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maybe he's indirectly telling you it's over

He doesn't deserve to be called your boyfriend cos what he did is really really terrible

Yes you can forgive him cos "To err is human to forgive is divine" but if I were you I'll dump his sorry ass
let him go and marry the mother of his baby

You got there

It's all about being creative and it can be done in various ways all one has to do is to search one's heart and discover the hidden you that would be revealed when you love someone

GboyegaD:
Although I may sound off topic, but for those in the OP's situation, my advise is stick to the person who believes he is in love with you because he has chosen to and you have also in return chosen to love him back. Choose the person who aligns to your dream / future because that will always see you through since you share same dreams. Love grows over time once we give it the chance to.

Yea we grow in love not just falling into it I've chosen the person who actually has all I want and that's the one who I love

if you ask me I will go for a naija guy any day any time

And my dear you're in love but act cautiously whether it's naija or Ghana think with your head and listen to your heart it will guide you, cheers

Looks like a case of marriage/commitment for residence permit and it's bad

come to think of it, why do Nigerian guys do such marriage for green card or residence permit it's really bad

more complicated than ever

You have to move on with your life, the guy still has a lot he hasn't told you yet

"for better or worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" that's what it should be but

this is just a modernization of slave trade in the name of bride price

@ poster this is very complicated do you know why cos children are involved

You haven't even consummated your relationship and you give birth to two kids

I'm not happy my fellow woman is going through all these but you're to blame too and it's sad  

uzoegbu:
But i thought the poster is a man how come the guy come get belle to abort

very funny uzo

Yea I'm a lady, but sometimes some ladies make a big mess that can never be cleaned up

Don't take her back, she could do it again. Please don't carry this for long, just move on and God will give you your missing rib someday, cheers

Deep Soul:
It is better to love than to be loved.


IT Girl, stay with the one you love.
Love covereth a multitude of sins. It's easier to tolerate sm1's shortcomings when you love em'
If you settle for sm1 you don't love, everything will start to irritate you at some point. Be wise.

That's what I'm goin to do thanx.

valacious:
Stop consoling yourself that he'll change and love you more. He wont gal.

For me its better to be adored and loved by someone i dont really 'love' becos i'll have more peace of mind, than to keep making efforts to love someone who doesnt reciprocate. Talk about being selfish, but we humans are natural egoists.

A word they say is enuf for the wise. Examine this other guys motive, and try loving him over time. You will have peace, and wont post anoda topic here again for advice.

Matters of the heart cannot be understood, you don't know what I've seen that has made me to believe he's the one and that deeply he loves me. He only wanted to be show I felt the same way and I do

NO! NO!! NO!!! one man, one woman not otherwise

For a relationship (dating, courtship) YES

The only place when you can forgive and give another chance is in marriage, but if he continues then we head to court cos I can't share my man with another, never

@mikelarry thanx a lot, now I know better

SSaemoenl:
Am a changed man, Girl u've thought me to be real good, could u imagine that i took the courage to call the girl and inform her my plans and seek for forgiveness and she accepted that and said that am a nice person that i should not 4get calling her.
ITGURElie, U change my mind, Love u girl! Bravaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

I'm glad you are but mostly the girl cos she has a heart of gold to forgive you

This topic has made me a different person too and has made me to love my sweetheart more

I now feel a part of him I never felt before and now I know he loves me very much. I pray that God will perfect what he has started in my life and yours (if you've truly changed)

one love and be good

@ whiteroses I definitely agree with you
Both parties are just testing which should not be until you're 99% sure he / she is the one then you can go all the way

ayanfemy:
very simple,
take plenty water,
eat a lot of vegetables,
eat a balanced diet,
visit d clinic monthly,
take multivitamins daily,
avoid stress'
rest very well,
very soon (9months),
d baby will expel itself!!!!!!

That is the only way, let nature do it's thing LMAO

nope, not good. You could even make love to a ghost without knowing it

be cautious guys/ladies don't rush things so that you don't fall a victim

snthesis:
Guys werent designed 2b virgins dats y we dnt come wit a hymen-"modern women" use dat tag 2console demselfs.
A woman ws made 2suit our needs and dats y wen we go shoppin 4our women we usually check 4d tag to ensure dat we didnt get damaged goods.

Hymen or no hymen does it mean that guys are not born virgins since we ladies can't know when we get "damaged goods"

and women are not shopped for don't ever compare women to goods

cos virgin or no virgin, we are priceless

SSaemoenl:
2morrow is gone and never will come back, am about settling down soon and she saw me on last Xmas with a car, cus i came back from abroad suffering and they thought that am a well established person. They need the money will i need the things as i told u earlier. We struggle hard to earns the cash , Men's have different thought when they are dealing with women!

Even if you just came from heaven, it still doesn't justify your act. I won't wanna be the woman you're settling down with

let me ask you this, are you ready to settle down or you think it's time Marriage ain't a one nite stand dude Till death do you part

SSaemoenl:



Yes I have, but she loves money while i like her thing vice versa

I'm not surprised cos guys will always be guys

What happens when you're ready to settle down, you have to think about tomorrow

It's a small world you know, you never know

SSaemoenl:
The only solution to dis is YOU calling the second guy and inform him that u don't love or cherish him to end the WAHALA, and be careful as am doing the same thing with a girl i didnt love too well only confuse her and sleep with her, I knew that she is in love with another guy, But i want to fool her with my money and fake love in other to catch her mind and have intimacy with him, That's never true love. but the nature of Man. Be wise!

It's unfair of you to treat her that way don't you have a sister

Anyway, the second guy knows I'm in love with someone and there's no way I'm gonna leave my guy
He's the one who calls, I don't feel anything for him, he just believes he's the one I won't be fooled cos right now, I know what I want and I've gotten it.Be good

1day old, 5weeks old or 5months is wrong.

What were you thinking when you went all the way

You have to face it, whether you're ready to be a dad or not it's your responsibility, don't destroy a generation or even the life of the gal, haba

Since the wife doesn't know about it, it's sorta suspicious

so girl be careful and set the boundaries, just do the right thing, cheers

Fiyin007:
Don't get confused what makes one wrong and another right? is it the feelings or the ability to compliment one and meet ones needs? we are all humans and there is need to be loved at all times irrespective of whether we feel like or not. Now question yourself do you always feel the same way everytime? there are many reasons why one feels one way sometimes and another way some other times that we cant fully understand. It may be physiological, biochemical (as a result of hormones), stress related etc, will it be fair on you then if your partner "feels" in love with you today and does all those nice things and tomorrow due to some unknown reason "feels" he/she is not in love and does nasty things. Think about it. relationships based on feelings alone cannot last the test of time and will only be endured. You have to know yourself and look out for qualities which compliment you in a man some of which will come naturally and some which you can only get through effective communication and understanding. THE RIGHT ONE IS THE ONE YOU SEES YOU AS HUMAN, AND IS READY TO STAND IN THAT GAP TO MEET YOUR NEEDS KNOWING FULLY WELL THAT YOU ARE READY TO DO SAME. A word is enough for the wise.

Thanx 4 the word. The relationship is not based on feelings alone it's just that as a lady there are things we expect from our guy

No matter how unnecessary it maybe, to us it's invaluable. So when another comes along to do some of those things we begin to feel unloved

But I'm good now cos I know better, cheers

MrPrsdent:
GOD ke You are sinning and mentioning God's name in the same breath??

What has GOD got to do with your fornicating and search for the right guy who doesnt exist. You are headed for heartbreak . Dont follow your heart if you are searching for a lasting marriage

Mr president or whatever you call yourself my guess is you don't even know what sin is

I'm not dating two guys at the same time nor fornicating as you say, the issue has been resolved

I'm sticking with the one I love who also loves me in return, this topic came as a result of a misunderstanding from my part.I'm cool now and I'll still involve God no matter what if you like do so after all it's your life

daylae:
[b][/b]ITS AMAZING U THINK U UNDERSTAND MEN'S SEXUAL LIFE,WHEN YOUR POST PROVED U NO NADA ABOUT YOUR FOLKS


IT IS QUITE CERTAIN THAT GIRLS GET INVOLVED IN intimacy EARLIER IN THEIR TEENS COMPARED TO GUYS.

And who do they engage with same old gist duh

jerry247:
@lallafati its true and this time am so close to my God and i feel it.I belive God also kws what is Good for us and he will definately direct our heart desires to us as far as U seek for it in prayers.

He knows our name, He knows our every thots and He knows what's best for us.

God has helped me with this issue and now, I know where I stand because His Words shall not return to him void

God is our helper especially when it comes to matters of the heart, what can we ever do without Him

We are completely dependent on Him for directions