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God forbid ,he will never dump me because our love and bond is stronger than ever. My guy is better than most married men here . He is not rich but he put my daughter and I first in the centre of his life

rita25:
YOU BE WINCH............WHINCH YOU BE.............YOUR USELESS IGBO SMOKING BOYFRIEND IS USING YOU AND WHEN HE FINNALY DUMPS YOU .YOU WILL HAVE NO WHERE TO RUN TO.ASHAWO WEY BORN FOR 15YEARS....JUST PACK YOUR LOAD AND GO FOR DELIVERANCE THEN BEG YOUR SISTER FOR FORGIVENESS THEN PICK UP THE PIECES OF YOUR LIFE ALL OVER AGAIN

to send the letter to her fiancé ?

Malawian:
Then Write a letter and send.

I don’t hate her but I’m trying to clarification on what she did to me because some people are blaming me for getting pregnant at a young age , and they are blaming my guy because he has nothing. But I know that God has better plans for me and him , the situations that we are passing through today , it is not permanent and one day it will become a story to motivate others. Like I said getting pregnant at a young age was wrong but She is my greatest blessings from God and I don’t regret having my child , she is the best daughter ever

Vanzcharles:
Hello, if you are still angry with your sister, which i know you are why don't you LEAVE HER and let HER wallow in the PAIN you've caused hER after all its your revenge. Then go ahead and get married or PRAY for your guy and hope TO live with him... You MUST bear the consequences of the action you destroyed her happiness just as you said she destroyed yours but yours is NOT destroyed by the way becos your man is still there.

I didn’t ruin my life because having a child at a young age it is not the end of world but my sister made me loose my confidence and motivation. She doesn’t pay her full school fees , she only help if my guy doesn’t have any money , it is not a new thing because they are other people who had paid school fees for strangers before , and there’s nothing wrong if my sister does the same for my child , because my child it’s like her daughter too. Someday I will pay her back by taking good care of her future children too.

solonubinho:
You're such a fool. First you ruin yourself by opening your legs to a guy who can't be responsible, then you proceed to ruin the life of your sister who has been telling you the truth and has been paying for your daughter's school fees. Okay let me even ask yeah, since you gave birth to your daughter, what have either you or your dumb dumb of a boyfriend done to get your lives on the right track and at least make a decent living for yourselves? let me guess, nothing. Rather you leech on to your sister and then try to ruin her life. I hope Karma pays you big time. Useless fellow.

It is not easy

Malawian:
Go and tell her former fiance everything.

She doesn’t want the best for me , all she wanted is for me to become a single mom and suffer while she will be happily married

blesskewe:
She forgot that her sis wants the best for her
If she get sense(which I doubt) she would have taken her did insults to motivate the guy
But no
Aunty decide to spoil her sis joy

Ok sir

ikennaiteogu:
You are a wicked soul. Your sister doesn't deserve what you did. Better confess and change your ways.

He doesn’t have his own place yet but soon. How can I go and live with him when he hasn’t paid my pride price yet ?

1Sharon:
Does he have his own place? Can't you go and live with him ?

I did it out of anger which I regret, that’s why I came here seeking advice

shege45:
Why would you do such to your blood

Yes she is my sister , same mother and father. my guy is not jobless , he is a car washer and hard working

obazie:
I cant believe she is ur sister...dat ur manfriend must be really bad sha. How come someone dat smokes, drinks, ruins someones marriage, makes u slap ur elder siater, makes u go to prison, has no job and cant train his child is a good man in ur sight. This means if u re God even osama bin laden will make heaven.

Yes it is her money and she doesn’t owe me anything, but what can’t she mind her business and let me and my guy be in peace?

CeterisXVII:
Your sister should support you and your boyfriend to set up a business? Wait first....did you give her money, to keep for you? Or did she tell you to go and get pregnant for that guy? Are you okay at all?

Please get rid of this 'entitlement mentality', that you have. Your sister does NOT owe you money to set up a business.

In fact, anything she has done so far....has been done, out of compassion from her heart.

You ruined your own life at 15. So deal with the outcome.

Respect is earned, not given. Ask your guy to enrol and learn a skill like carpentry, mechanic work, tailoring etc. So that at least he would be able to cater for you and the child.

You too, go and learn hairdressing, or fashion designing or catering, so that you can be useful to yourself!

And so what if she helped a cousin? Did that cousin get pregnant at 15? Or did that cousin continue to sleep with a smoker who drinks, and has no stable job?

By the way, isn't it her money? Can't she spend it as she likes? Were you the one who gave her the money?

Just listen to yourself. She has NO obligation to give you money, because you didn't keep anything in her hand.

Does your guy not have brothers and sisters or uncles and relatives that can spend money to open up a business for him? Why does it have to be your sister?

Thanks a lot , I don’t want her to die but I just don’t know how to do it. I remembered the day he dumped her, she came home crying her eyes out and she asked me if I was behind this or if I know anyone behind , I strted crying (fake tears to improve my innocence ) and swear I didn’t do it that I would never hurt her , she said is okey she knows that’s I can never harmed her but if she found out about the idiots that did it , she will never ever forgive him/ her , now am scared how will she feel knowing I was the one and pretended as if I’m innocent. I have been taking care of her since for her not to have any ideas it’s me but i think if she found out she will forget all the good things that I did for her and she will just hate me and all the family will be against me . It’s almost 4am and my mind is not at peace

Abcruz:
I understand. Don't be afraid you won't be disowned. They'll will be angry for a while but you'll certainly be forgiven.

Don't you see how worse your sister looks every single day?
Don't you see how depression has eaten deep into her flesh?
How long do you think she can live with this psychological trauma?
Do you think it is easy for her to bear?
Do you really want her to die and have her spirit hunting you?

The ball is your court choose to speak the truth now and be forever free tomorrow maybe too late.

Please you are not God and you have no right to say that he has no future because God is able to change his life in a minute and makes him rich

samworthyever:
You behave like a kid. You father is sick instead of you to join hands with your to restore his health you are busy killing yourself and destroying your family for a guy who has no future. Your stupidity has no grade.

Honestly I don’t know yet but I will try. She is asleep next to me and I wish I can wake her up and confess , but my heart is beating faster

Abcruz:
Are you promising me that you'll let them know the truth?

Thanks a lot

Abcruz:
Years latter you'll wish you took the advice offered to you against the fear of outcome but then, it will be too late.

follow my advice and save yourself, for you have placed yourself at your sister's mercy. Now swallow your pride; go and beg to have your name erased..--proverbs 6:3

I was 14 when we started dating and very matured , he choose me because he knew I wasn’t childish like my other age mate. Anyways that’s a story from another day , right I’m thinking how to resolve this problem. I want my sister to be happy again

1Sharon:
That doesn't mean what he did was Ok.

He slept with a 15 yr old, he was 24. Why couldn't he approach a girl near his age?? Teen girls are more naive and easier to manipulate that's why.

The fact that you said he's 29 and doesn't have a career set up is troubling.

Ok but is not easy for me. What if he arrest me for false allegations ?

Simologistics3:
You are a devil yourself, you are asked to close your legs and it turns to you killing your own sister . Don’t you know that you just killed her already because of one drunker that’s bleeps you well. Go to her fiancée and tell him everything or heaven and the universe will not forgive you .

Thank you , it’s not easy for me

Abcruz:
Don't be scared, speak the truth and act fast because your sister is currently facing the most traumatic moment of her life. She is experience a deep psychology grief and her creator is not happy with you.

Your heart is now troubled because her spirit is not at peace with you.
For the sake of your future, that of your daughter, and your own peace, tell them the whole truth before it is too late.

What if he ask for evidences and the names of person who did it?

1Sharon:
Do it anonymously.

He didn’t take any advantage of me because if he did , he wouldn’t bothered to be there for me and our child.

1Sharon:
So a 24yr old slept with a 15yr old? He took advantage of you sorry.

But at least he claims the child.

Her actions made me heartless and I didn’t had any remorse and was even ready to pour acid at her but I thank God It didn’t happened or else I wouldn’t forgive myself ever. I just regret everything

MadKing:
But it was easier for you to carry out the evil plan
May we never have a WITCH as a family member
Next time you come to this world, I hope
the heavenly bodies will make you a pig...And save humanity another stress not worth it

My guy doesn’t feel the same as me ,because he hates my sister for getting us arrested and whenever I mentioned her name , he get angry and tells me to stop mentioning that witch name and she deserve everything she is going through. I feel bad but sometimes I don’t blame him after all the insults he receive for 5 years and he is just not ready to forgive her. I want to do this for myself because I have realised that everything we did to her was wrong and her conditions just makes me feel guilty and I can’t bear seeing her in that condition anymore

Hestywhyt:
Does your guy feel the same way you feel?

Call the fiance the same way you guys did the first time and apologize to him...explain to him exactly how you guys scheme the break up...start from him and I believe their are people around you who your sister respects, her pastor maybe but be ready to face the consequences and let them know how remorseful you are and please don't try defend your boyfriend during this process...fight for you and your family's happiness first...wish you the best and God's mercy

I wish it was easier for me to do it but am very scared about the outcome

Enemyofpeace:
You and your man should go to your sister's fiance and explain what you did to your sister, he might forgive you and still reconcile with your sister

He is 29 and we are cool

1Sharon:
Chai!!!!!

Sorry I thought you were going to say 20 at the most.

Thank you so much. Yes she made me feel like having a child at a tender age is the end of world , she made loose my confidence and motivation. I just don’t know how to regain back my confidence

1Sharon:
Thank you. I'm sure the OP already feels like shit for being a teen mum in a country like Nigeria. The sister kept twisting the knife, she didn't need that. What she needs is guidance

OP was pushed to the wall. Hurt people hurt others.

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Yes he is car washer and hard working

blujoi:
She actually said the guys hustles and tries his best to provide for the baby. Read the story again. She said the guy is working at a car wash

His the jealous type , he complains if she didn’t pick her phone in time and he will get angry at her , so we knew our plans will perfectly works especially if lots of people called and threatening him

1Sharon:
So no one is going to question how it was so easy for a BF to listen to what some strangers said about his fiancee and dumped her so easily with no investigation?

He is 29

1Sharon:
How old is ur BF?

after Getting pregnant everybody treated me bad , nobody wanted to send me back to school
And my sister and other siblings are all graduated

fk001:
How comes your sister is responsible and educated while you are NFA Marlian?

Back to the sender

Smilebukkieman:
If truly you are not lying here.......may Almighty God punish you and your generation.you will not know peace again in your life.basterd

My dad was very strict and when he found out about my pregnancy that day he gave me the worst beating of my life even myself I taught I will miscarriage the baby because beating was too much oo, but after that he didn’t talk to me , I become his worst enemy but as soon as my baby was born , he forgive and forget . My parents didn’t hate him anymore for the sake of our daughter , they let him come and visit us in the house but he is shy and doesn’t come often and my dad told my sister to stop insulting him but she wouldn’t listen. So if my parents could forgive and forget and why can’t she ?quote author=PerseDew post=85600058]

Your parents travelled and he took the opportunity to come to your house, you sis has been insulting him steady long before now, pls what was he expecting?? If your parents were at home, would they have welcomed him with open arms? He knew he was not welcomed in that house but went ahead to visit..if this is not looking for trouble then tell me what it is.

Like I said, she may be faulted but you and even him started it.[/quote]

He is not a idiot please stop calling him that, for now he stays with friends by God grace we will be living together soon

OgbeniOja1:
To live with the idiot that loves you now