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BlindAngel:
I don't feel like she played me, she indeed played and manipulated me, by now I'd have been completely single like almost all of my guy's. Living my life to the fullest until I'm fully ready for marriage and it's responsibilities.

That aside, imagine my wife telling me this morning that how much is goat? That I'm complaining about that they're talking about life and I'm complaining about money, if money can buy life etc.

I then responded that goat is almost 100k if I asked her to cough 100k or 50k if she'd be able to bring it. That because I normally gives her money occasionally she doesn't know the value of money and how hard it is to get.

We dated for two years before marriage and in those two years she only worked twice, firstly... In a bet 9ja shop which she worked only one month and stopped, Secondly in another bet 9ja shop, she worked for a month also and stopped, with the excuse that the manager in charge is controlling. Since then until date she hasn't done anything to earn money or knows how hard it is to earn it, I'll give her 13 to 15k for soup and she'd always complain that it isn't enough. She doesn't know how to manage.

Why? Because she doesn't know the value of money or how hard it is to make money in this current economy.

That was a big red flag starring at you. Women who never ever take accountability have been shown not to be appreciative.

BlindAngel:
Money dey my hand that time, after everything I was left with 130k. And on the morning of the marriage I went and hurried to get extra drinks, because they drank lots of drinks I bought for reception on the day of the traditional marriage. Back to the fact, I was left work just 9k after buying the drinks. If u see frustration and regret after the marriage?? Thank God say I later bounced back.

Omo no man should follow your footsteps as regards to this spending, how e for be if u no bounce back? A lot of men never bounce back from that mistake.. You spent everything you had for marriage na God save you no be small.

Stevenbright:
My question is if you and the other in-law are to pay for the mortuary expenses and the buying of the casket, what will all the man's uncountable children do!

Stil can't get this scenario, but when it comes to Sharing properties they won't invite the in-law to join them. Pathetic

BlindAngel:
I will do better next time, I expected her mom to caution their elder brother when he was billing me, but she did nothing and was completely silent, this allowed my emotions and anger to get the better part of me, nevertheless I will try to do better next time. Tank's

Supreme Court has rule that women have entitlement just like men in the sharing of a man's wealth and so they should also be included in taking family responsibility. A responsible leader in that family which happens to be the brother would have allocated funds to everyone in such a way no one bears the burden of the family majorly but he didn't do so. People should act better no one came to this world to bear the burden of others

BlindAngel:
She hasn't seen her dad for more than 10 years and counting, he was In another state, the day of our traditional marriage (February) was when she and her biological sisters saw him last. He was seriously sick, since February until he gave up the ghost today. He was in town ever since they brought him to collect the bride price, seriously sick. Since February until date my wife and her sisters none went to see him, not even once, they claimed he abandoned them when they were young, that whenever they went to visit him he'd lock the protector and talk to them inside while they're standing outside. I repeat since February until date they haven't set their eyes on him despite the fact that he was seriously sick and in same town with them.

That aside whenever my wife is disturbing me and I reminded her that I'm a loner and loves being alone, she'd get furious and always tell me that I'd die a very slow, lonely and painful death. This words still ring a bell on my head, and thinking about how they totally abandoned and hates their dad because their mother hates him is another thing that'd make me take her threat seriously.

Whenever I say hi to a lady and we start talking, the moment I discover she is not in good terms with their dad omo my hand no dey I'm off...I don't like stress ..

BlindAngel:
She hasn't seen her dad for more than 10 years and counting, he was In another state, the day of our traditional marriage (February) was when she and her biological sisters saw him last. He was seriously sick, since February until he gave up the ghost today. He was in town ever since they brought him to collect the bride price, seriously sick. Since February until date my wife and her sisters none went to see him, not even once, they claimed he abandoned them when they were young, that whenever they went to visit him he'd lock the protector and talk to them inside while they're standing outside. I repeat since February until date they haven't set their eyes on him despite the fact that he was seriously sick and in same town with them.

That aside whenever my wife is disturbing me and I reminded her that I'm a loner and loves being alone, she'd get furious and always tell me that I'd die a very slow, lonely and painful death. This words still ring a bell on my head, and thinking about how they totally abandoned and hates their dad because their mother hates him is another thing that'd make me take her threat seriously.

Whenever I say hi to a lady and we start talking, the moment I discover she is not in good terms with their dad omo my hand no dey I'm off...I don't like stress

kevwemike:
Guy wat is wrong with U? Why are U talking like a child, U don't like the girl but Ur dick like her pussy to the extent U got her pregnant, and U are here saying that she force u into the marriage, u dey here urself? The truth is that wat the family counted for U is the right thing to do as in-law , just try and do the needful is Ur in-law.

Why una dey always talk trash? Is he more of a child than the children of the deceased? The man has plethora of children but an outsider (in-law) will be the one to carry more load than the children that's absurd, if I am in his shoes I won't for a single second.

If it comes to liabilities they know a man is an in-law to share with the liabilities but if it comes to assets (property sharing) the man is never invited. Children should have the responsibility of taking care of their parents in health and in death inlaws can assist but that's not their primary responsibilities.

I have two in-laws married to my sisters, we only informed them that mum will be going under knife, the information was to give them that respect of been in the know but the expenses has been borne already by us the children. If they decide to help that's fine but it's an error for we the children to give them the lion share of the bills never and I will also reject anyone who ever does that to me.

We should learn to take accountability and responsibilities for ourselves and family and not shift it to others because they got married to someone in the family.

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SonofGod231:
She drinks normally but each time we had issues or quarrels,she drinks herself to stupor with the empty bottle (gin) beside her. Like she wants to kill herself but I realize she's a drunk she loves getting high and would cry later that it's a way of getting through.

That's bad, using alcohol to trying getting sane but the reverse then happens. Understand shit can really happen in that mood it doesn't always end well hundred percent. If it's just a sip that's a different ball game, me na sleep I dey use cure any issues I have . Once I sleep and wake up my brain formats and I'm done with it....

gunners160:
Abegi dont be too quick to blame the lady jor who no like better thing. Truth is the guy was total immature, He dated a LovePeddler Andrew was fighting because of a LovePeddler and not because of money. He did not respect the Baltazzar theory and got what he deserved. A lady is only answerable to her need. Have money and dont have money, they willl always go to the highest bidder. The time he used in investing in the relationship, he should use it to invest in himself. If na me, i go just walk away as if nothing happened. He was mumuing himself up and down,. WHO NO LIKE BETA THING? THAT LADY SAW SOFT LIFE SO LEAVE R

If it's you and you did what he did you won't walk away just as you painted it that's why no man should ever invest in a woman but himself. As you invest in yourself you increase your value making yourself more attractive to women around, they will fight to keep you because you are the price.
Most men think investing in women make them loyal? That's is a wrong wrong they will rather see you as a stepping stone to meet their desires partners who never invested in them.

SonofGod231:
I've dated a drunk before,I can manage that one.

A drunk? Not just someone who drinks , how did you manage her? Did you experience any drunkenness in real time?

Tallesty1:
You present foolish options and tell us to chose wisely?

d guy na big mumu, instead of him to say make them choose fo*olishly

None is an option

Menesh:
Responsibility for what exactly?
Responsible in the sense that a child-like man were taking videos of different people while having fun, in the worst case scenario, he kept the erotic videos for what reasons exactly?

Redpill is quite a reasonable and logical stance, it is not being a full and unreasonable.

It's good to read before and understand before responding, who told you I have anything to do with red pill or any herd mentality? I posed a question and in that I said whether thean is right or wrong and also posted in all general situations involving women and men relationship.

Originalsly:
As men we should be more rational and not emotional. This your comment is an emotional one ... and not a rational one. Where did she say he mislead her into having sex with him? ...where did that come from? If you decide to read carefully thené you will see why she is saying she was mislead.

Do you even know what emotional and rational means? I'm positing a critical question and you call it emotional? It seems you just fell from the heavens and never had encounter with women and I can understand that. Everything that has to do with women and men are always heaped on me but your naive mindset couldn't decifer my critical questions are not just based on this scenario but a symbol holistic view of men and women relationship.

Read through those questions keenly without you exuding your emotionally laden thought process slowly this time around. You are the one who didn't put logical thoughts into action before responding thinking my question was posed for this scenario alone . Upgrade your critical thinking skills it helps.

Why do women never take accountability and responsibilities for their actions? "It is a man that should take care of me", "he misled me into having sex with him", "he dumped me after been with him", why is it that anything that consign men and women, women always blame men whether he is wrong or not? I want to know why please educate me

Seunpapa65:
Na today 😂😂
That was how I sent one 20k cause she called asking if I can lend her 50k that she will pay back instead I sent her 20k make e no pay back fast forward last month I decided to test her and ask her for 5k let me use for something not like I need it Omo it has been from one story to another lol 😂😂

Nice to know you tested her, me I don't even wait that much I discuss finance with them once I have an opinion equal to a parasite that person will never have help from me. Any relationship that isn't mutually beneficial to both parties should be frowned at by men.

BItt:
This is perhaps the easiest money to get back... Simply speak to some of your friends in the police force if you have any. Or even walk up to and explain everything without hiding anything...
Let her explain herself...
What she played on you is obviously a romance scam.
She nursed you to the extent of sending upkeep and flight billing... My nigga no be only Oyinbo Dem dey bill for flight

It's a romance scammer, 80% of Nigerian ladies are romance scammers but we ain't ready for that discussion, if a man does it it's bad but we give excuses for the women

TEYA:
you guys are incredibly dumb! do you think Trump wants you to come in through the legal route either?

You see why I said you are supposed to be in iragbiji? Your presence in the West hasn't had a single impact on your critical thinking skills.

Trump asserted during the campaign that he is considering increasing the presence of highly educated immigrant population rather than the tom dick and harry that invaded the US border through illegal migration. Where you in the US in Trump's first tenure? If you were you wouldn't make this assertion that trump doesn't want anyone in the US unless you are dumb not to know that illegal migration plummeted during Trump's first tenure while he encouraged legal who will contribute immensely to migrate into the US

9jvirgin:
I have realized that most Nigerians who support Trump want him to deport Nigerians or make life painful for them. You're only f00ling yourselves because some of us already have blue passports. Na only you go suffer that pain, and you will not be approved of a US visa based on the new rule. Tinubu and Trump are two eternal pains that Nigerians in Nigeria will suffer for a LONG time. There's no way out for you in the next 4 years. You go cry tire

Why una no dey get sense? Even as u don dey West u still dey behave like iragbiji based person.

Trump frowns at illegal aliens and good leader will encourage illegals to to surpass legal migration. Only a leader who thinks illegals who later became legal could help him or her win elections would allow that.

If any one wants to leave Nigeria for the US the person should use the legal route. Illegals in the US are tens of millions, trump is right to discourage illegal migration and encourage legal migration.

TJOS:
While I believe having the right motives is important, I have significant reservations about Nigerian politicians. Their motives often seem to lean more towards self-interest than the greater good.

I understand you very much but this dude has been doing this even before he started having intent to contest. The only good part of his acts is that he never dish out his money to psychophants and criminal organizations that has little or no impact to the citizens else he would have been same with others . But I understand what you mean

Eriggs:
...... and na dis idiot wan become president.
If everybody run commot,
Who will he preside over?

Anyways, he told his followers he takes advice from mad Men.
It's now obvious.


You don give am new name.

VeryDaftMan

The repatriation in billions of dollars where do you get it from? That same money that helps dollar inflow into the country that helps in the Nigerian economy is beneficial but you don't know how it comes from...Dumb people are just everywhere.

CommonSense1967:
Clown 🤡.

Same way the Agulu packaged fraudster migrated to Lagos after ruling Anambra for 8 years with absolutely nothing to show for it besides HERO BEER

The YES DADDY religious fanatical fool needs to be quiet instead of making an ass of himself for sake of cheap attention.

Get sense, same Obo travelled to UK and made huge amounts as a business men before coming back to contribute his quota....make una get sense

Obyangel:
Believe it or not, Russia Republic is far bigger, mightier and stronger than the Mouth-making USA 🙅

U will be fine....

kingthreat:
So the mother is calling for restraint because of the mental status of the boy? The boy is already psychologically messed up. Please go to the police ASAP. If the police doesn't act, it's to find how to destroy the man.

The grandmother of the child, the OP mother

illicit:
There's no evidence tho

This man might actually turn everything against u


Pls be wise

It depends on how exposed the man is as regards to the things of the law, if he is just a layman he will confess to his atrocities when interrogated

CandyOps:
Use like 3k or 5k open case for Gender unit. Use 10 or 20k mobilise them. Come pick the bastard up. But sha clear police say you wan manhandle am first b4 them pick am.

Let for me, I go lure the nigga out at night. Him no go see sunlight for like 2 weeks. When him comot body go tell am

Meaning say, you gats plan where you go carry am go ahead of time. Either police station or inside bush or underground.

you don't need to mobilize anyone, they will pick him up

Pochettino:
Whatever you do, use a female lawyer.
We women are very good at destroying a man completely.

Bitter leaf, calm down. This is not about you and you evil coven association. It's about seeking justice.

greenermodels:
Tinubu should call Nwike to order.

Wike, don't willfully misspell his name. That you spell it so in the south east doesn't mean Wike does so when will all of you stop this nonsense behaviour?

yemmight:
Where is the money coming from?

Held the largest share in Fidelity bank, owner of NEXT, and own plethora of businesses. The problem is that he doesn't reflect how rich he is

Ebubu9:
Again, they complain when I say he doesn't donate to Ebonyi.


Tribalistic fool.

Anambra conehead

In 2027 protest votes for you from Ebonyians.

Bro you guys have big dudes all over the place, you can donate to your state. He hasn't donated to my state , are we entitled to his personal wealth nope, only a lazy and entitled man will complain where a man decides to give his personal wealth to.
.also remember it's an institution he is giving the money to, does it mean that ebonyi people and other Nigerians aren't attending the institution? Nope, all Nigerians are in that institution benefiting that fund but your coconut head thinks he is sharing money to individuals which you are supposed to be beneficiary to.... Pathetic

TJOS:
The lavish spending of these Nigerian politicians raises significant questions.

This isn't lavish spending, this is putting money into where it should be put. This dude has never put his money into places that wouldn't benefit the populace

yarimo:
Why won't he be Donating again after stealing from labour party campaign contributions

Get well bro

nairavsdollars:
May Amadioha twist your neck till you see your back. Your parents will mourn you before this year end. Ise

I thought you were fuulish never new you surpassed my predictions. All what I did was to reverse same scenario you wished him and you are exuding foam from your mouth, so you wish to stay on planet earth while trashing someone grieving wonders shall never end.