₦airaland Forum

Ujujoan:
Did you really have to insult your wife right in front of her own mother

You deserve to be insulted too. Your wife is not a kid and certainly if she knew there was light she wd have made the switch. Why don't you invest in indicator light and stop causing problems for yourself!

LOL

Uju,lets just say it was the scorching sun . . .dude had temporal heat stroke.  
Na dem send am make he go stand for sun?How in the world does he expect them to know that they have restored power without an indicator gadget?

He went overboard,likewise his MIL.

The wife is the victim here and on the receiving end of their fuCkery.She deserves an apology from both of them.

@OP,Don't even make the mistake of leaving ur house,not for ur MIL or anyone.

How u handled the situation is def. not the best or ideal,it was more of acting on impulse still what ur MIL did cannot be excused!

You should have just gone ahead to do the change over OR call out ur wife seperately and ask her.

Besides,is it even remotely possible that they had no idea that PHCN had restored power?Is there any way for them to know?any giveaways?Remenber they are indoors?

Done is done,way to go is to be firm and take charge as the man of the house.Don't fall for ur wife's silence or be as foolish as to stop talking to her.

Call and sit her down,apologise to her for ur earlier outburst,then tell her that what her mum did is unacceptable and therefore MUST leave the house.That's it!!

She can go home and try slapping her OWN husband.

^^You are right CC but don't expect every mum/woman to reason along same lines with you.

You wud be surprised to know that some of such MILs wud actually think they are doing the wife a favour. . .helping them to keep their men cos truth be told,If they try to pull out/push away their sons,they might end up pushing him to another woman so to them,accepting them is the lesser evil.

Notice I also asked abt the relationship btwm OP and her MIL?Sour or mother-daughter?

Like Jenny asked,did it start today?During the courtship days,have they always been going home for dinners,sunday buffet,special soup etc at Mama's kitchen/table as oppossed to "she" preparing the food at the guys apartment,eating out and sharing quiet candle lit dinners?

The OP has alot of questions to answer sincerely to herself and so many options to work with.

Lastly,OP's husband is an ONLY CHILD,we all know how deep such bonds are.The OP has no biz blaming or confronting the mum,she shd subtly but seriously work from her OWN ends.

Genuis,u made a good point. . .minus the insults.

OP,how is ur relationship with ur husband?Do u offer him the TLC he needs,listen to his problems,massage his ego once-in-a-while by letting him go on and on with those long boring stories?Play with him?Is he ur best friend?

Men are grown babies,If u are too busy or uptight to baby sit him,his mum wud!!Could it be that u don't show him that u care,not affectionate enough hence he wants to use his mum to wake u up?

The next option lies in Ujus post ie Ignore buttom but . . .beware,this might backfire and create more problems in future especially If ur husband is only Yearning for attention and TLC.

He might take ur I don't care stance serious and step up his game in the hands of another woman . . .definitely NOT his mum this time around.

Hope u wud read btwn the lines to get what I mean,Im mobile,cant explain/type much

@Kobo,I don't know what u mean by Bigotry?How and when?

Buhari might not be a political leader but he commands respect and has followers in the north,BTWN,I refuse to be drawn into BB V Gej battle.I used BB and others as examples of ppl who command respect up there at the north and don't understand why Buhari shld be singled out and made the subject of my reply?

BTWN,You said Buhari has addressed his supporters to desist from violence,please when and how?

Please don't tell me he said so "online" or on his Fan page.

How many of those almajiri's have access to the internet?Or he is talking to educated elites like you who are mere internet warriors and won't be caught dead carrying arms to fight ur case/cause?

@Bluetooth,they are silent cos they are enjoying the show of shame.

They are silent cos they are blood thirsty animals.

They are silent cos they have been anticipating this and are happy that they can hold the nation ransome.

They are happy cos they NEVER had the interest of NIGERIA at heart.

Meanwhile,their children,kit and kin are safely tucked outside the country while the almajiri is pushed like ZOMBIE to go and kill.

I'.e always said this and wud continue screaming it:How come u don't see spiritual leaders(Iman's especially),cultural & Political leaders(Emirs,Sultans,Buhari,Sambo) coming OUT TO CONDEMN,CALM NERVES AND ADVOCATE FOR PEACE,when things get murky and messed up

What then is/are their duties?

Hypocrisy!! and sheer wickedness because we all KNOWS FOR SURE THAT once the aforementioned groups intervene this issue wud be solved.

PS:beware of typo's,im mobile.

First step GEJ,just First step!

You have talked,next is to act.

If no one is going to talk to those almajiri's up there to stay calm bullets wud silence them,deploy troops! !.Guns worked effectively at Odi,twud as well work here.

Whoever feels cheated with the outcome of this result shld do the right thing:take it up in court and NOT turn a blind eye while his supporters go abt doing all sorts of fuCkery.

GEJ this is the time to ACT,just DO IT!!!

@Bassetti,I get ur point quite alright.The hypocrisy of some of us is alarming!

If GEJ has responded and acted on impulse(as they are urging him to now) by sending down troops,blimey they wud be the first to cry wolf here.Now the man is trying to "reason and beg"(lack of better words) diplomatically yet they are calling him a coward.

I never supported GEJ but common,its only a dishonest,wicked and cunny fella that wud let religious&tribal sentiments or support for any cause/person becloud his sense of reasoning in this scenario.

Spoke to my bros in school @ gwagwalada and there is relative peace in the area.

Folks are just being generally scared and careful.

watchme:
I never knew that Ndi Okereke Onyeike has a twin sister, lol

ROFL

^,lol,You are OYO for that collabo side.

N-G, threw the party for her hence you have no biz asking,attending or looking for cake.

Shebi u say ur money no dey drop for ground?sent ur tear stained letter sha . . . . . " "

Hi Baba kunu.

Na your type the OP dey describe so  Trust Hauwa,she go use koboko correct ur head.

190:
[color=deeppink]His Ex-GF Back in Nigeria should be held accountable

na she go don cause this kind thing so[/color]

Is it slightly possible that you wud ever get well?

I like the name Fiona . . .that's my imaginary baby girl's name.

@OP,action works better than voice/noise.

Don't let them shut u out,join them and stamp your position on your man.If I were u,i wudn't even talk.

When mama hugs your hubby,sweetly ask for your own or take her unawares,give her your own hug.

Join them in bed too,lie in between if possible. 

Some babies just don't wanna leave the bottle/pacifier for eba,u just have to mold the eba and shove it down their throat.

Get out often with your man . . .hang out with married mutual friends.It wud help give him the idea of what marriage is all abt.

Sad and very unfortunate.

My heart goes out to the fiancee and family.  

eddy1977:
@ ify
the five man guntlet match was last monday.miz was not part of it.instead it was dolph ziggler.
due to outside interference,the anomymous raw general manager made it a triple threat match.it will involve the miz vs cena vs truth.
the rendezvous is set for extreme rules in two and a half weeks.

i can see the miz winning by disqualification.

it will be good if eventually we have a big feud between r truth and miz.but i doubt it will happen because r truth hasnt shown enough tessticles to make strong statements inside the rings.

Ok,Thanks.

Been tied up with following the elections so Im back-dated now in WWE issues.

So whats the next big fight,news

Where is embassyman and co?

@Mobinga,Kindly remove that pics.

Please!!!!!!!

To even see the so-called literate ones on NLD making excuses here is disgusting . . .how much more the common almajiri on the street. 

Buhari shld not ask for ceasefire cos there is a CIC,he wud be tactically guilty blah blah blah 

What really wud it cost him to step out and publicly accept defeat and declare that he is moving on or pursing his case legally in court . . .If he felt the election was rigged 

We love denials sha   

Most of us have NO conscience,sadly.

what ?? 

hercules07:
@Ify

Buhari asking for the riots to stop is a good thing [/b]but he should not be crucified for the riots, afterall we have a president who should have foreseen a situation like this and prepared accordingly.

Finsh.

please where did i say Buhari should be blamed or held responsible,where  

ayinba1:
@ifyalways
I do not wish to trade words with you.
[b]
The decent thing is to complete reading the post before you comment on it.

No, I do not support violence. But open your mind's eyes and place the reponsibility where it should be.

Buhari did not ask these people to riot and cause unrest. If he decides to say something, fine but he is not required to say so because some people have assumed that these people are CPC supporters.

We all know Northern Nigeria. With this mayhem going on, is a non Northern CPC supporter safe?

Read what ? Please !!!!!!!
Did u per chance read what u posted earlier  

Buhari should not ask/call the rioters to stop else he wud be held liable tactically for inciting violence . . . .The BEST bu.llshit I have seen/read in my life.

We are this hypocritical?

Someone is supposedly fighting your cause and you cannot ask him to stop  

Are we for real here  

mbulela:
Nigerians have spoken.
Buhari et al must learn to be good losers.
from ll indications, the results were indicative of the people's wishes.
bUhari must do the right thing;acknowledge defeat publicly.
Then the govt must address this violence sqyarely,not politically.

Well said.

ayinba1:
If Buhari calls for the rioters to stop for whatever reson, does it not tactically imply that he told them to riot in the first place?

What about Jo Boy? Is he not the PRESIDENT as at this moment?? No one is telling him to do anything. Why

So do we pin the blame of the prior unrest in the North on Buhari too- Jos, Jos agian and again

Buhari is not the C in C, Jonathan is and should step up and arrest the unrest. Quit barking up the wrong tree.

@bolded,Awurade ooh

What is Gods name are u saying?Jeez!

So when 2 people are fighting and you step in to ask for ceasefire then you become guilty of inciting the fight

I stopped reading at that line . . . .

[quote author=Beaf! link=topic=649196.msg8154496#msg8154496 date=1303128890]Seun how can topics like this finds its way to the frontpage a minute it is created?
mR HIROSHI or whatever you are called stop speading lies. I know there is tension in Kano ( i am in Kano right now), there is no such thing as jubilation because of coup.[/quote]Seun needs traffic.

Btwn,Is this the GEJ Beaf?what are u doing in Kano.

@Topic,No comment YET.

mystikal:
FT. 2 - 1 NIgeria wins

Yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee !!!

"  "

Up Naija.

Good news. 

Whoop those Ghanaian abrantie a55 . . .for once. 

samboribo:
@ NL forum

that's an old pic taken from a past northern violence.

Mobinga please remove the pics.

Please!!!

reindeer:
The loss of lives is just unimaginable.
To those blaming Buhari, you should ask yourself why people are rioting this time, the last 2 losses, he went to court didn't he?
Please be objective and from all the reoprts so far from eyewtinesses, they are attacking their leaders who they feel betrayed them.
I see hatred has consumed so many of you here.
You are no better than the rioters if this much hatred oozes out of every word.

Cna someone please remove that grotesque picture.It serves only to inflame tensions
Who has any record of churches being burnt?The only confirmed storied here now is that of the houses of Ghali Naaba and some other leaders.

Listen . . .I am not blaming Buhari for the riots and killings.Anyone that is doing so is clearly uninformed.

I however expect Buhari to come out and address the Youths. . .That is what every peace -loving elder statesman of his status should do.This siddon look  mode he choose is very BAD and speaks Volumes.He can't sit on the fence and pretend he is not seeing what is going on . . .NO,that is 100% wrong,morally or religiously.

Are u guys trying to say that those guys won't stop If Buhari addresses them right now  

Shame on YOU ALL,Truly,GEJ group have been RIGHT all along.  

I hope I wud have to take back my words today . . .I hope Buhari wud be kind and magnanimous enough to DO something ASAP.

@Mobinga,where did u get that pics from?

Jeez  

@GenBuhari,Please tell me you are joking . . .still a sick joke.

People are been killed and all you could say is that people have the right to defend their votes,elections was rigged blah blah  

So you guys have been deceiving Nigerians with your peace and good will messages?Underneath all those integrity talks lies a huge violent beast?

Thank God none of my Family members and friends voted BB after-all.I wud have been hugely disapointed with myself.

WTF . . .Is violence the only tool,the most effective means of pushing your case,assuming the election was at all rigged  

Where is Otumfour ?

Going to fish him out from the phone section.

mystikal:
2 _ 1 Naija. 80 mins

I hope it ends atleast this way.

dorg3:
i taught it will begin at 1pm bro

You thought wrongly.

Where una dey watch the match sef ?