Walkee:
Now now?

donstan18:
Traditionally, a man is the chief sponsor of any wedding ceremony while the woman supports in a way she can. Reason, it's expected a man goes into marriage when financially stable and ready.

Allocating 50% to her passed a message that you'll be a type of husband who will be after the statistics of the wife's earning and spending. You sure wouldn't have done what you did if you hadn't any knowledge of her earning, you acted because you know her earning and that's a red flag for Nigerian ladies, because they don't like dragging and equal responsibilities in a home.

You don't go direct when you want a woman to contribute financially to something. You go Tactically[Not imposing, but asking how and where she can take care of, she'll choose, no matter the percentage of her choice, you lock up, keep the planning going, pretend like you are cool and then sketch out a personal plan of how to act worried and restless before her, she'll wanna know the problem, act like you wanna hide it from her, she'll be worried and pissed that you are hiding things from her, then you'll come up with a story and open up that you are facing financial crisis and don't know how to sort some things out concerning the wedding, she'll willingly help with pity without seeing you as a stingy or mean person]

No be everything dem dey form mancho, you go dey use your head.

You've spent on traditional wedding and for that not to be a total waste, kindly go and meet her, reason with her and go tactical, not directly with authority.

Happy married life in advance!

AlexReports:
WONDERS Abuja Pastor Introduces Annointed Pant/Bra with a Print of his Face to attract men for Marriages

An Abuja based Pastor Dr. JS Yusuf has introduced anointed underwears with a print of his face to attract men for marriages for the single ladies seeking for life partners in 2020.

The anointed underwears is said to be blessed as instructed by God to the Senior Pastor of Touch for Recovery Outreach Int'l, Abuja to release marriages in the new year.

The underwears are said to also help women from related diseases and give them good luck with men.

He added "wearing them will make men look at you on the streets and want to marry you".

He qouted Num. 23:20 which says "Behold I have received the commandment to bless; and he hath blessed, and I cannot reverse".

Congratulations to every woman buying these underwears.

https://www.abujapress.com/2020/01/wonders-abuja-pastor-introduces.html?m=1

Unique357:
In brief, I am a male married with 2 children, my daughter is 8 and son is 5. I also have my niece 11 and a house help 15 staying with us.

On Monday I gave my wife Christmas shopping money to get foodstuffs, hers and children clothing including our house help.

Yesterday my wife went shopping, she bought clothes for herself, our children and nothing for the house help. She claimed that the girl doesn’t need any clothes for Christmas as long we feed and send her to school, the rest is her parents' duties. The girl in question is my wife's relative from the same village. This girl is so nice to our children, she is like a second mother to them despite her being just 15, I have never had any problem with her.

I was mad at her that I told her, if she cannot treat another woman's child well then she doesn’t deserve to be a mother, yes I did said some harsh words to her because of anger. She accused me of sleeping with the little girl which I told her she is mad and she couldn’t stop crying the whole night. This morning she didn’t make my breakfast and refused greeting me back.

Please house let me know if I overreacted

IDKadiri:
I believe it's a rare cancer you have. Are you a man or woman?

bolt000:
HP Notebook 15
1TB HDD 8GB RAM 2.6 GHz
2GB dedicated NVIDIA GeForce GTX 965M GPU GDDR5
Core i7 (8th gen)
All accessories and box is available.
Contact via my signature.
Price is 190k (slightly negotiable)

daddyzgel01:
it is indeed needed

Lavyanna:
Omo yen WA bustful

Nogodye:
Kogi Demons strong pass anything...Expecially Igala demons.

Mutteeme:
Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) Presidential Candidate, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar will land in Washington DC, USA today.



Source: http://thebossnewspapers.com/2019/01/17/just-in-atiku-lands-in-washington/

https://mobile.twitter.com/DeleMomodu/status/1085908731211198465

louiziana:
Rose gold steel watch, date, thick leather straps , quartz tick, all hands glow in a dark place so u can tell the time anywhere, new. Location is Lagos, and asking price is 7,000 naira. Phone: 09080055150.

yemisi10:
Please nairalanders l need your urgent advice how do l handle a colleague at work that use to engage in fraud l mean stealing money have caught him several times and l have evidence against him.

l am thinking of reporting him to the management or confront him
Please advice

vindisick:

Guy drop that girl quick. Nawa for you. Ah ah!!! How can you contain such nonsense from girl. Show her you are angry and be scarce from her for sometime, let her chase you very well. Make her know shit wont always just go down well with you. If she doesnt obliged, then thank your God cos you have just been saved from a possibly untimely heartbreak and death. No time

JONNYSPUTE:
....Most ladies don't respect nice guys.So you better man up before its too late.It is not all about playing the same game with her rather its about you taking charge of the affairs. Why marry a lady that can't respect your feelings? Do you want to die young?.

DMerciful:
I don't know why girls support themselves in foolishness! Look at the preposterous comments above!

Slow11:
Hi nairaland Family,

kindly help out, i had to create this alternative moniker because I'm widely known here with my other moniker.

I'm a female nairalander, today is really a black Thursday for me. I have lost total Focus and concentration, very depressed at the moment. I'm diagnosed with HIv positive, being crying since morning. the worst part of it is, i'm a virgin, had never sex with any man in my entire life. I was advised to start taking medications immediately...

doctors and well experienced nairalanders in the house, will this medication prolong my life? will it cost me expenses? or the HIV will one day turn to AIDS despite the medication? I'm deeply confused!


kindly help push this to the front page, God bless you all!

Esejojo:

gaby:
Awwww so touching...

But J boy, don't be too vexed with those guys on the street. None is a well fed and robust as you are boy and you know what?? They think your daddy is part of the problem.

bedspread:
It's unfortunate ...

Amina zakaria should be taken off INEC!

We can't have a photo of this and Have her in INEC...

All parties should boycott the Elections..

Kenzico:


Tufiakwa

wakaman:


More like a medium sized companies end of year party.

Una don finish Abi una still remain for another venue?

Flop!

Sai Baba!

enunlewa:
Actor Gideon Okeke and his fiancée, Chidera, are set to wed this December.

The actor shared their beautiful pre-wedding photos on his Instagram page on Monday, with a short prayer for their journey ahead. He wrote;

''Have you ever wondered why when Greatness happens to be on the cusp of unraveling , that’s when a certain West wind of resistance, finds its perfect timing to blow?
Honey’m. Nothing! Nothing will “deshine” the glory moments that are ahead of Us.
I seize this moment to reaffirm to You, ever so defiantly, that we both bear “something-great-about-to-happen”. Grace abounds that we may be empowered, as the wisdom of God, is profitable to direct our paths. Thank you for holding my hand. Here goes...to the Future!
#TheLoveFest18’19

Gist from Gistmore - http://gistmore.com/actor-gideon-okeke-and-fiancee-chidera-release-their-pre-wedding-photos

Trouble1:
This abirùn should shut the hell up .
Foolish idiotic bastard .
I hope the idiot Deji Adeyanju is convicted and jailed asap

Ecstasy154:
The Public Affairs Officer (PAO) of the United States of America consulate in Lagos, Mr. Brussel Brooks on Friday, said issuance of visa to Nigerians irrespective of their social standing is strictly a confidential matter.

He said US Government will not discuss such confidentiality in public.

Brooks spoke while fielding questions from journalists after an Education Forum, held at the Distance Learning Center, University of Ibadan.

The PAO was apparently reacting to the controversies surrounding the US visa status of former vice president of Nigeria and the presidential candidate of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) for the 2019 general elections, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar.

The programme, entitled: ‘Teaching Resources: Availability, Applicability and Appropriateness,’ was organised by Fulbright Language Scholars’ Association under the leadership of Miss Tolu Akinwole, who said the association, being funded by the United States Consulate, has trained a total of 350 teachers in Oyo and Ondo States in 2018 with a view to igniting vibrant teachers and provide solutions to observed “inability of students to apply lessons they learn in classrooms to everyday life.”

According to Brooks, the case of Atiku’s US visa status has been an issue in the papers for sometime, but ” the position of the US Mission has remained the same throughout any discussion of this issue, that visas are a confidential matter.

“We don’t discuss individual visa’s status of any person, whether it be a highly rated official, a presidential candidate or an average citizen.

“Anyone who applies for a visa should know that there will be some records that are confidential. It is classified as private document by the United States Government, and we never discuss them now public.”

Brooks, who enjoined candidates at all levels, especially presidential, governorship and National Assembly, to focus on issue-based campaigns and avoid distractions, also advised Nigerians to ask candidates at all levels the plan they have to improve education.

“Often times unfortunately, campaigns are full of distractions, things that are not that important to the lives and welfare of average Nigerians, especially the children that are with us today. What is important for them is to give them the opportunities to serve in order to thrive in today’s world.

“This means they need a good education. The school should be improved. When I heard the letter from the students describing their lack of books and dearth of desks in their school. This is very disheartening. There are things that should be corrected.

“I will also encourage parents and voters to ask the candidates what they plan to do to improve education. I think issue-based campaigns will be beneficial to all Nigerians,”

https://www.dailytrust.com.ng/us-consulate-replies-fg-says-atikus-american-visa-status-is-confidential.html

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You