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yes I’m not evil I’m kid hearted more nicer than my sister . I’m not at home right now but maybe I will confess later but am scared

Riele:
Lmao .

You think you're not evil ??

If this story is true , you'll realize your mistakes sooner than you think .

If you really love your sister , the thought of harming her in the way you did wouldn't have occurred to you .

You love her ? , drop your phone right now and confess to her .

Yes I accept my actions was very wrong and I regret it but she and her fiancé had no right to beat me because they are not my parents. My dad beat me for getting pregnant , yes he did right because it’s my parent but apart from him or mum nobody else have the right to judge me and do you think what she did was good by making me loose my confidence and motivation ?

LilMissFavvy:
If your sister allowed her fiance to beat you up for bringing disgrace to the family how would you feel? If she should beat you for opening your legs at 15 how would you feel? Or to beat you for dragging her into your financial issues, how would you feel? Stop defending yourself, all your actions were wrong.

Actually she sat on me and was beating me so when the beating was too much , he just couldn’t stand them watching her beating me so he pulled her and throw her on the floor , so I had to holds her hands while he was giving her small slaps to calm her down

Vanzcharles:
So, he slapped your sister...hmmnnnn whike slapping her what was she doing? Did she fight back? There is nothing like small slap hope you know that?

I did it out of anger and I regret my actions

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Of course I will tell her because I love my sister even taught she never loved me but me I loves her plenty and what I did was stupid and evil but that doesn’t make me evil.

Riele:
Her sister might never know the truth . It's obvious from her post that she won't confess her evil .

Yes sir u got it right that was what really happened. My guy didn’t beat her for the insult because if he did beat her for all the insult she gave him for the past 5 years, he would have badly beat and injure her maybe she would have end up at the hospital. But he only gave her small slaps , that was all

Vanzcharles:
She was beating you now, that was because you slapped her and you in turn fought her too, tgen seeing you losing the fight that triggered your baby daddy to fight for you becos he loves you am I not right? She felt insulted that an outsider would touch her so she called the police. Your baby daddy also took the opportunity to beat her up because of the insult she hauled at him is it not so? Also, you said he beat her with respect , am confused here, what do you mean to beat with respect? Also how did GE beat her font hide anything say the truth. Did he blow? Slap? Push? Please help expAnciate a little on this side of the story?

She was beating me so My guy beat her up for self defence. he beat her with respect so it wasn’t that bad. She arrested us to proof that she has the money and can do whatever she like

comtem2011:
She slapped her elder sister and her boyfriend beat the elder sister as well.

And you said she should not arrest them?

Am trying but it is not that easy
. Don’t even know where to start

Vanzcharles:
If you love her as you said, why not help her out before its too late. The m8stake is done so no need for castigation when you still have time to make restitution.

Thanks a lot

CuteNbad:
Okay,i wish you and him well.Just do what I ask you to do to get your sister her fiancé back Cus that is the most important thing right now. Take care dear

Ok

Riele:
You're welcome ! .

If you think replying me with soft words will make me feel bad for the insult , then you're On Your Own .

Have it at the back of your mind that you're a F00l .

Yes we do have sex together and men do stick with women for money but no sex and I don’t think that he only loves me for sex because there are many women here in port harcourt he can sex anytime he want with them but what I know is he truly loves and Care about me , he want to be with me for lifetime.

CuteNbad:
Ifyjos pls tell me,do you still have sex with your boyfriend? If yes,that is where the problem lies.He still get sex from you that is why you think he loves you. Try to take away sex from your relationship with him and see if he will still stay. The truth is he won't stay again and move unto another woman that will be giving him sex.

Right now what you need to do is to tell your sister's fiancé the truth without him knowing it's you. To achieve this you will need to call those 7 guys and 2 girls that did the job and let them call him again an say it's false,that his girlfriend (that is your sister) offended them that is why they decided to damage her relationship with him so she can feel pains too.

If your sister fiancé asked what your sister did,just say that she offended them that is all and cut the call. Honestly I want to do this all alone because my guy doesn’t want anything to do with my sister name and he thinks that doing this to her was the right thing and she deserved everything but I don’t blame him after everything she put us through but I still love and care about her that is why I’m looking for a way to get them back together without them knowing I was the culprit

Make sure that every number you used that day to call your sister fiancé is the same number you will use for the job again. Even if it's 9 numbers you used,use every of the nine numbers and everyone that threatened him should again call to apologized and say that his fiancé (your sister) offended them that is why they decided to treat her Bleep up but he should go back to her Cus they were just lying and that everything is not true.


Hope you talk this advice,Good day and pls make your sister happy again

Yes u r right , it was bad but God is not stupid for blessing me with my precious daughter. I don’t regret it

DTC2:
Your elder sister is right. You should have closed your legs. You got pregnant at the age of 15, that's bad

Thank you

Riele:
Believe me what I'm about to call you is the most polite word I could use .

You're Just one big FOOL .

Of course I do care about my sister and if I didn’t then I wouldn’t be here seeking advice on how to get her and fiancé back together. Some people are concentrating on insulting my guy and me instead of resolving the problem I have . I don’t have peace of mind, my sister is in pain and to know that I have been the one that caused her pain it just break my heart. I have left the house since 7am and I’m still at my friend house and won’t go back home until evening because I can’t longer bear to see in her pain. I love my sister she is my everything

Riele:
You sound so dumb for someone that's 20 years old .

You think life's is so easy that he can just build houses , buy cars send kids abroad with a car washing job ??

What you did was wrong ! . Though your sis sent you to cell .

I've read most of your replies here , you sound selfish and unrepentant .

You care for yourself and your sperm donor alone . You're not even thinking of what your sister is going through now .

I just hope Karma visits you someday .

Back to the sender

Riele:
Only death will separate you and him

And guess what ?? . That death is around the corner .

Ok if he leaves me it won’t be the end of the world too , but what I know is that me and him will grow old together . Only death can separate us.

queengift:
Both of you are evil, you can kill, mark my words that boy will leave you one day, and he will remind of your actions. You can never be trusted. evil girl

Am not a horrible mother , she is my number one priority and I love her more than anything in this world

kingRagnarr:
And i really pitty your daughter cos she have a horrible mother

Am scared to confess because of the outcome but seeing her in pain and tears makes me guilty all the time. I just don’t know how to get both of them together without them knowing i was the culprit

kingRagnarr:
See don’t confess... I repeat dont confess ooo... cos i swear to god if am your sister i will kill you.

He is a car washer and he has better plans for the future , his goals are to start up businesses , marry me , built a house , buy cars and send our daughter to study abroad. In Hid we trust

Ausrichie:
And he cannot pay your daughters fees all the time. Okay what does he do for a living and what are his future goals.

Am not a single mum because my guy takes care of me and our child , a single mum doesn’t get any help from the so called father. Am not suffering because I have never depend on her and her money didn’t mean anything to me. My guy is a car washer and I make people hair at home with that little we get , we can afford a 3 square meal and for my father medication is not a problem because I have other siblings that will contribute

eyinjuege:
You are still a single mum dear.
Your sufferings have just started as the bread winner for your family is now jobless.
Your father is sick and will need money for his care. Just know you contributed to your father's death also, because it's just a matter of time before hunger and no money to buy drugs will hasten his time.

We lives with our parents and yes she provided foods and clothes for my daughter which is normal for her to do because my daughter is also her daughter. I have brought foods in the house , everything we ate for Xmas and new year was from the money that my guy gave to
Me to buy foodstuffs. Yes God will provide for us , he will be rich , marry me and we will happily

FloraEC:
Alright, so you've been in your parents house since with your sister. Since she's almost the breadwinner, that means she provided food, clothing for your daughter too. What have you brought to the house? They didn't even send you off to the guys family but still accepted you. Have you ever sat down and asked yourself how stressful it's for her and you paid her back with this just because of lust. Instead of you to build yourself up, get a certificate or handwork you schemed with your caring boyfriend to bring her down.
He'll surely have his own house na, so you can move in with him and continue procreating maybe finally marry him since that's all you can think of.

Fiction or not, all the best

Thank you so much for your suggestions

grandstar:
Ifyjos

Do you love your life the way it is? Do you desire a better future for yourself and for your kid? And most importantly, do you believe in your heart you can have a better future?

From the way you are living, it is obvious you have lost hope in any future whatsoever. That is the root of your problem.

Your sister's self-righteous and I am beyond sin nagging might have been very harsh and counterproductive but focus on how to better yourself henceforth!

Come clean (Proverbs 28:13). Call your sister's beau and let him know you sabotaged their relationship. Ask God for forgiveness.

Your sister might decide to deal with you. You may have to disappear for a while. Your disappearance should be to achieve 2 things:

1. Make your parents worried
Your parents may want to punish you and other members of the family as well but your disappearance for a long period of time will make them instead beg for you to just return. That there be no punishment from anyone whatsoever.

2. Plans must be made for your future
It is time for you and whoever can help you to plan for a better future. One of the conditions for coming back is that you want a better future for you and your child. They must be ready to assist you to achieve that aim. That you are miserable and unhappy.

You too must have some plans. Yorubas say that if you want to help someone place a bag on their head, the person too must bend down.

What skill do you want to learn? What business do you want to engage in? What skill do you presently have can be put to use?

Can you sell Okrika? It brings in cash. You can even set up a YouTube channel based on your life as a young single mum. A 5-minute video once a week or even every day can snowball in a year to about a $1,000 monthly and probably $10,000 monthly in 3 years if you include adverts from people or you promote your own products.

There's Instagram as well. This might be much easier. Take a picture or 2 every day and say something. Tell people about your journey and aspirations. Same with YouTube. If you reach 10,000 followers or more, you can start doing shoutouts for people and earning money. You can also promote products.

For you to make money on those 2 platforms, you need dedication, persistence, and endurance. Within 3 years at most, you'll be making very good money.

Is your boyfriend worthy to be part of that future? Your relationship with him seems to keep you in limbo. Tell him no more sex and stick to it. See if he stays. Your associates matter a lot.(Read 1 Corinthians 10:33). Your family seems to be a high aspiration family whilst his are a low aspiration family.

What plans does he have for himself? Can you help him spread his wings? Does he even have wings? Will you be proud to be his wife?

I wish you the best

He will have his house soon

FloraEC:
Your supposed caring baby daddy nkọ? He can't house and feed you

My sister doesn’t have a house , we lives together in our father house and she and me have the same right in the house. my guy visited only and we seated outside and it wasn’t as if she came and found him on the top of me.when she came back and saw us all she should just walked away and go inside but she choose to insults.

DrayZee:
This is the most evil act I have seen or heard of in recent times.

You actually went to your sisters house with your guy to beat her up...then you sat down and planned carefully, hired people to destroy her marriage...

...and on top of all that, you feel absolutely no remorse whatsoever


May The Lord never allow us encounter people like you. You destroyed your own sisters' entire life because she insulted a man who clearly deserved it? You sat down and planned the destruction of your sisters life?

Thank you so much

Oluvan:
There are some spiritual deficiencies in your life which made you get to that extent to hurt your sister. Temperance and longsuffering are key virtue the Holy Spirit gives to people who are in correct relationship with Jesus to enable them with any situation according to the will of God.

First thing first, seek for salvation from sin and the root of bitterness entrenched within you by repenting of your sinful ways and believe in Jesus for the salvation of your soul. Thereafter, you can see your Pastor for counsel.

Do it God's way and it shall be well with you now and in eternity.

Thanks for your suggestions. God bless u

Gloriagee:
What does having low self esteem have to do with learning tailoring.
When you wake up in the morning,
Tell your self, I am awesome, I am blessed, I am fabulous. Time waits for no one, start the learning as early as you can.

I don’t have anywhere to go

Malawian:
Yes. Put it all in writing. Your sister's main issue is loss of her fiance. Hope you have found somewhere to live where your sister wont get to you after all is said and done.

It’s not a big deal if we cannot afford her school fees , she will stay at home until the money come but God will provide for us

Alwaysachick:
Compliwhat.....Op is just plain useless and heartless and stupid. You will reap the consequences of your action soon.

Wait, school fees and other bills will soon come calling. You will soon know who the enemy is, your sis or boy friend?


Silly thing, make sure you inform her about how you ruined her relationship now to see if there can be remedies.

Hain? Your sister? I wonder what you will do if were a friend. . So things like this happen? I'm �

I didn’t finish secondary school and i don’t have SSCE certificate , but I want to learn tailoring so I can be a professional fashion designer , but I’m not working on it yet because I have low self esteem

Gloriagee:
Which is a start. I don't look down on you for that but surely you know you can be a lot more. Do you have your SSCE? Do you want to own a salon? Can you work in an established one so you learn about their processes,
Billing etc?
What are your life goals and how are you working to achieve them? As you can see, even after your sister lost her job and fiance, still your issues remain. Work on bettering yourself and no one will care that you are a single mum

It was my wish to go back to school but my parents didn’t send me back and what do you expect me to do? To go and do prostitution just for school? By the way who school help ? Anyway I want to learn tailoring but I don’t have the money yet but I trust my God , this new year will be great for me .

Mom007:
You are a real problem child and you will still suffer for what you did to a sister who was only trying to rescue you from the foolish road you decided to follow. You got pregnant and had a child outside wedlock, instead of comporting yourself, trying to learn a skill or trying to go back to school to better your life, you still clung to wayward baby daddy who cannot even marry you and put you in his house. You even bring him into your family home to continue your rubbish. Your sister is trying to correct you yet see how you repay her.. You are everything a parent pray against in a child. One who will not learn from mistake. Nonsense.

No I don’t know because I’m not in her shoes and I don’t want to be in her shoes too , I regret my actions and I wish I didn’t do it in the first place , that’s why I came here seeking for advice because I do care and love her so much , I just want her to be happy again

cappucino925:
what you did was too Bad...... do you know what is feels like for a relationship and a life time marriage to be cancelled?...... The only way out of this is to confess and ask for forgiveness



I Pray your elder sister has a forgiving heart ....and to those fools who encouraged you to do this I pity their future

don't let your emotions lead You into Bad toughts

I make people hair at home

Gloriagee:
Typical Nigerian. Calling God after wickedness. Do the better plans God has for you include lying on your sister and breaking her relationship.
Let me explain something to you about the way God works. He blesses the works of your hands. Which work are you doing? He is also angry with the wicked every day but ready to forgive.