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Ama27,
longest time, hw u dey?

@shawamma,
Best wishes bruv! It is well with you.

I guess everyone now sees the need for a saner environment. Just thinking about it properly, if you're concerned about the future then I guess you'll have to work extra hard so that your kids can afford to live outside Nigeria in the foreseeable future. It aint that rosy out there in the UK and US, i've met people you migrated and things went so well for them and vice versa. Remember if things dont work out it can affect you mentally.
Why not send your wife and kid(s) first? Or you take the bold step first without your family and see if things work out the way you want.
It's really complicated my brother, since i started travelling (UK, US, Canada, Germany, France, Italy etc) i've been exposed to the realities in those countries and i wont just say "migrate cos Nigeria is scrap" but i'll advice you to weigh your options properly. Dont be carried away by the fancy, serene and lovely environment cos those things dont come cheap.
Somethings i think you need to consider:
- Ease of getting a decent job (not cleaning and the likes)
- transferability of your current skills and demand for people with the type of skill you've got
- Your own retirement ( i guess you like a decent retirement and wont want to still be a hustler at 60)

Pray about it and let God direct you. All the best

@limmyjam,
No one is indispensable and i dont think nuhu feels that way. The man did well for himself and Nigeria. I just feel the treatment he got is bad.

@nelly4,

nelly4:
@INCA GOLD THIS IS NOTHING PERSONAL

AND SORRY IF I DID NOT BUDGE TO UR OPINION EARLIER MAYBE COS I DID NOT REALLY SEE IT OR ,


WELL MY VIEWS RECENTLY ARE JUST SUMTINS TO ADDRESS A DIFFERENT ASPECT AND KEEP RESPONSES OPINIONATED

For me it aint about being right or wrong. By the way, why do u write in caps? It makes reading too cumbersome

@post
I'm not surprised at your slight change in stance. At least all what zaragoza said, i brought that to your notice but you countered by sayin companies should conduct online test instead and you sighted Guiness as a case in hand. I simply kept quiet becos you lost your thot process and ur utterances were biased.

You question their credibility barely 9mths into the scheme, and claim they arent recognized internationally? Very funny, for your information test scores arent transfereable so GSE dont need any international recognition.

The scheme needs to be fine tuned, for now I dont see or have any problem with it.

Not my word

I saw this article on yahoo, and i instantly felt the urge to share with all and sundry. I'm so so excited, cos now i've got a genuine excuse in case i misbehave .

Enjoy:
STOCKHOLM (AFP) - Swedish researchers said Tuesday what women have suspected all along: that marital woes can often be attributed to men's genetic make-up, according to a study linking a common male gene to relationship problems. The gene variant, which is present in four of 10 Swedish men, can explain why some men are more prone to stormy relationships and bond less to their wives or girlfriends, a team of researchers at Stockholm's Karolinska Institute said.

"There are, of course, many reasons why a person might have relationship problems, but this is the first time that a specific gene variant has been associated with how men bond to their partners," Hasse Walum, one of the researchers, said in a statement.

The team found that men who carry one or two copies of a variant of the gene often behave differently in relationships than men who lack the gene variant, called allele 334.

"The incidence of allele 334 was statistically linked to how strong a bond a man felt he had with his partner," the statement said.

Men who had two copies of allele 334 were twice as likely to have had a marital or relationship crisis in the past year than those who lacked the gene variant, it said.

Their wives or girlfriends also noticed the difference.

"Women married to men who carry one or two copies of allele 334 were, on average, less satisfied with their relationship than women married to men who didn't carry this allele," Walum said.

He stressed however that the effect of the genetic variation was relatively modest and could not be used to predict with any real accuracy how someone would behave in a future relationship.

The study surveyed 550 twins and their partners or spouses in Sweden.

Martin Ingvar, a professor of neurophysiology at Karolinska Institute, said the results were "very exciting."

"These are original findings which shed light on the fact that all of our behaviours are influenced by both nature and nurture. Even complex, cultural social phenomens such as marriage are influenced by a person's genetic make-up," Ingvar said.

The gene in question controls the production of a molecule receptor for vasopressin, a hormone that is found in most mammals.

The same gene has previously been linked to monogamous behaviour in male voles, a mouselike rodent.

The researchers said they hoped greater knowledge of the effect of vasopressin on human relations could also help understand the causes of diseases characterised by problems with social interaction, such as autism.

The results of the study were published Tuesday in the US scientific journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences (PNAS).

Source: http://uk.news.yahoo.com/afp/20080902/tts-sweden-health-men-research-c1b2fc3.html

HR.hotness:
. . . . don't need to understand, we only want to knw whats going on

Cos I dont wanna fall in love! Going AWOL gives me ample time to analyse things. I guess i'll sound silly if i tell you that i dont want to fall in love with you, so i've to back off a little bit! Silence is cool sometimes.

Men are grown-ups, we reason with our HEAD not our HEART. Quite sadly ladies follow their hearts and leave their heads to wonder!

Moreover my girlfriend cant stand my female friends, not that she's jealous or anything she just feels it doesnt make sense to have a female friend you call all the time, hang out etc when you've got a girlfriend.

And it wont be fair on my girl if I tell you she doesnt like us hanging out (know what i mean?). So my best is just to go outta circulation and resurface later!

@post
I feel u! Personally, I act that way to give the friend some breathing space.

HR.hotness:
, u guys hang out and talk all the time. He calls regularly, can't get enough of talking to u and hanging out with u. . . then he goes cold turkey, no communication whatsoever, starts avoiding u even.

Dude, u just don’t cut a sista off without explanation and expect to be forgiven when you're done menstruating. . . the sad part is the bastards don’t even accept the fact that that kind of behaviour is not civilised. The least u cld do is give a sister some warning and we will go off and get a pedicure or something. Another thing is their silly and childish rants about nothing whatsoever, after hours of sulking, they snap out of it and expects things to go back to normal.

I guess it is a matter of choice (between wife and extended family). As for me i'll put my wife first (if i dont, then who will?)but not blindly or foolishly. for me it's gonna be
My parents
My Wife
Child(ren)
My siblings

I really dont know what the poster is driving at. But like pspeak rightly noted a line should be drawn as they both fulfil different roles. I and my wife are one so automatically she comes first, but that doesnt mean i'll neglect my extended family.
This post is pointless anyways

LondonCool the chief tormentor (just kidding) of shawamma. Alas you've gotten back to shawamma, that was kinda nice of you. Take care

I hate when people just sit behind their computers and start blabbing about "how you need to start a business". It's a great thing, but not everyone is cut out for such. I applaud people with brilliant business ideas, if you're business inclined just go on and do it!

@Finecat,
You've touched a sore point! Created fear in the minds of millions, cos if the banking sector retrenches "yawa" don gas be dat for people. Even if what you're saying is true, just tone it down a bit cos everyone will continue attacking. Over 80% of people on this forum are affiliated to banks one way or the order.

PS: Dont say scrap about people's means of livelihood, cos u get attacked.

as per people losing jobs that i dont know. But that nigerian banks are not so strong i think i agree. My source is not Tribune, but JP Morgan Analyst report on Nigerian banks

Just out of curiousity, is it possible or allowable to switch between sisters?

jeebeewell:
your wife's younger sister.YOUR HEART IS ABSOLUTELY DIRTY AND DEVILED. Was she not there when you went for her elder sister

ndumart:
Did he not know his sister in law before he got married to the wife? O give me a break. this is pure lust

ndumart:
@Incagold
Of course we choose people we fall in love with.why havent u fallen in love with mad people, lepers and their likes since u can't choose who to love?. Love is a thing of the mind. Did he not know his sister in law before he got married to the wife? O give me a break. this is pure lust

I like being objective and realistic. It's a big NO go area, but that doesnt stop his emotions. He has to deal with the silly thought everytime, if sending him to see a shrink will help him then good enuff.

@post
Make you take am easy, it's like falling in love with your own sister. It wont last

ndumart:
In love with your sister=in-law?
I recommend two places for u.
An hospital somewhere around Yaba in lagos and another similar one in Aro in abeokuta. Arrant nonsense.

Arrant nonsense? Do we choose people we fall in love with? Instead of running our mouths and callin him a psycho make una talk better thing.

@post
I think it's best you avoid your sista-inlaw, remember the consequence at all times. If things blow open you'll end up destroying two families. Yours and that of your wife. I'm pretty sure your wife will never forgive you. Although it aint right to cheat but your wife may pardon you doing it outside, but with her blood? hmmmmm i'll leave rest to your imagination.
Always thing of the consequence! What will happen if she fell in with your own brother?

spikedcylinder:
Ah! They get relief too. . . at least pooping wont be so hard anymore and they get sexual satisfaction and love. . . . while you are there puking your stomach dry on their behalf.

yippeeeeeee, aint puking on their behalf. I get to eat something tasty immediately after puking.

michelin89:
@ topic

Who cares!!

Are they the cause of our lack of development?

Ask me again?
Have you ever given it a thought why it's only humans that mate facing (at least have the capability to) each other.

spikedcylinder:
Keep puking o. I don't know who gets hurt more, your acidic stomach or the loose buttholes.

The loose buttholes! My stomach doesnt hurt when i puke, i simply get relieved!!!

abikelat:
@incagold
if you can't do it, then let those that will do it be because thats there own way of enjoying theirselves, they enjoy it the same way you will enjoy digging agirl , so, go and sleep

Yea rite,

@doyin13,
Cos it's very disgusting!

If I suggest anal to my friends, girl (even though i dont practice such) at least it's with a woman!
So f.ucking what? It's simply disgusting. We werent created for such. Do you know that it's only humans that can have sex facing each other? Think about it!

bunmii:
u also know what else is ungodly? judging other people, hating your neighbours e.t.c
what does it matter to you what other people choose to do in the privacy of their house?
stop being ignorant and learn to tolerate

I guess you dont know what it means to JUDGE?
I aint ignorant and i'll NEVER tolerate such.
It makes me wanna puke!!!!!

abikelat:
and whata bout gay on campuses

what about it?
Sickening, disgusting, degrading, shameful and most importantly ungodly.

I hope you aint what am thinkin?
cos i hate them

with 200k you can do a masters degree in Nigeria. Try Uniport, Uni-Uyo, UniCal, Delsu, UniBen etc
MBA or MSC depends on your previous experience, if you have a couple of years work experience then an MBA will be appropriate, but considering the fact that you just graduated then i think an Msc will be your best bet.

A new ‘business’ appears to be taking roots among male students in many universities across the country. Investigations by our correspondents show that a number of male students have now joined their female counterparts to engage in prostitution to get more money. However, while many of the female undergraduates involved make their money from dating rich men, more male students appear to be getting involved in same-sex relationship.

Investigatioms revealed that the young men make an average of N50,000 from one outing and may get more money when they travel out of their base to meet their partners who usually belong to the affluent group in the society.

A student in one of the universities in the South-East, who pleaded anomymity, told one of our correspondents that apart from servicing the rich outside the campus, the male undergraduates also encouraged fellow students to engage in the act. Thus, it becomes a case of someone experienced trying to recruit the innocent. “Sometimes, a student can offer to pay as much as N20,000 to another student once he is desperate to have an affair,’’ our source said.

On one occasion, he said, a male student once offerred to pay another student N20,000 for an homosexual round. “The student that was offerred the money put his phone on speaker and we were all hearing as the other gay was desperately pleading to even pay in advance,’’ he added.

In a chat with one of our correspondents who pretended to be a researcher last week, another student in one of the federal universities in the South-West, who confessed to be involved in the practice under condition of anonymity, said, “Most of the successful men we see and hear of in Nigeria today are gays. The promiscuity rate is even higher than that of male and female sexual relationship. So, you tend to get more patronage as a gay prostitute. If you get a call now to meet so and so in Abuja or even Dubai on an all-expense-paid trip, won’t you be tempted? Sometimes you get as much as N50,000 or N100,000 depending on how big the man is.”

According to him, there are caucuses of gays who meet regularly at parties, clubs and such other places. Such networking helps any gay male student who is interested in getting to meet clients.

Our correspondents learnt that a number of ‘gay friendly’ clubs had sprang up in some parts of Ikeja and Victoria Island, Lagos State.

Analysing the activities of the group further, a 200-level student who claimed to be ‘gay and proud’ said, “It really helps to be ‘Top’ in a gay relationship.” According to him, “The ‘Top’ is the male in the relationship. He is the ‘King’ while the ‘Bottom’ is the female or the ‘Queen.’ The Tops are scarce, unlike ‘Bottoms’ that are uncountable and less valued in the booming gay market. If you are a ‘Top’, you get better patronage and you are more valued. That is where the big bucks come from. If you are a queen, chances are that you are looking for love, affection or something like that. You have to spend a lot of money to get a ‘Top’ that wants you.”

While he agreed that some men are ‘wired’ to act as gays, he also confessed that some do it for money and the connections they get to make for their future. For that category of people, he said it might just be a passing phase, something they are doing in school to make money.

“They are in it purely for the money and they usually go ‘top.’ But he insisted that money was not the only reason why some men become gays. You go to exotic parties, catch a lot of fun and the life is dramatic,’’ he said.


“Some of these guys are very promiscuous. The ‘Top’ especially get more sexual requests than Bottoms and if one is not careful, one will get over-used. You can’t take all the orders that will be advanced to you. I have been reckless before, but now I am very careful. One has to think of one’s future especially someone like me that desires to get married and have children,” one of them said.

Despite the reported health implications of the act, financial inducement seems to be a strong factor for participation by those who engage in campus homosexuality. While some people confessed to have found themselves in it as a result of peer pressure, others simply believe that they have been wired naturally to dislike the opposite sex.

A lawyer, who confessed that he patronised male university students, and who spoke under the condition of anonymity, said he became a homosexual during his days as a boarding house pupil.

He said he was introduced into the act by a school mate. “It was very rampant then and I found out that many of my mates were also involved. Though I got married after my university education, I still engage in it now because old habits die hard. I must tell you that it is a terrible habit though because I find it difficult to enjoy sex with my wife. These days, I find male partners among people of my calibre, especially some of my friends that were in the same secondary school with me.

“It is also easier to find willing partners in Abuja, anytime I go there for meetings, I find a new partner. We have different ways of knowing one another; anybody who is not involved in homosexuality can never find out. I hate embarrassment so I do not try to introduce fellow men to it; I only get involved with those that I know are already involved. I have made a lot of contacts through it and it has opened doors for me.”


“Unlike those in the developed countries who say they are involved in it because they were created that way, many boys in our universities are being enticed with monetary gifts and those who are fortunate to meet wealthy partners have become ‘big boys’ overnight. I pray that my son grows up as normal boys do and I will do all I can so that they do not toe this same line of homosexuality. It is not something that I am proud of no matter how nice some people make it seem,” he said.


In addition, there are caucuses of gays who meet regularly at parties, clubs and through online social networks. Such networking helps any gay who is interested in getting to meet clients.

Commenting on the involvement of more male students in homosexuality, a public analyst, Mr. Sonnie Ekwowusi said, “Gay liberalists in the world are fighting hard to change the natural way normal people look at things. They want marriage to be defined as a union of any two, not a union of a man and a woman. Whenever a gay marriage takes place anywhere gay people ensure that it is given wide publicity in the media.



By Sunday Ojeme, Kemi Obasola and Abimbola Adelakun
Published: Tuesday, 26 Aug 2008 http://www.punchontheweb.com/Articl.aspx?theartic=Art200808263423539
PS: This article was slightly edited

it beats me! last days indeed, some silly folks will claim it's innate (abi na in-born) all in an effort to justify it. I had an encounter with one, and boy how did i react? I guess i'd never been so angry all my life and right there it dawn on me that things i've been reading about actually happen around.

Let it be known, I'M ANTI-GAY!!!!! ANTI-SAME SEX MARRIAGES!!!!

The rate Nigerians copy or replicate is very alarming, imagine if we channel such energy and dexterity towards our economical and technological development we would have been a better nation. Instead of that, we copy negative vices like homosexuality etc.
I just read this article in the paper and i felt really pissed. What is the world turning to? It's scary though.

My question is this: Do we allow sure immoralities to strive in our community?


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