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Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Blueelf: 4:19am On Sep 30, 2022 |
jessylaurel: So the husband should go and beg? Read through the OP writeup carefully and you'll see that she isn't remorseful If I know the man, I'll call him, hide my identity and tell him to divorce her. You know why? Because she isn't sorry. She only noticed now that she needs a man's advice. 7 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by princewarri1985: 4:37am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Finish wetin you start! Your husband did right. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Finore(m): 5:14am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Such dirty Character, from you, wives be submissive to your husband get that into your arrogant head, now you are here crying for advice. Who dey give wrong advice self, the person hate you... You get mind oh!!! Such distance relationship wey temptations plenty u dey form mumu Anger!!! Wey you go dey pet am show am love make him dey love u scattter u form don jazzy .just accept honey u are trying God bless you, even if you work harder than him, come cut am off for 4 days still get mind stay after almost two months u send am text not to apologise but another issues. You think say u wise mumu woman.. e don dey pepper you, you don dey worry!!! Come dey disturb us. U get bad character and your husband don tire for you. Pride n foolish arrogance is your problem, when women plenty wey ready to worship am.. you better find way Traveled or do voice note cry beg am oh before u loose your home. Except u don get one man wey dey shark your head. Or bad friend wey want destroy your home. Remember the Bible says a wise woman build her home but the foolish destroys it. Be wise. 5 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by toxtimmy: 6:02am On Sep 30, 2022 |
You both are responsible for this mess.... You have your story and he has his story... My story is you both should act like adults. By the way never hang up phone on anybody you know... It's a sign of lack of self control and a big anger issue Once the cat is out of the bag it is hard to put it back in.... Honestly, worst case scenario is your husband have found peace with someone else and you both will divorce while he supports his family and way shape or form; likewise for you too. You owe yourselves nothing but respect. Meteoritey: |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Lastborn0074: 6:23am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Madam, something tells me that you know what to do. I hope he changes his mind. If he does, congratulations to you in advance. 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by MufasaLion: 6:24am On Sep 30, 2022 |
PlanktonX: Imagine the trash you typed. Disgusting. 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Joshcoli(m): 6:28am On Sep 30, 2022 |
A taste I your own pudding you come dey complain 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by AutoRedux: 6:52am On Sep 30, 2022 |
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Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by shampooh: 7:40am On Sep 30, 2022 |
I did not see a were you tried to apologise after all , your husband made efforts of trying to reach you even after you acted like kid , in a nutshell he has been coping with this attitude for a while and this is not the first time , nobody should tell you that pride and in forgiveness can ruin in marriage in split seconds ,if you don't apologize and find a wah of settling this matter you actually just crumbled your marriage with your hands and to be candid I see you to be the principal fault here!!! 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by byteem: 7:57am On Sep 30, 2022 |
[quote author=Reptyle post=117120616] Neither of you was right or wrong in this matter, You both are just allowing your childish egos to ruin what sounds like an otherwise happy marriage. His absence and the stress of being alone rubbed you off the wrong way because for women, their love language is mostly around presence, support, and attention. Your rude attitude towards your husband put him off because men are big on respect. You worsened the disrespect by ignoring him even when he reached out to make peace with you. My advice to you right now is that you do not let the gulf grow wider. Get off your high horse and make amends now. Fly down to his base in Canada and go and talk things over with your husband. Even if you don't like the man anymore, your children will need their father in their lives, especially in a place like the US where values are quickly lost. If you are unable to travel, then send him a message apologizing to him...despite what you may have been made to believe, you won't die if you say sorry. Stop sending him messages on "unrelated issues". Sort the pending issue first and then you can re-establish normal communication. [/quo This is Apt . 2 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Mrpojj(m): 8:05am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Meteoritey:Anytime una go abroad una go want imbibe oyibo behavior in dispute,thereby destroy relationship 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by phemmyfour: 8:20am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Meteoritey:He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying You went overboard, he took it too far. You use 4days to collect 9weeks This relationship is gonna hit the rock soon if you guys don't meet PHYSICALLY and resolve your issues. E don pass phone matter now. Go n get your man back before you lose him to those side chicks out there 3 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Darkmode64: 8:34am On Sep 30, 2022 |
ShenTeh:You can say that again. 4 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Darkmode64: 8:35am On Sep 30, 2022 |
pocohantas:I swear to God. My Gf is like this. So tired of the shitty behavior for real 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Penisman: 8:37am On Sep 30, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy: Will you shut up and leave Satan out of this mess. Who told you Satan exist? Why not advice two adults to settle their issues amicably than throw in the religious spanner. 1 Like
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Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by HRMK: 8:46am On Sep 30, 2022 |
ADVICE ON WHAT?THAT YOU WERE DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU HUSBAND?DIVORCE HIM AND GET MARRIED TO THE MAN GIVING YOU THE GUT TO MISBEHAVE!GOODLUCK!! |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Olumaeme: 9:03am On Sep 30, 2022 |
This women are very funny. They think sitting at home, washing plates, cooking 3 cups of rice is more difficult than siting in the office from morning to night and thinking about how to bring money to the home for them to sit and enjoy. While home care is also work, it is too small to compare with someone bringing money. If its easy, go out and work and bring money lets see, afterall he didn't tie your hands and legs. We have even seen women who are taking care of their family and still making good money. isnt it? Now, Your husband does not have any business with your sister and her husband. What exactly are you people expecting? WHy are they even calling him? Ordinarily, they should be coming through you and if at all he want to help, it should be through you. If your sister want to get married, she should go ahead and not disturb him nau. Try and look for how to apologize, and if he is still sending money home for the kids upkeep, then let him be. You are purely an ingrate. 4 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by GreyLaw(m): 9:23am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Meteoritey: I want to doubt the veracity of this story. However, if this story were true, don't you think you are prideful and stupid at the same time? I cannot begin to wrap my head who some people are brought up these days. You cut your husband off for 9 weeks after disrespectfully hanging up on him and ignoring his calls and messages for 4 consecutive days and now you want us to help you? Go and meet those counsellors who gave you the idea and prodded you on to disrespect your husband thus. The above is what is in my mind to tell you, but please the truth is that you should, if possible, take a few days of and visit him and when you meet him, kneel down immediately and apologise. Shock him with humility wndnyou'll watching him turn around. 3 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 10:07am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Exactly, he is having an affair. He thinks the grass is always greener at the other aide , but time may teach him a lesson. She offended him, yes I agree, but it's very imature that he embarrassed his wife's relatives over a marital problem that could have been trashed out. BRATISLAVA: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by CoolAmbience(m): 10:20am On Sep 30, 2022 |
socialmediaman: I agree with you totally. Women have a very high tendency to look down on their own man.... But go about kneeling, bending....saying 'Sir' to other men, mostly religious leaders. Most women are very disrespectful to their men. Nothing dampens the love a man has for a woman than disrespect. Imagine the OP acknowledging that she 'had heated argument' and even hung up on her husband. That should never have happened. No virtuous woman will allow communication with her husband degenerate into a verbal confrontation. No man likes a 'challenge-like' approach to settling issues by his wife. Calmer, non-aggressive women have greater, positive influence and grip on their men. This is arrant nonsense. You allow your man speak and you listen, even if you aren't in agreement with what he is saying. You could always find the perfect time to discuss your outlook and views about any issue, and make him see reasons why his position isn't the most appropriate, with love and respect. You don't get angry when your husband is already angry, and then tell him off. I am an advocate of care, appreciation and tenderness towards women, but I do not condone disrespect. I take it very seriously. So OP, make effort to fix your marriage if you still want it, and endeavour to learn your lessons from this afterwards. Get someone he respects alot to reach out to him, and help initiate a reconciliation. I do not agree with those who think that your husband is childish in his actions. That is incorrect. What do you expect from a man who made effort to reach out to his wife for over two months, after a disagreement? What kind of woman begrudges and cuts off communication from her own husband for more than two months? Why be say if women pay bills for one week or even a day sef, the whole world go hear am? Women matter don dey wan taya me sef. I no go lie sha, most men don cast. 2 Likes |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 10:20am On Sep 30, 2022 |
So many angry mentions from bitter frustrated*NL men . I said what I said, if it hurts badly you can as well jam your dumb" heads on the wall. People have more serious marital issues, they sort themselves and move on, but the man decided to let the whole world know that his wife offended him. He went as far as embarrassing his wife before her younger sister's fiance, very imature. He refused to answer her call. Is that the best approach? No it is not. |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by IAmTobore(m): 10:48am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Meteoritey:Aunty u try o. He called you back to back to for 4 days, you didn't answer. You waited 9 weeks (2 months and a week) to call him regarding an unrelated issue. Definitely, if that issue hadn't come up, you already made up your mind that he is not your husband. I know why you're angry. Because you're carrying the responsibility of the kids, and you hated to hear him say he's more worked up than you. He could be actually more worked up than you even though his work is not enough to carter for the kids. I don't have any solid advice for you because, at this point, it seems like you overdid it. Put yourself in his shoes, if someone snubbed your calls for 4 days, and only called you after 2 months, how would you feel? What would you want the person to do to make it up to you? Go think about it, and try to do it to make it up to him. Don't expect him to be ok with what you did. Men are also sensitive. Men have emotions. 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by IAmTobore(m): 11:01am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Highways:I swear. She need to talk. 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by BRATISLAVA: 12:02pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy: Be that as it may, your user image is beautiful. How did he get the deer to follow him home? |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by CCC2(m): 12:47pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
You ghosted him for 9weeks(2months +). He has not even ghosted you for a month and you are complaining. Admission and Marriage is here, and because your family wants to bill him, you decided to start sending him "unrelated" messages. If not for billing, why does he need to speak to your sister twice on both marriage and study? Na only you sabi vex. U better start sending apologies in text before he acquires a companion. |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 12:50pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
It's a baby deer, most young animals are always friendly and receptive. BRATISLAVA: 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by UCHIHAmask: 1:17pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
ShenTeh:As in correct "confirm guy man". I'm always happy when I see men that can hold their thoughts from emotional weakness. 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Lovelydaisies: 1:38pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
Communication is key, especially in a marriage, more especially when it's a distance marriage. You just displayed oyibo character over there. If they're angry, they tell you their minds and 'cut you off', no matter how badly they might need you. Very nonsensical behavior. I wonder how people ignore people instead of thrashing out issues, couples inclusive. Like, how do you see your husband's or wife's calls/texts and ignore, out of anger? Come on! And for how long?! I was beginning to fear that he might have kicked the bucket but thank God, he's alive. This means that things can still be done. Quickly look for ways to make amends and reconcile. There's no time. Don't give the devil a chance to destroy your home at this moment or ever again. |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Wande22(m): 2:16pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
Darkmode64:this Generation of women sha! I feel my wife should taste this kain paracetamol wey this man give im wife 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by Wande22(m): 2:19pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy:gb'enu e soun 1 Like |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by BRATISLAVA: 2:57pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy: It's lovely. |
Re: Complex Marital Issue : Your Thoughts On This Please. by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:15pm On Sep 30, 2022 |
Blueelf: thats because you didnt focus on what i wrote...again they are BOTH wrong! therefore just because you need to COMMUNICATE with your partner, doesnt mean you cant vent your frustration away before you do so. a man filled with anger CANNOT communicate properly. remember, i am talking to two sets of NLer at the same time, who have different view on this issue.... the men who are against me calling the husband childish AND the women who believe the wife shouldnt kneel and beg. chigoizie7: here we go again....because a man could be the bigger person in the room, its automatically wrong and this is viewed as me "blaming" the man. here is a clue: life isnt about ALWAYS winning and/or be right, sometimes you need to find ways to bring peace to your union. expecting your way to always be THE WAY, isnt healthy, and even if you were always right, sometimes you have to understand the animal in front of you, in order to better tame it. defusing the situation doesnt take anything from you being right; doesnt make you weak; it simply is a way to bring peace so that you people can deal with the issue at hand in a sane environment (rather than away from the family and kids) |
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