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Ernesthugo:
such a weak man naso he go run from maternal hospital bill.
a winner stays and fight till the end

Fight with f*o*o*ls? una dey cap ooo

Krismas:
Bride price is negotiable. If the man can only afford one million, they would have accepted it.
The man no serious about marriage b4

When the fiance dey tell am say the money no big say make him pay, poor girl wey dey jobless and you want him to go ahead?

purples25:
All I wish is that young girls can see the connives of men on them through these comments on this thread.

They are sleeping with you, deflowering you. You both would call it love, you will give it free to prove you love him and you're not a gold digger. To him, it's the food he gave you, which you probably forgot about before being deflowered, that made you to open your legs.

The same men are here on this thread after working together to cheapen you all, saying you're not worth bride price because they deflowered you with indomie and eggs. That was their plan, to cheapen you, so that when you all are ready to marry, they can join together and say you're not worth it, and keep their money in their pockets.

There's no love on the dating scene. The men are on a mission to cheapen their women until they are nothing, so that they can escape proper process. They start by catching the girls young, cheapen them, then turn back to say that our girls are too worthless for the honorable treatment.

Young girls, how I wish you can see that you can't please these people. Free sex in the name of love, look at where it still ended.

Free sex? I guess they should all turn osho so as to please you. You have sex with the man , just as you offered your body he also offered his body too so what is the fuse? After all pleasure the man will still carry all liabilities on his head? If you like you all should not learn how to be responsible. Join your men and help him carry the liabilities you all bring.

APOPTOSIS:
If marriage is not for the Poor....how then do Bricklayers, Gravediggers and Palmwine Tappers from same communities marry such ladies?
Do they give them expo or subsidy?

The difference is that when you are from the same community they will give you the real bride list which makes the people you mentioned afford it

Stolen:
WHAT IS 500K TO YOUR FATHER INLAW AND 300K TO YOUR MOTHE INLAW?


U MEAN, U HAVE TO BE REMINDED TO GIVE THEM SOMETHING.


U ARE ALREADY GOING INTO A MARRIAGE WITH A WICKED AND STINGY HEART.


YET YOU WIL COLLECT THE EARNING OF THEIR DAUGHTER THAT IS A DOCTOR OR NURSE AS YOUR MONEY.



MAKE INLAW LIKE YOU NO NEAR MY DOOR WAY IS A A PRAYER POINT.


SOME OF YOU WERE ALWAYS GOING TO BE BAD INLAWS, U JUST WANT TO TAKE AND GIVE NOTHING NOT EVEN A TOKEN OF APPRECIATION OR LOVE. THAT IS NOT A GOOD START.

Poor man quote, don't go o work and create a way for yourself.

Imagine reasoning like this and your FIL is Adeleke , you think he will be expecting anything from you as a father in law? Na poor man dey bill other men for pikin oooo..

TheBillyonaire:
What is the parents business with wedding? The list clearly shows most of the items are consumables and he can go and buy those things by himself and he will realize that those drinks will not be enough for the guests.

The wedding is his decision, the parents are not making money off this.

I think the only reason anyone should give out their daughter is if she will be in position to assist them at old age

. cos raising a
daughter and training them to Uni, just for someone to take her away and complain of bride price is an insult.

Na poor people dey reason like this ooo. So after selling their daughter they will go ahead and disturb the man after marriage

This one thinks bride price list means reception has been taken care of

TheBillyonaire:
That is the fact. If he is complaining of 3.5m, how much does think wedding costs? No woman deserves to meet such unfortunate man. They are looking for girls to sleep with at a cost of bread.

He should be gay.

Beggars wil always broke shame hard working people because the hard working person refused to give them money.

Get a job and be useful so that wedding won't be an IGR for you.

gbengene1234:
They wrote at the bottom that it's negotiable.
This doesn't call for instant breakup from someone who claims to have loved the daughter and want marriage.
Well, if you ask me. The list is okay and I believe if bargained, it can be reduced to #1.7 - 2m at most.
It's now left to your woman to persuade her family or she finds another suitor.
Why are you even bothering yourself to cross tribal lines to marry when you can just find one of our sweet yoruba lady and impregnate her. Na the family go use their hand pack her load come your house. You will later be asked to pay dowry which would even be returned back to you in some years time. Some no dey bother to pay self. People use like to dey put themselves for wahala sha

Didn't you read where the bride said the money is not much that the man should pay?
Jobless girl telling someone that is making money that it's not costly but she can't afford it herself

The guy did te right thing, the girl who has just one job to prove her loyalty by sticking with her fiance failed woefully

Karleb:
I don't blame the bride's family.

This economy is not easy.

They should get a job.

Stolen:
GO AND CHECK ALL THIS MUMU THREAD, IT IS USUALLY YORUBA MEN.


IN THOSE PARTS DONT THEY GET MARRIED EVERYDAY?



OR MARRIAGE DON STOP BECAUSE OF BRIDE PRICE?



BRIDE PRICE IS WHERE WE SHOW OFF TO OUR INLAW, THEY GAIN CONFIDENCE IN A=OUR ABULITY TO LOOK AFTER THEIR DAUGHTER AND GRANDCHILDREN.


THEY KNOW WE WORK HARD AND EARN A WAGE SUFFICIENT FOR THE TASK.


MARRIAGE IS NOT FREE, IT IS NOT FOR THE UNEMPLYED OR BROKE TO CREATE NUSISANCE IN SOCIETY THAT WILL BE ON THE STREET BEGGING.


IT IS FOR COMPETENT ESTABLISHED MEN

It's actually poor people that demand for exhobitant bride list, wetin Rochas want demand from you for bride price?

High bride list doesn't mean you can take care of the lady, old age doesn't depict wisdom these days

TheBillyonaire:
Nope, if you check the lists, its basically consumables, and if the fuccker can not afford to get people entertained during his marriage, he can as well be gay.

I see no reason for poor people to get married. Marriage is not a walk in the park. Cost money to raise a family. So its best for the poor to be gay. This is a factual suggestion not an insult. Poverty of families is the reason we have so many prostitutes.

Guy money for entertainment never follow, you think what is on that list is what will entertain people on the day of marriage? Omo wahala for who dey naive

APOPTOSIS:
I will spend more than that if the Lady deserves it.
If the Lady exudes peace & produces Gold on whatever she touches, I will pay 15M

It's not about you, it's about lazy men who have refused to work and now see it as IGR to extort young men. What portion of the society can do that? If this trend continues most ladies will never get married because the chunk of the society has already been alienated because of the cost of marriage. Na cohabitation and baby mama go full the society in half a century from now.

Don't make it about you and the affordability but look at the big picture, how many dudes can spend 15 m in Nigeria and still has left over to continue the family line? It is what it is and interestingly only poor men insist on these exhobitant prices.

Marriage institute a day stuff, as a matter of fact wedding is part of marriage which basically happens in a day. You don't choke a man in one day when he has over a century to stay with his wife

gudugudumeje:
But did he tender his complaint, and express his dissatisfaction formally, and informally? That is before withdrawing..... Otherwise, he is not right to so withdraw....

The way I operate , I will just ghost stupid people. I don't have that time to come to their level.

Most of these men who place these charges on others , their kids can't afford a tenth of what they dish out to others.

If I observe that people from that region don't pay that but only bring it up because I am a stranger coming to marry from their ethnicity I will ghost them. It's even more pathetic for the so called fiance to back her people instead of been a mediation for husband to be. That's one check loyalty she failed. She doesn't deserve marriage to that dude.

BoldBrainz:
You're the clown here!

How do you start negotiating a 3.5m naira brideprice list? What do you think is going to be the eventual outcome? You're yet to even consider the cost of putting the traditional marriage ceremony together and you're here talking garbage.

If na your brother, advise am make e go negotiate that kind list.

That marriage final price will be times 2 of that price which is 7m. Most of these men who do this their kids can afford a 500 k wedding

Stolen:
NOTICE, IT IS USUALLY LAZY YORUBA MAN DISTURBING ABOUT BRIDE PRICE.


U WILL NEVER SEE IGBO, IJAW, FULANI, HAUSA, IBIBIO, EFIK, URHOBO, BINI COMPLAIN ABOUT BRIDE PRICE.



IT IS PART OF BEING RESPONSIBLE.

LET THESE YORUBA MEN STICK WITH THEIR FREE YORUBA WOMEN, WAHT IS PURSUING THEM.


U WANT TO INTERTRIBAL MARRIAGE AND U DONT WANT TO RESPECT OTHERS PEOPLE MARRIAGE RITES.


MAD!

Been responsible? see yeye man, allowing greed and irresponsible men who can't afford what they bill others is what you call responsibility? Na coconut head you get.

If I like make I be the richest man I no go pay men wey no fit afford wetin them bill me, if their sons want to get married they can't afford what their father's dish out.

If you are hungry go look for work and do and stop looking for IGR through wedding.

Someone that has planned to relocate her, pay for her school and settle her abroad is who the family still want to stress after assuring them the plans he has for the lady. Na poverty dey cause all these things, how many rich man wey get money dey sell him daughter? get a job

Stolen:
MARRIAGE ARE NOT FOR POOR MEN THAT ARE STRUGGLING TO FEED.



U WILL HAVE TO FEED YOUR WIFE AND KIDS, WE DONT WANT TO SEE THEM BEGGING ON THE STREET OR TRAFFIC HOLD UP.




GO AND HUSTLE, THAT MONEY NO REACH MONEY PEOPLE SPRAY ON OTHER PEOPLE AT WEDDING.




POOR MAN

Hope you have hustled and not expecting bride price money to help yourself? bride price has become IGR for you?

People with low critical thinking skills, so I should spend my 20m to bring a financial liability (wife) to my house because u want to know my capacity? E b like say d more u grow d more ur critical thinking skills dey plummet by the second. Make una reason small na.

GboyegaD:
It states it is negotiable, why not negotiate?
That said, the current day inflation added to the cost nonetheless, what is it with other people asides the parents on the list? Shouldn't it be one family?

If that's not what people from that locality spend when they come for a wife I will take a walk.

Some ethnic group once they know you are not from there they will abandon how they wedding and bring a special list for an outsider. That's very bad, most people in that locality can not afford that

helinues:
Smart guy

Those are lists from Leeches family . Such family, na every week events go dey sha ni

That's the problem, poor family will want to extort men who came calling. Pathetic

alpharoyalty:
That's less than 2000 dollars.
Chicken change.
Poor man mentality.
Devil punish poverty

Use the reality , how many people have 2k USD in Nigeria according to NBS? If you can honestly answer this question you will understand how wrong the family is. Understand those who wrote this list are probably married and non of them can afford what is written on that list.

The lady further asserted that the dude is ready to train her meaning she is from a very poor family if she isn't educated. So the question is why give another a list that you yourself cannot afford and also people from that locality can not afford? Why do to others what you can't do to q man from your locality? These are the questions to be answered.

God knows I attach very little about wedding and very much about marriage, if wedding becomes equal to greed and not the norm in that locality I will move instantly.

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Poor man mentality, you think I will waste my 20m to come marry your daughter? How much has she worked and produced in life? Jobless girls with zero money money skills and poor home upbringing should be sold like a vehicle.

No wonder men who go through this wouldn't want to associate with anything that has to do with the family after the marriage. For you to even think spending 15m is a correlation between how the lady is worth is something to study about. A man who wants a day's wedding that is costlier than the cost of marriage for w year needs to have his head checked because he has mental health issues.

How many people do you think in Nigeria has 15 million? Your delusional mind will tell you my daughter's own will be different , only 1% of men in Nigeria can afford that and you say you aren't delusional? You need to grow up to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

People like you will keep bordering your in-law to sponsor your liabilities and you run away from your responsibilities as an adult. Spending money translates to the quality of the woman? Omo growing old doesn't make people wise ....

TheBillyonaire:
Are you honest? I want to assume that you nairalanders are either too removed from reality or just kids. How much is the price of a used car?

You hardly see a good used car at less than 15m naira. Are you saying a woman that will love you and give birth to your kids that are raised by their parents in this bad economy will be given out to you at cheap cos it is supposed to be free?

When you all raise, train and educate your little girls, you can give them to men who are not worth shit. If a man does not know the value of a woman, he can as well be gay.

Poor man mentality, you think I will waste my 20m to come marry your daughter? How much has she worked and produced in life? Jobless girls with zero money money skills and poor home upbringing should be sold like a vehicle.

No wonder men who go through this wouldn't want to associate with anything that has to do with the family after the marriage. For you to even think spending 15m is a correlation between how the lady is worth is something to study about. A man who wants a day's wedding that is costlier than the cost of marriage for w year needs to have his head checked because he has mental health issues.

How many people do you think in Nigeria has 15 million? Your delusional mind will tell you my daughter's own will be different , only 1% of men in Nigeria can afford that and you say you aren't delusional? You need to grow up to know the difference between reality and fantasy.

People like you will keep bordering your in-law to sponsor your liabilities and you run away from your responsibilities as an adult. Spending money translates to the quality of the woman? Omo growing old doesn't make people wise

What do you mean by responsible men? Is it when a man takes care of bills is what makes him responsible? What is your definition of responsibility let's know where the problem is coming from.

kettykin:
Please what again is high treasonable felony. Rivers state oil is sold in the crude market and Rivers State is ecluded from oil revenue

We dey wait make them try rubbish , them go understand whether the oil belongs to other Nigerians excluding Rivers state that owns it.

The mumu president hasn't dealt with bandits and co he wants to start another, pathetic

This mindset is very bad it will limit you, look around the richest men in Nigeria and see atrend, are they based in Nigeria or can the abroad based compete with them? Make use of ur brain anywhere u are money go come

Felimax:
My wife don't cheat on me! I doubt if she can say that about me.
I nor wan shout! If you are not married don't mention me.

A man can say this but can only do this with 100% certainty after DNA test proves his offsprings with certainty.

DaddyCoool:
I personally want a small but classy wedding. I don't know why ladies be wanting loud weddings. Why exactly??

They are not the ones paying, let men insist these fantasy ladies bring 50% of the cost of the wedding they dream about and see them running to their father's houses.

It's irresponsible women that do this, they always want someone to carry their life's liabilities.

Treasure17:
I understand your points but the parties involved have to agreed on not to exceed their budget. Besides some saved up for their wedding without necessary borrowing. If it's 500k you have, do your stuff and have peace of mind. Peradventure I have 20M in my account breathing, I won't spend more than 3M on my wedding. We have more important things to invest our money on.

This is me, I can't, my wedding cost for a day can't be more than my marriage cost for one year. People just set themselves up for failure. Tell these women who push men around to contribute 25% of the cost and see how they will break up the wedding they dream about. Women don't give a damn about you it's just what they want so why play into that game?

The only reason why women want men majorly is because of that mindset that someone will take up that responsibility which they themselves should cater as an adult, ability to provide. Once you loose that ability by your intention to do what women want same woman will leave you because you have lost that ability to provide. Men should stay smart at all times

thesicilian:
How many people do you think can plan a wedding according to their budget ? We need to be realistic sometimes. Even a so called mediocre wedding nowadays can still cost more than a million naira, how many people do you think have that saved somewhere.

If you can't afford a wedding why repeat three weddings as a man? You allow a woman push you above your means and you call it realistic? Someone earn 200k and borrows 2 years of his salary for wedding? That's stupidity and not been realistic.

Even I that is worth much more can't even spend 6m for a days wedding as of today not because I can't afford it seamlessly but because I don't see any reason to do that for a day's expenses. I'm more of a realistic person when it comes to marriage and not wedding, my wedding cost for a day can't be more than my marriage cost for a year only fuulish men do that

Samantha125:
What's so important in having a big and loud wedding to begin with? Is it because people want to show off or what?

It's because she isn't the one paying, let's reverse the role and let the ladies sponsor weddings and let's see if we will ever have one loud wedding in Nigeria.

People who can't afford the lifestyle they wish to have are people who shout let's do loud wedding at the expense of another, it's pathetic

Babangidapikin:
At least they both have bills to pay jointly ...

Which jointly? If she divorced him after one month who pays the debt? Only fuuuls behave like that dude, ask the girl how much she will bring for the loud wedding and see the stupid lady you always to marry.

An adult want something and she can't work to help get that thing but rather want another person to bear the liability for her liability fantasies , mumu men plenty sha.

If he is worth that amount monthly is a different ball game, that dude isn't earning up to 200k monthly.

mamoh2k3:
You sound like a biafran. Why didn't collateral demage after your mother during the biafran war? You are inhumane. You no suppose come to life

Anyone who says something against a Muslim terrorist sympathizer he is a biafran, what a pity. If you must know I'm from the region that brings the highest of Nigerian's foreign exchange earnings. If you like unalive yourself because you loathe a particular ethnicity that doesn't stop Israel obliterating your colleagues.

achymmania:
An igbo man is the controller here at Tincan Island command.

Controller remits everything to the controller general, the way you put it is as if the dude is the one taking decisions. He is doing that on behalf of his boss the CG of customs and he can be removed anytime when he takes his own decision that negates that of his boss. He is just a subordinate, maybe you don't know how government hierarchy works.