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@ poster it's possible to stay away from s*x all you have to do is to find another hobby cos it looks like s*x has become your hobby

Whenever you're with her you can try and play board games, go to the cinema or find something you both love doing together (not s*x), cheers

IkeLike:
Being in love is the worst thing to happen to men in modern society filled wtih gold-digging women.

who's talking about gold-digging women the men are the gold diggers
They go overseas, trick a white woman into marrying them, the innocent woman gives her all (time, money and even sleeps with him)
Only for him to leave her and come back home to marry another wife

IyaBasira:
Is it?
So we are actually okay with letting our husbands deceive white women , sleep with them, and them leave them hanging after getting what they want ?

I know this comment may not be supported by anyone on this forum but I really don't care. For reasons like this a man will cheat on you later with another NIGERIAN woman and then you will have to bite your tongue because you supported it in the first place when he did it with a white woman.
And is anyone considering the impact this has on the lives of these women/ girls? Is this really fair on them considering that they are using their money, their bodies and potentially damaging their hearts?

I'm sorry, but for stuff like that, I really don't care what what the reasons are. How can I watch you do that to someone else? And with her probably thinking that I am the housemaid, only to later find out that I'm his wife! These women sometimes come to Nairaland and wail about some Nigerian man who they love and who is acting funny once the papers came through.

My dear, I can't stand such, unless if I'm not aware but if I do he has to stick to his white wife
Some men just don't have a heart so selfish and self centered

chardino:
Is this a Nigerian movie or what? but i trust 9ija baby and guys @ the end of the day they will either kidnap or dupe the white Girl. But 9ija baby can do any thing for LOVE

It's a true life story and it's really sad

Osama10:
She's not being forced against her will.

she had no other choice but to do it

sholleex:
lool
buh i av evn knw of a worse case
dis 1 was a nija woman who stuck to ha husband in d name of love up to d extnt of livin under the same roof wif his gfriends.she sometimes will cook them to eat sef,
dunno aw ha story ended buh dat kin love stinks sha

Some people are beginning to mix slavery and love up , they usually claim they do these things because they're in love but I think they're LOST

Being in love is a beautiful and wonderful feeling

A lot of people go the extra mile to do anything for the one they love all in the name of love

A lady who got married to a Nigerian who lives overseas (N.B: the naija guy was already married to a white woman just for the benefits and not love ) recently played the role of a house help for her husband when his white wife insisted on following the naija guy home. I was when I heard this and I was wondering how far some people are willing to go in the name of Love

Imagine her serving her husband and the white wife and she sees them romancing.

There are certain things I as a person will never do in the name of love, what do you all think

@ poster my advice is for you to stay away from your ex's broda, give yourself some time so that you don't use the guy to make up for the hurt you're feeling

and please no more "romancing" so that you don't do something you'll regret later

Mavor:
In my opinion God made only one wife for Adam cos all the animals in the Garden of Eden then were in pairs. So having more than one mate for confuse the man>> Adam. One man One wife is a western concept which Christianity assimilated when Christianity conquered the former barbaric west, starting with the Old Roman Empire.

and does having more than one mate not still confuse the modern man

femmy2010:
Lieing ladies,bad ladies,killer ladies etc.the fact remains that guys cant live without u all.Frankly,Money cant replace thd spark u bring to a man's world.I accept u all are indeed that sweet salt of life but lets all try and take things easy on the brodas.

Now you're talking cos we need each other to survive and the guys too should play their part well

@ poster No! No!! No!!! NEVER!!! I can't share my hubby wiv another woman

Mavor:
All these instances you mentioned can be interpreted in different ways. They are too vague. God never explicitly says "one man to one woman". Stop twisting the Holy Bible to suit your line of argument.

When God created Adam why didn't he create more than one woman He only created Eve and how many ribs did He use Just one just translate that and you'll stop arguing

Does that answer you

lanre2u:
Disagreement must happen in any relationship, if not u guy must be the best pretenders in the world. You better start now, when you get married, u

will be the worst for it. Say you mind, nobody will kill you for it. one thing about no disagreement, it leads to low self esteem, and the pressure builds-up till u can take it which will cost you more.

All the best, but to have a good relationship, u guys must have a rough time to have the good time.

one big up for you
You really do understand that a relationship is made up of two different people who come together to become one

You can never find a perfect person but there are a lot of pretenders who bottle up emotions just waiting to explode
just because they're scared of hurting the feelings of the one they love

I think I can guess why your girl left you too much s*x

guy you're not a he-goat so just calm down or you'll over excite your johnson and put it in the wrong hole

Lack of s*x will not kill you, at least you won't have the problem of STD's and unwanted pregnancy

I just don't know why parents cannot let us follow our hearts after all it's our life and we are the ones to live with the person we choose to marry

Let her search her heart and be sure she's ready to live with the one she loves if yes then let she and her guy talk to the parents, he must be very sure of himself before he goes so that they can convince them that they are meant for each other

when you cast your cares unto Jesus just leave it there but your constant whining about not finding the right man will slow the process

So trust in God and believe that the best is yet to come, cheers

4llerbuntu:
no thats not true!!
i tend to think its simply masochism in people that tend to make them believe that.

i for one will NEVER quarell with you, a woman. why? because i have a huge temper and believe me i can get very scary. i found this out early in life and so for me its a definite no-no for me and a woman to have those, i rebuke the day i will lose my temper with a woman and really lose it, u people forget that tolerance levels are different, if all those wife beaters had learnt to walk away or keep quiet, they wont be bearing those labels today!

of course iv had to deal with ish just cos of my outlook, iv had a girlfriend who left me because "i did not love her as i did not beat her when she did her best to provoke me"

as in really,she actively tried all my trigger points, it was so bad that i left my house to sit outside, she came over to continue right in public, i SAT ON MY HANDS!!!!, mind if you ever saw me lose my temper in other situations with men, then u would understand that i dont wanna be a murderer

why do you derive pleasure from strife? that thing you argue about, the discussion cannot be civil and quiet and achieve the same result? u wanna win an argument and put your partner down? THAT IS PURE MASOCHISM!!!!

so it goes, nigerian women like doing this kinda "test him" thing, they dont like gentle peaceloving men, i dare say they enjoy a slap once in a while so they can do the "victim" role with girlfriend consoling, and then enjoy the he is apologising part. stupidity!!

ARGUMENTS ARE AN INTEGRAL PART OF DYSFUNCTIONAL AND ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. abuse may also be mental/emotional. mind a lot of those who like it have upbringing issues too anyway, somehow when growing up, the idea was absorbed that strife is a part of loving.

nobody is talking of abuse here disagreement is not the same thing as abuse

when you disagree it only means that you have different opinions to an issue which at the end you still reach an agreement
when you abuse someone you either use bad words or you loose your temper and hit your partner which is improper

disagreements does not always lead to abuse, cos they are different

@ poster I think you don't know what you're talking about Your topic should have been vice versa

Nigerian women take a lot of s**t from the men, our culture has made them more respectful than women from other countries
So don't judge by what you watch or read, maybe when you get married you'll know more

femmy2010:
She says she is in PH but behind her where she stand at ikeja bustop is the newly built Bus stop.Fashola,the state Gov is trying.I might be wrong maybe BRF has been posted to PH.

buuh

Try this one too: you're right in front of his house you can see his car packed and you call to verify if he's home and he says he's in abuja for a business meeting, you come closer to the door and you can hear uuh uuh pls don't stop cos I'm about to come
and then you wonder, this meeting must be one hole of a meeting

@ poster never knew you have to study to seduce a woman what degree would you call that

Babylove1:
nice one, but not enough to get me seduced 

and me too

@poster some people like cherry, some oranges, some paw-paw and some watermelon
As a lady it doesn't matter what size ur bosom is, one should be happy the way we are

Too much of everything is not good so learn to be satisfied, cos size does not define how good you are