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limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

tell her to get a job and stop feeling entitled to other people's money

I can only imagine where you guys see such scallywags that you call potential girlfriends.


Meanwhile, collect your wrist-watch from her as well. Can't be dashing your stuff to broke people when you're not a charity.

zicky:
I thought about it some days ago, if Moses was still playing for Nigeria �� maybe Rohr would have put pressure on sarri to play him even if in carling cup, but now the guy is like an orphan.

better orphan.

No matter how bad things supposedly were for him in the SE, at least he was relevant somewhere, relevant to some people, but right now he's in limbo and nobody notices. Nobody has tossed him a rope to pull him out.


Indeed, some decisions may appear for the best, but turn out to be the worst. Knowing a new coach was coming in, he should have waited till the end of this year at least, before calling it quits with the National team, which is the only other way you can be seen aside club games.


Now, just look at what is going on in his career. The worst thing is that the Super Eagles found a quick replacement for him, so, even that gulf wey we for dey use remember am the way wey we been dey remember Enyeama, e no even dey

Herlertah:
Oh, I don't use Facebook. But I don't know if we can chat up on WhatsApp 08130284420

i know it's not very popular in Nigeria, but you can ask a friend to help make a video of you adding up numbers and doing the whole square root thing.

Maybe a video where you are timed and you answer questions in record time, then you can post it online and hope it goes viral. It's one way for people to find you.


People prefer to see what you can do, rather than hear of it. So, if you can, give a practical example by answering random questions thrown at you, then send the videos to online platforms like Instablog9ja and basically any page with an outreach.


You might be an introvert and may be reluctant to try this out, but no one ever got far without leaving their comfort zone.


Just try it out and you might find people interested in you. Indeed you are talented and you must ensure it does not die off in a nation that has no regard for geniuses

Please, does anyone know what has become of Victor Moses and his football career?

Imisimedia:
One ticket no for blow de way eh blow if Davido no show.

Even Woju and Laye.. it was all Davido's effect.

which Laye? Which Woju?

Laye did not feature Davido, so, how e take help the song?

The original Woju was a massive hit, if anything, Davido even spoilt the vibe in the remix.

Abortions:
So why didn't he release one ticket alone since he already have all the verses? Maka Why

this is silly.

The fact that someone writes a verse doesn't mean they can't get someone else to sing it. A good writer knows when to employ a different sound to perfect his art. Davido should also be thankful he got such a feature with such a dope verse. Kizz Daniel demonstrated humility by allowing Davido shine on his song

Based on this myopic logic of yours, artistes like Ne-Yo should sing all the songs they write.

Icon4s:
You created this moniker barely 2 weeks ago.

So what was your real moniker here?

old things are passed away

if someone who just came across this thread last year na oldie, wetin dem go call people wey dey here since inception?

Curtisaxel7:
Hey guys, the year is coming to an end, don't you think it's time for our annual in-house awards nominations (Awards for members of this thread).

Abi una forget?. .

Cc: Icon4s, Tbaba1234, Joebie, Komekn, Tezurum5, TheSupernerd, elyte89, and every body.

y'all should add new categories.

Biggest Bully and Favorite Victim.


I nominate Safarigirl for favorite victim, Supernerd and forgiveness also get my nominations. There are too many bullies here, so hard to nominate

I personally don't think this thread deserves awards anymore. It is not what it used to be, no unity, nothing.


Just a bunch of cliques chasing away people and being disgusting hypocrites.


Happy Sunday fellas

Timil:
Na people like you wey never see all this things ba em dem dey freak

where in my post did it seem to you that I was freaked by these things?

Did I post "OMG!" or "Wow!" or "God do am for me"


Abi are you so blinded by your bitterness for others seeming progress that you assume anyone who isn't slandering them is freaked by their possessions?


I no send wetin dem dey drive, I just dey advise you and your members that haters are liable to have hypertension.


Make una look them, trowey face. If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.

virgoquin:
Fake fake gigolo.


Borrow borrow make me rich

na you dem borrow from?

Na people wey never make am for life dey always vex when other people dey show off their properties.


Na so e easy to borrow, una never go borrow?


Hating on another person can cause high blood pressure. No go kill yourself on top other people matter.

RolyRoly:
How much are they even paying this guy for show that he is spending money on clothes like this....

hr does not buy his clothes.

If you guys know the benefits of being a fashion icon and brand influenced like Ebuka, una go dey hustle the job.

This guy is balling almost free of charge.

When she was collecting D from him, she no know say na gigolo bisexual e be.... Abi she no see the frog eyes?

I hope say her pikin no resemble the papa for eye, when she vex finish, she go calm down and IK go still visit the pikin. Nothing wey she fit do pass to rant for Instagram.

How can you marry someone and keep tiny secrets like this?

How can you be afraid to share good news with a supposed loved one?

If not your wife, who will you tell? Your best friend? Your parents? Your siblings?

How can someone be the flesh of your flesh and bone of your bones, but you are considering playing hide and seek with her?

Where is the trust? Where is the partnership?

What are you people turning marriage into in this century?


Please, if you know you are not ready to be fully committed to someone, to fully trust someone like you would trust yourself, respect yourself and stay out of the marital union. It's not by force

CilicMarin:
Amaechi filled the Stadium and Wike, Mbu, INEC and Jonathan wrote the results...

Why has Wike failed in all the reelections done since 2015 in Rivers State?

Who will help Udom in 2019 in Akwaibom?

so, PDP could write results in 2015 in Rivers.

This is ridiculous.

Nobody rigs halfway, so, come up with another story.

Have you guys seen the latest Mrs. Uzoho?

Imagine as she go fine when European weather Don touch her

Congratulate my man jare, e carry eye enter market

Danielnino00:
When did goals become a criteria for rating defensive midfielders?

You rubbished him... I listed him among the Nigerian players currently doing well in Europe and u brought up Torreri and Kante... Funny enough, they both play a more offensive role than Ndidi...

i only brought up Torreira, don't remember mentioning Kante.


Still doesn't disprove my theory, to be honest.

Danielnino00:
Insanety. the other day you were trying to rubbish Ndidi by asking if he was pulling the Sam stats as Torreira and Kante this season...well..here are the stats for you...

gimme his goal ratio.

Torreira is offensively better. Plus, I didn't rubbish him, now, Iheanacho, I agree I rubbished

Icon4s:
No mind that guy. He has even concluded she is 24-25 by mere picture.

i wish we could bundle all these people accusing Uzoho of being an age cheat to a court and sue them for defamation of character

Then they can stand in front of a judge and make ridiculous arguments like:

"A friend of a friend attended Sunday School with him...."

"I estimate that his younger sister who is serving should be 24, which automatically makes Uzoho older"


"He got married at 19, it is logically impossible for an Igbo man to get married before the ripe old age of 40"

"He looks old"


By the time the case is concluded, they will all have to pay Uzoho his one year salary

edi287:
Think he's lost interest on this thread. I see him comment on other threads from time to time

as anyone who wants to keep their sanity should

M7even:
Yul impregnated the girl and decided to marry her...

Assuming this is true, he could have decided to not marry her and heaven will not fall.

Impregnating someone does not mean you must marry the person. Ask timaya, Davido, Wizkid.

And what if Uzoho also impregnated this one and decided to marry her?

You guys are overly invested in someone's life for nothing. What Uzoho chooses to do with his personal life should not concern any of us, and honestly, neither should his age. As long as he is providing the service he was employed for, everything else should not concern us.

Ah, I came to share the joyous news that Uzoho has found a beautiful flower in another man's backyard and is set to pluck it.

However, I have found that his age is once again, a subject of argument.


I would like to inform the naysayers, that just because a man is doing big things at a small age, does not mean he is beyond his years.

There is no stipulated age for anyone to achieve anything. Yul Edochie got married at 22 and has been living happily with his wife for over a decade now. He was fresh out of the University when he tied the knot. He did not have any specific job at the time and was still dependent on his parents to some extent, but he still took the plunge at a time when his 'mates' were compiling a comprehensive list of clubs they planned to visit and the girls they would knack once they 'blow'

Uzoho is two years younger, but has a proven source of income and is well capable of caring for a family, as young as he is. His younger team mate, Awoniyi also got married this year, because he has the means and has found the woman

Now, he might not be twenty, but he isn't older than twenty-two years of age and can get married, after all, Yul did it.


Strike while the iron is hot, do what you can in your youth. Build a family while your waist is still strong and you have the funds. Don't sit down and wait to do things, so that world people will not criticise..... Because, whether he settles down now or in ten years time, world people will still have something to say.


Wish the man well and move on with your own life. Uzoho's age should not really concern any of us as long as he is not in an age grade competition and he is doing his job decently. The man did not even play in the age grade competition he featured in. Give it a rest!

What the phuck is this shiit?

These girls are all bang average at best, they look nothing like beauty queens. Which useless pageant is this one?

And why do the guests and the venue look as pathetic as the contestants and the pageant?

Man City still imploding

Liverpool still sailing on.

I am aware a few people here have been quite confident that City will clinch the league a second time in a row, I hope they didn't stake a bet on it though

We keep watching.


I look forward to another meaningless round of arguments on whether or not Kelechi has achieved waste pipe status, seeing as he now occupies himself with posting photos on IG, rather than playing football.


I wonder how close he is to Ndidi and if he can't find a way to model his work ethic as his fellow countrymen.


Maybe he should find a girl with direction and stick to her, rather than associating with proven airheads whose only claim to fame is some raggedy reality show.

skillz111:
How on earth would you be gyming and look happy?when u hitting on dem irons it's a stress on it's own have never seen weight lifters laughing hence the no pain no gain phenomenon.
Funny you having psychic abilities just by looking at pictures you never can tell what is going on in his mind.

some people are able to tell a stressed mind, even when the person is smiling. There are people with degrees for these kinds of things and years of experience. So, this is not about him exercising, and some people look very fresh when exercising, irrespective of the strenuous work out.

Lifting a dumb bell does not even count as strenuous work out, I agree with that fellow's postulations, especially the part about not looking fresh, of course, that may have more to do with his diet.

These pictures have been heavily edited. It has taken something away from these genuinely beautiful people

The second dress Lilian has on fits poorly, I can see most of her bra, whose idea was it to dress her in that?

xendra:
talkative man, nowonder he couldn't raise a decent well mannered man.

he is probably a community dick himself

have you seen the man talk before that you are calling him talkative?


Somebody is saying his entire family is being harassed because his son is a celebrity and you are calling him talkative?



Are you a decent human being yourself? Or is it because you are not a celebrity whose every move is scrutinized that you can sit in your one room apartment and make judgments based off news that you don't even know the truth or otherwise of it?


For all you know, whatever man you're with is a community dick, but na papa offset and him pikin be your problem

Dedetwo:
You simply cannot have the bolded sentences in this debate. You have one sentence with a qualifier and the other without a qualifier. You cannot eat your cake and have it. The fluency in English is not a measure of Intelligence period. I have come across people whose mother tongue is English language yet they score poorly in IQ test.

@ first bolded. The saying is "You cannot have your cake and eat it

@ second bolded, the fact that your mother tongue is English, does not make you fluent in it and neither does it mean you have any understanding of it.

My mother tongue is Igbo, but I know Hausa people who would level me in any Igbo competition.

An IQ test puts into consideration a myriad of knowledge and doesn't stick to one thing. And just like everything that has ever been created by humans, it doesn't tell the whole story.

psalmmark:
By definition intelligence is the capacity of mind, especially to understand principles, truths, facts or meanings, acquire knowledge, and apply it to practice; the ability to learn and comprehend.
When a fellow can correctly apply the knowledge he acquires through English , the person can be termed intelligent and vice versa.
For someone who is taught with English language, it could be a measure of intelligence.

i am disappointed that most people here cannot even apply critical thinking to such a question.


So far, you are one of few people to have done that.


Let us replace English with language. Someone with a firm grasp of ANY language can be said to have a measure of intelligence.

Is fluency in English A measure of Intelligence? Yes

Is fluency in English the ONLY measure of intelligence? No.


The OP was right in his estimation that fluency in English is a measure of intelligence, however, most of those commenting here have some serious deficiencies in UNDERSTANDING and INTERPRETATION of English, else, they would not have been making such terrible postulations as regards the position of English in intelligence quotient.

Let us hope they are intelligent in other aspects.

AnanseK:
PDP money is stolen money. It was not a favor to Garba Shehu

every politics money in Nigeria is stolen money.

So, Garba deserved stolen money, abi? What of the one Ganduje stole? Is it not the stolen money that funded APC's 2015 campaign?

Please, locate your nearest church and ask the pastor to deliver you, you need it.

ashacot:
This is shameless from reno

the only shameless person here is Garba Shehu. A man without scruples, a man who will sing anyone's praise as long as they are feeding him.

So e chop PDP 16 years, now e dey chop APC, soon,he will go back to PDP and start talking trash about APC. This is an unprincipled and shameless man

Petrobros:
Oga please go to politics section and discuss your politics. We discuss Football here.

Or better still go create your own thread where you discuss Football with politics.

Quote one place I discussed politics here first, and I will happily take the discussion elsewhere. You are obviously confusing me with someone else.