MadPolitician:
Abike Dibari should raise complaints about MC Oluomo, Oba Akiolu, Bayo Onanuga and all the pro APC characters that have inundated the public space with all sorts anti igbo outbursts since 2015.

Don't come with that tired line about how "two wrongs can not make a right". The igbos have been insulted and taunted by almost every serious APC government official for over a decade now, including President Buhari, who gave you the "5%", "dot in a circle" and the "language you will understand " lines.

It's a proud and important culture of over 50 million people that the ruling government of their country has turned into the favourite punching bag for no other reason, other than the fact that igbos supported ONE Goodluck Jonathan, whom the APC aparatchick thought was/is igbo.

Equal dispensation of the law is the best way to dodge anarchy.

You are going too far. If they have this power, why is the man is Finland still free declaring seat at home in the East? Because it is in the East abi? Even though lives are being lost. Omo. Nigeria matter, the more you think the less e clear.

Freshtruth:
Pride wan kill Oshimen wetin be 155k per week at 25yrs of age wey u no feel collect? Year 2014 cristiano Ronaldo a balloon do or winner salary was just 185k per week. Greed

Funny. It's just like you leaving your current job to another job that offers you less than your current salary. You go collect am?

Make we de reason sometimes.

The only time a player will do such is if the player wants to leave by all means. Same as you won't care to take a salary cut if you were running for your life by leaving your current place of work due to toxicity.

I don't blame him for not leaving. I saw no reason why they should not have sold him when the difference was just 5 Million dollars bid for someone they don't have plans to use for the season.

Victor needs Ronaldo discipline right now. Train with the B team. Smile everyday and train like his life depends on it.

Zonefree:

You're in pains

Sifia pains o.

BeeBeeOoh:


https://punchng.com/fg-to-enforce-18-year-age-limits-for-waec-neco-exams/#google_vignette

The funny thing about this is that the same people creating these laws do not allow their kids to school here.

Yet we praise UK and co for having kids that are 13 years with PHD.

Even in thinking we are hopeless. It's well.

The summary of this is that we are suffering for nothing. Tragic.

Afonja101:
I've been married for the past 6years and blessed with two(2) kids. I'm just a guy hussling from being a teacher, house agent etc. My cousin came to visit me last week, he arrived when i was about going out, so i told him to just stay and wait for me since i won't stay out long. Never knew they had discussions with my wife before i came back. So when i back we gisted, ate together and laughed. Later in the evening when he was leaving i escorted him to get a cab then while i was escorting him, he said he need small cash like 5k from me cos he wants to travel to Abuja, then i told him honestly i don't have money but i can send 3k to his account and he said no problem, then when he left I send the 3k to him, till today he hasn't called to say he has seen it or even thank you. Then Fast forward to today. I woke up from bed and was pressing my phone then my wife said she has something to ask me and i said to her go ahead, the next thing she asked was, did you go anywhere to get money? I answered how cos i don't understand, then she said my cousin brother told her that it seems i went somewhere (charm or babalawo) with my friends to get money because i don't like helping anybody in the family including him, that we were told not to help anybody with the money, infact the way he told my wife is as though he followed us to the place. According to her he also said i have money yet look at the phone she is using and also the phone i am using, that none of us is using a good phone.
I would have said maybe one of my friend tried to tarnish my image by telling him all these but my brother only knows two of my friends and those two, i can confidently tell you that he can't remember the last time he saw them because they don't stay in town and secondly talk has never joined any of them back in those days around 2007-2010 that he use to see them when he comes to my place.

Imagine what my own cousin brother would tell my wife...? I'm still in shock, how much do I have that i would help someone who doesn't have any responsibility? He's not married, neither does he have children. While i have a wife, 2 children and one of my late cousin's daughter staying with me because she's an orphan.

I'm the only one who knows the stress i face daily to cater for them. Yet, he says i don't like helping him or anyone in the family as if i have millions. I've never gone to any babalawo or whatever, I've never seen one with my eyes. To some extend I don't really trust my wife right now because only God know the conversation that led him to say all these.
Please guys what do you think?

You broke a code. Which is not to allow your wife in company of anyone that visits you while you are not around. That's what led to all of these in the first place.

Secondly, you should have learnt not to have f*cks to give for irrelevant things in life such as this.

That's all I have to say.

agadez007:
The oil in ondo is in ijaw land,the Yoruba part is barren
The Only resource mined in Yorubaland is dead people remains,you guys don’t allow the dead rest in peace in that region

small small with the vawulence.

SadiqBabaSani:
Liars,

Sahara rogue reporters should stop peddling lies.

What sort of nonsense is this.

Look at that road, it is yet to be completed.

Look at that road very well you will see that some part of the road has not been tarred

Same thing I was looking at. One section looks not fully graded.

Emekaonline:
Now I know that many people have brains but really dont use it. The question is what is the essence of money given to state either as grant or Loan. Forget the source, what have the states done with the money? It is another thing if the state did not get the money. Whether you got the money from World Bank or FG, what have you used the money for? None of the governors denied receiving the money but how has the money impacted on the lives of their people in the states. Let them tell us how they spent the money. I would expect the protesters to picket the states and ask them how hey spent the loan. They have not even increased their workers salary and yet Makinde is grandstanding about the source of the money. Many of them are not even paying up to 30k despite all the loans. What a shameless fellow!

Did you read Makinde's statement? Or you sha wan comment. They had incurred the cost long before now. The repayment is to replace the cost each state had incurred. Which means if a state took the initial loan from GTB, the repayment is going to GTB.

Why in this world should the president make it look like he gave them funds that can be used to better our lives? If you don't see anything wrong with the president statement, then the saying is true.
"Support APC and lose your sense".

LegendHero:


I think he is talking because Peter Obi acknowledge he is the president.

Since Obi is the one that sponsor the protest thinking it will remove Tinubu, Jagaban is answering him since he regretted the insurrectionists and call on “President Tinubu, the owner of the mandate” to please speak to his subjects like Obi.

Peter Obi sponsoring protest? So Peter Obi that could not get up to 1million votes in the northern region is suddenly able to mobilize the region to protest? Yet the region he had the most vote is not protesting?

Make una de spread propaganda with the fear of God abeg.

YINKS89:
Personal experience;

So it happened that my dad sent me to one of his friends office to pick up a file and on getting there the man was not around so the secretary asked me to sit down on the sofa (my greatest undoing)

The man's office is a very big one so they have a separate visitors room where you can just relax while you wait for him. I sat down and slept off while waiting for him but woke up to a sting.

My first thought was maybe it was this normal mosquitoes that flies around so I did not read much to it then the man came attended to me and I went to give my dad his files. Note that I don't stay with my dad so immediately I dropped the file I excused myself and went home to my roomself contain on getting hoke I took off my cloth threw ot on the bed and went to take my shower (2nd mistake).

When I got back I picked up the clothes and put it in the basket unbeknownst to me I already have a foreigner in my room. After about 3 days I started noticing stings but this was different from the normal mosquitoes because I fleet my room at interval. One night it was so much that I had to wake up in the middle of the night to check that was when I stone of them on the wall, I killed it but then I begin to wonder how I got it there.
To cut the story short I discovered that I got it from my dad's friend office the day they decided to dispose off the Cushine in that off due to bug and funmigate then it dawn on me where they came from.

Note that I used a lot of chemicals but they wouldn't leave, sniper ,DD force, baygon even kerosene but alas that said my time is over in that house. Immediately my rent was due I took very few cloths to the dry cleaner got rid of most of my household items by selling it off to get a new one and that was how I got rid of bed bugs.

Those things never die.

If you've ever experienced bed bug invasion share your experience and how you got rid of them.

DD force is the best approach to eradicate them. When you flit, do it in a way that you won't stay there for at least 2 weeks.

ogododo:


https://dailypost.ng/2024/07/25/dollar-to-naira-exchange-rate-hits-n1603-80-on-official-fx-market/

Endure they said. We will make forex strong they said. Whereas the same people imported petroleum product worth 2 billion dollars in 2023.

Instead of banning importation of petroleum product in 2024, they are frustrating local companies. Tomorrow they tell you to endure. LOL. Jokers.

Sheistoopretty:
No one is ugly..

Modified: First to comment....wow

Okay, I want to use this opportunity to tell everyone that:


Nigerian men are Use__less.....All of them

LOL. Out of everything to tell the world, na men you choose. Wetin men do you biko.

Abid2020:
Will NYSC Allowance Increase to ₦70,000 Following the New Minimum Wage Approval?

The recent announcement by President Bola Ahmed Tinubu approving a new minimum wage of ₦70,000 has sparked widespread discussions and speculations across Nigeria.

Among the many conversations, a pressing question for many young Nigerians is: Will the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) allowance be increased to ₦70,000?

Definitely. That's part of the effect.
NYSC allowance should increase to 100k.
It may only take longer time to implement. Like next 3 years

dumahi:


https://www.facebook.com/share/p/34WhGFEFDWwLh6Nf/?mibextid=oFDknk

Most times we care about what people will say to the point where we don't worry about the actual issues.

Is your dad a coded man? If yes, seat him down and ask if there is anything traditionally wrong if you and your late brother's wife tie the nots. His feedback will guide next steps.

The feedback above should be based on reality and not sentiments. Moreover, if sentiment is the issue, you can relocate with her after the trad and all.

What your dad or elders in your clan have to say is what matters. Passersby are irrelevant in this decision making.

wirinet:

What are the benefits of speaking in tongues outside feeling euphoric? Will speaking in tongues makes you as rich as Elon musk or even Dangote?

I have nothing to prove to you. It's personal.

David0002:
I really thank God for giving me the gift of speaking in tongues, ever since then, my prayer life has changed. Now I can pray for 3 hours, 4 hours without getting tired.

I still remember 31st of may, 2024. It is a day I will never forget. I didn't even dream that I will ever speak in tongues, I never prayed about it, infact I was not expecting it.

Let me tell you you truth, initially, I hated the idea of praying in tongues, I thought it was not possible, I thought it was scam, I thought that people were just speaking anything that comes out of their mouth. It was because I have prayed earnestly for it before that God should give me this gift and enable me to pray in tongues, but I didn't see it forth-coming. I prayed seriously for it, read books that dealth on Holy Ghost baptism, exercised my faith, opened my mouth for God to fill it, yet nothing happened, so I gave up the idea and stopped praying about it. But little did I know that God heard the prayer and was waiting for the appointed time to bring it to manifestation.

On that day, I was hungry to just praise and worship God and nothing more. Once it was 4.pm in the evening, I started with praise. I praised God for a very long time.

After I was true with praise, I entered into deep worship song. I worship God with songs with all my heart for a very long time.

When I was true with worshipping God with songs, I entered into a prayer of praise and. I began to call God sweet names, I was calling Him by His attributes praising and and worshipping Him. Then I became tired. I decided to sit down because I have been standing for over one hour.

As I sat down, I felt a sensation in my body, from that moment, I knew in my spirit that something was about to happen, and it happened.

Immediately something began to move from my body, immediately, it came to my mouth. Before I knew it, my mouth opened, I started to speak in tongues or pray in tongues. It was so powerful. It was like rivers of living water flowing out of my belly.

For almost 45 minutes, I was praying in tongues as the Holy Spirit gave me utterance. It was so great. It was lovely. It was so much that it didn't want to stop. It was like borehole water that doesn't finish, infact I have to force myself to stop it.

After that encounter, my prayer life has never remained the same. I can now pray for longer hours like 3 hours, 4 hours without getting tired. Before I received the gift of tongues, I could only pray for 30 minutes to 1 hour before getting tired or running out of words.

It has reached to the extent of whenever I want to pray but don't know what to pray, I will pray a simple prayer and tell God that I want to pray in tongues that the Holy Spirit should possess my lips, and that the Holy Spirit should pray through me. Immediately, my lips will open and I will start praying in tongues. God is alive, and He answers prayer. My prayer life have changed since then. Infact I am addicted to prayer. It is burning inside of me. Any day that passes without me praying is like I want to die. I can't survive without prayer.

My fellow pastor, evangelist, brother, sister, desire this gift of praying in tongues. It is more powerful and effective than praying with your understanding. By praying in tongues, you don't know what you are praying. But in the spirit, you are speaking mysteries. As you are praying in tongues, God can use your prayer and heal someone in China. Your prayer can travel to India, Japan, U.S.A, London, even to your village etc and lose someone in bondage.

I plead with you, desire this gift more than anything else. Remember, prayer is a powerful weapon. With it, you can touch anybody around the world right on your knees.

Good morning and have a pleasant day.

Happy Sunday.

I tap into your testimony. I pray to get the gift of speaking in thongues. Amen.

MatrixReloaded:
So they have taken this bad habit from ketu to street of U.K, constitute nuisance and littering everywhere with iberibe na nzuzu. Unfortunate beings.
When reasonable young chaps apply for a study permit application they will be denied but when efulefu ndi agadi na agwo ofe apply with fake docs they will grant them...

Be like say this thing pain you on a other level. Chai.

Slytiger:
That's why I am all for demolition of illegally constructed buildings blocking drainages. Mr Tokunbo Wahab should increase the tempo. These are good justifications.

But when it is government that is doing it , its fine abi? Bar beach no de again due to sand filling. Eko atlantic na hot cake due to sand filling. Now na Lagos to Calabar coastal highway. De play.

Ever8090:
For you who do not understand what he meant by 'Chioma's soup'...it is actually "Chioma's TOTO"...

Na so. Analyst. He spoke about that as well. He clearly separated both. You can look for the full video and watch.

confessionsad:
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When I joined the company, I was not informed that my work activities could be remotely accessed or monitored. Recently, I logged into my personal email on the company laptop to retrieve a few documents. During this time, I noticed unusual activity, such as my mouse pointer moving on its own and words being added in places where I did not type them.

This unexpected activity has made me feel quite uncomfortable. Upon reviewing my contract and the information provided during my onboarding, I found no mention of remote monitoring or access.

I wasn't told and it wasn't also added to the contract I signed,I would also appreciate guidance on what steps I should take in this situation to ensure my privacy and security.

Did I just read my privacy on a company's property? You de joke abi.

tgmservice:
Hello nairaland Fam need you input on this.

I am a married man going to 3 years now.
I was scrolling on Facebook when a Saw a video of man exercising in a Gym.

This man wore a short nicker and you could see the shape of his joystick dangling. His thing was really big
The issue is that when I scrolled down the comment section I saw a comment from my wife since we are friends on FB and this is exactly what she said in verbatim (guess she is not so smart I would see her comments)

" I love to eat this kind of Food" yea including the smiley face

From her profile pic you can clearly see she is a married woman even other people responded to her comment calling her all sort of names like Olosho and the rest, one even said I pity your Husband.


I saw this when I was in the Office and it clearly spoilt my day I could not concentrate at work anymore.
When I got home I challenged her regarding this comment and she said its nothing that its just a joke comment.

I have been angry as she seriously disrespected me and I am considering a divorce from the marriage.



Edited: File photo used for illustration

But why guy sef go dress like this. Well, it is only you that know what is enough for you to break up with your wife. No one else will know.

She is yet to commit adultery. That is, you never catch her. Feedback like this should put you at alert. Not necessarily confronting her cuz she will become smarter to hide things better.

Some people are loose talker. While others na talk and do. Na you know who you de with. Hence, advise yourself.

LegendHero:
Steeze too much.

If the elders can be this classy, what more of the Yoruba youth.

I love ❤️ Ijebu

Youths de learn where elders de for Owambe. In fact, the Owambe vibes still exist because of the elders and not necessarily the youths.

ruffhandu:


Thank you my brother. If I am in charge, I go very low, I no send anybody because nobody feeds me.

Yes, she makes fresh juice every morning for their lunch in school. The kids got tired of the fresh juice that they ignore it and return with it sometimes. Now she buys other drnks like yoghurt, chocolate and milkshake. Said she will be alternating them so they still drink the fresh juice when she gives them.

She complains i am too strict, and sometimes go for cheap things at the expense of quality. Always blackmailing me with the kids' health. That was why I withdrew a bit, before I'll be blamed if my kids fall sick. But, no be naija we dey? They still fall sick once in a while. It was in that regards she stopped them from drinking any other water but Eva.

I know some of these are not neccessary, but I just look away sometimes in order not to be 'too' strict'.

For comparison of standard, it's a NO. She knows nobody dares that in my house. Na she just set the standard, which if allowed, i will definitely lower it. Once in a while we dey clash, but you know how e dey be.

You may think you are trying to train them right. But in reality, you are training them in a standard that they may not be able to live up to. E.g the Eva only water gang. Any change of environment, they will fall sick easily and likely be hospitalized because you have trained them to a standard that is above the society they are in.

You either adjust it now, or e meet you for front.

Vikto17:
[right][/right] My immediate younger Brother seems not to like me!! It is obvious from his actions and in actions a,,
This was a boy l paid his first Jamb form , bought his first phone and is planning to help sponsor him through the university,, He will never use his phone to call me, will never open up to me about anything going on in his life,, Even a birthday wish on social media he won't do it, yet he does it for others ...
I have live long enough on this earth to understand Blood is not thicker than water,, Families are those who love and care for you and not Just blood relationship..
He have the right to choose who he want to relate with, l also feel like l should be careful on how l spend money on a hater,,,
I want to withdraw every financial support l have towards him and invest it on my other siblings who values their Elder brother,, just don't know how to handle my mother emotional manipulations...
Please any one in this situation how have u handled it?
Besides l have spoken to him severally about this!!

It's like you are yet to understand what responsibility is about. Whether your younger ones likes you or not, you are responsible for them by proxy.

It's not about how they feel or think towards you. It's just what it is.

Opanka44:
Osimhen is so arrogant and disrespectful honestly. He can't try this with ARTETA, Mourinho or Guardiola. He wouldn't even dare do such at his side club. Why didn't he reply those who were racially abusing him in Italy? He would have gone under the radar by now.

The 3 coaches you just called will not blame him for loosing 2 games. Respect is reciprocal.

chidiokay:


chil

Even if he must clear the Air, can't he share is side without behaving like some glorified tout ... can't his mamagement organise a podcast or something with a moderator
A world brand like Osimhen shouldnt be seen behaving and acting like a intruder15, despite ronaldo achievement in life he didnt go live on instagram to blast his boss or Man.U
What Osimhen did is disrespectful and childish ... he saw himself above Nigeria that why he could say ogun kill his fans starting from intruder15 ... rubbish

Well, he said Ogun kill his fans that believed what Finidi said. I didn't believe it. So, Ogun have no business with me. I guess you believed it. You know the rest.

Fineman2:
At Ajax

Finidi George Won Eredivisie League : 1993–94, 1994–95, 1995–96.

Finidi George Won Johan Cruijff Shield: 1994, 1995

Finidi George Won UEFA Champions League: 1994–95 and was a Runner-up in 1995–96.

Finidi George Won UEFA Super Cup: 1995

Finidi George Won Intercontinental Cup: 1995
Betis

Finidi George Won Copa del Rey runner-up: 1996–97

In International Stage With Nigeria

Finidi George Won Africa Cup of Nations: 1994;

Runner-up 2000 ; Third place 1992, 2002.

Below are only achievements of Victor Osimhen Who Just Insulted Finidi George

At Napoli

Victor Osimhen only won Serie A: 2022–23

In Nigeria U17

FIFA U-17 World Cup: 2015
Nigeria

Africa Cup of Nations runner-up: 2023; third place: 2019.

Be The Judge. Should Victor Osimhen Disrespect Finidi George?

(Compiled by Wisdom Nwedene , a Nigerian Journalist)

#IgbereTV

If somebody questions your loyalty to a country you give your all for, when fully carried along in the case that led to your absence, should you fold your hands and say he is an elder? When the rumour flies around and people begin to actually believe the rubbish lie, what will be left of your career?

The point is not about their individual achievements.

It's just like going out of your way to ensure that your woman is okay. Then the woman ask you what have you even done for me.

It's uncalled for. Not proud of his reaction. But that reaction shows dedication to the Nigerian cause which I am proud of. So, stop the childish comparison. That was not the bone of contention.

We4all:
The first time I witnessed something like this was light years ago. A neighborhood slay queen gave birth and killed the baby. She used stones and sticks. It was gory! Police arrested her, but she was released almost immediately.

Fast forward to a couple of years later, a man in the neighborhood married her and she continued to live her best life. This got me thinking... People trivialise infanticide. Most people don't consider it a big deal when new born babies are killed.

It would have been better if she had abandoned the baby. Why kill the innocent soul in the most dreadful manner by throwing it down a storey building? Some people are just heartless.

Does she have kids

nairalanda1:
Wage thing is basically the ulitmate between the devil and deep blue sea

1.Labor accepts governments N60000...it is still too too low to make a decent living.

2.Labor forced government to accept N615000 minninum wage, everyone is happy...until government is forced to print more money to pay the new wage, AND..everyone and their mother starts increasing prices to cash in. Result...inflation.

EIther way, hell.

Like your analysis. What do you suggest though

01Happiness:
This is a motivation for every hustle out there.The pay day will surely come.Just keep grinding in your work of choosing.I wasn't born with a silver spoon but I never looked down on myself.I've been a hard worker right from when I was a kid and now at age 20,I have a place to call my own.

I have done menial jobs from clearing farms for people,going on errands and fetching firewood.I did all these while squatting with friends.They fed me because I washed their clothes and kept the place tidy.In this life,you always have to prove your usefulness to people so that they in turn can help you.

In the course of doing my menial jobs,I met a man who linked me with a fuel attendant job late last year.I was able to save up and secure my house.

Always believe in yourself.

Next thing is to save up and apply for my ND.

It can only get better from here.Thank you lord.

Keep celebrating your little wins irrespective of what people are saying. When you look back, you will see progress. That's what that matters.

Kyng1:
Good evening nairalanders, I'm sorry but this is going to be quite an episode.

I got married barely two months ago, February precisely. I'm In my late thirties, 28 years precisely and my wife Is 24 years old, during the buildup and period of my marriage there was lot's of problems and confusion.

It started when my wife. (then girlfriend) got pregnant (September precisely) immediately after we found out things seems to be going smoothly until November last year when she popped the question "when are we getting married" I told her that I'm not yet ready for marriage but I'm willing to do introduction, that night was hell for me.

Note, it wasn't hell and shocking to me because of what happened that night, it was shocking to me because it was the very first time she asked me such a question, and her reaction was shocking to me. If she has previously asked me this particular question severally and I'm not telling her what she wanted to hear I'd have understood why she reacted In such a way and manner, but it was the very first time she was throwing that question on me.

Back to what happened that night. Immediately I told her that I wasn't ready for marriage she started crying and laying curses on me, that I'm wicked, after suffering with me etc, then I responded that she never suffered with me that this should be the very last time that she should utter such word, I said so because she has been uttering it frequently on any slight quarrel, but on that faithful night, I couldn't take it any longer I told her that you suffered with me and I have two A.C on both parlor and room before I met you, that you suffered with me and I have a 75 inch TV, freezer, inverter, luxury center table, dstv etc. You suffered with me because of what, that I'm living in a self contain, or don't have my own house or car. This is someone that I'm feeding on a daily basis back then that I'm still a tenant and yet to have my own house, we went to eatery to eat almost on a weekly basis, to the extend that she refused to go to her parents house for months.

Back to the topic, she fought me that night from 10pm to 3am, after that night she kept popping up the question almost on a daily basis and it always leads to quarrel, arguments and fights, it came to a point that she began threatening me with suicide, holding knife that she's going to stab herself, using rope to tie her neck with all her strength which normally ends with her having reddish eye's, coughing, etc until I intervene, there was a day she drank tiles wash liquid, and hypo, that night I gave her oil, and nothing happened to her, that was the deal breaker, I finally agreed to proceed with the marriage, because I was scared that If anything should happen to her then I'd go to prison for the rest of my life and my life Is over.

Note I have 4.3 million naira on my account as at then, and I intend using the money to start up a business, as I wasn't doing anything. It is also worthy to note that after lots of pressure it came to a point that I no longer tells her that I'm not ready for marriage but started telling her that I don't have money, but her response was always, "na lie, na lie, na lie" you get money. She has seen my debit alert and saw my balance. So after she drank the hypo and chemical used for tiles wash, I agreed to proceed with the marriage.

By December, I began making marriage preparations, the adrenaline rush was something else. I went to the village to inform my father people, so they can come to perform the traditional rights, as my father was no more.

On the day of the traditional marriage, her mother called me early in the morning that I need to carry some drinks to my "girlfriend, now wife" father house that she'll support me with one wine, that she's doing it because I'm complaining that I don't have money, I took two carton of Heineken, two carton of maltina one wine + the wine she supported me with and two Gordon gin. "I have no idea that I was being brain washed, they're the one's that's supposed to present those and I'd have to double it during the traditional rights, she deceived me.

Before the traditional marriage began, my father's people that's supposed to perform the traditional rights didn't arrive on time due to the distance they're coming from, her mom was already angry, few minutes later my father's people eventually arrived, immediately after their arrival "my girlfriend, now wife" elder brother made a statement which provoked me, he said "if una nor one marry make una dey go, I go pay una all the money when una dun spend, rubbish"

Immediately I heard that, I took off my agbada remaining my inner senator shirt and trouser that I'm not doing again, her mom starter ranting and raining all sorts of insults on me, she made a statement that I should never near or come close to her ever again. After some few minutes my mom calmed me down and I put on my agbada again.

Few minutes later the traditional rites began, I was inside when my younger brother came to inform me that my wife half brother's have opened and drank some of the gins I brought for the traditional rites, I Immediately told him to count and look for somewhere to buy and have them replaced, he did and before he came back they have taken more. He had to go back and have the gins replaced a second time. Immediately after the end of the traditional marriage her mom handed me a nylon with 100 notes not up to 3,000 naira and she handed my wife another that's filled to the brim, that the one she gave to me was what they sprayed me and the one for her was what they sprayed her, I was in rage and I gave the nylon to her that how can she share money spared between husband and wife, she gladly collected the money. Shortly after that, I heard her elder sister, the one my wife is following directly by birth, saying "that her sister (my wife) don't know what she has gotten herself into, I Immediately cut her short that what kind of statement is that and what next she did? She started raining all sorts of insults on me " Daniel you dey craze, Daniel your head nor correct, Daniel na God go punish you, Daniel you be bastard, we go tie you flog we go lock you up" she repeated these words continously, she pulled her slippers and wanted to come and fight me, In which they held her off. This is someone that isn't up to the age of my younger brother, I felt really embarrassed because all my friends, brother's, sisters and my mom was there. Note that I single handedly carried every single expenses of the marriage, the only expense my wife family all agreed and contributed to was making "jotters notes" for the guests that sprayed us money, which they didn't do, until date I didn't saw any jotter, not even one.

Another thing that really got me angry was few weeks before the marriage my wife mom was assuring me that there's no need to cook, that we only have to cook for reception only, which I fully agreed. But at same time I send my mom some money to prepare something just in case things didn't went as planned and because of my father's people that's coming from distance.

Two day's to the traditional marriage I sent her 490,000 naira for chicken and ingredients. Note, I have already bought two bags of rice and 2 gallons of groundnut Oil for cooking at the reception whereas I gave my mom half bag of rice as back up and three cartons of chicken for the reception refreshment. But to my surprise I saw that she, my wife mother cooked jollof rice at the traditional marriage day and while sharing she was talking continously, that I'm supposed to give her money to cook but I didn't gave her any money that she cooked the rice with her own money. I was in rage because firstly I sent her 490,000 to cook for the reception, in which she used my chicken, groundnut Oil, and ingredients to cook the jollof rice she cooked at the traditional marriage day, she only used her two basket of rice which they already have at home. And because of that two basket of rice she was downgrading me in front of my father's people, my mother's people, my brothers, sisters, friends. If she had told me that she wanted to cook rice at the traditional marriage I'd have gladly sent her the money, If I can send 490,000 for just chicken and ingredients, what's 14,000 that I can't send for two baskets of rice, this was someone that told me we aren't cooking anything on the traditional marriage day but only for the reception.

Also, before the marriage my wife mother has already arranged for us doing court weeding, which I wasn't comfortable with but since my wife was pregnant and she insist that she must wear a white weeding gown, our both churches refused to Wed us with her wearing a white wedding gown with pregnancy. So I had no choice than to settle for the court weeding that her mother proposed, but 3 weeks to the weeding my elder sister talked to her pastor and he agreed to wed us with her wearing a white weeding gown and with her pregnancy, I informed my wife and she was angry, It lead to lots of quarrels but I stood on my ground that I'm no longer proceeding with the court weeding. 4 days later I saw a chat with my wife and her elder sister, she was telling my wife that I refused to do court weeding because of the rubbish that I'm thinking that their mother said she isn't going to attend and she her self won't attend. I snapped the chat and pretended like I didn't noticed but waiting to see how everything unfolds, on the day of the weeding, her mom didn't appear in church, neither her 3 sisters. But they all came to the reception ground, at the reception when they were spraying they focused on her only, my wife mom and her sisters, none of them sprayed me, not even 50 naira, but I sprayed my wife mom. I'm not saying this because I'm expecting the money, I'm saying this because as their sister husband they're supposed to spray us both, it felt embarrassing when they were dancing and spraying only her and I was just there like I'm nothing.

Less I forget, on the morning of the reception which was the day after our traditional marriage, I called the MC and explained everything that transpired on the traditional marriage. "her mom, sharing money that was sprayed between us" and gave him names to announce as those that'd pick any money that was sprayed, I didn't included any of her sisters neither mine. My wife was angry and asked me severally to include one of her sister which I plainly disagree, she became cold, and on the reception day refused to dance. When the marriage was over we counted the money and it was 233,100 naira. For a marriage I spent 4 million plus. After everything my wife started mocking me that they've stolen my money that I think I'm wise by not allowing her sister to be among those picking money, she mocked me endlessly and started using her hands on her eye's to tell me "onwonyi" I told her that I'm not doing again that I'm returning her bride price and she called me by my name daring me to return it. I was in rage and started remembering when she was pleading with me to marry her and remove shame from her eye's, in my mind this was someone that was begging me to marry her few weeks ago, threatening to commit suicide, now daring me to return her bride price and now mocking me. I slapped her that night on our hotel room, and she fought with me for hours, and the next day she reported me to my younger brother and her best friend, the one that did chief bridesmaid for her, that I beat her on our weeding night.

Days passed, weeks passed, two months has started passed since the day of our weeding and I'm now living from hand to mouth, this same woman that was telling me back then that we'd live as a couple that even if it's Garri that we've we'll soak it and no one will know or hear about it, is now the one crying for food whenever she's hungry, she doesn't eat rice without eggs or meat, nor does she eats Eba talk more of Garri. Right now I felt deceived, manipulated into a marriage that I wasn't actually ready for, I'd have invested my 4 million into something tangible and reaping the fruit by now, right now there's no money to eat properly or go out on Sundays to have some bottles of achohol.

We're querrelling almost on a daily basis, there's no peace, sometimes I do sleep at my brother's place to have that few hours of peace than to go home to her, but it's been since a month I last did that. Recently I have been informing her that I'll return her bring price and I'm not marrying again, that marriage isn't by force that I wasn't even ready to get married if not for her suicide manipulation, that I'm just waiting for her to give birth and after 6 months I'd return her bride price, but she think I'm joking. I'm sure going to surprise her. After all I'm not sexually attracted to her, she's short, not fat and not slim either, and fair. And I I'm sexually attracted to extremely fat, dark or chocolate skinned ladies. I find myself getting extremely aroused by just staring at the pictures of fat ladies on Instagram or anywhere I come across them, on the internet, bike, etc. But my wife totally naked and close to me doesn't in anyway arouse me, not even slightly. Until date I can't get over the 4 million naira plus that I spent marrying her, it hurts me a lot till this very moment.

And for what her mom did by deceiving me to be the one to bring drinks, wines, and gin and also the one that have them replaced, by lying to me and insulting me in front of my family that I didn't gave her any money to cook because of two basket of rice she cooked, by sharing money for I and my wife etc, since the day of our marriage until date I haven't visited her, and since then also my wife also refused to visit my mom or my family because I refused to visit her mom. My mom has pleaded with me on several occasions to visit her and apologize, but I don't know why I should apologize to someone who tricked and insulted me. Right now I really wished to know if I did the right thing by not going to see her until date or just overreacting. Please I need your honest answers on this.

In all of this, please ensure to do a paternity test on the baby secretly. E get why.