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ontarioache:
Hello all,

A mutual friend has drawn my attention to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/7357845/complex-marital-issue-thoughts-please/15#117128240

MY RESPONSE.
First let me thank our mutual friend Imelda for drawing my attention to this.

Well, I am here to set the record straight.
I did not see any need to respond, but some commentators really got me laughing hard so let me indulge you all.

To kick start, I am in touch with my 2 kids on almost a daily basis, and the event she described is not the first time. Hanging up on me is a routine since we married, it has happened un-countable times. Also the guys that said I am childish are right, when they finish reading they will truly know that, no man will behave the way I have, except a child. Lastly, I am fully responsible for the upkeep of my family, every penny and not much age difference between us. I have never hung up on her for one day. She has even blocked me on phone over some arguments while we live in same house. (LOL)

For the readers, what happened is this :

You called me that you were going to made some budget and you will be spending … amount of money on that plans- you know the plan. I told you it was okay and we kept on talking about It. ( I did not raise any issue immediately to avoid conflict) so after some days, I told you that next time, it will be appropriate that we ought to discuss such plans together and that it was not the best for you to decide all by yourself and only informed me of what you have chosen to do for a decision that affects the both of us. You flared up immediately that I do not have the right to tell you that, and THAT YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE CHILDREN (like you always say) and furthermore, you said you have many things that you are doing at the same time. I then replied you that I also have many things going through my mind. ( I replied you this way because you always say this, anytime I want to have a discussion with you. You even say this even while we were together, and I will just be amazed). You flared up and insulted me then hung up.

I called you immediately many times. I called you again at night, I sent you several messages, although I did not apologize directly but the messages I sent reflected that I was sorry. In one of the messages, I explained that I was critical of the amount you intend to spend , because you do know we have other more pressing plans that we needed funds for, and that what your budgeted was a bit too high. But you refused to let go like you have always done for these 8 years. Every week for 6 weeks I sent you messages that you never replied to.

In this period, you also changed apartment without even deeming it fit to tell me. (Yes I know before this misunderstanding, it was already the plan that you will be changing apartment. But the anger still did not allow you tell me as at when you finally moved to the new apartment, till now, it has been more than 3 months that you moved, you still did not inform me although the children told me about it, you know they did, but I expected that at least you should tell me about it by yourself.)

I did not just stop picking your calls because I wanted to stop, I did it for my self respect and sanity. It is the first time I am refusing to pick your call, or even not to talk to you after 8 years of marriage.

Have I ever held any grudge against you for more than 24hrs ?, have you ever had to apologise more than once on anything without me accepting your apology immediately, that is even if you choose to apologise at all. ? !. Rather you are the one that reminds me at every giving opportunity that I know you can decide not to talk to me again and stay on you own, and that I am the one that will suffer. In precise terms, you always do this, while I was at home. You can stay on for weeks and months without talking to me for the slightest misunderstanding, I am always the one that will try and make peace, and each time you either humiliate me by refusing to make peace till whenever you are satisfied. It has been like this for these 8 years. Even if I want to hold a discussion with you at home, it is either you are busy on the phone, and If I try to ask you to focus you just tell me I should summarize and that you listen with your ears, and not your phone or your hands. However, sometimes ( like 20 per cent of cases) you do listen to me.

Even when the children are being difficult, you threaten them by telling them to go ask their father the kind of person you are, and that you do not tolerate nonsense from anyone.(lol, when I was young, our mothers threathen us with our father) Yes, you are right, I wonder why you are so proud of these difficult attributes of yours.

Recall that before that very day that you hung up on me,( in fact also since the beginning of the union), you have been insulting me on each time I call, If we are discussing and I ask you a question about what you have said, you always say that I don’t pay attention. You accuse me of not caring about how you managed the children alone by yourself. I understand it is hard to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 all by yourself, however like I have always told you, lets thank God, it could have been worse- not having children is hard, having children is also hard.Remember at home, your mother and your sister once said that, I show too much care for the kids and that is the weakness that you are using against me. This is from your own family. Imelda was also there !

I can barely talk to you on phone, each time I call you, you tell me you are busy with the kids, and most times you just ask me to summarise and then you hang up even while we were at home together, you say the same thing.

Recently before this sad event you even said if I do not call before 9.45pm, I can no longer reach you, few times when I have to call like few minutes to your deadline, no matter how important our discussion is, once it s 9.45 pm, the phone disconnects and that will be it.You can not even bend that rule for me. You barely return my calls, if you see my missed calls, sometimes it may take you days and most times you do not return them at all, if I ask, you are quick to say, you are alone managing the children and that your are already too stressed up to be bothered about missed calls.

Much earlier than this incident that you hung up on me, you asked me never to wish you any kind of good wishes like happy birthdays, Christmas, mother’s day and all those. Because you said I do not care that it is all lip service. I thought it was just frustration, but for the last 1 year, you have consistently refused to respond to my Christmas, New Year and even your birthday wishes.You ignored all my wishes!
5 months before that faithful day that you escalated your disdain for me to a whole new level, you talked to me on the phone with reckless abandon, even on my birthday, you managed to call me around 11 pm and your birthday wish to me was this “ I WISH YOU WHAT YOU WISH YOURSELF”, I told you it was not a fair wish, and the next thing, it led to outburst again and that was that, and you hung up.

Remember, you forgot my birthday for the past 3 consecutive years.

Obviously, in the preceding 5 months, you have been looking for what I will do so that you can cut me off, the opportunity came and you took it like a Viking.

How often can a married woman stay without getting in contact with her husband for this long over a matter as simple as that, and she is not bothered at all.

I needed to let go for once. I am tired of fighting for the advancement of this union. It has been 8 years of this gruesome treatment. You think everyone is wrong apart from you.

Please if there is any FALSEHOOD in what I have written, I will be glad that you tell your audience. IMELDA YOUR SISTER IS READING THIS AND SHE CAN TESTIFY TO ALL THESE. Moreover, this is just one small aspect of all that has happened these past 8 years. I just decided to skip a thousand others.I only choose to focus on this alone. You know there are a thousand things that are worse than this that you have done.

I am glad that the vast majority of your audience could not be manipulated by your story.

Maybe I would have just stayed back home in Nairobi 7 years ago, may it could not have been this bad. This is my Canada reality!

I would be a liar if I say it has not been daunting and I do not miss you. However, I have since come to the realization that no matter what , no man should dine in the table where love, respect and dignity are not served ! This is my new reality!

Dear Wife, Enjoy your own reality that you created for yourself and stay blessed...!

Your wife is angry and bitter. She's full of self inflicted issues only her can answer. Honestly, she needs the African/Nigerian marriage treatment. The good thing is you've understood her earlier. Probably, she can't handle loneliness .

apache4:
Did you just acknowledge me

Yes Boss, you can lead the war sir.

Onionbandit , time to face those bandits

Omo, even developed countries get high class criminals but they use superior technology and firepower to surpress the criminals. Time to use Chinook and Apache to raid all these bandits disturbing our lives

Iamdbull:
Dbull on this one!!!


This reminds me of the python I had on my neck , if you want to see the full video, check out my page on IG @dbullofficial and don't forget to follow

Till it exhibit its constrictor characteristics.
Comrade, no risk abeg.

lailo:
These people are really angry with Tinubu o
1. First in their address, they didn't accord him that H/E title but called him Bola Ahmed Tinubu straight
2. Tinubu is the only candidate snubbing his rivers party while PDP is prostrating for their own rivers party to be intact. Even when it looks like Wike may not support him, Tinubu doesn't look like to need rivers votes as much as Atiku is gasping for it. Afterall, Buhari failed there but still won the national election. What an irony.
3. Both rivers parties henchmen Amaechi and Wike are angry with their respective party and presidential candidates bcs they lost out at the primary and are both ready to sabotage their parties. Does it mean Rivers state is state of sabotage? Or just a political freelance state in this election?
4. Meanwhile both Ameachi and Wike are sworn enemies and can't even deliver for their parties even they actually emerged their party candidate in national election. Who dem wan beat? This means their parties are right.
5. Wike and Ameachi are fighting for selfish interest and need to drop ego to be able to negotiate well their political futures, if not Tinubu and Atiku will retire them forever
My piece

Comrade, this ur number 3 ehhhhh

Babalola0920:
EVERY PROFESION IS NOBLE but moral is more NOBLE than any profession be you scientists

I agree with you bro

Noble professional in mud. Don't envy anyone

All of them fighting for national cake, what is my consider

Men na to seal penis hole oooo
End time snake

GAZZUZZ:
the question asked.



The detailed answer.

2zr-fe engine ₦320,000
Transmission to fit Manual ₦50,000
Engine mounts ₦65,000
Engine Harness ₦40,000
Engine Ecu ₦60,000
C.v Axles ₦35,000

Total without labour and logistics ₦570,000.

That I called you to inquire about your vehicle does not change the facts on ground. This particular corolla was never created with an automatic version, trying to convert with current engine is counter intuitive considering current engine size and vehicle weight.

If you want to argue, kindly argue technically with facts.

Good day Sir, I will like to know the price for 2003 Toyota Camry shock absorber. Genuine brands for front and rear. Can you also help in purchase?

Ckonnet:
Even the attackers na idiots, see loose guarding.

How Dem loose guard?

Which party b dis

The Labour Party (LP) has described Monday’s attack on supporters of the party and its presidential candidate , Peter Obi in Katsina as an open declaration of war by the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC) on the fast emerging political party, LP

It was reported that members of the Peter Obi support group, “OBIdients” were attacked by the Police, as they set for a peaceful rally in the state

LP in a statement issued Monday by its National {Publicity Secretary, Comrade Aayomi Arabambi, slammed the Nigeria Police for what he described as a mercilessly coordinated assault and attacked by the military wing of the All Progressive Congress (APC) Kastina State Chapter on the peace loving Obedient political movement supporters of Peter Obi

The Party also called for the immediate redeploymen56tt of the Commissioner pof Police in Katsina state, following his alleged inability to call his boys to order as they attacked the party’s supporters in a peaceful rally

“It is fast getting very much clearer that the APC has officially adopted violent attacks on LP’s Presidential Candidate support group across the States of the Nation. LP finds this trend quite unacceptable and condemn the growing terrorism of APC in some APC controlled State in the country.

“Once again, LP has to re- emphasis the fact that no one political party has a monopoly of crude and organized violence.

“It is an irony that a sitting Governor who has earlier so pompously claimed that Peter Obi is not known beyond the South East has been caught up by retributive justice to be frustrated into violence by the share strong, heavy and frightening huge crowd of loyal willing supporters of Peter right in the center of his self – deluded political safe zone .

“One simply hopes that the security agencies will not continue to appear helpless as this chain of planned and choreographed violence is visited relentlessly on the LP Presidential support groups all over the States under APC in the Country.”

Arabambi stated further that “With the ongoing level of insecurity to properties and lives of the people in Katsina, as a result of banditry , mass killings , very many rampant and audacious cases of kidnapping, it is quite disheartening that rather than try to confront these large scale terrors , the Government of the state chose to ignore insurgency only to get busy in using weapons of destruction against the harmless and peaceful Obedient supporters.”

The LP, which described the APC led Federal and State governments as “cancers” in the seat of governance everywhere they are ruling, regretted that in Katsina State at the moment, for a citizen to travel from one town or village to another is a matter of life and death because of the danger posed by terrorists who appear to have tactical cover and support from the APC administration.

The party cautioned that the “APC has chosen to from this early show its intentions to grow political violence in the country, ahead of the 2023 elections.

“LP is here and now putting it on record that there is fast approaching a time when LP will not be able to control the anger of its loyal supporters who are always the direct victims of the APC organized violence.

“Though it may be unbearable for the dying and decaying APC not to be too much receptive of the current political reality that Peter Obi/ Datti has fully become a political tsunami in view of the fact that this their presidential candidacy is now fully supported by over 33million registered voters, a figure that daily increases which can before the next election cross the figure of 60milliom.”

https://authorityngr.com/2022/09/26/attack-on-obidients-in-katsina-apc-has-declared-on-opposition-lp-cries-out-seeks-immediate-deployment-of-cp/

sofiscatedmoron:

Comrade your volume please, this vawulence high die

Anigreat:





The have left Tinubu and his diapers behind.

See finishing, Comrade lower your volume

I was sent 2k using palmpay. It was successful on the App and it's 2days my account is yet to be credited . Don't know if it's new format or something, make I bundle the boy.

MAJOR GENERAL MUHAMMADU BUHARI

Kollins11:
Correct guy!

If na me, I go kiss my bride so passionately at the front of her parent. Infact I go even raise her gown up, shift her pant then begin to thrust in and out in presence of everybody while they spray us money.

IndecentStar, I know you na!

Guguwar- whirl wind, wild wild, tonadoes.

We need Peter Obi interviews on Hausa/fulfude local/international stations for wider audience eg VOA,BBC,DW Germany, Russian radio , Radio Kaduna. The average northerner is politically informed. The people in remote village s use radios.

Someone just forward this message to Peter Obi & his campaign team. We've got one habit down North, Till you reach out to us.

Buhari haff finish Nigeria kpatakpata

I thought the minimum qualification is Degree. Thought that FLSC has been abolished. See all the criminals using FLSC

Godada:


A man should not be caught fighting a fellow man over a woman that is neither their wife.

It's the duty of the lady to break up with either guy & institute a legal action if need be.

What's the rationale getting into a fight for a woman that said yes to both men.

If she wasn't manipulative we will not be here witnessing two foolish men displaying their lack of sense

He will go in for the attempted homicide but she would keep getting action from other guys.

One man will continue his life without one wrist and will curse meeting the lady.

The other man will face an uncertain future.

Baby girl will keep rocking dìcks left, right and center.

Can one fight for his WIFE? What's your take on that

Zonefree:
Funny how Shatta bandle come fine pass the bride

This man got bad taste for women.

The bride must be the happiest woman on earth. She got herself a clean and refined man in Bandle.

No be by Mary Kay or looking hot. If u lose Carry oloshos come house, she go still dey play around. Bring infections, tarnish your image, scatter your hard work and watch your death. I think he used the African man in him