When are the coming to MTL? I also heard Femi will be there the 10th of June. Anyone heard anything?

Very ignorant thread.

Female circumcision is the equivalent to cutting off a male's penis and scrotum. The nerves in a penis are equivalent to the nerves in the clitoris.

No one can ever compare cutting the foreskin of the penis to cutting the clitoris and vulva off.

No point in arguing with you. I was not trying to insult you, so please, if you don't understand what I said, then read it again. I was making reference to the fact that no one can have sex just lying there. It takes some form of mental and physical energy. The whole man analogy is to get you to understand that if a woman is too tired for sex, then just lying there won't make it happen. If you don't understand then I hope at least one man out there will.

MRbrownJAY:

there is no such thing as too tired for sex (since laying on your back doesnt require any energy), i would rather rephrase it as"too tired for sex WITH HIM"
the husband should find ways to get his wife "in the mood" by other means, passionate dinners, different bedroom strategy, new and exciting bedroom games etc etc etc

First off, TOTALLY disagree with that one.

If as a man, she gets on top and you are lying there limp, sex just isn't going to happen, now is it!!?? . In no way does a woman just "lay on her back".

@topic

The guy needs to be a man and speak up. Getting sex outside the marriage is only gonna get him off, not get his wife to pay him more attention in bed. The issue is that he's lonely, not sex starved. Sex 3 times every 2 weeks is a bit on the lesser side, but it's not as if he's not getting any at all. He needs to realize that it's not the sex he misses, but the intimacy. And to agree totally with Mr. BrownJay the only way to do that is through COMMUNICATION.

Dunno. Probably just a pet name, you know like "LA with a G O S" - La (Los) gos (gidi).

Somebody help me out nah?

I don't think you are being played at all. From what you've said, Girl B seems like a nice girl, but as far as causing this drama,  sorry to say but you kinda screwed Girl A over and caused all this yourself. You may not have been in a "relationship" relationship, but you were in a sexual one. It wasn't just one time, so she has every right to be cross with you and her friend. As far as Girl B's betrayal of Girl A's friendship, it shouldn't be used to measure weather she will betray you or not. Girls have a way of being very 'partial' to guys. Take a chance on her, just as you said she took a chance on you. And what if you sponsor her to visit the UK and she bounces out on you? Would you be able to accept it as your own karma? What goes around always comes back around you know,

I say stay strong and stop being paranoid. She likes you, your family likes her, so move on and live right with her.

Women cheat because they no longer care about the man they are with.

He may have treated her badly with words or actions. He may have cheated on her one too many times. He may have never had her heart to begin with.

A woman in love does not cheat.

Smoking is not a character trait as most would like us believe. It's a habit that we pick up for an array of reasons - peer pressure and parental example are the best known. I'm sure she is a lovely woman and you are a great man, but you as a smoker simply cannot ask her to quit without quitting yourself. And using pregnancy as an excuse won't cut it either. Your smoking will affect the children just as much as hers will. In fact if she does quit and you continue, then your smoking would affect the children and her. So the choice is yours as well as hers.

Uhhhhggghhh, It's a phone, not an arm for cryin out loud!!! If it's being used as a mobile handset, then as your husband, he has the right to answer it and vice versa, just like the house phone. We're not talking about a friend or even a girlfriend. As husband and wife, you share responsibilities.

People are trying to reach you. When he wants to use his phone for extra curricular activities, then the issue shouldn't turn into "what right do you have to pick my calls". He/she should be savvy enough to know how to keep his/her game on the low and not blame technology. This is the information age. You're only as private as you make yourself.

And as to all this privacy bullish for picking a call, it's annoying. Privacy refers to ownership of information. Privacy is essential in a marriage, and with that comes responsibility and trust. You don't go into text messages because there is information there. But picking a call, please. Don't make it a big deal. It's so not.

Call me boring, but I'm a Cosmo girl! Oh, and I can't forget the classic rum and coke, a Trini chick's beuvrage du jour!

yea, I saw that one not long ago. Sad and scary stuff, There must be a way to be financially independant in these days and ages. It seems that even the self-employed are subject to the game of the markets and the dominance of the US economy.

English, french (perfectly bilingual)
Spanish (beginners level)
Yoruba (learning beginners level)

Languages I want to know, Every one on this planet!

I have also been trying to teach myself Yoruba. I found this site that helped more than that online dictionary: http://www.abeokuta.org/yoruba.htm
It didn't help as much with understanding sentence structure, but it helped me see the differences.

No question, it depends on the outfit. I must admit though, I'd do gladiators EVERYDAY!

OpeLovely:

@ iyaade,

Why not use any emollient creams which are good for dry/itchy skin. A good example is E-45 cream. Sheabutter is good especially when mixed with honey and the natural black soap.

Thanks, I'll try that!

Whoa, I love these lively debates!!

@post
This is a broad generalization, but tell me one aspect of human existence that is NOT a generalization. Yes, polygamy is accepted in certain traditional societies as well as Islamic society, but we all know nowadays polgamy is in not always in the form of marriage. Men don't need to bring their other wives into their homes. They just support their girlfriends that their wives may of may not be aware of.

I believe that all those that have come in this thread to bash the poster have not opened their mind to the point the poster is actually driving at - Men (Nigerian in this case) sometimes do not give their women the respect they deserve and women (Nigerian in this case) spoil them by accepting their bull ish. They also perpetuate the systematic behavior by not raising their sons to respect females.

So if it can be agreed upon that this has a lot of truth to it, regardless of what you are or where you come from, can anyone bring some type of solution to an apparent problem? I for one am trying to raise my son to be a gentleman and I will expect that behavior from everyone he surrounds himself with.

I believe it isn't necessary to get defensive about this generalization because in NO circumstance does ANYTHING apply to EVERYONE. We shouldn't even have to acknowledge that. It should be a given. So lets just drop it.

I've been option A B and C at some point in my life. To me, they're all the same - D is a bigger version of C is a bigger version of B and so on.

I just think the pics of the stars make our viewpoint a little warped. Have any of you actually stood next to Cristina Milian to see how tiny she actually is?

Thanks for the replies everyone!

I am a very avid moisturiser. I wouldn't live without it. I've never tried LaMer, but I heared it's wonderful. As for the cortisone cream, I was on prescription and it indeed faded and healed up. When it came back, I reapplied it liberally and unbeknownst to me cortisone thins the skin, so part of my skin peeled off when I scratched it. I asked my dermatologist for a non-cortisonal cream and he prescribed Elidel, which was 8 times as expensive and half as effective. This is why I was wondering if anyone knew of any anti inflamatory/itch products that may or may not be herbal(natural). And yes I use a natural shey butter soap on my face.

I haven't tried it, but I heared that it fades them. As for bio-oil, I believe it works better to prevent them, than to fade them. Afterall, stretch marks are permanent.

@anybody who can answer me

I have generally good skin, no blemishes, no acne, pretty smooth, except for the few areas where I have eczema. I have been gettinng these itchy, dry patches of skin since I was 15, and they come and go with the allergy seasons (hayfever and ragweed) as well as in winter which is pretty harsh over here. They leave dry scaly dark patches on my neck, and chin and while creamy foundation soothes and conceals it, I would like advice on how to stop the itching and breaking and treat the damaged skin. Without the eczema, I wouldn't need to wear makeup (not that I do on a regular basis anyway) and I want to keep my skin healthy. I also have a bit of it on my upper back so makeup really isn't my answer.

Any takers?

@ davidylan

what are you on about? what do you know about west indian ladies? You're over in the uk or america, never having been to the islands, and screw over one J-can, call HER crazy then label all of us? please,

you're better off with your white chicks if that's what you want, we don't need your ignorance in our lives. Next.

That's sweet!!!

My ex's voice used to(still does) crack whenever he expressed his true feelings - his macho attitude and arrogance would melt away and any deep voice he had would all of a sudden turn pre-pubescent! So cute!

My fiance just finds some way to make me laugh whenever I'm ranting! I love it because my rant sessions become rant minutes. Who needs to go on forever when you can hurry up and laugh about it! Bless him!!

I guess I am hourglass once I lose my baby belly!!!! mind you the baby gave me hips and a bum as well as the tummy. I always had big bosoms so maybe pre baby I was a vase, who really knows?