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Religion / Re: Wet Dreams: A Thorn In My Flesh Going To Two Decades by Ifechi2020: 12:33pm On Apr 24, 2022
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If you would hear, u need deliverance in a true holiness church. I would advice that u trust God for the deliverance. Try the Lord's Chosen church , Ijesha, Lagos.





quote author=Pray4meJC post=112075370]For privacy reasons, I'm an old nairaland member.

About 22 / 23 years ago, a classmate in secondary school lured us into the act of masturbation. Few days later, I started practicing the act and eventually ejaculated after tough stimulation lasting almost two hours. It got to a point I was almost getting addicted doing the unclean act.

Thereafter I graduated to pornography when internet was just starting in Nigeria.
I went further to committing adultery and fornication in the heart rather than with the body by peeping on girls and women having their bathe all to fulfill my lustful eyes. I even watched couple have sex by peeping.

Even though I have stopped and repented from these like 12 years back, I still find myself struggling with other bigger problems called wet dreams, unusual erections and wormlike vibrations in my body and sometimes body freezing at night for 30 seconds to 1 minute.

These wet dreams occurred 2 - 3 times in a week and repeat same in like manner every week compulsorily throughout the year and go on and on the following year. I have gone for several dry fasting and prayer deliverance to no avail.

I don't see myself having sex in the dream when these wet dreams occurred. Sometimes, when the wet dream is about happening I'm conscious and try screaming the name or blood of Jesus but it seems am just very powerless and before I know it, semen has spilled out and I will remain like that. Sleep is distorted and all efforts to sleep is impossible.

Sometimes, when I go to bed early by 8PM and I get caught up by wet dreams by 9:30PM, it means sleep for that night is gone completely. I sleep maximum 2 hours daily because this stuff has messed my mind and life up.

Whenever I lie down to sleep, different uninvited thoughts start forcing themselves on my brain both those that happened today and the ones of years ago. I always try deflecting them by replacing them with bible quote or singing praise to God in my head.

I woke up since 2:30 am today with a wet burser soaked in semen and started typing this because I couldn't no longer sleep. Afternoon sleep is very impossible for me as it has never worked for even 1 minute

I'm greatly troubled and worried because I read my bible and pray before going to bed. I dream about my former schools etc.

As I speak, this stuff has rendered me financially devastated with millions in debt. Could not obtain university admission 19 years ago, brain can't simulate, not married, no kids. Very recently this year my health (details withheld due to family members who might find this posts) is suffering as I can't do anything to earn a living as I easily sored tired in the heart.

PS: At night, every day for all these years, uncontrollable strong erections will suddenly start building up whether I put up underwear or not and I think this is more than the 'morning erections ' science talks about. This is pure spiritual manipulation for me. Same thing happens when I get close to some females whether matured or underage, stupid uncontrollable strong erections suddenly pop up without any sexual thoughts whatsoever to these innocent females. Unfortunately, these arousal is also a problem because it inhibits low self esteem, shame and quick withdrawal from whatever discuss I'm having to avoid the bulge being noticed.

Lastly, a year before I got myself ensnared in all these evil activities, I was already developing memory loss and a single headache that almost took my life prior to all these. The headache can be best described as "sawchain and hammer " tearing the skull to pieces and lasted for hours and resistance to drugs. That was the first and last time I experienced such and any other for that matter.

Where do I go from here? Depression is real when solutions are being defiled.[/quote]
Family / Re: I Love My Wife & My Kid, But I Want To Leave The Marriage. Help! by Ifechi2020: 11:15pm On Feb 25, 2022
Good evening I hope u will believe and adhere to what I'm able to tell u.
Forces of darkness exist. Ur wife may be possessed unknowingly but that doesn't make u leave her. Seek for prayers in a REAL bible believing church. Go to the Lord's Chosen .
Ur marriage to ur wife is for better for worse. God hates separation or divorce.


uote author=Needadvice200 post=110541029]Sorry I had to create new account to remain anonymous.

Please men of the house I seriously need advice. Straight to the point, we've been married for 6 years now and I love her so so much, our compatibilities is 100%. We have a beautiful baby girl and we are still currently living together at the moment.
Since we married things has been extremely bad for us unlike before we married. Though I myself was down with sickness for years that almost took my life but God revived me and she stays with me. My business doesn't require my presence (networking) because currently am still getting money but not much. let's say 20k average which of course not much for the family.

Now here is my problem, from 3 or 4 different CONFIRMED sources we were told that my lack of money it's from her that she belongs to a spiritual evil cult (Elegbe omo) that her own is spiritual rags group (egbe akitan, or alakisa) that whoever sleeps with them, their things will going down for them, finance wise and all. I hope I described it well tho and that even she herself is not aware but they do tell her severally. and she has been praying yet things keep getting worse for us.

in fact sometimes ago a pastor saw a vision for her that whoever sees her physically putting on a good cloth that she's beautiful but spiritually it is rags on her body. That she will Pray and fast for 3 days (deliverance) which she did yet things keeps getting worse for me in fact right now I am begging to feed.

When I realized this I stopped having sex with her for months and my business really really improved.
Throughout last year I can count how many times we had sex not up to 4 times and I did not cheat on her because I love her so much but for how long? It's not easy to be on the same bed with your wife and not want to have it but anytime we have it we must suffer for it for months.
The loan sharks on my neck are up to 7. Am just collecting loan to pay another to avoid their embarrassment. One is even threatening my life now (LCredit) as I could not pay the overdue loan.

My head is full with many thoughts. I love her and my baby which is just 2yrs. i want to succeed, I want my family. how long can we be staying without sex? am so so worried. Though I was told it's not her fault but what can I do because it has been affecting us for years now until now.

I don't know if anyone had a similar experience to please share. I need help because I am seriously considering leaving her but I will take full responsibilities of my baby.

I will be in comment section if case of any questions.

Thank y'all[/quote]
Religion / Re: TB Joshua's Burial: No PFN, CAN And Notable Christian Leaders by Ifechi2020: 11:00am On Jul 10, 2021
[Keep ur opinions to urself and followers.
If u care to know more, ask God, seek to hear from him instead of blabbing. Some of u bring condemnation to urself and others by gesting. I come in peace.


quote author=okeyumez post=103541586]Nigerian Christians are the worst religious hypocrites.
Adeboye, Oyedepo, Kumuyi and other so called men of god are business men with spirit of religious extremism and envy.
TB Joshua preached and practiced love without any discrimination and doesn't collect offerings in crusade. No big cars, no mansion, no university, no branches like my church RCCG.

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Family / Re: How Can I Win My Wife's Heart Back? by Ifechi2020: 6:59pm On Jul 09, 2021
Mstick:
Shhhhhhhhhh stop disgracing your lineage, go find out what sacarsm means.



Make use of the brain God gave u and fear him also
Travel / Re: Sosoliso Plane Crash 15 Years After: Woman Pays Touching Tribute To Her Sister by Ifechi2020: 6:58pm On Jul 09, 2021
Otunski:


Eleri bu oloshi


Back to sender
Religion / Re: My Confusion About God And The Scriptures. by Ifechi2020: 3:41pm On Jul 01, 2021
Good day,
There is God whether u like it or not. The main fact that science and all has failed proves there's a supernatural power that be which is God.
Be careful in ur thinking. If u really want to know God, get on ur knees, ask him to show u himself. If u are sincere, he will prove himself to u.

In as much as God is all knowing, he doesn't force his will on us, he shows us the right part through the Holy spirit leading but allows us make our choices.
If we humans can get annoyed if out kids or siblings err, why not God when we err.
Don't ever be fooled that there's no life after death. If only the dead can tell u, u will run for ur dear life.


uote author=udoji2021 post=103248922]I have been thinking about this lately and decide to share it here. Don't get me fellas, I'm a Christian and believe in God and his son Jesus Christ

BUT

It is believe that God created the world and knows what happened before, what is happening presently and what will happen later till the end of time. This brings me question on why he allowed Satan to decieve man, why was he also angry since He knew beforehand of what will happen? Then the consequent punishment, was it really justified?

The most confusing part to me now is life after death. I personally believe that there is heaven and hell right from my childhood days until one guy (Jehovah witness) told me that there is nothing like hell, he went on that even heaven is for a specific number of choose people and not for everyone, above all, he said that when one dies, your own is finished and you are not gonna go anywhere. Simply put, your body and spirit will die.

I nearly insulted him for spewing such rubbish but many years after, I'm beginning to think think twice about this issue.
Now, imagine suffering in this life for all the days of your life only to meet death (body and spirit),

My question is;

1) why not just enjoy your life even if it means doing bad things to enjoy life?
If you can't enjoy life, why not kill yourself and rest to avoid the sufferings?

2) Even if there is life after death, what if there is no suffering cos God may decide to give everyone peace after death.

3) Those that didn't hear anything about God, what is their fate?

4) which of the scriptures is to be trusted?

May God forgive my ignorance if what I just wrote is bad and punishable.[/quote]

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Romance / Re: After Introduction, I’m Seeing Too Many Red Flags by Ifechi2020: 4:33am On Jun 24, 2021
My dear, based on years of experience in marriage, I'll tell ur fears are real and important.
Love isnt enough and even important for a successful relationship.
I tell those who care to listen that maturity, fear of God and belief are 3 most important factors for marriage. If u do not believe the same things, its a big deal.
Except God grants u a go ahead , pls a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage cos once contracted, there is no divorce as a Christian.
The bible also guides is in saying we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Many won't understand this but its very important.







quote author=mugnmuffin post=103008721]Dear Nairalanders,
I have an issue that has been on my mind for weeks now. My fiancé and I have been dating for over three years. I love him and he loves me too. We are physically attracted to each other. We’re both catholic but since I graduated, during my service year I gave my life to Christ, got saved and left the Catholic Church. So I’ve been a Pentecostal Christian since then. He on the other hand is still catholic. I subtly try to nudge him to consider getting saved, i.e acknowledging Christ as lord and savior and becoming born again but he is content with his laidback Christian life.

Earlier this year, he asked to meet my parents and I let him. My parents like him especially because my younger sis is married and they have been waiting for me too. They’re glad I’ve someone. However, after the introduction,I regret it. I’m now certain that he’s not the one. I think about my spiritual life and how lukewarm he is about the things of God, I think about kids and how we’ll raise the, with such differing views about God and I’m discouraged. I feel like I’m settling because he checks all the boxes on the checklist of physical attributes. Another mistake I made is, I didn’t pray about this decision and that worries me because anything that involves him,I just act with pausing to ask God, but I always ask God about other aspects of my life. So it’s like my associating with him is a minus for my spiritual life and that’s a huge cause for concern.

At this point, I want to tell my parents I am not convinced it’s him but I’m afraid of the disappointment this will cause. *sigh* I’ll appreciate your thoughts, comments, criticisms...[/quote]

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Health / Re: Help! My Younger Brother Is Going Mad by Ifechi2020: 11:06pm On May 08, 2021
Mrskillz1:
I am from a family of three. I have two brothers. One older and the other younger than me so I'm the only girl in my family.

I grew up seeing my Mom mad.
By my teen age, I got admission into Nnamdi Azikiwe University alongside my elder brother who was to study Engineering. By the time I was in my finals, my brother was getting ready for IT. One day, his roommate sent for me, he said they couldn't sleep the night before because my brother was talking to himself. Before we knew what was happening, my brother was getting violent and so we took him home and he never got back to finish school.
I proceeded with my education and finished. Went for NYSC. While serving the nation, My Mom died. When I got home, she'd been buried.
But my brother was still mad.

I later got job, took my brother to a Psychiatric hospital and the doctor after examining him said he is Schizophrenic. He was asked to stay in the hospital.
I paid. He then stayed there for one month. When I came to visit him, he pleaded with me to take him home that he didn't like it there.

So I took him home. Every month, I buy drugs for him and he gets injected. He usually puts up a fight but with the help of my younger brother, neighbors and a certain nurse, he receives the injection, forcefully and against his will.
Often times, he pleads with me not to inject him, the very time I obliged him, he scattered things, didn't allow the neighborhood sleep, talked throughout some nights and wouldn't eat sometimes. He looked really sick then but with the injection, one will hardly know he's not normal.
I told him that I won't let him miss his injection ever again.

Now, on Monday, my younger brother woke up and was unusually quiet. He normally wakes up and begins to play music with his phone or he will turn to football channel and watch until I leave for work. But I didn't go to work on Monday and I noticed he was quiet, then I asked him why he's quiet. He didn't respond. After some hours, I asked my Dad if he feels he's okay, My Dad said that he wants to be quiet and that I should let him be.

Then, that night, around 4am, my brother began to talk. He was shouting and some of the things he said were not coherent. He talked out of point. I and my Dad, with my elder brother surrounded him and I couldn't help crying when my Dad was cautioning him to keep quiet and he refused.
Neighbours thought it was my elder brother's voice they'd heard that night but by the time they heard in the morning that it was my younger brother, they visited my Dad in the evening. By then, my brother was still talking and even burnt his clothes yesterday.
My Dad got a few guys to chain him because he was violent yesterday when I left the house.
I know the problem is spiritual. I have prayed, fasted for my elder brother and now this!
I'm so unhappy.

Can someone suggest a place I can take my two brothers to so they can be cured, please.

Take to The Lord's Chosen, Ijesha

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Romance / Re: Is Sex Necessary In A Relationship? by Ifechi2020: 6:15pm On Dec 12, 2020
Good day readers ,
We shouldn't forget that we are sojourner in this world we find ourselves in.
We have a course if we must enjoy the life after(heaven).
Nothing is worth a man's soul. A little act of immorality can jeopardise one future/destiny. A few minutes of 'so called' enjoyment can lead u to eternal damnation (hell).
Sex is certified for married people only. Anyone can say anything else but the bible remains the truth.
Sex isn't a prove of love . It has never been.
Genuine love is God's love which is agape( without a condition).
Be careful not to fall into sin.

quote author=Misslilbootay post=96995045]I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.[/quote]

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Travel / Re: Sosoliso Plane Crash 15 Years After: Woman Pays Touching Tribute To Her Sister by Ifechi2020: 10:11am On Dec 12, 2020
[My dear, don't be lost without Christ. If at this point of ur life, u feel that God doesn't exist, I feel for u.
The fate of the two survivors is purely God's mercy. It is written " I will have mercy on who I will have mercy"
I advise that u go on ur knees, ask God to give u a sign if he really exist. Be sure he will. He doesn't desire ur soul to be lost. Do not let the blood of Jesus be a waste in ur life.
God bless u.






quote author=slawormiir post=96987015]Damnnn niggarrrr
Rest in peace to them...and for the two that survived
They survived because they were lucky
Thier surviving that plane crash has nothing to do with God

God doesn't give anyone a preferential treatment if actually he exist. ..to me there is no Supreme being up there in the sky that oversees the affair of the world

For every day we wake we are faced with more than a hundred ways to die...so for the fact that we didn't die today or rather we were lucky today to escape all the hundred ways to die doesn't mean we are unique and being guided and protected by one God
The death might still come tomorrow or next tomorrow
We were born to die[/quote]

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Religion / Re: If We Ask For The Forgiveness Of God Before We Die, Will God Forgive us ? by Ifechi2020: 10:14am On Sep 20, 2020
Akube1z:
I lost a relative. She was seriously sick . We had prayed to God to forgive her of her short comings and sins on earth, before she gave up the ghost in the middle of the night.

To the best of my understanding of God's word(bible), if the person accepts Christ as his/her saviour before death, then he/she will make heaven. Its personal not people praying for the person
Career / Re: Juju Scare: Should I Quit My Job? by Ifechi2020: 5:48pm On Jul 29, 2020
[quote author=Bigyusluv post=92224055]Hello good morning.

Late April during lockdown, my friend sent me a post, which was advertised by her mom customer in need of an accountant urgently, the job was for graduate and I'm an undergraduate, final year thou I should have graduated since 2018 but left school in my first semester 400l due to mental health issues I was facing which no one know( I can't read and comprehend as I used to anymore) got bored of reading and preparing for exams, set eyes on making money. Just too broke at that time.

I applied for the job with fate, and I was called, went for interview thrice before I was given the job. due to my experience of working as an assistant accountant in one big hotel and working as branch manager in another hotel, and not staying far I was given the job. The pay range was 35k based on my qualifications thou.

I started work first week of May, not too stressful but I'm to resume by 6am and close 6pm, daily allowance 2k and my salary ... I do make 50-60k weekly aside my daily allowance and salary.

Reason I'm thinking about quitting is, early June, on my way to work on bike, I had an accident with Keke, which the Keke man was clearly at fault for swerving without checking his side mirror, but then again, it was just the two of us (bike man and Keke man) on the road, same lane, nothing coming back or front of us, yet the accident.

I had a bruise on my hand and a kinda deep wound an inch from my ankle bone. (which haven't gone yet, used original honey to bring out the surface, thou I no longer feel pains, recently it has dried up).

During that accident period nor of my colleagues/bosses came to visit me as I was home for a week. But my colleagues kept sending my own share from the runs money.

Last Thursday on my way to work, very close to my work place, walking on the street that lead to my office and one man I don't know, was inside his shop/house, saying to me, oboy this your leg never go, na wa oh, them wan just spoil ur leg for you, that your place wey u dey work many don run commot there cause of the juju things wey them dey use follow their workers, better dey pray every day and when u enter office guy. I said thank you sire, while getting to the office tears dropped from my eyes as I prayed.

Next day being Friday on my way home, the bike I took we both fell down, falling to where my wound is, I had to be smart and quickly dodge the bike from landing on that leg... I paid the bike man and trekked to the bustop to get Keke.

This job has really changed me from that sad dude to happy dude, due to financial capability right now... I'm now free of debt and brokenness.

Please advise me, cause I'm not really a spiritual person but all these are making me prayerful (never believed in juju and attack before).
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Believe me when I say this
If ur way of getting runs money is legit, then u need to wake ur spiritual life well cos if u know ur right in the kingdom of God, juju will fear u not the other way round. Meanwhile, don't forget to pay ur tithes.
But if the way of getting ur runs money is illegal, dear desist from such act. U might cut short ur life/destiny cos of that. No amount of money or wealth is worth ur soul. Heaven is real and only righteousness qualifies one for it.
Religion / Re: Breaking Every Connection With Your Sex Partners by Ifechi2020: 11:17am On May 24, 2020
The bible is a guide. Its high time we know that the spiritual controls the physical. The Bible says ".....but the sin of fornication and adultery is sin against one's self". Its no longer a physical settling by giving transport fare or ending the relationship, it goes beyond that. People's destiny has been cut short, others delayed, many exchanged cos of sex.
The good thing is that if we truly come to God in repentance, our delayed destinies can be re-awoken by him. Delay isn't denial. God bless u







pDudd:
I believe that after I give her transport money to go home, the contract is over and the connection is broken.

It was mutual agreement sealed by a contract which is dissolved after both parties have fulfilled their part of the bargain.

Daz all.

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Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Ifechi2020: 4:18pm On May 19, 2020
[size=8pt][/size][font=Lucida Sans Unicode][/font][quote author=Omobada post=89725851]May God bless you and increase your wisdom. In fact, for the first time I see very mature and objective woman here.
[q1uote author=bukatyne post=89699757]Instead of telling your husband to stop 'spending on his family', point him to projects he can spend money on.

E.g. 'My friend said there is one cheap land at Igbo Tutu' or 'how I wish we had our house, we wouldn't be bothered about Baba Mulika asking for rent every year' or 'there is one mutual funds that the entry is N200k and you get 15% returns per year. We can be paying Junior's fees from the interest'. You can also bring up investment for your kids etc.

You know what works with your husband so explore that. Also appreciate him for what he does so far.

@buying your land: I am not a fan of spouses buying stuffs behind each other so I will say deposit the money in mutual benefit/Chapel Hill/Piggybank for now while you try to make him see reason. I particularly don't like the fact you want only your name on the land; recipe for disaster as your husband is not hiding his own funds; he is just not spending it wisely.

You should also understand where your husband is coming from: in some cultures, the 'worth' of the first son/husband of the first daughter is their ability to fund everyone's lifestyle without complaint while their own immediate family suffers.

It is a recurring theme so you re-orientate him in love and harmony to see that his family can and will survive without his handouts.

Also note that if he goes 360 and stops funding his siblings, it can cause problems for you'all.[/quote



This can only work if the man in question listens but from her write-up, he obviously doesn't
Family / Re: My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry by Ifechi2020: 4:14pm On May 19, 2020
My dear, the challenges in marriage are much. Only a few men own up to their expectation. Thank God you have a means. Pls, save for urself and invest wisely cos families like that will almost eat u up should anything happen to the man.
Be wise, seek God for help too on the decisions u make.
I'm writing out of experience.
My mum too has a near experience but my dad was the last son, my mum knows God and showed her mercy. My dad had been the only surviving son of 3 men and 4women.
See how God saved her



Anni3e:
Hi, I have been married for 9 years now, the problem I have with my husband is that his family members keep sucking him dry and the way he neglects us his immediate family.

He is the first child of 7 children, his siblings even the married ladies keep asking him for money. He keeps spending money on them and their husbands. His brothers keep crying they are broke, they keep leeching off him.

His two junior brothers that always ask him for money, one of them built a house in Port Harcourt and the other one built a big house in the village. Still they won't let him rest.

His married sisters are the worst. If they cough they would call him to send money, every minor thing they would expect money. Just this evening his sister called him to ask for money. We don't have a house of our own, I keep telling my husband to stop giving in to all their demands and invest the money on something, he would say I am turning him against his family.

We have 2 kids and I have told him we need to start saving for their future, I pay the electricity bill, foodstuffs, and most times the children school fees, he pays the house rent and rarely keeps money for home upkeep, he sometimes drops two thousand and that's it for the whole week. He always complains he has no more, but once his family calls him he sends money immediately.

I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property. I don't know what to deal with, his family entitlement mentality or the way he neglects the kids and I and treat us like outsiders.

I am really pissed off and tired.

Sorry for the long post.
Family / Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ifechi2020: 11:21pm On May 11, 2020
Sincerely, my marriage has a lot of similarities to urs but my husband still foots majority of the bills cos I didn't yield to that. Its because of the good heart u have, he's using it against u. I have been broken many times but God has been my stay.
One thing u must know is that if anything happens to u now, ur hubby will marry another wife who might treat ur kids badly. U have to live for them.
Save a little for urself to fall back on. Don't reveal ur savings to him. Infact, make ur kids ur next of kin. Be close to God. He will give u the grace to pass this phase and enjoy your marriage




quote author=MizJaY post=89104970]

So I though sha cos I'm not sure I'm d only one going thru this kind thing. Most marriages na just mk we manage dey push am dey go....lol[/quote]
Family / Re: My Fellow Married Women And Mothers, How Do You Deal With A Husband Like Mine? by Ifechi2020: 11:10pm On May 11, 2020
Very good advice

(quote author=veave post=89104994]Hian.

Wetin I go talk go pain you o. But na the truth I go tell you. Madam, right now I can't tell you to start with 50% so I will say 20%.

Thank God there is covid and I pray your job doesn't get affected. As soon as you resume, the second day you get to work tell him there has been a 40% reduction from your salary due to low inflow of cash. You need to save at least 20% of your salary. This money no Matter if the roof is falling down you're not to touch it. Na your back up money be that. The other 20% is for your upkeep. You and your kids should survive on the remaining 50% because you'd definitely pay tithe. It's because he knows you always have a back up plan that is why he is relaxed and allowing you foot all the bills.
No this kain thing make me say I no go marry "brother" when I dey small. Most of them are lazy and are dreamers. They expect manner to fall from heaven after their praying and fasting forgetting Paul had a handiwork that sustained him all through his life hence he didn't have to beg and depend on anyone. I no dey like this kind jist. He's not even appreciative of his supportive wife. I know women who use all their money to buy shoes, clothes and the latest asoebi, their husbands dare not say pim because they'd even take his own and join. [/quote]

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Family / Re: How Can I Win My Wife's Heart Back? by Ifechi2020: 4:52am On May 02, 2020
I'm really surprised to read ur comment. Well, I guess u haven't married. Men are terrible, some women are too. Just imagine spoiling a woman image everywhere. The woman has sugfered depression and its probably dead in spirit, just alive for kids sake.
As for getting ur wife back, with God ,all things are possible.
I'm writing from experience but mine wasn't as bad as this but I was so broken





quote author=Mstick post=89034265]It's not your fault she must have done something to make you do all that.

Can you walk us through your marriage so we can pick her faults and nail her?



The gospel according to nairaland pickmesha. grin grin[/quote]
Religion / Re: When Your Boyfriend/girlfriend Is Disturbing You For Sex by Ifechi2020: 2:48pm On Apr 26, 2020
kollinz1234:
If God didn't want Adam and Eve to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and eveil, why did he include it in the garden?? God's way are not our ways. Be guided and don't mislead people so that God will not rebuke you.

Its unfortunate that we are myopic in reasoning and understanding of God's word. God is great. Despite creating us and giving us what we have, he doesn't force his will on us. He says "if we ".
Sodom and Gomorrah were advised to repent and accept Christ, they refused and we know the end was destruction. The people of ninevah accepted the Lord's word, repented and God spared them.
U have a choice. Decide on which. I hope u make the right one
Religion / Re: When Your Boyfriend/girlfriend Is Disturbing You For Sex by Ifechi2020: 2:41pm On Apr 26, 2020
True talk. The Bible is our standard. Any other philosophy is simply personal opinion. The bible says that "marriage us honorable and the bed undefiled".
People should read and act God's word.
The bible should be the bedrock of our Christian living. The standard was not changed and won't be for anyone.
A lot are possessed today, destiny exchanged or distorted and many other evils cos of some few minutes of pleasure. Those virtues lost are prices paid for disobedience to God's word and more.
Watch and pray.
Family / Re: I’m Pregnant For My Sister's Brother-In-Law. I’m Scared To Tell My Sister by Ifechi2020: 4:05am On Mar 24, 2020
My dear, when u take a decision in life, be ready to face the consequences or benefits it brings u.
Its high time for youngsters to know that sex is for the married ones. U are destroying ur destiny when u engage in premarital sex. Pls, pls, u should stop all this act. Stop nailing Jesus back to the cross after all the sacrifices he made on our behalf..
Pray for mercy. Face the consequences
Family / Re: For How Long Should An Engagement Ring Be Worn? by Ifechi2020: 3:54am On Mar 24, 2020
My dear, the truth is that u have gone astray. Having sex for a man that hasn't paid ur bride price is grave sin. Many years ago, a boss of mine during my IT told me plainly that until a man takes u to the altar, do not ever believe whatever he says. I've been in marriage for over 10 years now and even with that I feel strange at times. We, ladies sell our pride so cheaply that a lot of men don't even appreciate the treasure we offer them. Go back to ur father's house, leave that ring, face ur studies/work /God. He will help u with his choice for u

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Family / Re: Pregnant Women Craving For Weird Things by Ifechi2020: 6:25pm On Mar 17, 2020
Women should be appreciated and respected. Isnt easy at all to carry a foetus, one's body changes totally.
I remember stopping almost at any junction during my first pregnancy to buy bolle and roasted fish. After delivery till date, I totally lost that craving
During my second pregnancy, I love isiewu but with a lot of pepper.
Cant remember my craving for the last pregnancy.
The joy is coming out with that great bundle of joy. What about those that end up in mortuary or even lose their baby. So, please, if that's all u go go for the missionary journey, its worth the stress.
Thank u

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Religion / Re: Madam Titi Surrenders To Jesus In The Lords Chosen, Testifies In Church (Video) by Ifechi2020: 6:07pm On Mar 01, 2020
God's love for mankind is great, greater for various persons. Hers is purely an art of God's special love. Like in the case of Saul turned Paul the Apostle.

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