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Romance / Re: Help! My Younger Sister Is About To End My Relationship. by ikechukwu21(m): 9:34am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Please for those who have experienced this... How did it turn out? How did you handle the situation? This lady, I suppose, is refreshing this page and reading comments as they drop here. It's urgent. |
Romance / Re: Help! My Younger Sister Is About To End My Relationship. by ikechukwu21(m): 9:23am On Dec 30, 2019 |
ghettokid1:Please no stupid and unreasonable comments. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Help! My Younger Sister Is About To End My Relationship. by ikechukwu21(m): 9:19am On Dec 30, 2019 |
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Romance / Help! My Younger Sister Is About To End My Relationship. by ikechukwu21(m): 9:19am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Hello guys this is an issue that requires immediate attention. Please no insults. Not everyone is strong enough to receive them. Don't say words that will affect this person negatively. This issue was just brought up in a WhatsApp group which I belong to called LOVERS COACH https:///EWuKAn6gv7VFgcqRL9V5Qf It's a group where relationship issues are tackled. But this one pass our power so I asked for permission to bring it to this wider audience. We trust you will profer realistic solutions to this dear lady. Please if you've been in this situation before, let us know how you solved it. Thanks. HEART ON FIRE�1 Advise needed...... Hi guys I know I can rely on you guys for a suiting advice on this matter. I have been in relationship with this guy for over a year now. I have observed my man carefully and I see he cares about me and am happy about it. my area of concern now is that my man visited me this season of Christmas and saw my younger sister that came back from school to spend Christmas with us. I have been observing the closeness of my man with my younger sister and I feel that it is un-called for. At times they leave for hang outs and abandon me at home. I observed the mood of my sister that she is now in love with my man. I have heard cases where the younger sister snatched their older sister's men. I'm scared. What should I do now in order not to loose my man to my younger sister? Please mods move this to front page. This lady urgently needs help. Thanks |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 5:45pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Ariza:Thanks man. Attack na normal thing. Most people are fixed in their ideologies. Not everyone is opened to learning and change and that's why some people suffer to painfully go through the window instead of going through the door that was unlocked all the while. Lack of knowledge is truly an evil thing. It's just like those that grew up with the mindset that mathematics is difficult. If they don't meet someone to help correct that information they will keep dreading and failing mathematics for as long as they live. So it's not because mathematics is truly difficult but because they hold an unchanging and unbending view that it is. What you strongly believe, overtime becomes real. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 5:33pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
NathanAnomaly: Oga calm down. Life is not a one way traffic. Take it or leave it you cannot impress every woman with your money. How much you get wey person never get before and even exceed? It doesn't matter how many have dumped their men for money-loaded guys. That's not what this article is meant to address. Rather this article is for people like you who believe in the supremacy of money over love. Believe it or not, not every woman is moved by money. For some, if you don't have anything else apart from that, you can check out the next available girl for all they care. PS: I have dated both good and money-driven women in the past. What I discovered was that women who love money are either too lazy to think of how to make their own money or they feel big to start small, some are from poor homes while others have entitlement mentality. These ones see relationship as a means to an end. This post is to prove a point which is that for some women who settled with broke guys today, they had received proposals and advances from wealthy men at some point yet they declined. Everyone has what they're looking for. It's just like a market... Everyone comes there but not all are buying the same thing. They all came with individual lists. So please if you're used to only women who demand for your money then I'm sorry to say that you've been meeting with only one kind and mostly it's your money-before-love-mindset that draws them to you. It's just like saying all men like football or beer or sex. You know that's not true. Most men may like those stuff but certainly not all. Not everyone is drawn to the same thing. They may be in the minority but still they exist. The post is not endorsing poverty as you can clearly see. We're only saying that if you like make all the money in this world not all women will look your way because of the money. Most may look your way but not all because money is not the first thing on their own list. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 2:42pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
favoryte33:I feel your pain. Sorry for your loss Bro. |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 2:37pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
MrCork:This is a true evidence that most people don't read. How will you add value like this my man? |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 2:34pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Adiwana:I suppose that is your surname? Just asking Bro |
Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 2:33pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
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Romance / Re: Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 1:39pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
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Romance / Why Do Most Men Believe That All Women Want Is Money? by ikechukwu21(m): 1:38pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
I am a man as you already can clearly see from my moniker so there's no need trying to get upset as though it was a woman who is writing this post just to defend her gender. Few days ago this great post emerged on the front page https://www.nairaland.com/5585155/money-delaying-getting-married-read titled "If money is delaying you from getting married..." and I must say that I was impressed just like a whole lot of others too and we can judge by the almost 800 likes that post gathered. So why did that post gather so much likes? It is simply because the guy in question was bold enough to do what most men think is impossible. I read some comments on how that he will suffer and all that silly talk. Some even went as far as insulting him. But take it or leave it that post has changed a lot of wrong perceptions that has been formed by young people in our generation. I read that post carefully and I came up with few conclusions: The young man claimed that the lady in question is a virgin. Now we know that a virgin who has reached the age of marriage is hard to come by. Why is this so? This is because of the high moral decadence in our generation. So for a lady to preserve herself for maybe over 25 years amidst the tension and pressure around her to conform is highly impressive. She must have sustained a very high level of discipline to be able to do that. So how can a guy who cannot even afford to raise 500k be able to get her to accept marrying him knowing very well that so many guys with much money had failed to convince her without any success? There could only be few reasons... 1. He must have something that is more valuable than money at the moment which is a sound mind. Now what is a sound mind? This is the ability for one to be able to develop their mind spiritually and physically. It is the ability to operate with a wisdom that is rare. It is the ability to see deep into people and be able to bring out the best in them. You see, it is impossible for you to encounter someone with a sound mind without being affected positively forever. A man with a sound mind has a plan for his life and knows how to go about it even though you may not always agree with his methods. A man with sound mind can be able to navigate life very well even without money and still have the required results he wants. A. Man with a sound mind is a leader. He knows what to do per time. He is hardly stranded nor confused. This is just to mention a few. Now as easy as this 'sounds', many people do not possess it. Most people have a mind but not a sound one. Women of this stature look for men with this kind of mindset. They need real men not grown up boys with some money to throw around. 2. Value: Anything with value naturally is expensive. What make a thing expensive? It is the fact that a lot of work and expertise was required to make it become unique. Now a man of value has invested much in himself in terms of knowledge both spiritually and in other matters. Haven't you heard women pray for God to give them a God fearing man? He must not necessarily be a pastor but he must be a man who can be a priest to lead his family to God. But that's not all. Men of value are men who have subjected themselves to much learning hence are less ignorant about various aspects of life. Such men may not have money at the moment but give them time and you'll be surprised what they'll become. 3. Honesty: honesty is one thing that is rare in our generation. A man will hustle from Monday to Saturday only to squander all the money on a woman just to impress her; just to make her see him as a big boy which actually he isn't. Women of value can read through such men. Any woman you lose because you tell her your true financial state is not actually a good woman. She was there for your money. 4. Being a man of yourself: Most men are too clingy and insecured. They are like cry babies. They have no self control. They can hardly stay away from their woman for a whole day. Some men are too jealous and controlling. It's as if they don't have a life outside their relationship. A girl once told me that the guy she's dating is too nice and she always gets irritated with the way he clings to her. He can't seem to make any decisions on his own without consulting her first. She was even questioning whether he had any friends to hang out with apart from her. This guy was making serious money o. Sometimes he is even being paid in hard currecy. But guess what? She left him for me who didn't even have one naira to give her. I was even staying in a one room apartment then. If you see this babe ehn... Over fine and shape dey worry her. 5: She needs a partner not just a husband. A smart woman needs a man with whom she can work together with and who will also challenge her to grow not just a man who throws money at her face. Such men are rare. Bonus:A man who is funny: Do you know that the most dangerous guys are not the ones with good looks or much money? They are the funny ones. They will keep making a woman laugh until she remove... . Lol funny but true. Now I'm not actually asking you to be a comedian but please be cheerful and optimistic. Let your cheerfulness be contagious. Let me stop here. But the main thing is don't try to be someone else. Improve yourself, work hard and if possible get a woman when you're still broke so both of you can grow together. This is the type that will understand your life process and journey to wealth not just a a stranger you bring in when you have finally made the money and have become grandpa with semi white hair. For those of you who wish to argue with me I have just one question for you: WAS YOUR FATHER A MILLIONAIRE BEFORE HE MARRIED YOUR MOTHER? THOSE WHO ARE MILLIONAIRES IN OUR GENERATION... ARE THEIR MARRIAGES AS PEACEFUL AND LONG LASTING AS THOSE OF OUR PARENTS WHO DIDN'T HAVE ANYTHING BEFORE SETTING OUT IN LIFE? If it was money that you used to attract a woman, you'll need more money to keep her and lest I forget... The day she sees a man who has more money than you do, if she has the opportunity she'll flee from you. Who no like better thing? Young men please be guided. Not all women are motivated by money. There are women you can never get if the only thing you have to offer is money. Please become a person of value. At that point, money will matter less when a woman decides to stay with you. This is how good women think. Take it or leave it. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: At 29 I Have No Girl In My Life Due To Lack Of Good Job by ikechukwu21(m): 11:52pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Blyzz:Abeg no kill person with laff here. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: At 29 I Have No Girl In My Life Due To Lack Of Good Job by ikechukwu21(m): 11:42pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
SirLiquidGold: Bro let me tell you this... Pay attention very well. The best time to get a good woman is when you're broke. Because at this point she's going to be with you because she wants to build with you, support and love you genuinely. According to popular belief, it's money before love but that's not true. It is actually love before money. Men who wait all their lives to get money before looking for love have the mindset that it is money that attracts women. But guess what? It's not true. A woman whom you attract with money, will have to be maintained, preserved and sustained with money. But a woman whom you attract with your vision and plans will stay with you through thick and thin because she truly believes in you. Please keep looking for good means of income but make sure you go learn how to genuinely attract a woman. It will help you very much. All the best. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by ikechukwu21(m): 5:09pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
grossintel:My brother it is expected that at 25 she suppose don wise. Please if she's not improving let her go. Because from what you said she seems to me like someone who is manipulative. Please if it has to do with the TV and all those other small stuffs you mentioned no wahala. But if it goes deeper than that let her go. Don't manage what you cannot tolerate. See... most women do not work on themselves they will strongly believe that if a man truly loves them he will take them the way they are and you know that that is absolute nonsense. If there are things you've warned her about and she's not willing to adhere to, it will only get worse in future. Please do well to know what you can tolerate and what you can't. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: How Do You Deal With A Woman Like This? by ikechukwu21(m): 1:32pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
grossintel:When they tell you guys to date matured women una no go gree. You're looking for a toddler with a matured person's mind. Don't expect a girl of 19 or 20 to act like a woman of 25-30. You better no kill yourself before your time. |
Romance / Re: A Nairalander Pre-wedding Photos by ikechukwu21(m): 1:08pm On Dec 20, 2019 |
IAmStrange:What is imes please |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 3:08pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
eni4real:Yes sir. I'm sorry please |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 11:51am On Dec 18, 2019 |
eni4real:Oga maturity is the ability to make your own decisions without the fear of criticisms. The guy had made his decision not minding what your little mind thinks about him. |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 8:39am On Dec 17, 2019 |
Pluto11: Hmmmm.... My brother something is wrong with Africa. We are our own problem. All the best to him though 31 Likes 2 Shares |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 7:49am On Dec 17, 2019 |
Pluto11: There's nothing like luck in life. The Bible calls it time and chance or being at the right place, at the right time with the right requirements. The only time luck occurs is if a child is born into a rich home because they didn't plan for it. But as for other things my brother you must be intentional about it o. 148 Likes 6 Shares |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 7:46am On Dec 17, 2019 |
Thiwalade: My brother am Ibo and I know how my people can be. Just follow what the OP said. If you wan do half of wetin de their list your 500k don burn. Minus traditional marriage o. 92 Likes 4 Shares |
Romance / Re: If Money Is Delaying You From Getting Married, Read This by ikechukwu21(m): 1:08am On Dec 17, 2019 |
Wow! May God bless your Union. Amen 157 Likes 5 Shares |
Health / Re: Kourtney George Writes About Her Burns Survival by ikechukwu21(m): 9:54pm On Dec 13, 2019 |
Thank God for the fact that you survived. Its well with you dear. To those who marry a woman only because she's beautiful and not because of any other reasonable worth... What if this happens? Will you throw your wife away? The real beauty of a woman is in what she can multiply through her dedicated years of self improvement and value, not in her face. But will not hear. The Bible says that beauty is vain. |
Romance / Re: Is It So Impossible To Forgive A Girlfriend That Cheated? by ikechukwu21(m): 11:20pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
My dear take things easy. I understand how you feel. The truth is that men by nature are highly jealous and overly protective of whatever or whomever they love even though they hardly show it. Once a woman drifts into cheating in any form, the average man would not tolerate it. You sound like you're not young anymore and will like to settle down quickly that's why you seem desperate. But I'd advise that you calm down, take a deep breath and ask yourself if you can actually bear the fact that even if you marry this guy he will never be able to trust you again till death do you part. Is that something you can bear? I'd advise you move on. If there's something valuable about you that made him feel complete, he'd come back for you but if not he wont. Because the more you try to pacify him, the more mad he'll become. He needs to settle down to see beyond your mistake and how it has hurt him. He needs time alone. If your mistake overwhelms your value he will never accept you back but if your value overwhelms your mistake, he'll come back for you after sometime. But whatever the case, I'd advise you force yourself to stay alone from now on. The mistake has been made but it's not the end of your life. Just focus on being a better person so that whether with him or with another man, you'll excel in your relationship. All the best dear. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Education / Re: What Does This Do? by ikechukwu21(m): 7:20pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
dayo2me:But like the poster above said... You won't be notified. |
Education / What Does This Do? by ikechukwu21(m): 5:22pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
I'm not sure of which section to place this. I have been wandering about the actual use of the "share" option on nairaland. What is it for please? For other platforms, the "share" button will give you the options of sharing the information from that site to other social media platforms like facebook and whatsapp. So what does nairaland "share" option do? Thanks |
Religion / Re: David Ibiyeomie Built Female Hostel For Ignatius Ajuru University by ikechukwu21(m): 12:01pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
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Business / Re: Is This Real? by ikechukwu21(m): 3:28pm On Dec 08, 2019 |
dawnomike:Have you met any of them before? |
Business / Is This Real? by ikechukwu21(m): 9:51pm On Dec 07, 2019 |
I was accosted by a lady some time ago in Abuja and I decided to give her a listening ear and then she began talking about how I can access loan easily as long as I have some business idea. I was really in need of cash then for some businesses which I was hoping to set up. So you can imagine the keen interest with which I listened. She said I'll just have to to appear and talk with a panel at some venue and at a particular time set so as to convince the panel. So I wrote down my number on a small form provided. After about two days I got a call from them and they sent me a message later on with details of the venue and time I'm supoosed to come around. But I couldn't make it so I thought everything was over. After about two or three days I got a call from them again saying that I've been re-scheduled for another meeting with them (they made it seem like they are trying to help me by giving me a second chance to meet). That was when I became scared. I was even thinking they were ritualists. Has anyone met these set of people too? (They're always standing around strategic places in Abuja trying to stop people to listen to them.) If you have encountererd them please share your experience. Are they genuine? |
Religion / Re: Evangelist Reinhard Bonnke is Dead! by ikechukwu21(m): 4:21pm On Dec 07, 2019 |
themonk: How much do you have that's making you complain of why they ended the statement like that? Men of immense wealth will be more than happy to contribute. Thank you 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Why Are Guys So Scared Of Dating Students? by ikechukwu21(m): 10:44pm On Dec 06, 2019 |
My guy told me that after training this fine girl who happened to be his woman then in school... He bought sewing machine for her and did a lot of financial stuff for her including sending her on trainings I think aside from the cash he used to send to her regularly because money de enter him hand very well then. After graduation this same babe started acting funny o. After a while she called and told him that she had a dream where she saw a guy (who happens to be a medical student asking her out while she was still in school) entered a vehicle with a different woman and I think she said she was standing outside and wearing wedding gown or so. I cant really remember the funny story as I was told. And the according to her she started asking people the meaning of the dream and she claimed that those people told her that the guy in the vehicle who is the medical doctor is her real husband. Na so the Babe free this my guy small small o. The mum was even against what she was doing telling her to remember that it was this my guy that assisted her while she was yet in school. The guy no dey get money again. Him don broke wella. So the girl till today don find her level. I suspect she's dating the doctor now. I still see her sometimes at my junction when coming from work. The thing is when you tell guys to leave small girls alone they won't listen. If you must date make sure you date a matured woman. I'd rather date a matured lady in terms of age and have peace of mind than date a smallie and have high BP all in the name of having a sweet 16 as my woman. No matter how young she is today she must definitely get old and her beauty will wipe off. Men should be wise. 62 Likes 3 Shares |
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