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phemmy88:
Okay, Let the insult begins.

Lol

OAM4J:
Dave, how old are you?

udobim:
Time to steal cables since no current for now. HAHAHA

mutter:
A child is a gift from God and whatever the circumstances should be accepted as such.
I think you should not go so far thinking of inheritance now and going on strong about the DNA may only bring bad blood now.
Remember this child is part of the family.
Show love and stand by your husband, he needs you now. The child is there so nothing can change that.
No need to make yourself the key player in this issue you would only end up being burnt.
Let your husband handle it and do your part by showing tolerance and love.
nice advice i appreciate.

[quote author=chaircover link=topic=500257.msg6612638#msg6612638 date=1282375022]We all seem to be facing one way here & seem to be ready to "fight" this other woman. What for? I ask

Because what I am reading between the lines here is a man who got another woman pregnant BEFORE he got married, found out BEFORE he got married but denied the baby and then went on to marry his wife and not tell her anything about the possibility of him having a biological child until during a "search your soul" discussion which he probably engineered himself.

I personally think that the poster should be more afraid of the husband than this other woman.

You say;

"after the discussion, we tried to reach the lady in question at least to see the baby since even the supposed father has not seen her before but she blocked our every move"

See how you have been roped into doing your husbands dirty work? . . . . . .and Hell Yes, the lady has every right to kick up a fuss and cause trouble now. Was it not your husband who denied the baby from the onset; never even tried to see the baby to see if it was his, not to talk of offering a DNA test then?

Now you both come looking after how many years? What for? Did your husband care about the baby's welfare before now?

Who knows, the woman is probably happily married and much better financially off & so doesn't need you anyway & all you people did was to stir up a hornets nest without thinking about the repercussion.

I advice that before you go any further, you involve elders from both families & if possible the babys mothers family to discuss this in length before you & your husband make any further moves which may further worsen the situation.

All this is bearing in mind that the baby is your husbands, which only a DNA test can verify, which your husband should have been brave enough to have ordered a long long long time ago; the very moment he found out about the baby.

chaircover, i get ur point but just maybe u didnt read what i wrote clearly. he didnt know about the child till after the birth when a friend told him that the child bears his name. i initiated the "soul Searching Session " like i put in my write up. he is not roping me into his dirty job like you insinuated. the baby's grandmother is already involved. as for the DNA, she seems not to be ready for the DNA as well as for him to see the baby. why should i be afraid of my husband? the person i am married to doesnt take issues as child welfare lightly. when he initiated the move to see the child 2yrs ago, he had decided to take responsibility of the child.

thweraja10:
@ iyatrustee you are too harsh now.

Ournaija:
MTN stingy sha, I dont even know why I choose to stick to the them.

Lady Dee:
Hmm, Modesty and Humbleness is non EXISTANT in her dictionary it seems,
She no reach Hollywood yet is asking for the Moon!!

Her snobbery will get her KNOWHERE in Hollywood! Mark it, They dont take to kindly to a NOBODY calling the Shots before shes even started,
Arrant Nonsense!

na fight? u dey jealous oh becos say no body sabi you? even if na molue you request for no body go answer mumu like you. the babe should be concerned about her safety and that is what is worring you.