All those places Nigerians have been travelling to and enjoy such kind of coastal road projects, how have they been doing it that we can't replicate same in Nigeria?
You have just one phone whose screen is faulty which you are managing. You then say enough is enough. You need a new phone. You go to Alibaba site to order a phone to be delivered to you next year. While you live with the faulty phone for 1 more year. Is this a sensible decision?
If it's sensible to you, then you should be fine with what's going on. If it's not sensible to you, that's how other Nigerians feel with respect to this project.
Everybody likes a costal road. We see it in movies and we love it. But is it a sensible decision to build one when you can't even travel from one state to another due to bad roads? It doesn't make any atom of sense. A road that will be completed in 5 years time knowing that 5 years is like 15 years in Nigeria.
ReluctantAdult: I'll go the other way and recount some memorable sexual babblings
One babe I was fvcking vigorously one time did say, "Ba...by what...wha...are you doing to meee??" E enter her brain sotay she no understand why her bodi dey tingle
Another one used to cry, out of intense pleasure and would call my name like "Reluc.... Reluctaaannt"
One used to place her lips right on my ears during missionary and would moan like..."you're so deep babyy" You know those kinda moans she tries to suppress, making it sound super erotic. Most of the times I came with that girl was due to her amorously sonorous sounds. Damn!
With all these moans I'm pillaging the coochie, digging away in that wetness, bulldozing and excavating the cavities and folds, all the while fixing her firmly in the most comfortable and accessible position
dawnomike: I pirry CBN workers right now... Daily anxiety for them. That's why it's good to always have a side hustle or plan B irrespective of where you work and what you earn.
Did I just read pity CBN workers? Have you seen CBN vacancy before since you were an adult in Nigeria? There is nothing to pity here. Na them them.
She doesn't voice out anger over female friends,as long as she confirms I'm not fvcking the girl... And she's careful not to offend me,she is rude to other guys,asin she has werey outside,but very calm to me,BUT could this be pretense
I don't think it's pretence. Ladies can choose to be something else to different people. Above all, read through the lines.
She works online,and she earns good, it's not about the money here... For age? She's in her early 20s... I'm her first man
Why I ask is because of her kind of schedule. I love my female friends. But I cannot be thinking about them when I am thinking about making ends meet. If she have a work and still think about you this way, cherish her. They no reach 5 for Lagos. If she is obsessive, that's when you should be worried. Obsessive in the sense that she defines the female friends you talk to or who you don't.
Don't confront her about it. Women don't take constructive feedback constructively.
She works online,and she earns good, it's not about the money here... For age? She's in her early 20s... I'm her first man
Why I ask is because of her kind of schedule. I love my female friends. But I cannot be thinking about them when I am thinking about making ends meet. If she have a work and still think about you this way, cherish her. They no reach 5 for Lagos. If she is obsessive, that's when you should be worried. Obsessive in the sense that she defines the female friends you talk to or who you don't.
Don't confront her about it. Women don't take constructive feedback constructively.
Normally I don't comment on these type of threads. But clearly this woman lack reasoning. In Nigeria, to get a job with a good pay that you can survive on, you need to go have some level of education.
In the UK, you can afford to eat comfortably and pay your rent by doing menier jobs. Here, even people with degree and white collar jobs are struggling to survive. That's why you see white collar runs ladies who work Monday to Sunday. Monday to Friday official work. Weekends fulfilling Odumodublvck - cast song lyrics. You see people stealing from their bosses and jobs to make ends meet.
It takes strong home training not to be influenced. Your husband enter power begin make things worse. Someone on 400k salary as at 2022 can see something meaningful to save as a family man with a child or 2. Now na loan app person de use survive de rob peter pay Paul. Till the loan go choke.
Melagros: COMRADES: before I resigned from my former work sometime ago, the former accountant had been asking me that when am I going to host her? Surprisingly, she paid me a visit today
While in the house, when I made an attempt to get closer to her, immediately, she said; young man, stop there, where is your 'genotype test' result? Case closed! After a while I saw her off and came back home angrily!
I became so confused, I switched off my electronics, then I said let me login to nairaland and pass my aggression on my friends and foes
Lo and behold! I came across a publication that says; some governors are yet to implement the 35,000 minimum wage agreed with labour long time ago. In awe! I said, what? Even with the current realities some family civil servants still earn this low/poor?
The agro supply/business that I have started not long ago, first month I made 120,000, net profit, second month 140,000, third month now, my profit is 170,000, next month I will double my capital so as to be making 300-350k per month , before the end of the year except my emigration plan works out, my aim is to be making 800-1m net profit per month. And it's 98% remote
I am single, yet the hardship is affecting me in one way or the other, and you're telling me that a governor is refusing to pay a married civil servant 35k at the end of the month. Meanwhile, those governors send their families to live abroad like Kings and Queens with public funds. OMG! This is callous! Na only God go punish them
DISTINGUISHED COMRADES Thank you all!
Are you sure you are single? It's deep for lady to ask about your genotype o. Gist us later how your parole with that accountant later work out.
NikoDeBonAmi: These days we see a lot of people saying at a certain age they are suppose to move out of their parents house. We even see were people attack others for still staying with their parents and thinking of marriage.
If your parents have a big and comfortable home were you stay and then you have a good job or flowing business in that same city or town, what is wrong to remain in your parents home and get married there especially when they are very happy for you to always be around them with your own family.
Most of these laws are applicable for the poor. The rich no de check these things.
What matters to me is the intention to staying back. There should be a plan. There are people that got married, had mutual understanding between husband and wife, raised more funds due to less expenses on rent and built their house. Then moved out into their own house. Is that not sweet?
alayandekolasam: Of course, good that he has adopted legal option for redress. However, before I can make further comment, he needs to let us know the "non-academically related issue' connected to him as he alluded to
I believe the girl is the one chatting in red. She actually chats more matured than you. Quite appalling that you may be a fool at 40. I hope you are not. It is well.
Freethought: My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.
This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.
Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.
I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.
The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.
It's okay for you to be worried. Women no de too think issue deeply which is why they fall victim of rubbish that can be avoided if well reasoned.
The guy may have good intentions. But you really can't tell. Neither should you risk it without thinking it through. It doesn't matter if it is your money or your wife's money. Ensure to get a picture of what the guy intends to your wife. Do some other level of validations before sending the money to the guy. I repeat. The guy. Not your wife. So the guy will know it's from you. E get why.
Reminderz: I think this generation ladies have exaggerated the issue of "cravings" when it comes to pregnancy... it now seems like they are the first set of women to get pregnant... the men are now even the promoters of these stupid trends all in the name of stupid love... these low IQ lots using "pregnancy" as a means to ask for crazy stuff and do stupid things... if she asks for stupid stuff at 1am, she will be the one to get it herself... nonsense... women have been getting pregnant and giving birth since centuries, I don't even know what started this shit... and I guess social media is also one of the factors leading to the continuation of this "trend".
these generation females is nothing to write home about...
You clearly don't have a child yet. When you are married and have your first child, we can then revisit this quote.
Ardeholar: This girl claimed to have done introduction. I just pity the supposed husband Sha.
You two had a platonic chat. You carry the chat come online. She told you she is engaged. You still price her for hook up. Now you have posted it so the society will blame her. As if it is not two of you that is having the conversation.
There are boundaries to life. Help her to help herself. It takes two to cheat. No de make am look like say na one sided.
I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.
However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.
I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.
She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything. Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.
I'm considering a breakup as a solution.
Has anyone navigated a similar situation?
You are considering keh? Or you should have broken up already
Dagger111: In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”
I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.
One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?
I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.
All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”
She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.
The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”
We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”
My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”
Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”
I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”
I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.
What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??
Copy copy. I have read this earlier. Clearly not urs. That's plagiarism o.
But OP you did not try, you have a whooping sum of 1.7m I see no reason why you shouldn't allow ur mother in law have atleast 1m outta the money. and since the budget for the baby is 400k, you'd be left with 300k. Man you'll still have alot at ur disposal
Wanted to ask if you were okay. Then I remembered it's none of my business. My prayer for you is that you will get married someday. Then read this your comment afterwards. Maybe na cruise you de catch. My bad.
Valoromega: My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.
But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important. Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.
I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.
Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now
I dunno if I will say women generally or some women. How they reason is shocking to the sane mind. If it will not spoil anything, remove the 100k and get rice for both mums. Yours and hers. Channel the rest to your child.
Dantepet5000: I am a 40 years old man,married with 3kids...I got married 6 years ago. In my early and mid 30s I wooed several women most of whom either turned me down or weren't ready to settle down at that time even though some where in their late 20s. I needed them so badly back then but nothing seemed to workout. Very beautiful extremely outspoken and gallantly curved. I am fairly financially ok but maybe they knew better what they wanted.time was not on my side and so I eventually settled with a girl I actually love and she loves me too.fast forward to 3 more years in my marriage, some of these women i either dated or wooed in the past started finding their ways back into my life knowing fully well I am married but didn't mind still getting a piece of me despite how hard I tried to fight it. The obsession of times back didn't leave my head so I tried to knakk so that I may do away with them permanently and focus better. Most of them still look as good as they were, the only difference is time and interest. What baffles me the most is some who dated better men than I was in the past now find me more attractive than their present men even though this has nothing to do with looks or money. They have answers to such pensive innuendo. Some even left their marriages cos of their husbands infidelity only to end up with me who is also married and this keeps me wondering why they left their husbands in the first place.... The aim of this writeup is just to pinpoint gratitude of the rejection of the past coz it has saved me from marrying women whom are either not OK with one man or loose in its entirety. To set the record straight for those who did not read this writeup till the end, I did not sleep with any of these women as I am still faithful to my darling wife as she is to me too. It is not easy even though I know I may fall in the future as the temptation is biologically potent. I keep asking myself this question , do men become more attractive as they age or it is something we have no control over as even girls half my age don't mind been my sugar baby. The temptation is just so much and I do not know how long am gonna be able to handle this. This may be the only sin to land one in hell and I do not want to there.
Nakademus Mba. Ekushe o. Remember that you are married.
L1TTLE: She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family. Please advise me.
A single mother doesn't mean she is less than human. What matters is her story and how she fends for her baby. Does she depend on others to feed and take care of her baby? Is she working her ass out to ensure that she doesn't beg anyone for funds? I find hardworking women attractive. They may be bossy and focused but also a baby when around the right person. Her story matters. It may be fabricated as well. Read between the lines.
If Otti is a visionary leader for wanting to borrow almost 70% of his budget in his first year in office, what then is Obi?
Obedient always claim Peter Obi did not borrow so hence that makes him a good leader. Then now you Obedient are praising Otti to high even when he alone is borrowing 400billion in one performance year, almost 70% of the budget.
Make Alex Otti fear God nao.
You have not been following what Obi is saying then. Obi is not against borrowing. He is against borrowing for consumption. E.g you borrow and use the money to pay salary.
Alex Otti is borrowing. But look at the percentage for capital expenditures. 84% which is the highest I have seen in a Nigerian budget.
Education / Re: 30 Kwara Catholic Secondary School Students Scores Above 300 In 2024 UTME by intruder15(m): 4:03pm On May 04
