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I’m ready but am scared about the outcome , am thinking how to get them back together without them knowing I and my guy are the culprits. I’m helpless and I can’t sleep

Hestywhyt:
It is obvious OP isn't ready to do the right thing..her mind is made up already..i just hope it isn't too late before reality hits her

She did not love me at all because if she did , she would have support me with love and advices telling me things like having a child at tender age it’s not the end of the world , you can do better things in life instead she made me loose my confidence and motivation. Well yes you are right , she doesn’t owe me anything at all and she should have mind her business and let my guy and I leave in peace

queenitee:
You have entitlement mentality problem. See her money is originally for her. That’s she’s giving the family is because you guys are family and she loves you guys. If she doesn’t love you, she wouldn’t even give your child.
You need to outgrow this your victim mentality and brace yourself up, develop yourself and turn your life around. She owe you nothing, not a dime, all she gives to you is due to the love she has for you

Her money was for our parents , siblings and a little bit for my child but nothing for me because she never likes me and I never bother myself asking her for money because I knew she will be insulting me reminding me how I ruined my life and because I didn’t finish school , nothing will be well for me . I’m not angry because my guy take care of me and the child. My guy gave me money to buy the foods we ate on Christmas and new year and I know 2020 is breaking limit and he will have a great job and more money even myself , I will get better job

RonaldoVido:
Someone is bringing money into the family which is reaching you too.

But you decide to destroy her because of the dick you are enjoying.

Now the money is not reaching you again, hunger has set in and your brain is receiving a reset.

That is all I can deduce.

We all act from our Point of Gain.

Please he is not useless he does take care of me and our child something that a lot of husbands cannot do for their wives.

Ausrichie:
If this is true your wickedness is rubbing shoulders with that of Genghis Khan. A useless man that can't take care of you is coming in between you and your sister tufia. This is one reason why I can't marry and will never marry. Most women out there are just demons in human clothing. Tueh. Apologise to your sister or else karma will show you what it is made of.

Thanks a lot

KingNom:
@ ifyjos: it is very very painful you had to go through the insults because of your errors.

Pst. Chris Oyakhilome says 'hurting people (most times) hurt others, BE DIFFERENT; don't allow your hurt make you hurt others'

What you need do is make amends. Use the same guys and girls to call your sister's fiance ANONYMOUSLY and apologize for lying about your sister. I pray he changes his mind and make amends with your sister.

If you come out and tell them, it'll further tear your entire family apart.

Do that for now and when things are restored you may with wisdom later confess to your sister.

You have a good heart, it's only that your were seriously hurt over the years and wrongly advised. Be strong and do the right thing dear

Kindly send me a PM let's help you and your fiance stand financially

Nobody rape me. My guy and I had sexual consent and the only mistake was for not using protection but I don’t regret having my daughter she is the best daughter ever

thatigboman:
sorry to say. U are evil. That thug u used to destroy your sister's relationship, that raped u when u were 15, will be your downfall.

I slapped her for disrespecting my guy in front of our innocent child , I didn’t like the way she wa raining insult at him calling him all bad names under the sun just because he is poor.

PerseDew:
Her elder sis saw the guy in their family house and started abusing the guy not her o and then OP slapped her elder sis because of what?? Elder sis at this point had sense not to retaliate cos OP and her bf could have beaten and even killed her there with the unjust slapping action she has displayed and hate in their hearts at this point.

No parent was at home and even if her elder sis did may be faulted, what OP did was just plain stupid and evil. She started it all and when she got served on another level she has mind to be claiming oppressed victim.

I’m not playing victim because if we were both arrested then it also play a role there but He did it for love

Hestywhyt:
I've thought of that too..she probably skipped that part to play the victim card here

Yes he did because he love me and he can’t let my sister beating me while he is there

DukeNija:
She was probably frugal with the truth. There’s no way a sister will arrest her younger one for slapping her. They probably attacked her and all hell broke lose. They fought after the slap and I’m very certain her boyfriend joined forces with her to beat her elder sister.

Yes getting pregnant at 15 was bad but I don’t regret having my child because she is the best daughter Ever and I don’t want her to do the same , I want the best for her

Hestywhyt:
Proudest mother, so you know getting pregnant at 15 is a mistake ehn and your sorry ass of a baby daddy is a mistake too..you shouldn't have taken the prayer personal if you are so OK with your life and your baby daddy's

She wanted us to stay there longer than this but if it wasn’t for mom high blood pressure , We would have been there for a long time

Meliian:
Am I the only one that sees the wrong her elder sister did her by locking her up in the cell? How come nobody is talking about this?

Thank you

Meliian:
So what if she gave birth at 15? Some people can't have children till this day?

Ok teacher please come and teach me English I will be happy. By the way I don’t want another child , im happy with my daughter and we are waiting for God to bless my guy with a good job so he can come and pay my pride price after that we will have as many kids as we want. We don’t want to give birth to kids we can’t afford

fpeter:
Your sister was right. You have ruined your life, simple English you can't even construct. What penis will do to you, you never see...look you look another pikin.

Yes I cannot take care of her because I’m not working , I make people hair at home And the money is not enough. By the way I love him and he didn’t do anything wrong to me for me to get rid of him.

Hestywhyt:
And you think you can't take care of your baby at your age? And you technically destroyed your sister who still supports you.. I started working and being independent since I was 21 so shut the Bleep up and go and do the needful...the earlier you do this, the better for you

God forbid, my daughter will be greater than me , the mistake that I did she won’t repeat the same . She will go to university , get a better job , get married and have kids and she will make me the proudest mother in the entire world

DukeNija:
Don’t worry. Your 15 years old daughter will be impregnated by a car washing, weed smoking drunk. Then we’ll see how magnanimous you really are. Smiles.

Please read well they were supposed to get married in February this year but last year October was when her fiancé dumped her.

rangerover:
STORY FOR THE GODS. FIRST YOU SAID WEDDING IN EARLY 2020 THEN YOU NOW SAID CANCELLED IN OCTOBER. FICTION. TRY BETTER

It’s risky for me because if my family came to found out that it was me and my guy behind all these then I’m finish . I don’t want to be a homeless . I just don’t know how to reunite them without them knowing I’m the culprit

Youthleader22:
What you did was totally wrong that’s why people are insulting you right, left, center, pouring out their anger. What you should do is to make things right. Make your sister’s relationship work again and you too will have peace.

Please if I get rid of him and are you going to take care of my child needs?

Hestywhyt:
You need to confess and apologize to your sister and her fiance, get rid of that your stupid boyfriend cause he is in no way a responsible guy, and you should set your life on track..you are still young atleast for the sake of your daughter

Yes please don’t judge him being poor is not permanent, I know that some day he will owe houses and many cars by God grace

ibechris:
The part that got me weak is that,the said man abi na lover has no apartment of his own still squatting.

Yes I’m Igbo but no need to insult me please

Frankicent:
STP*d b*txh no wonder you got pregnant at a tender age.. No sense, loose leg..

I hope your sister is in nairaland... I'm sure you an Igbo girl. I'm igbo the way igbo girl misbehave this days eh ..

Now that you've successfully made her lose her husband to be and job... Now watch your kid suffer.


STP*d b*tch

I wish I could do it but what if they all turned against me and kick me out with my child and where will I go ?

Mercycity:
Please forgive your sister and help her.Just send an sms to the guy with evidence that the whole thing is a set-up.The evidence can be you including all the phone numbers in the sms.Forward the same sms to your sister,parents and anyone that can repair the broken relationship.Use a new number.Tell them it was to punish the couple because their shakara too much

God forbid

SangoOlukosoOba:
Just use her for money rituals to complete your work.

Have talked and talked with her but she wasn’t not interested . She just wanted me to break up with him so I can become a single mother something I don’t want in my life. My guy currently situation is not permanent and I have faith some day he will be richer than my sister ex fiancé and we will live happy

Tunadinho:
That's not good

you should have talk with your sister maybe she will consider the guy
and you also ought to be doing something to help the guy and yourself.

He can never dump me because If he wanted to leave me , he would have done it long time ago when I was still pregnant. He never denied me and my pictures is everywhere on his Facebook and WhatsApp profile and our future will be greater. Not I’m not responsible for her loosing her job , she lost her job because at the time her fiancé dumped her , she was suicidal and missed work for almost a month and lost her job.

highbee02:
if the guy later dump u, that's when u will know that blood is thicker than water. Did u also responsible for job lost? If yes, how did u do it?

Yes I know that I’m not good in writing English,please forgive my errors .

oglalasioux:
Your grammar alone destroyed your sister's life.

God forbid

OBTMOS:
Bet me... that guy will dump you and marry another girl. You are a wicked soul. Your own blood sister!! Tufiakwa

I swear to God , I have never been jealous of her , she is a graduate, she studies hard so she deserved to have everything she had and yes you are right , she doesn’t owe me or my guy anything but all I wanted from her is to mind her business and let me live my life in peace with my guy. My guy will pay the fees if he don’t have , she will stay at home until we get the money to send her back to school. quote author=dominique post=85597087]What I can deduce here is a wicked, envious sister who's out to destroy her sister who's doing better than her. Only when she succeeds that she realizes that she has bitten off the finger that feeds her. Who is goin to pay your daughters school fees now huh? Your irresponsible babydaddy?



I had to stop reading at this point, you're not only jealous you're wickedly entitled as well. Why should your sister establish a business for you and thug that impregnated you? She owes either of you nothing especially him. Is that why he impregnated you as a minor? To get handouts from your family? If you were my sister, I would never want you to continue any form of relationship with that man. That doesn't mean I don't love you or want the best for you. Your sister wants a better life for you but you're too young, naive, and blinded by lust to realize this.[/quote]

She was the breadwinner , she helped a distant cousin with money to start business, if she could help a cousin and why not me her blood sister? She doesn't pay my child school fees but she does help if my guy doesn't have the money and before we get the money we will receive insults just because we are poor and she was rich . I'm 20 and going to be 21 on march 28
uote author=FloraEC post=85596615]
Lolzz, seriously your sister should start up business for you and your supposed baby daddy. Is she that extremely rich, have she not done enough by training your child in school.
How old are you again?[/quote]

She doesn't care about me because if she did want the best for me , she would would support me and my guy to be together and establish a business for us instead she wanted me to break up with him to become a single mom as if she would have marry me or even take care of my child the way her father does. That's something she cannot do because theres nobody that will take care of my child like her father. He has better plans but things are just difficult for him. He is a good man he can never ask me to kill any of my relatives because If that was the case then it would have kill my sister long time ago and I'm not stupid to do such things. Yes I know what we did was wrong but we only wanted revenge for her to feel the pain that she has been causing us but I just realised that it was the wrong path to take , which I'm regretting but that doesn't make us bad people please
quote author=Wetlink post=85595381]You have a very cold heart Op. I fear who no fear you.
Any reasonable person in your sisters shoes will be mad at your boyfriend or were you expecting her to pat him on the back for putting her 15year old little sister In a family way?

Your sister genuinely cares about you and that's why she'll still opt to pay your baby's school fees yet you and your, 'good' boyfriend paid her back this way[code]

If this story is anything to go by then I'm really worried about YOU.
this boyfriend of yours Is a terrible influence. I fear that one day, he may suggest you kill anyone who is against your relationship and you will gladly oblige because to you, he has your interest at heart.

My heart bleeds for you, my heart indeed bleeds.[/quote]

Ok

Homeboiy:
If I should say what's on my mind..

I will get 500 mentions from people on Nl

Yes my guy is a good guy because he didn't abandoned me when I was pregnant until now he still here with me, he respect me and take care of me and our daughter. He didnt had any bad intention towards my sister but the insults were too much for him to bear . As human we sometimes makes mistakes which we later regret.
quote author=ireneidiva post=85587264]
You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?[/quote]

Yes I had my baby at the age of 15 . She was born 10 may 2014
quote author=wizflame post=85587592]so you have birth at 15?


HMMM OKAY[/quote]