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[quote author=African_queen link=topic=456507.msg6150209#msg6150209 date=1275645703]Can't run, can't hide, can't resist it when the wrong one loves you right. . . If u don't love him let him go cos if u stay u'll always wonder if there's a right one for you out there. . . Besides you got to know what you want cos from what I'm seeing I think you re confused. . . Outline what u want in a guy, the quality and stuff. . . Give urself a break. . . See why we discourage double dating? Always make u think double. Life is not always a fairy tale like celine dion song. . .[/quote]I' not staying with him neither am I double dating, he's the one after me cos I'm not engaged to anyone but in a serious relationship with my guy. That's why he's after me and all,

The second guy feels he's the one, But I know he isn't

like I said earlier it's been resolved by me, I'll just focus on my love

You'll find a better person when the time comes.

Love is beautiful

It's what can melt the hardest of hearts, it's what can make a mean man become caring.

Love is what's holding the earth together cos it was made in love so Love is BEAUTIFUL

It all depends on what she likes, he has to know what she likes and kind of places she loves to go to.

Some ladies love candle light dinner, some don't like too much public attraction, but I know one thing most ladies are romantic. So he could take her to somewhere romantic and pop the question. Cheers

the barricades are made of emotions that can't be expressed.

mikkyphp:
@ITGurl Is that how things are done? He's never been on a date with you, his idea of you is totally based on what someone else told him. Now he's popped the Question to marry you. ONly a gullible "over 30" "i must marry now" syndrome person will fall for that crap. Maybe he wants to take the advantage of your marriage desperation or clicking body clock.(maybe the person dat gave him your number also told him u wish to marry soon). And alas, you're falling for it by even flirting with the idea in the first place. He stays in touch, calls you and does everything a man in love would do. you too pick his calls and smile and spend time with him on the phone,
My 2 cents

I'm not desperate, age is just a number and for ur info he's the one in a hurry not me.

Anyways, I've learnt something and that is to hold on to what you have no matter what and never let circumstances dictate one's decision cos in life we all have tests and trials. So I'm good now, cos I know my guy is the one and he really loves me

Thanx all for your contributions

Then you're about to welcome STI's

nope, it's cool

MRbrownJAY:
pls can you explain what you wrote:"I feel he's just thinkin based on what someone told him". . . . . . . . . . . .  are you saying that he listens to what other people are saying about the relationship?

I was referring to the second guy, he doesn't really know me and I don't really know him. Someone gave him my number and the giver of the number must have said a lot of things about me to him and right now he's doing his best to get into my good book. He just believes I'm the one

I'm not in a hurry to pop the question, but you may not believe it the second guy already has and is doing all the things guys in love do (staying in touch and all that, )

Cool, you'll find your own soon, cheers

MRbrownJAY:
so because the guy is not ready/scared of commitment NOW, you have decided to shop around for something better. . . . . . . . . . and even dare to compare him with the new guy.

can you pls elaborate on what is the problem with guy number one because i saw you wrote about lack of understanding/trust.

you story sounds like all these "body clock thinking, closer to 30yrs old" desperate women.

this is the thing, it's wrong to compare your relationship with others. I'm not seeing another guy cos it's against my belief it happens to be that the second guy I've not even gone on a date with him, but he feels he loves me cos he always calls(if u're wondering how he got my number somebody gave out my number).

I say he's the wrong one cos I feel he's just thinkin based on what someone told him. I love my guy very much and would do nothing to hurt him.

The reason for the "wrong one loving you right" is becos of lack of communication and has been resolved. I just wish the other guy would see it that there's no future for us cos true love is in the heart alone,

why would anyone want to be gay these are not good reasons to become gay it doesn't make sense

The guy has traces of jealousy and it's not love but lust and obsession. She had better cut it off even if it means buying another sim card,

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
you are confused. you should sit down and decide what are your priorities in "the right one"

nah it's not about confusion he's just scared of commitment.

Toppytee:
@poster,d big decision lies with you.Like you said in one of your posts,"ladies have great instinct",follow watever your heart tells you.Am sure this same guy also luvs you very well earlier in your relationship,its a normal thing in luv cycle just be consistent with your luv he will come back to the first luv that is if the luv existed in the first place.But like i said the big decision lies with you.

my heart says I'm with the right guy cos the one who says he loves me I can't feel his vision.

MikeLarry:
So you have someone that loves you but you are chasing a dream. Thats why is not good to be the nice loving and caring guy.

I'm not chasing after a dream, to be with someone you can't understand or trust is not good for any relationship. It may not be love from the other guy as he claimed it could be something else cos love is deeper than the physical it's all in the heart,

Guys y'all won't change. Are you sure she's your ex

No more deception,

It all depends,

@ Missy B yea you're right. Man as well as animals have it, the reason why I focused on women is because most men just believe they are so smart that their women can't know.

We women are more emotional that's why we take our time to verify facts before we act

Toppytee:
I dont believe that to be true,if women have got a strong instinct like you claim why do most women get played.We guys can be deceptive,is like you have not met the professional players,they can toy with any heart without the woman suspecting.Except you want to prove to me your instinct is so strong no guy has ever played you.

I'm not saying women don't get played, women sometimes don 't like to just act immediately. They keep it in their hearts, a guy will go through his girls text messages to know if she's cheating on him because he is cheating on her and wants to be sure she's not.

In the instincts, we sense it even though we may not want to believe it, but if you check his emails or text messages you will proved right.

MRbrownJAY:
views?! concern?! reservations?!

LMHO,

Love isn't wicked it's what makes the world go round, Some people have just been unlucky with love, if only love could be filled in our hearts, the world would be a better place. What do you think

think with your head and listen to your heart.

hollandis:
Am I the only one?Even if she is fine with all the physical and intrinsic attributes,I still find her boring after the normal ''friday- sunday stuff''.Gosh girls are so boing.I cant imagine staying with woman till i grow old all in the name of marriage  https://www.emoticons4u.com/sad/1011.gif

guy you are also boring, why not look for ways to spice up your relationship you're here whining

Most times it's not the girls but the guys and dude if you don't know the meaning of marriage don't bother entering

loyet:
My boyfriend was a victim to this bank layoff(sack) since october last year and till now he has not gotten a job.he is planning to travel out if job seems not to come.and seriously planning it.something happens  early this year when one guy is seeking for my hand in marriage and he did everytin he can do and pursue the guy.he has not propose to me,he has not introduce me to his family member.what he told me is that when he gets job he will make everything formal and he is planning to travel outside the country.i love him but am afraid b/c i dont actually know his plan. pls i need advise.good one

Hmm, is there trouble in paradise. Let me ask you these:
1. How long have you two been in the relationship?
2. Do you truly love and trust him?
3. How well do you know him?
4. Are you ready to settle down with him if yes how long are you ready to wait?

my dear, sometimes in life, things don't always work out the way we plan it. If you're a devoted christian, did you seek God's face before you got into your relationship? You need to know if you have a conviction about him and him about you.

it's not gonna be easy but if you're meant to be it doesn't matter what he has or where he lives, what matters is what you both share LOVE It's also important you know his plans, if it includes you. Please, do not rush him cos it could make him unstable. Just pray and believe God for a miracle cos one thing is for sure, if you're meant to be together you will no force or challenge can stop it, be of good cheer, 

ndigbo:
Thanks

you're welcome, 

mirror! mirror! on the wall who's the fairest of them all , my dear, my love, my heart,

There is no best place to find a woman/man for marriage, it could be anywhere cos your best place could be another's worst place.

True love comes from within, it starts from the heart and comes out in expression. All you have to do is have a positive attitude, be yourself. You could even find your true love from this forum, it's all about what you want but don't judge a book by it's cover, cos you never know, cheers

dude do you know the meaning of marriage, guess you're still dreaming don't worry I'll pinch you now to wake up
***Pinch***

Ever since the fall of man in the garden of Eden women have developed a stronger and sharper instinct, I'll give an illustration.

Most of the time a woman can sense when her man is cheating on her, she doesn't need to spy on him, she can just sense it. She may not be 100% right but she could be close. Women have developed their instincts and it has gotten stronger and better.

A woman will tell her man , do not do business with that man cause he's fraudulent, she may/may not be right.

Why am I asking if this is true, it's becos most guys don't believe it's possible but I can say women have very good instincts about things. So guys who think they can cheat on their woman and go free, think again cos somewhere in her heart she can feel it,

Stay faithful, cos it pays, Cheers

True love is not in the way you look, or how you talk. It's all in the HEART,

@Nenum is that your love quote

You can't ever find a perfect person, but you can love a person PERFECTLY. 

To the world you may be one person, but you mean the WORLD to me.