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bellong: In every issue, especially this one, there are two sides to a coin. You have told your story but only gave details of the guy's wrong doings but no hints about how and what led to the violence. However, will try to work on the little information you gave here.

There is a saying in geology which is very useful to life, it goes thus "The past is the key to the present." I want to believe you guys courted. If you did, was there any sign of violent behaviour towards you or he was always nice to you? If there was no sign, you will need to try and reminiscence to trace when this violence started and why if he wasn't the violent type. Is his financial situation dwindling or he is getting frustrated from lack of children yet? Is there anyway you have altered or battered his ego to descend so low to resort in using violence to take his pound of flesh? These are the questions you need to ask and check. I do not and will not justify his violent reaction under any circumstances, however, you also need to learn in dwelling with your husband with respect and courtesy. There are times silence is required when he is angry, exchanging words with him at that point will yield no positive or beneficial result.

Now that you are separated for a while, I want to believe he has realised you are important to his life, hence his calling for reconciliation. Firstly, since he called your mum he was no longer interested, he has to show his sincerity and repentance by talking to her about his renewed interest and that he will stop battering you. You two also need to sit down and discuss on the way forward. Let him show and give you assurance that he will no longer resort to violence in resolving problem with you. If possible, let him give you a written agreement on that (though this may not be feasible). Invite both parents (yours and his) to a family meeting in resolving this, he can give his undertaking of turning a new leaf in their presence and am sure, they will also advice him.

After all these are done, you may go back to him (you need to play your part too in letting peace reign in the home). If he reneges on his vow and keeps beating and battering you, my sister, I will advice you stay away from such man before we hear another Arowolo's story.

It is well with your home.

Chaulay1: @jidegirl and baby_123, d OP didn't say dis is her second marriage. I guess her not wanting to commit an error d second time meant going back to him only to continue with an abusive marriage all over again. The OP may wish to clarify incase I am wrong.

jidegirl12: Iyo Aye .... Salt of the earth/world.

Error kę, this is your second marriage?

If you end up six feet under from his error using a baseball bat to crush your head out of anger, would anybody care number of times you're married?

Fi ogbon she oh.... ta ba n sukun a ma n riron oh... emi oh laro oh.
( gosh I miss baba Oyo )

Fishout: whatever it may be,u dont need to stoping loving ur partner bt u can put limitation to it

biolabee: It's out

And it's dv 2014

https://www.nairaland.com/1275397/dv-2014-winners-meet-here

adewal15: Eyah, Not happy she left.. How I wish someone Tonto n Stupid (don't mind my English.. Tonto for dictionary means stupid oooo before you misquote me) should've left instead of her:-( R.I.P Sweetie.

gysl1973: @op, you must be very stupid, you wrote this gabbage here and only you still titled it Ritualists/kidnappers, do you need a CIA or FBI that they just common 419ner looking for their daily bread,

the thing even pain me say you no fall for this adam and eve game self, since you no fit differentiate common job men from Ritualists/kidnappers,

ylaa: this is an old story. this method is well known to everybody. even a fool will not fall for this.

Rooneyboy: I dey crase
Kneel for woman
Woman wey dey bend down piss

NEVER !

berem: What the heck is Gastroenteritis? Sure it has to do with the stomach abi?

yuzedo:

Clap for yasef! Good job!
[size=5pt]They should've done the same to[/size] 190!

camcor: [color=#990000][/color]
Correct, are u from ogbomoso?

mallorca:
Do u mean u said dis to ur Husband/man dat pay ur bride price? ur a muderer,No Offence

yomibabe: Have u called the number I gave u. they will give you the best price u can tink of.No i haven't,but I will vety soon,tanx a lot.

berem: WHAT A TOTOLICIOUS LADY! She must have put sugar in her thing to attract ants.

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