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Toks2008:
My brother i tire.
IQ is not measured by age or academic qualification but by vivid actions of an individual.
One of the tests of a sound mind is to take the opinion of people AS THEIR OPINION without getting angry or overly abusive.
For petes sake i do not expect everyone to agree with my stand-view but if you must counter it please do in an intellectual manner void of vulgarity or abusive words and that's where i have problems with some people.
Imagine the ike guy making reference to MY MUM AS HOPELESS please who does that? I pity the lady that will end up with this type of guy who lacks regard for motherhood and such wil never have any regard for any lady in his life.
Even in the heat of anger i wont dare say such to another howbeit on a matter of intellectual discussion.
I have written to Seun to include a portion of mental evaluation where people will be tested to ascertain their mental state before signing up on nairaland.

starlingbawa:
I agree....

Oh darn!!! The man race is losing again...now they are two...SMH

ProudEdoMan:
Op I have been married for 10 years.  While you have raised a lot of valid points I strongly believe no one should go into a marriage with such mentality. Those who still want to play the field and believe that they cannot be faithful because they have a 'penis' should not get married because there will be no point to it.

Nobody should tolerate cheating. If you as a man would not be happy or tolerate your woman cheating on you then why should you expect a woman to do the same. That is being a hypocrite.

I have been married for 10 years and been with my wife for 12 years and I have never cheated on her and I will never cheat on her(even though my wife is still sexy even after 2 kids) having a few min of pleasure is not worth losing my marriage imo. The problem today is that a lot of immature people are getting married not knowing that it takes two people to make marriage work. Women cheat these days perhaps even more than men so it's not just a one sided thing.


It also depends on the type of woman in question, usually the women who are highly dependent on the man for their basic needs will most likely stay in such a marriage since they have no where else to go.

However there are women like my wife(She is educated and financially independent) who don't need a man to survive will be less inclined to accept such behavior and if she had to divorce me because of infidelity than I would not blame her.

We need to move away from women should do this and men should do that mentality. Personally I won't do anything that I would not like my wife to do to me.

Thank you Mr.

With this post, the women here will know that not all men are as id1otic as the OP...

Toks2008:
Maybe i should say before anyone condemns this write up,let the person be married for at least 5years.

And if you are unmarried and have never dated a man for over 3years please ddont bother condemning this write up.

And if you dont belong to the categories abovwe please go present this topic to a married lady of over 5years then come back to comment.

This is not a thread for teenages or ladies who have little experience in courting a man.

With this, you have just proven how much of a misogynist you are.

So your sister is in a ridiculous sham of a marriage, and is too weak to leave, so you think other people should do same What a mor0n!!!

I am beginning to think your father was a philandering a-hole while your mum was a hopeless weakling who couldn't do anything about the marriage, hence the stance of you and your sister.

So, yeah, I feel sorry for you

Toks2008:
I remember responding to your post with this but you are yet to respond.
"I will excuse your unwarranted sarcasm and needless vulgarity. But before i respond intelligently i will ask you two simple questions.
How old are you or whats your age bracket? Are you married and if yes for how long?"

Now let me answer you with these simple question.

Despite the high cost and implication of divorce in the western world are you aware that the highest rate of divorce still happens in this part of the world? So what does that tell you?

Have you realized that the new pattern in this same western world now is that most people no longer get married but stay engaged and even celebrate engagement anniversary,have children while engaged? I guess its to make breaking up easier and free from hassles of property sharing.

Look her bro, you just don't come to a social media to spew whatever comes to your head.In as much as i expect stiff opposition in opinion,i expect you to be more decnt and seasoned in your approach and i am almost certain that you are still a young man who does not know the deep reality of marriage and fidelity.

@ the embolden, it tells you that people will continue to quit a shitty marriage with a cheating partner, than follow your ludicrous advise.

Asking how old, if I am married and what not...really Now that is a complex problem, have that checked out dude.

Call me vulgar, that is your own kettle of fish, but it still doesn't stop your write up, or this lame defense from being a load of baloney!!!

Now I understand why Fashola wanted Nigerians to have their heads examined...Arrant Nonsense!!!

OP, the ony reason you can create such a nonsensical thread is because divorce in Nigeria is not as common or reasonably effective as it is in other countries.

Just read the balderdash you wrote... So a woman should sit at home quietly and accord a cheating husband all his privileges Why are painting us men to be such insipid 1diots

If it were developed countries were divorce is an expensive endeavour for the man, you won't spew such thrash. Cos after divorce (especially when infidelity is involved) the man loses half of everything he has, he leaves his house for the woman and her kids, he then pays her alimony and child support. Trust me the wife won't mind his side chick moving in with him, since she will be taken care of...


Abeg OP stop preaching this nonsense and grow up

Okay, let me get this straight...

You stay abroad, and help your Fiance get a visa to come meet you there

You ladies should please stop falling victims and then running here to share stories.

How can you help someone who hasn't married you to get visa to come abroad

Sorry though...learn from this, and move on ASAP

jarkbauer:
About 6 months ago my wife started refusing sex. In the last 6months we have had sex only 4 times. I asked her why and she told me her libido is dead. She doesn't feel like having sex. I am at loss. Any woman with this kind of problem. To help her, I asked if she has any fantasy we could fulfill just to spice our sex life and she told me she doesn't have any sexual fantasy.she hardly think about sex. That's why ask in another thread if women usually have sexual fantasy. We are married for 2 years and have 2 kids.

Oga!!! 2 years and 2 kids Na you kill the libido na...
U no let the woman rest fa..You just dey sama her left, right & centre. Hian!!!
If in 2 yrs, you have had 2 kids, then wait make she recover small na, haba!!! You sef

Why do all these idiotic bloggers like sensationalism

That looks like a mentally challenged young lady, whom the police officers are trying to make feel good by dancing with... Everything here looks innocent to me, but then again I am not as stup1d as many people who would believe the moronic blogger that captioned this photo...
SMH

It is alright...just calm down, ur doctor will be here very soon, okay!

True talk

Oga, source Da

I really hope that the result of the investigation is positive, for the sake of the families of passengers on that flight...They need closure abeg!!!

Well, but of course she would be...
But I envy that small boy o!!! LOL

You no be gay, but you wan know the colour of guys boxers... Okay...Kontunu

So these NASS members thought escorting the wife of a Senate President is something reasonable to do What is all this for Pete's sake

We are getting there small small...

Such wickedness!!!

What is wrong with NL MODs Why should a pic of K-Cee eating popcorn make FP Who dey give una cannabis smoke for office sef Iranu, Abasha!!!

wrongnumber:
Yes o, I can't imagine myself not doing it for my wife.Just can't and i even prefer it to s*x

Ha...This man...hahahahahahahaha

jnrbayano:
....to take roll call of sexy entities?

LOL..I came with friendz to chill o...but you know it is easy to get distracted here na...

Yeah, I know this might seem like another silly thread, but Ii beg your indulgence please...

I am right now at a pool, so naturally I am looking at a lot of people and I am wondering what really is sexy about them..

For the me, I look at a pretty face, then I quickly check out the boobs, then I go for the figure If all these don't check out, I just lose interest...Am I being too choosy Help out!!!

And then it got me wondering, what do Ladies find sexy in a guy Do let me hear abeg!!!

jonaifame22:
You have a body like the sculpture of a greek god!

Mo' gbe!!!

drkay:
That sin is unforgivable as far as am concerned.

Please what is the sin here Is it the child she had Or is it the fact she didn't tell him
Is it just me or has the base for sin been changed since I last checked the Holy Books Hian!!!

Jenams:
are u the owner of this forum? what are you doing here if i may ask. i detest ur likes

This is a public forum young man. It is okay for you to detest people like me. It is also okay for me to think you are 'mor0n'...You see, we all have our perceptions. Now you have learnt something, so scurry off

babyfaceafrica:
maybe she believed they will eventually get married naw..so no use in keeping the secret again...

Well, now she has confessed the secret, which I believe is nothing but her private matter, and the man has overreacted and called off the wedding... Am sure, the man would have run away from the beginning if she had told him, without getting to know that he could actually marry this young lady.

The way I see it, single mothers are better...at least you know her 'oven' works...lol
No be to go marry woman wey don dagabru her own finish, una go come dey waka from church to church to find solution.
The only time I will have a problem with a single mother is when she actually has 2 or more kids - from the same or different parents, I no gree unless better story dey behind am.

babyfaceafrica:
means she didn't trust the guy!!!! And they were suppose to get married soon...hmmmm....only God knows the dept of human heart!

Yes, she didn't trust the guy to handle the situation well. I am sure she wouldn't have allowed the guy to accompany her to the hospital, no matter how much he had insisted, if she wasn't planning on telling him eventually

emperorchedda:
I'd have preferred that nigga ignored because he is deluded and haven't met Nigerian ladies

Oh, please shut up young man. So a 'Nigerian' babe has a child outside wedlock, so what I hope you get to throw shades at the 'Nigerian' men who get them pregnant.

babyfaceafrica:
are u serious?...you must be joking!!!!.....we have chronic liars..irrespective of watever you do for them...they are secretive..if you want to live your life with those kind of people fine,but don't criticize dose who can't!!!!..to each his own!!!

With the hypocrisy of people flying left, right and centre, it shouldn't be a surprise people are afraid of telling the complete truth about themselves.

Now he saiD he was ready to marry the lady. I, for one, would have been more angry at the fact that she didn't feel comfortable enough to tell me, than the fact that she didn't.

So what does this man want us to do now?? You have alreaDy decided you won't forgive, so why share your story??

People are just so heartless in this world. Yes, the man should ask himself why a lady who loves you is afraid to tell you she is a single mom. That must mean you are not a very good person.

She didn't lie to you young man. It is not like you ever asked her, during your courtship, if she has a child. And if we are going by your logic I will hope there is absolutely nothing in your life you are hiding from her too.

Listen everybody, when your partner hold such grave information from you after a long time of being together, then the fault is definitely from you and not your partner. It simply means you have not shown them that they can trust you enough with their Life.

So before we get all high and mighty, let us ask ourselves certain questions about our personality as perceived by our partners, before judging them...Na wa o