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Marbella003:
I took some of the advice from my previous thread and told my husband what happened. Here is the thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/5162191/cheated-husband-guy-work-dont

I was genuine shedding tears as I relayed my shameful experience to him. I apologized and begged for him to forgive me and I promised to never repeat such again. I thought he'd understand and forgive me. But I was wrong. My husband now wants a divorce. Actually, he has sent me and the kids out of his house. I have a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 2. My husband said he doesn't think he is the father. I assured him that he is and that he should get a DNA test to confirm. But he refused.

I rented a 2 bedroom flat somewhere close to my office. This is where I currently stay. Since leaving my husband's house I have only received a phone call from him where he stated the date that he and I were going to visit my parents who are currently in my village. He told me that if I wasn't going to come, he'd go alone and tell them what happened and why he decided to divorce me.

I feel like my life is over. I can't face my parents and tell them what I've done. It's very shameful. I can't even face my friends and relations. I feel like I'm drowning a pool of shame and despair. I can't imagine being a single mother at this age. I love my husband and I enjoyed our marriage. I can't imagine it all being over.

I called my colleague and told him everything. He said that I shouldn't hold him responsible for anything since our rendezvous was based on mutual consent. He said he doesn't want to have anything to with me and we should keep our relationship at work very platonic so as not to raise eyebrows of those who might link him to what happened with me.

I'm utterly hopeless. I feel like taking my life. I almost took this action yesterday but I pitied my children. But with every passing day I feel like suicide is the only way to end my pain. I wish I had listened to those people who advised me to keep what I did a secret. I wanted to, but every time I was with my husband I felt I was constantly betraying him by hiding the truth from him. I just want to die. I can't bare this pain anymore.

Dear Sister, this is not the end, don't take your life. The dead has been done and it's quite unfortunate; but you can still get over this difficult and urgely situation.

I salute your courage because what you just did to confess such to your husband, numbers of ladies/women out there are doing worst without remorse or feeling bad.

My suggestions.
Be careful with your own relatives you're looking up to for solution, if the situation is later settled; hardly will the stigma be erazed from their side.

If possible, don't discuss it with your husband relatives because they will discourage him further.

Your husband friends, among friends there are/is friend; so if you are very sure of one or two among his friends, they can help out or else stay away from them.

Religious body
If your pastor or imam is a matured individual they can help.

Not the type of pastor you will confide in and will later go to podium and start saying God use him to sort so so and so issues even he will not mention names; it's capable of causing further damages.

Be careful and be sensitive of people you're looking up to.

If it's ok by you, I don't mind to volunteer and meet with your husband to plead on your behalf.

Above all, this is not the end you can overcome this situation.

Beckham14:
When you were spreading your legs like blue band you never thought of the love you had for that innocent man who put a roof over your head, you never thought of the "marriage" you wish to protect, Now you have lost the trust your parents had for you, and might as well lose the love of your kids when your "ex" husband tells them how promiscuous their mother is and how adventurous she can be with the dick in an hotel room.
Some mistakes are avoidable and you don't have any excuse to give for this silly mistake you brought upon yourself.
May God bless that your "ex" husband for handling that heart shattering news with such calmness, not all men can wait till you finish your sexcapdes without registering some thunderous blows on your face.
The m0ron who fuucked you like a cheap slut has dump you like a piece of trash.
Before you think of killing yourself by yourself, take those innocent children to your parents. I won't stop you from doing what you feel best for you, After all, you didn't seek for our opinions when you wanted to collect the dick.
Put yourself together and accept your fate.
Rest well.

In as much that I'm not in support of what the young lady did, this your response is too brutal at this stage for someone contemplating sucide. We are all aware of the sucide rate currently in our surrounding, at least show some concern.

Back to the op, this is an unfortunate situation but no matter how the case may be, please don't take your life. I'm going to quote you and continue from there.

Best of luck

Okay, we are closely watching.

MobilityExpress:
Dem don buy her destiny And to think this was the same girl Atiku made youth ambassador or something for his campaign. Thank God Atiku is not President, he might have employed Regina as Finance Minister of Nigeria. Buhari's leadership is far from excellent, but Atiku's own would have been worst. All the oloshos would have been enjoying billions by now, that's what PDP is good at

That could have regenerated to very bad market.

tohyorsih2:
Olorun...That guy no get sense

Hello friend

tohyorsih2:
Yes how may i help you?

You can actually help by becoming my pal.

tohyorsih2:
Like say you no go chop am if she give you

Omotoyosi

That's serious

Our common wealth

Okay

Okay

ubunja:
you know what's easy? USING CONDOMS.

PREVENTING. INJECTION.

get the fvck out of here

You just dey vex.

ubunja:
you're truly blind.

Thats like saying fat women are kind. THEY HAVE TO BE KIND because they don't have anything else to compete wth.

Single mothers by nature are loving because they themselves know they are USELESS.

just like broke guys love more. And ugly guys fvck harder. It's a marketing strategy. All these are WORTHLESS.

Are you serious at all?

I don't think that will stop anytime soon.

Happy Birthday

Back then when I was in office, if I was at home, you wouldn’t find a parking space in my compound; it was always filled with cars and people who wanted one favour or the other from the bank. But after that episode, everywhere became empty.

If money dey, dey, dey
Many many people, making your friends
If money go, go, go
Many many people will run away.

Such is life.

Opportunities in disguise, we are hoping things work out well.

God bless Nigeria