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DeRay98:
You are right. i had always known that Education was meant to develop the mind and university should be the place for advance learning but they "kill" that part of us in the Unis. my cousin who studied the course as i in same Uni at a time when they still had some white lecturers said the the white guys mainly wanted to be sure students comprehended the principles and being able to explain it in their own words was acceptable.
Hence i never really believed in memorizing my lecture notes. I preferred to study to understand the concept and explain it in my own words, moreso as i was studying health care profession course. The lecturers hate not see the words they are familiar with which they gave you in their note. So, scoring an "A" in any course is tied to your ability to "XEROX" their note back to them.
This is what has killed our creative, critical, analytical thinking abilities. I remember in our Secondary school days, If you are in science, for Chemistry you need to read Ababio, Holderness & Lambart etc, Physics; Nelkon, Abbott and later Okeke, to be sure of a good chance of credit in WAEC. I could go on...God Help Nigeria!

Well I want to say may God help us, but God has already helped us, he has given us a mind of our own and a brain to think. But what is the essence when dat brain is not functional. When you used outdated notes, must copy and paste because your lecturers want it so. La cram la pour. It will never get better until the system is erased of all forms of backwardness. Dat is why we produce graduate dat can't think. The ability to think and articulate well is what makes one productive. But here it's a different thing altogether. It is well

DeRay98:
Nigerian lecturers are lazy piece of…(Please pick offense for all I care). They’re so lazy that the handouts most of them use to teach their students in 2016 were written in 1956. They do not carry out researches, they do not refresh their knowledge, and most of all, and they are allergic to correction. They hate bright students and prefer to teach dummies. They make sure you do not think outside the box for their words are ‘Yea and Amen’. Dare challenge a lecturer in a Nigerian university and you would keep writing that course till Jesus comes. They want exactly what they said in class word for word and leave no room for new ideas and exploration.

My brother you have said it all. I remember when one lecturer asked me to define international relations, after defining it, he said he wasn't satisfied because he wants me to define it in his own words. I was so angry dat day but I had to define it in his own words for peace to regin
The biggest problem is they don't want you to think outside the box.

EternalBeing:
Non of the above. Latest much affordable high-end Toyota brands offer me every modern feature that I need in a Car/Jeep, plus class and respect. Instead of forming class by buying Range or Bugatti, I'll rather use the excess money to start businesses that would em ploy the unemployed or help the less privileged; this attracts more reward.

Hmmm I so like your comment and am loving you already very intelligent and mature

onegig:
...stop making statements without fact. Poverty induced by making bad decisions based on societal pressures cuts across all nationalities and race. I guess to you the word rat race is a word coined in the SW?

The op has stated the basic fact that cultural and societal pressure is keeping most in poverty and it seems like a cycle. Just check societies with large populations world over and you would discover that they have the most level of poverty. The reason is not far fetched. Kids are huge liabilities and when you have them unplanned and without backup funds and insurance you would be wrecked financially and swim in poverty.

Any sane mind would know that if you have an income of 20k and someone gives you a G wagon that takes 50k to fuel per month, 100k per month to service and other associated unexpected expenses; you would run bankrupt before the end of 30days

The old ways of having lots of kids should be over by now as it does not give you any financial advantage in the society like in the past where they can help you in the farm and thus cut down labour costs and generate more income. Kids are very huge liabilities and if you're not buoyant enough trust me you would transfer that poverty to the next generation.

However, i slightly disagree with the opinion that young people shouldnt be encourage to get hitched. We should infact encourage them to marry but not with these our mindset of getting knocked up immediately and giving births to offspring when you aren't steady on your own. The premise of encouraging them stems from the fact of preventing them from engaging in immoral acts and the understanding that two good heads is better than one.

Wealth is created when you carve a part of your income and invest it into profitable ideals. It is easier for two people to pool resources together and make it a success than for one person to go it alone. A man who's married would definitely cut his cost in terms of feeding as it is more cheaper to cook healthy food at home than to buy unhealthy 1500 food from a retail outlet. He also has more productive time chasing other things instead of being bogged down by daily house chores as this responsibility is "SHARED" with his partner. Same way a lady who is married would not need to pay for yearly house rents, utility bills and other since she shares one with someone and these freed up funds can be used to invest in something and generate more income and thus MAY spun wealth. But the society comes in again and demands elaborate wedidings which infact most times set up the young couple to fail even before they get a chance to starting their lives.

Well you have said it all. A lot of things need to be addressed in our society today. In short you have said it all

Gud evening naira landers.
Pls I would like to ask a question,am a student and will be on break by August. I really wish to know if I can get a part time job in Abuja during the holidays in order to keep body and soul together. Please I really need answers in case there is anyone who can help please let me know.
Thanks in anticipation

March 8th in the house

Congratulations

Wow this looks refreshing and beautiful may God continue to keep and bless your Union

I pray for similar blessing and grace

MzStunner:
I got married December last year and its been pretty good so far.
when I was single I hardly cooked so I would say cooking everyday has been the biggest thing I have had to get used to.
DH is also from large close knit family so I have to always call all the siblings and their spouses often to "greet" them. I am Igbo and he is Yoruba, I also come from a polygamous dysfunctional family where everyone is minding their business while secretly hating and competing with you. He makes me call everyone often, says I have to get used to it, as per youngest iyawo. but his family is very easy to flow with, and they are not in our town, so if na call them want.....
I am barely 2 months in the game so sometimes I cant even believe I am married sef. till I go and look at the large framed wedding portraits hanging on the living room walls.
The most enjoyable thing is that I now have someone to share all my issues with, I am not used to that so its a very good feeling.
my hubby is over 6ft tall and huge, while I am about 5'2 and petite so I really enjoy the looks people give us when we are out together, I can also go out and look for trouble with all confidence now
Another thing is that I love the way people call me "madam" these days. My boss called me Madam yesterday and both of us burst into laughter. so yea, I am still transitioning into the association of "married women" and its been a smooth ride.

Ohio am so loving your post can't wait to testify like you for ever

ahnie:
Mine z my sil...she z almost 32yrs,very lazy,and she does not WORK..infact all her life,she never WORK to earn a livin.what she does z to be parabulatin from her bother's house to the other.she wil eat,and leav the plates for yu to pack,wen she comes around,if ayam chargin my phone,she wil remov it n plug her(s)witout mindin,welda you hav bars or not.meanwhile she z wit her charger o.she wil just spread her big yansh like python on the cushion/bed all day long witout doin anything.the painful part z her formin thus:i dont eat fish o,my mama no cawi fish train us o,but her broda,my husband and her mum eats fish.when i gav her tu my zino,after 4days,she came around again,like a prisoner that excaped from alcatras prison with a very big bag,spread her yansh,and ordered me to go buy chicken,and prepare oilly rice for her,i was like...haaaa mogbe o,kin eleyin,me wey neva strong just 4days after puttin to bed.i went to get the chicken from the market,n almst died insid the bus,meanwhile she just spread for cushion dey watch telemundo o,i came back n prepare the rice,n my lil girl was cryin,mehn i was gased out.my mil was so annoyed n she scolded me for going to the market,and she warned her daughter.last two weeks,she came again wit that her big bag,she nor even fit green me,she jus came into the sittin room,dropped her bag and settle on her favourite settee...she went straight to where i plugged her batterylez phone and fiaaaam,she removed it,and on the verge of pluggin hers,i said Kai joy,leave my charger there,she Hissed and mumbled one kai yeye word n took her own charger

Hmmm and you took all of this? Wow you try thank God the mum isn't in support of such attitude
May God Almighty continue to strengthen you

OhiGentle:
IfyJohnson are you a lawyer and did you attend IUO? The name is exactly same as someone I knew back then.

Lolz nope am not I am a student of int studies and diplomacy. Uniben

Tanx

Wow tanx joy never imagined stress can be a factor But joy dear pls can you explain more how stress can also be a factor?

May God continue to keep your Union

helen4:
i thought i was the only one that noticed this, i have about six families that are yet to have an issue, Am talking about close friends and relatives not outsiders oo. I wish there's an explanation for it.

My sister dat is why am asking for explanation because it's becoming too much

Gud evening doctors in the house I have been thinking of these issue for a long time so I have decided to asked those that are medically inclined.

I have noticed the Alarming increase of infertility in the society both men and women are affected please what would possibly be the cause?

Y is it so does it have anything to do with what people eat or just changing times?


Tanx in anticipation as I will be awaiting your response

Op may God strengthen you pray there is nothing too hard for God to do but make your husband to realise that all prayer without action is meaningless

Eketem:
For one allow him to grow up
You seem to be doing all the work for him getting money for him to start business, sending him for prayers etc.
He needs to own up and stand on his own two feet. What kind of business is he doing and did he have any training or experience before jumping in?
Most times we just " start business" without laying foundations just because we see people suceeding in that business.

The Igbos do years of apprenticeship before opening their own business for a reason.

If his business isn't going well it means he needs to learn how to run it profitably let him humble himself and learn from someone else who has gone far in the relationship.

He read philosophy in reality his chances of employment are limited.

My advice is don't have more kids for now
Both of you draw up a five year plan
Let him help out more with the kids so you can meet your deadlines and make more money.

A family needs both hands on deck to succeed, he needs to get out of self pity and put his families survival first. This happens when people go into marriage hoping destiny or fate will better their fortunes instead of proper planning

Bro you spoke my mind I have observed the way you respond to issues here and I must say I love it, it only shows your level of maturity




Keep it up Bro

Hmmm madam posters above me have said it all but for emphasis I think you should be more worried about the little girl.
You said she is now acting like his wife you have observed this things so don't turn a blind eye to it. Mind you she is acting that way because of the attention been given to her by your husband.
so take her to another relative in another town but make sure you cater for her needs in any way you can
Then talk to your husband I mean serious talk don't nag or scream but be firm in telling him your position about the issue. You are his wife for crying out loud







And be more observant about your little daughters

ruffDiamond:
which right?? Who doesn't know his right? Na only Yoruba u dey talk?MOST TRIBES in Nigeria HATE and DESPISE the Igbo's for that very disgustingly unacceptable loathsome behaviour s!ask an average Hausa man on the Street ,in fact ,ask any tribe u ll get the same answer as mine. all around the world ,RESPECT,next to LOYALTY, isrecognized ,appreciated and rewarded .even one famous Mtn advert says it all: BOW DOWN AND ACHIEVE remember that? Little wonder y'all finding it difficult to produce a President after the respected ZIK it all boiedl down to lack of trust and confidence in the Igbo, a tribe which prides itself and mistakes lack of decorum, being generally disrespectful, haughtiness and uncivilized behaviours to so called bravery and courage and the vain pride they so much love to indulge and delude themselves with ad infinitum as if other are just simpleton, all cos of a very faulty and absolutely wrong orientation and poor upbringing .as for me I CAN NEVER have anything TO DO WITH ANY SUCH PERSON OR PERSONS

Bros no vex oo are you angry or something?
Stop the hate abeg I don't know what igbos
might have done to you but this topic isn't about them but children dat misbehaves
Learn to love no matter what and stop being tribalistic




Peace!!!!

Ugosample:
Keep quite there.
I bet you are Yoruba, so let me educate you.
I'm an igbo person, and our culture is founded on egalitarian foundations. That is imbibed in his/her head from childhood. So every one, both old and young respect each other, as opposed to Yoruba culture that the elders don't respect the young.

You cannot just shout down an Igbo kid or young adult, just because you think you are older than him, especially when he is on his right, neither can you just push Ihim anyhow. Yoruba on the other hand, promotes such thongs.


It is a culture clash. That is all, and that is why Yoruba people don't understand Ibo people.

I so love u brother for this tanx for letting him know that is y we can never understand each other because we don't respect people's culture a wise man once said the reason why the whites are better than us is because they try to understand a particular culture and y things are done in a particular way while the black man ridicules such culture

Op u r entirely correct the problem with most parents is that the make their kids believe that the world is a bed of roses which isn't altogether true.
They allow kids do anything they like and get away with anything no form of correction or discipline and when any outsider like the teacher tries to correct such kid the parent will fight such teacher.
Now tell me what you as a parent expect a child who is in his or her formative years with his mind at tabular Razer to Make of and pick up from such attitude.
Dat is why we have deformed adult With abnormal attitude everywhere











May God help me and my husband to raise our kids well

Dis Op tire me o

Wow happy married life congrats!!!