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Where did I say that she asked me to suffocated my baby , all I was trying to ask u is so because she work and wake up early so I have to suffocate or kill my baby ? That’s what I meant. I’m not ungrateful and I will never be one but I refuse to be her slave by just because she gives me money. She is not working and where will she get the money to give me ? By the way it’s a new year and my year of breaking limits so I will hustle hard and I don’t need any help. God will provide . You can insult me as much you like , it doesn’t affect me because my daughter is the best ever and I don’t regret having her. Am
Nothing without her.

CeterisXVII:
You are even lying against your sister again! Can you swear on the Bible that she asked you to suffocate your baby?

Nobody forced her to contribute to the running of the house, but she did it, because she is a responsible person.

You cannot afford to do it, yet you sneer at the person doing it, and look down on her, too. That is so bad.

You cannot even afford 20k, yet you are making mouth and saying things like "what is 20k?" I repeat: You are an ungrateful person. If you ever collect money from your sister again, after all you said here .....it will not end well for you!

Finally you said, your sister is not fertile. Are you her doctor? Or are you her God? You are busy spreading evil rumours about her fertility, online.

Better pray for forgiveness, or else God will judge you for your wayward nonsensical behaviour.

You had a baby at 15, because you were simply wayward, and clueless! Stop lying to yourself that it was because you were fertile.

He is an orphan that’s why he is life is bad and if he had parents he wouldn’t be in this conditions but God will bless him soon

CeterisXVII:
You are still talking crap. Tell your boyfriend's family, to provide you with accommodation.

Since you have given birth to a child for their son, they should be able to arrange a separate place for you, since he wants to be visiting you regularly, and you cannot cope with your sister's insults.....abí?

So because she was working and waking early And if my child cry so I have to suffocated her because the queen of Nigeria was sleeping no way , all baby do cry and no way I would have kill my child just to make her happy , well she was buoyant enough to rent a place and sleep in peace. I don’t have any money to contribute but I do contribute with house chores and that’s more than enough and nobody forced or put a gun on her head to be contributing for the house and she did it for the sake of our parents which is her duty . Yes if I have more hair customers I can earn more than that 20k and I have nothing in my saving but as long I’m alive I know that someday i will pay her back that money and it will be more than 2millions. I accepted because of my child education matter if not I would have rejected.
Am not God but I know she is not fertile and she wish to be in my place to have a baby just like me and she has been jealous of me because at my age only 15 I can have a baby and she doesn’t ( I know what am talking about but I won’t go in details ) , she doesn’t discipline herself because she is not a virgin only virgins do discipline themselves. Yes I’m very proud of my child and I wouldn’t change her for the world. She is my pride and joy ,she is my doctor in the making

CeterisXVII:
It is your father's house? Very good. So that means that she too is entitled to peace and quiet, in that same house. When she was still working, she would have to get to work early, which is why it was important for her to sleep properly, without your baby disturbing her.

Not only that, you should also equally contribute to the running of that house, by spending exactly the same amount she spends on running everything, inside that house.

Secondly, you are saying all she has given you is not more than 20k. Can you earn that 20k on a weekly basis?

How much do you even have in your own account, that you are talking like this? You are rather ungrateful. Why didn't you reject the money, when she was giving it to you?

You claim you don't need her help. Good. Starting from now, never beg her for money again, if your daughter runs out of food, nappies or school materials.

Even if they chase your daughter out of school for non-payment of fees, please do not ask your sister for a penny. Let us see how your ungrateful self will cope, if your boyfriend is also too broke to pay the fees.

You even have the guts to say it is not your fault that you are fertile, and she is not. Who told you she is NOT fertile? Are you her doctor?

Isn't it because she is a disciplined person, who does not want to have a child outside wedlock, like you?

You are even taking pride in having a child at 15 years, and saying it is because you are fertile. Nah! Stop lying to yourself. You had a child at 15 because you were daft and wayward!

Where did I say she is a charity ? After all we don’t depends on her because at the moment she is not working and we are living fine and my daughter is still going to school. I didn’t even care about her money because I make hair too and I make my own money and my guy work hard for us to be well

Ehibiggirl:
so the sister is now a charity organization that removes people from poverty.
What some of you write here is just disappointing.
Did you not read that the sister is the breadwinner of her family? She should kill her self trying to please the world because her olodo of a sister got with an NFA,do you even know how much she earned? Judging by what the silly Op termed as good is an exaggeration of any thing minute since her brain isn’t functional. Even if the sister is richer than Jeff bezos she owes her no obligation to cater for her needs and that of her love child, if the tables were turned so you think this op would care for her sister? She would have been worse, she is just an insufferable entitled little sad toad with a very bad character and attitude towards people.i won’t be surprised is she is very rude to her parents too.

Being older doesn’t give her the right to insult me or my guy as she like , after all I wasn’t staying in her house , it’s our father house and we have the same right to leave in peace. Yeah right she doesn’t owe me or my child anything because my child is my and my guy responsibilities and we didn’t need her help unless we don’t have any money and from all the help that we have received from her if I count it and it won’t even be more than 20k and so what’s 20k?
Yes she kill me with her words and it’s not my fault that I’m fertile and God bless me with a beautiful angel and she doesn’t have any yet

CeterisXVII:
You are not serious. Your sister is over 10 years older than you are (i.e. she is 32 and you are just 20), yet you are wailing that she is insulting you, after you got pregnant at 15. Another person will develop a thick skin to those insults, and just look for ways to improve her life.

Secondly, you say she does not attend to your baby when you are doing chores. So do you want to turn her to a nanny or babysitter, by force? You are the only one with responsibility for your child. She doesn't owe you.....shíshí!

If your baby runs out of nappies, your boyfriend should be able to buy them, for her....so why didn't he do so, that you now have to go begging your sister, for money?

Finally, you are saying she killed you alive with her words. What were you expecting? That she would pat you on the back, pamper you and give you an award?? After getting pregnant at 15, for a smoker who drinks, yet has no tangible income?

I don’t have any problem leaving in the same house with her so because she had a problem with me being there, so it would have be better for her to leave and go to her fiancé or rent a house for herself, if she did then all this wouldn’t happened.

CeterisXVII:
She should leave the house for you? Can you see how silly that sounds? Why don't you leave the house for her, and go and squat with your boyfriend?

He is 29

DexterousOne:
Okay then

If you don't mind
Can you pls indicate the age of this man who loves you so much ?


I'll give him one credit tho
Just one

He did not run away or deny his pregnancy
That's good of him
Many young men will jaa

Pls r u a man or woman ?

izzygoing:
this is my number 09090449871 call me immediately

Ok thanks

izzygoing:
can you call me? let me help u since you are scared

In fact, check your inbox and get back to me.

Ok I will try and tell them the truth but suicide is far away from me.

izzygoing:
My dear, what u did to your own blood elder sister was very very bad, but who am I to judge you, the only thing u need now is good counseling, and also try and open up on time before it is too late. with the backlash, you are getting here if you don't make things right before your sister finds out, u might even commit suicide.

He did not messed up with my life at all. We are together and our relationship is strong

DexterousOne:
This is another thing...
The guy may be an adult who messed with her when she was 15

Please don’t be , I love him the way it is and am
Not ashamed of him

sedutrice:
I am saddened by this news

Yes I will beg her because I want to be set free and be in peace

Fastestmanalive:
See you I feel bad for u sef Instead of you to beg for her forgiveness so God can forgive you you're keeping quiet

Well...

True

Markjohnnjoya:
What you did was very wrong.

Yes it is not a big deal

Fastestmanalive:
Ehen so you would make ur innocent child stay at home because ur area boy husband can't foot the bills

Yes u are right , what we did was so bad , I regrets my actions and am trying to reunite them again. I will try to go to his office in the afternoon and hope he will accept to see me

ezesun:
I am sorry to say this, but you guys did very bad. You and your guy should have tried to get better rather than destroying another person's career and home. I do not expect her to forgive you except through divine intervation. I think you should come clean and explain things to her ex fiance, may be things can be restored.

Thank you so much sir . I will private message you

EhisChelsea1:
Counselling comes at a cost but if u are ready and willing to change and heal, could get u a counsellor for free.....

But that will ONLY be after you do the right thing by remedying what u have done.

U are just 20, u are just starting life. u still have an entire future before you...u can still be whatever you wish to be in life... Go to school, learn a trade, acquire skills and get to the peak in ur chosen career even before 40....

...but u must drop some certain attitude... One if which is this self-defensive nature... U must not defend urself or try to justify what u did. Accept your wrong, and seek ways to make it right...

...i bet u, had u come here with a broken heart willing and ready to restitute for what u did, u would have gotten more sympathy from members..... It also shows that if u approach yr restitution with this attitude, u will be hated and castigated more.... But there is a way u go abat it that though u will be reprimanded and rebuked, u will still be forgiven and reintegrated into ur home....

Just reach out.... Send a DM and u will get connected to professionals who can help u heal and reintegrated back to society.... Good luck

The problem is that I don’t think my guy , his friends and the 2 girls will be ready to open up , honestly haven’t told my guy about this because he just hates everything about my sister, he get so angry anytime I mentioned her name and I am the only one who want to say the truth . I just don’t know what else to do

Vanzcharles:
He might not respond well make sure you give him proves if not he would think that you are trying to make it up for your sister. He might not bulge

Thanks

imustsaymymindo:
Great future plans.

How does counselling work and where to go for it ? It is free of charge please ?

Hestywhyt:
Yea...i suggested that to her already but she doesn't think same way

Thanks your are right. I have an idea and I don’t know if it will be the best way to do it. What if I recorded myself voice recording narrating everything then send the voices to my sister fiancé on WhatsApp ( I will need to use a new number because he has blocked me , my sister and my cousin numbers) and please let me know if it’s a good idea

ffo:
If you do it anonymously, he won't believe you, he would think your sister is trying to arrange that

am proud to be cheap and happy to be with him, he is my crown and the best man ever

quote author=Ehibiggirl post=85624099]then you are too cheap de doesn’t need to pay your bride price you both can camp under a bridge in port harcourt.
What does a 14 year old know about sex and having an illiterate boyfriend tori oloun?
You started having sex at that age tells about you and that you even pride yourself in it is another level of irresponsibility
Continue having the sex life will soon hit you hard.[/quote]

I do.make people hair at home and my goal is to learn tailoring and become a professional fashion designer. I cannot and will never turn my parents house to an hostel, if we want to do that thing we know where to go and he only came to visit us we were outside of the house, she should have mind her business and let us be. Whenever her fiance used to visit her at home , I mind my business and I had never complains about him coming to our house so why does she have to complains about mine ?


quote author=Xmen149 post=85623415]

turn the scenario to a prank

Use the same means..let those people call the fiance back to let him know they are group of concerned friends whom must not be named but wanted to be sure the love he has for her is genuine but he failed but if he intend to do better he should go back and be.

Then as for you,.no one in this forken planet owes you a forken thing except your parents (to a certain age)

if the man that has been forken you to make you preg at 15 has not married you then thats what he is "the man that has been 4kn you"..you should keep him away from the house and take the kid to see him when he gets an apartment. dnt turn your parents house to a harlot home

In all your stories you v not said what you do or is beign 21 a skill or occupation...if you cant keep whats yours and in between you legs safe how can you keep a business from another persons sweat safe and running if entrusted to you or your eazy-E of a boyfriend

Dnt ever make marriage your last bustop,have a dream and work towards achieving it gradually and stop coursing nuisance....Your parents traveled and you brought your isi-okuko of a boyfriend to come and play tango in your house and you expect your elder to be happy..hotels don finish?

you know nothing,you are just a jealous kid[/quote]

Ok I will tell him but its not easy doing for me to do it face to face , but am thinking of doing it anonymous with a new number without mentioning it is me.

quote author=DrayZee post=85623100]

You are still defending yourself..na the one wey dey vex me pass. It's as if you see no wrong in what you did at all.

I'm sure it's this insufferable behavior that made you get with a 24 year old at the age of 15. I'm very very sure you were warned, but your strong head did not allow you to hear word.

Now they are telling you to go and tell the fiancé what you did, and you're here talking about being scared. You were not scared when you were using days and gathering people to destroy your sisters life.

For once in your life think...just this once. Stop defending all your rubbish and go sort things out. I can't believe someone like you really exists.[/quote]

Yes I know that too , we lives at home with parents but she was suffocating me as if I'm living in her house , the house doesn't belongs to both of us so she should have respect herself and mind her business and if she couldn't stand seeing me in the same house as her , all she could do was to park and move to her fiance or rent a house for herself and let me stay in my parents house in peace until my guy is ready to pay my pride price.

quote author=LilMissFavvy post=85620626]Your upbringing must have been very bad and your morals are totally flawed, otherwise you should know that a lady moves into her husband's house after marriage is properly conducted, your sister knows this, she is responsible. I have sisters, I know this as well. You that began opening your legs in young age and have a child should have gone to live with a man, try and change for the better, hope with this poor mindset you will bring up your child properly.[/quote]

Yes I choose to have sex before marriage , it's my body and choice

ote author=Ehibiggirl post=85620098]but you can have sex with him when he hasn’t paid your bride price abi?
Even if they donate your brain for research it will still be useless[/quote]

I don't think he is married because its only 3 months since they broke up.

vivienD:
Ifyjos,what about ur sister fiancé?is he married now,if he is still single pls call him and confess everything to him because that’s the only way u can make your sister happy.

U are not even sorry with the comments u v been replying,u still justifying ur act and pls note that ur baby daddy doesn’t love you if not he wouldn’t v instigated such evil act against someone who is taking care of his child.

Call ur parents and confess to them cos only you cannot confess to ur sister and beg for her forgiveness,u need elders to help u do that to avoid harm

Lastly ur sis is not obligated to take care of ur child cos u keep insisting that it’s her right to do so,she didn’t join u to v sex.


Summary of all this is that U my dear is that u need guidance,ur baby daddy expects ur sis to open a business for him?is that one a man?u don’t v future for urself all u think is just money and marriage.Ur life does not stop cos u v a child

Her fiance has a house she should have go and leave with him instead of stressing my life

quote author=LilMissFavvy post=85619103]Your elder sister has every right to beat and caution you when you go wrong, especially if your parents were not doing well in training you, your sister had all the right to call you out when you began going wayward at a young age, if your baby daddy foot the bills and rent an apartment for you and baby, by now you would not stay in same house to stress your sister.[/quote]

She will be 32 in September, yes I just couldn't wait for her to get married and leave the house because she has been an obstacle for me. I have caused her pain but I think the pain that I have caused her is not the same as the one she caused me for almost 6 years now. All the insults, humiliations, disgrace , mocking , when my baby was younger if the baby cried at night , she will kick me out of then room to sleep there just because she is going to work in the morning and she want no noises , if am doing chores and my baby is crying she will not attend to the baby and left her to cry her eyes out , if my baby run out of nappies she will insult the hell out of me did I ask you to go and open your legs , go and use one your cloth as a nappy , do you know how much she hurt and kill me alive with her words all those years and if a outsider is mocking you it hurt so bad but imagine your own blood sister insulting you and mocking me, my heart bleeds so bad. I regret what I did that's why I'm trying to fix her up and God knows that I am evil

uote author=Vanzcharles post=85618826]she senior you no b small ooo now do you realize that she go soon old, imagine if she doesn't marry at all maybe gets too old you should understand the pain you have caused her I think she has gone far with her fiance. Now, she has to start again I think she may be 32 years this year right. Age is not on her side .
Your sister might have caused you pain , I know she did that out of her disappointment in you she should not have said those words to you but do you know that this is not the time to think of those it . you said she might have ruined you but do you know you are on the verge of destroying her for life! Look at her age[/quote]

So you are trying to tell me that your sister child is not your child? And u cant take care of your niece / nephew needs ?

quote author=Gloriagee post=85619331]Now you're over doing it. U were a lil bit believable at some point but now, I know ure kidding. Your daughter is her daughter, really?[/quote]

She is 31

Vanzcharles:
Babe, I don confuse for this your story again .... See do what concern you after all its your sister and she beat you? How old is your sister?

My anger was because she got us arrested and made me to be away from my daughter for 3 whole days . My baby suffered in those 3 days , she lost appetites and sleep just because I wasn’t there with her and imagine my sister wanted us to be there for longer and what would have happen to my child ?

Riele:
She wouldn't listen .

According to her , she was angry at what her sister did .

But what kind of anger last enough to organize 7 men 2 female to frame her sister ?