I don't want to marry an illiterate.

So house what do you think, should I let her go or continue.

Righteousness89:
This is why the Churches should be open...

There is Little or Nothing the Government can do now...

Nigeria has had Ebola, Cholera, Lassa fever, HIV aids, Tuberculosis,etc we didn't lock down...

No African Nation is supposed to be on Lock down.. Our Leaders just copied what the Americans and Europeans were doing..

Africa is different Continent ! We have always had a way of Sorting out these things..

The Church has been a Major Help in things like this in Nigeria..

Let's stop Decieving ourselves.... We are not Americans, Americans are not us..

Sight an example of churches been a help to any of those things you mentioned. Which pastor has healed any sick covid patient? Stop been gullible and wake up

Lol... That's how they go about looking for who to collect 25k without giving them nothing in return... They'll only pack PDFs worth over 2,000 pages from you.

solex2346:
My wife is found of the habit of sending our maid which am the one paying her salary to her parents anytime she's travelling and she will call her back when she's back? why would she be the only one benefiting from our house maid,i would be the one cooking my food,washing plates and my clothes anytime my wife is away,am tired of all these shits. pls advise me ooo

Get a washing machine first at most 60k you need it. She's a maid doesn't mean that if you can ease her job you should. Also as a man you need to tell ur wife to know her place

Same thing