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[quote author=Real.man link=topic=463355.msg6220236#msg6220236 date=1276617645]U are saying 3 solid years of moral and selfless support should just go,we are both 29yrs old,looking trying to fix a date for the introduction,and the wedding for next year,she has been my pillar and the sister i never had,she is at home now crying her head off,while i can not concentrate at work,
we keep calling and consolling each other,

I love her and she love me like her life,[/quote]
This is so sad, but you both also have to consider the pain it will cost you if you bring an SS child into the world
but a miracle could happen let me tell you a story:

I had a friend whose parents were both AS and they had three children one AA, and two AS. The doctor told them to stop there cos the fourth one could be SS

There's also a sad one too: another friend whose parents where also AS she's the only child and she's SS whenever she has her crisis it's always bad cos she's constantly in pain

My candid advice, go and see your pastor he'll be able to talk to both of you better, just put a hold on everything until you're very sure. Shalom!

I love hairy guys (except down there, cos it must be shaved)
On their chest so that I can play with it also well kept facial hair really brings out the man in them

Exponental:
how do u define LOVE??

i know love is sweet, but to me [b]"it is an expression of stupidity"[/b]if u truely love som1, u would do some certain things u wouldnt do on a good day to any other person.

Love is not an expression of stupidity, it doesn't consist in gazing at each other, but looking together in the same direction

Love is deeper than what most people think, you don't just fall in love, you grow in love (together)
Love means different things to different people but today people mix love and lust up

indie22:
Why would i share thesame room with my friend and her man for days? what happens when they start getting intimate?

I have to lie down there, pretend to be asleep and listen to their soundtrack all night?

What happens if he somehow reaches for me in the middle of the night while his girl's sleeping?

doubt if anyone in their right mind would like that kind of arrangement, unless they are all involved in a 3 way, sounds fishy to me.

I've had such an experience and it was on different occasions  

I had this room mate back then who had a boyfriend and they were always bleeping in our room
They always did it when they thot I had fallen asleep but who would not wake up when you hear the moans of two mature people on heat

I was disgusted that she could do such in our room when they could have gone to a hotel
I would not do such, my man is for me alone no sharing roomie or not

@ poster do you know who you really are

I don't even know if you're sure of your virginity when you're confused about your gender and age

Exponental:
guy, learn to build self control. if u train your girlfriend to go thru sex ds much, dont accuse her of infidelity.
even if u catch her red-handedly, u must 4give her cos u expose her beyond control, 3 times a day.
guy, help your self, ds will not help u build a good family.

Guess he just loves the s*x

@ poster
and please no need f*ckn her up, she's not worth it let her go and move on

@ poster even if you eat a whole bag of salt any seed planted in you must grow to maturity

So either you abstain from s*x or you practice safe s*x, kabish!

@ poster, but she has kids from different men I don't think she's a wife material cos she doesn't look responsible to me so he should let her go and move on loaded or not cos money is not everything

@ poster there's nothing there it's just that our culture frowns at such display

They believe if you want to show emotions do it behind close doors

@ poster the story is hilarious and he got what he deserved

Since he couldn't hold himself while his girl was away, he got G-stringed I have a feeling she knew he had an affair, that's a good punishment

But, I would advice him to tell her the truth cos it'll go a long way

kech:
Silly request. Don't do it! Ladies come on for pete's sake!! History and experience has taught us that it's not a good idea. Do you need a soothsayer to tell you what will happen if:

1)His business fails (What will you fall back on? You all and the children will start drinking garri abi?)

2) He dies (Yes, I said "DIES", because we all know that's the No.1 culprit! A man can take over his wife's business if she dies but we all know what happens to a wife when she insists on taking over the man's business when he passes away.)

If you have to stay at home. Start a home business. Don't stay idle. Most men who want their wives to remain "housewives" usually don't involve them in their businesses. So what you have is a husband who doesn't want you to work, and has a business that you know nothing about and have no input in. What's wrong with the picture? Everything.

True talk From this I don't think I will do it for the sake of our future and unforeseen circumstances

Theblessed:


Just don't know when some Nigerian women would get a life.  Loving a man that disrespect you this way, what's inside your head if not stupidity and low self-esteem .  At her age, is she still playing school love? Please tell her to grow up!!!

I hope she gets it soon cos personally I can't stand such

Girl846:
I have a question, do you love your gf or just the sex?

abi o! cos all he said was just s*x,s*x and more of it no mention of love and it's even pre-marital to start with. Wonder what would be left if they eventually get married

as they say, love is blind but in loving someone, you have to be sure that you're compatible to a certain degree your partner must be comfortable around your family, friends, etc and you as well

The problem she has is that she had a wrong foundation in her learning of English but all hope is not lost, cos with the love you have for her, she will overcome this weakness and both of you can move to the next level of your relationship

Please, don't see her as an illiterate because she's not, she just finds it difficult composing good sentences

Wish you all the best and inform us when you're about to walk down the aisle

FEMARY:
You really hit the nail on the head."what goes around comes around."The law of Karma.They connived to use and cheat the white lady."

nope, they didn't connive to cheat the white lady the naija wife didn't know about the whitey until after the marriage so when she found out she had to lie low cos she loved the guy and didn't want to lose him

Theblessed:

You see, as this lady is an alibi to her husband's fraudulent acts eventually, it would turn round and bite her on the neck because, what goes round would come round three time for you. 

Covering up your husband's bigamous act in order to save your marriage is not an intelligent act and I query this woman's self-esteem/efficacy.  No independent woman that loves and values herself would allow herself to be marginalised this way, what an abuse? Do we really have to sympathise with her when she lives in a man's pocket, what does she expect? Of course, abuse and many of it!

Remember, habits can only change when you stop them and, you can only stop them by putting your foot on the breaks and say - look, time's up!!!! Until then, please, inform this woman to continue patching up this wretched marriage thinking she's got one, one day she'd wake up in a hot sweat.

It's actually unfair to the white lady because she's the victim here The naija wife happens to be in love with her husband and had already married him before she found out She had to play along (which is wrong anyways) but there was nothing she could do. That's why it's important to do some research on your would be hubby/wife before marriage and not rush into marriage

To me, the marriage is just a scam (both to naija wife and whitey) I hope she would soon realize that very soon the cat would be let out of the bag one way or the other



The mean pers

OLUJIME:
I thank you all for the answers you have given me. I must say I'm really proud of you all.

But I need more please.

IN MY FURTHER DISCUSSION WITH HER ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SHE SAID THAT ANOTHER THINGS THAT MAKES HER DOUBT THIS MAN IS THAT HE WANTS TO have intimacy WITH HER. SHE SAID THAT HE NEVER HIDE HIS SEXUAL FEELINGS FROM HER THAT EACH TIME THEY STAY TOGETHER HE WOULD TELL HER HE WANTS TO MAKE LOVE TO HER. HE ALWAYS TELLS HER THIS PLAINLY.

when I read the first post, I was beginning to feel that we still have men who genuinely love
the second posts suggests that some men are still he-goats seeking for anything in skirt to devour

Please let her let the man be cos he has already told her why he wants her, "love making machine"

xynerise:
I know u want me to kiss it. But I cant do that cos I am not polygamous.

well it's always here whenever you change your mind
Men will always be men

cashful:
All what these women did cannot and should not be attributed to love,

and what should it be attributed to

If he's ready to pay me an allowance of the amount I could get as salary then I'm cool

Else no way!

xynerise:
@ITgurls. Me bolo?    Woman watch your mouf or else I will kiss it. .

So you're polygamous after all here's my mouth again

agabaI23:
Just got something from a pretty girl. Thought they are all bimbos

LOL

@ poster

bolo

you forgot that there's "me" in "men" so you all are the same

@ poster
The guy is a two timing He-goat Just wondering why he never introduced her to you

If he had no skeleton in his cupboard, he should have told you about her and you can visit

Just let him be and move on cos even a blind man can see what he did those 7days she was with him