₦airaland Forum

yarimo:
Obidients doing what they know how to do best

You don't want citizens to criticize thieves and criminals who have kept the country in chains , you always thick backwardly

Nonny95:
Nawa oo

Abike Dabiri please see to this ones arrest immediately

Abike ? You are joking? She will do nothing.

You don't know the country you hail from

illicit:
No be by promise... It's automatic

Don't mind him as if he is working deceitful Nigerian.

UrbaneHR:
No professional HR practitioner worth his onions will discuss salary with you on the very first discussion on the phone.

It is only desperate candidates that seek to know salary range and that's why they get short-changed.

Your best bet is to have an in-depth discussion with the potential employee with a view to understanding what value he can actually bring to the organisation before the negotiation starts.

Salaries and by extension rewards are very relative and even a range can be broken in favour of a really good candidate who knows his worth and is able to convey same.

Go to indeed and see HR professionals posting jobs with salary range attached to it. This black mind mindset won't take you anywhere, you want to waste people's time and energy to seek for what isn't available. Una dey kolo for this country.

DesChyko:
Someone asked me that too. I simply told him it depends on a lot of factors and isn't within my purview as a recruitment rep to disclose.

I feel it's a bit awkward to prioritise salary before your ambitions of working at such a place in a corporate world. One even said 'let me know if I can risk coming'. Strange.

Sharing a range before knowing the ability/value of a potential employee can attract ugly eggs and potentially keep away the valuable ones. You can peg a salary at an amount, but be willing to increase it for those whose value are worth it. You can also peg it at too high to get the great hands, and end up inflating job market needlessly.

You are a typical Nigerian filled with deceit, have you seen jobs posted on indeed by foreigners? You wonder why recruiters over there don't have your mindset and are still better off that you folks in Nigeria? Every job seekers has the rights to know the pay of the job hile is hunting for from the word go. After you hid these information what happens when the job pays less than what the job seems is currently paid? You have wasted his time and money and other intangible assets just to make up the list of those coming for recruitment.

The mindset of recruiters in Nigeria seeking to have hundreds and if not thousands of candidates for just one position advertised is sickening and should be discouraged outrightly.

You all should do better

NoahHadNoArk:
Why sending money to an absolute stranger to travel miles to come see you, in dangerous times like these


You be serial killer ?!?😒

Dear ladies, Collect their money and better your lives with them or give to the less privileged.
Since these Hot Toads have refused to learn, keep fleecing them.

Ignorance they say it's not a escuese you know that? That act is a crime but illiterates, scammers and deluded people will think otherwise but will be the first to tell a judge it's their first time of committing an offense or was ignorant to know it's an offense.

It's well spelt out in our relevant laws that obtaining by false pretense is punishable and most people who commit this crime interestingly are left off the because those who fall victim of these crimes just want to let it go. It was on this platform a dude set a precedence as regards to this crime by prosecuting a girl who collected 5k from him and refused to show up but people like you instead of looking at the crime committed was looking at the little sum .

If you like encourage your sisters to to same line of thought, maybe they will be used as a precedence to make society better.

Men should never foot the liabilities of women allow women take responsibility for themselves, any woman who can't pay
her transport have no reason to be in a relationship

meobizy:
…and this is one of the reasons I’m happy for not being sexually reckless.

Thank God for yourself, most ladies who ain't married don't like using protective covering during sex my experience . My Ex even gave my an ultimatum that if I don't do raw and head she will go and my reply is go ahead.

People don't give a damn about their health these days

gbadexy:
The guy may likely be a ritualist trying to lure the girl with money.

Everything to you is ritualist, if he is he won't go for that megre amount. What stops him telling her he will pay and outrageous amount? Make Una think small na

Gadafii:
Because he was riding a taxi, this mbeke is feeling funky

If na Lexus or Benz boys, this girl go Bleep them for free, 😂😂


Have money in this life and ensure you package yourself very well, invest in yourself, make yourself comfortable and you will see the number of women waiting for you, for free

DeeGov123:
While is PDP afraid of wike that they cannot suspend him,

A chunk of the party is loyal to him...The dude is spraying money like something else

Tjra:
Fubara is a certified failure

16 months in power, nothing to show.

Continue to cry we love tage cries, since you can't walk around Rivers State to see bothe the capital project and human capital development going on in Rivers we love that tears that is flowing from you.

You will lament for 8 years in PH, if you like think someone will replace Fubara you will cry more

CyrusVI:
Wike is like Tinubu...Men so big they cant be brought down


Wike is what Atiku once thought he was

As for Fubara, aside those 1km roads that he commisioned twice, he's not being doing anything at all

We go see their scorecard for 2027. Tears galore

I dey laugh, it's not fat you will see what's up.

Lanretoye:
Minimum wage never still pass 7500 since they have been increasing it cos they only increase the amount but technically reduce the value.

7500 too big self, imagine just ten years ago minimum wage could buy two bags of rice but today minimum wage can't buy one bagg of rice

vanbonattel:
You think they are not reading all the propaganda you are heaping on yourselves?

They may probably be afraid of drug dealers, bandits and rituists getting into their country.

Ur head is gone..

xammax:
Please what questions did you ask? I’ll love to know

The deal breaker came through the section of financial responsibilities, these are the questions that came to my mind

These are some of the questions I asked her

1. What do you think about being an adult? Is it worthwhile been an adult?

2. Do you think been an adult should comes with a great responsibility? What are the upsides and downsides of you been an adult?

3. Do you think everyone should be a responsible adult in the society? If yes do you agree to been financially responsible as an adult?

I then moved it to relationships and finance, mind you so far I haven't had any reason to benefit financially from her even when I portray myself as been in her financial bracket. Invariably to her we are in same situation so hypergamy was checkmated by me to see her real life scenario experiences devoid of any lies while communicating.

4) What's your view on marriage? Are you interested in marriage? If yes when do you desire to get married?

5) How did your parents foot their bills while been married? (New she was a product of broken marriage when we started dating but I give people benefit of the doubt) Do you subscribe to that? (According to her the mum suffered financially during the pendency of their marriage but this looked not interesting to me because she already told me the dad is a an senior police officer and discovered the man only built one house and that house he gave to the wife and went to rent outside)

6) Do you think married couples should work together financially? She asked work how? I reiterated both of them ensuring that the home front is taken care of jointly? That what belongs to the man belongs to the woman and what belongs to the woman belongs to the man she answered, I don't think so and I inquired why do you say so? She said and I quote " my money belongs to me and me alone while your money belongs to all of us" that it's my responsibility as her boyfriend and husband to take care of all her responsibilities and that should never think otherwise.

7) I asked should I invest and open up a business enterprise for the family and mandate you to be the CEO of the business how will our family benefit from the business? She looked at me and said I hope you are not thinking that the money that will be gotten from my business will be used to run the house? The essence of asking these questions wasn't really to discard her but to make sure both of us were in same boat while heading forward into the relationship. She went further to say my business money is money is not for the house it's for me and I will determine what I will use it for but certainly not for the home because it's the responsibility of the man to take care of me and my children.

8 What if the man who has spent his hard earned money to open the business and becomes financially incapacitated? Who then runs the home financially? She replied why would you even think that way? He should be ready to bounce back because he has a lot of responsibility to cater for.

That was it, I had to remove any little freebie she was getting and then called for another heart to heart session with seeing if I could talk to her on this issue but she was even seeing me as someone who shouldn't be saying this, then I called it quit but allowed her to break it up herself after one month of nonchalant attitude towards the relationship.

I also delved into other areas like family history , childhood trauma etc and I can say I was glad to prove into the hidden realities in order to make an informed decision. I can say before we had this talk we have no major issues but those issues were ahead of us waiting to pop up, the level of selfishness and self centeredness was second to non and was glad to move out.

My hand don pain me I go collect one billion from you.

Chamber10:
I hope that the man looking for a virgin girl to marry is a virgin too.

If you are smart you should have also told women that since they are looking for men who have money hope they also have money too? Equality with no financial equality is no equality at all. You now see how fuuuulish u sound

iampeterben:
Where are they getting this statistics from?

DNA centers

ruggedtimi:
i remember when i first met one of my friend with his current wife, then they were dating and i was like "Guy na your mother be this?"..She is actually younger but looks older than him.
....Fast forward to three months they got married,omo when i got to the wedding venue i say "guy where you get this money from"...two weeks into marriage my guy dey drive lexus Es350 2020 model. Later i found out the chubby wife is from a wealthy family and his father inlaw bought the car for him and secured a well paying job of 800k for my guy and his wife. Na so my friend life change. No dey allow us rest for whatsapp status steady balling every weekend.

na so life supposed be, na person wey no get sense go dey suffer for life.

How on earth will you as a man take all the loads of responsibility on your head as a man without breaking down?

1Sharon:
I'll give you the same advice men tend to give women that complain about bad relationships:

You should have chosen better.

Not every time you exude fuulishness in the public, if you got nothing to say just take a walk. Accountability is something you all don't ever like you are not an exception

RealityKings:
Games women play

The dude never stretched that game by testing her in real time, those who fake it will fail like park of cards.

Sunmolar:
I don't know men can be deluded by emotions.
So, if he married his ex because of immediate solution to financial needs from her... All marital problem solved?

You are not smart to know that the guy is sarcastically taunting women who usually say that line, it's ladies who usually make that statement whenever they want to ditch a man , so the dude is joining them in echoing it . You are the one showing emotions from your response and not the dude who is sarcastic

imustsaymymindo:
Here you go advising people not to rush and you are failing in your own advise the second time rushing to want to get married to an ex.

What I am certain of is that your ex would deal with you more than your wife.

Why don't you use this period of pain to build and upgrade yourself? Cut off your ex. Stay away from sex from your wife and her money. Use the time to learn as much skills as you can and own your life. Choose yourself. Live like you are single and do the things you love that'd make you stay off sex(it's just for a while till you become a man who is perceived to have options). Sports, gym, chill with your other male friends, network, get updated.

From my experience, "people love those who love themselves". And that is why your wife doesn't love you.

And after he does all of these the wife will then love him and run to him? Let's say he starts earning more like a million nàira monthly after then the wife starts professing love to him and then he accepts him back? This is why it's risky to marry a woman who is struggling financially because you never know her intentions, she can fake to be caring because in her mind you are doing better than her. I loathe selfish people, they can never see my money not even a kobo.

Successtube:
Imagine this was someone during our dating days I would give money when she visits me and is about to leave, but she will refuse to collect it. She will be coming to my house then, she will buy foodstuffs for me with her money and when I want to refund her, she will tell me I should forget that we are one.

Omo this is total deception, them scam you . What then happened when she started seeing little change of 300k? That means if them pay her 2m monthly wahala dey.. God help you

ItisWell22:
After a year and three months of dating.

It’s well.

Successful marriage has nothing to do with the length of dating, I'm sure your parents didn't date up to that time. The problem is that the OP didn't ask the right questions during dating let me give you an example. My last relationship was just months into when I I called my partner to ask her some sailent questions that will make or mar the relationship, the reason I asked these questions was because I wanted to push the relationship further. It came to the section of finance and her response was worst than that of the OP's wife mind you this is a lady my earning potential is 30 times hers (though not fully aware because I wanted to check the gold digging innate in her to see through her character). I asked her again I will be the one to open a business for you from start to finish and you say that money from the business I opened won't be channeled into the family if I get broke? She replied it's your responsibility my money is my money and your money is our money that was it.

Even other sections of questioning she was average but the selfishness in the finance section was all I needed to know her selfishness and self centeredness , God forbid I lay my life for such humans.

I can assure you the OP never had finance discussion with his wife and then he becomes surprised after sacrificing his life to make her better, most ladies are selfish so it's the duty of the man to detect the selfish ones and trash them in the bin, they deserve no place in marriage.

LilMissFavvy:
The guy did it just to hurt her. He has hurried into marital journey with just another lady available, and such a marriage will not work out. Let her watch and see.

You think life is a Nollywood movie?

The dude already saw her red flags and ran away to someone else hoping she would change but to no avail he had to go to another lady. You think when a guy withdraws from a woman he is the one with the red flag? ask yourself what caused the withdrawal? Definitely something must have triggered that reaction meaning that lady at the time isn't his first priority any more.

Marvieduke:
I guess the guy was the first to spot those red flags but was just quiet until she made the stupid move of breaking up..... Na those wise brothers I dey respect....

You may be correct, this scenario has happened to me.

We dated few months and is a was ready to move things further but was very observant , detected some red flags and call her for discussion but was surprised that she affirmed and was very adamant to change. Called her the second Time same thing then I started withdrawal, stopped stuff I was doing before and that led to her complaining that I was changing and all that then boom she broke up after one month.

She was happy she was the one breaking up but never knew my soul had left already a time ago. That you are the one doing the breakup doesn't mean the other person is the one with the red flag , only the smart minds know this

Cassandraloius:
Na where una dey see these kind men? Hmmmm.... So terrible!

Which kind men? You cook breakfast and you cry

Women like to feel eurotic while been the ones to break up relationships don't know why women feel that way but when it's a man doing the breaking all hell gets loosed. A man doesn't have issues with women breaking up but won't be same when the man is the one doing so.

80% of relationships are broken up by females why shout when 20% happens? It's still amusing to me till now.

slimfit1:
Expect divide and rule tactics soon, they are Igbo or they want to develop the land or set the place on fire.

Bigot how are you?

Ennyjude:
If them never kill one motivational speaker,others no go learn

u b yeye girl

But on a serious note every adult needs to think like an adult for a relationship to work, I can't be the one to take your responsibility when you are an adult it doesn't make sense to me. This is why a liability is a no no for me.

WannaHowzit:
Hilarious that Japagerians were REJECTED in caps lock 👎🏾🇳🇬😂😂😂

Read a book once in a while and realise SA has millions of whites - sometimes they'll become Miss SA. Sh!tgbo ingrates are a minority hence thrown in the bin, plucked out by shambolic Miss Universe Nigeria and ordeaned as the winner (who's not actually the winner) 👎🏾🇳🇬💩💩💩💩💩💩

Who then is the winner Mr. Chairman of Miss Universe Nigeria? Won't you keep your ignorance away from public space ?

Wawelexy:
If it's 3, then she's a minor, cos according to the story, the girl should be 20...


Well, thank God for your last paragraph, atleast you know the act is bad no matter how we try to twist it, no need for arguments...

It's bad but in the context in which the writer puts it I can say it's a reciprocity to the first evil. Both are bad , the man's own isn't a more evil than the woman's.

JOSCOFELIX:
do you know what they call indiscriminate bombing I am very sure you do not know

I will leave you for your kindergarten teacher to do justice to your critical thinking skills that has been obliterated in the last few years.



https://www.amnesty.org/en/location/europe-and-central-asia/eastern-europe-and-central-asia/ukraine/report-ukraine/.
https://www.reuters.com/world/europe/un-probe-finds-new-evidence-russia-committed-war-crimes-indiscriminate-attacks-2023-10-20/