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I don't like fights and most times will evade them ,other happenings btw then were what cooled me from fighting him . Should i have fought him, may be i should not have allowed them time alone and they went far by the time i reached them ,the deed was done. But i can't help feeling there is something else btw them that i don't know about.

mykejones: Guy,with your actions,you not only Disrespected your girl,you also disrespected yourself!
Agreed you weren't as strong as the fellow,but shd u have given them 'enof' space in the first place?
Live with this Guilt: You exposed your girl to danger,and she got disrespected,RIGHT in your presence! Live with it! Nxt time,man up and own up!
PS: Disregard Sexkillz advice.
Every girl needs a REAL man,ur girl ain't an exception.

yeah that exactly how i felt,wouldn't repeat itself ever again.

niki6: as far as i am concerned it is all ur fault, YOU dragged her to see d guy off wen she had refused. YOU gave dem space to talk wen she had said NO. YOU stood by n watched him slap her nt 1nc nt 2ce bt 3 times jst coz u wia AFRAID. U shld av interferred wen u heard raised voices, her cryin n comment dat she has no one shows u dnt count and ur actions say u dnt care, she shld av brken up wit u by nw... nonsence. May God save me 4rm ppl lyk u.

noted. Thanks but the slaps weren't at the same time besides don't think i should have fought . I should have let her or encourage her see the guy off.

mummychi: guy if am ur girl i ll end d relationship, u r a weak man every girl need security and u r not given her that just look for a way to get back at d guy because if not so ur girl will use dat at u someday

i feel that there is something about their r/ship that i don't know or my girl is not telling me , if it comes to fight ,he is more hefty than me and might beat me at it,is it worth it to get wounded for her. The other we were in my house and this same guy was calling her to come to her house that he is waiting for her and of course i said that she is going on where.he called till he got tired. As for her dumping me or me quitting the r/ship ,well in 2 months time am leaving my current job,house and location to start my master's degree program . I don't think the r/ship will continue after that and i have told her about my going.

Pacify: it was a terrible insult for you to have watched another man slap your woman, let alone for THREE TIMES! In the first place, you never should have allowed her to see him off not to talk of giving them space to discuss privately. If I was the girl, I'd never date you again. But that as been said, you have to find a way to get back at that guy otherwise, He will do worse next time (probably rap.e her right there in your presence) since you didn't react the first time. You should ve probably challenged him right there and then and when he makes a terrible move at you, you can then go ahead and justifiably arrest him. Now you don't have a justifiable reason for arresting him and so far he has done what was on his mind without been challenged. Always stand your ground no matter what!

so i should have returned the slaps and fought him if need be ,thanks

[quote author=val_dee]Hey buddy, you always having problem with your girlfriends exs.
You gotta check yourself man.[/quote]its still the same girl and the same ex

When i went to my girl's house yesternight , she was outside with her ex ,though her aunty was inside ,i greeted the guy ,we already knew ourselves and hug my girl and ignored him and me and mygirl were gisting and playing . Till he demanded that she saw him off ,she refused and i had to drag her with me to see him off, at the junction he asked for some moment alone with her ,she said he should talk in my presence ,he refused and i have them some space and the next thing the started they started exchanging words and he slapped her . I came to them and asked him to go, but mygirl they have not finished talking and he was fuming. I was not well ,i had a bike accident on saturday and the wounds are still fresh . I didn't want to fight nor did i have the mind to do so. As they shifted again to talk , i heard raised voices and slaps as i drew close ,he left . My girl he slapped her 3 times, why because he wanted to kneel down and beg her to dump me and come back to him and she said he shouldn't bother that she can't leave me for him . He told her that she is not the only woman on earth that she can go to hell. I had to hold myself not to fight. Because the man is stronger than me coupled with the wounds on my body.i didn't draw him out because i didn't want to excalate matters. Throughout the night till i went to my house around 12 a.m ,she was crying that its because she is an orphan and has nobody and he knows that's why he is handling her like that ,i am feeling bad about all this and i want to teach the guy a lesson ,my neighbour is a police woman ,a high ranking one , i told her as i came back cause she was asking me why am coming back by that time,she said she will give two police officers to go and arrest the man and detain in their cell for like 2 days. Am i still thinking about it. Should i drag it this far ? Or just forget the matter or should i have fought that idiot? Never had a cause to fight over a woman and i don't want to start today. But am feeling i let mygirl down.

I understand you,i have passed through that before. That was about 18 months ago ,then i just went to a new city and a new job and no friends or family around . Just me and i was so lonely and to couple with it ,i have always been a one man squad so i was really baffled at myself and i thought having a gf would solve that but after many trials and error ,now i have one but am feeling like am not giving her or even myself any breathing space and i want to try and not be seeing her every damn fucking day. So i would advice that you don't rush but that you hold yourself and be comfortable with yourself first ,your are a woman,its a given that men will come,decide what you want and choose. At that period i understood why the bible said " its not good that a man would be alone"

pendusky: I fink i shld bookmarked this page, @poster pls remember to tel us wat hapend after 8months...

yeah! In 8 months time ,every thing must have fallen in place . With patience most situations solve themselves.

Well ,poster i will ask you to take from both side of the advice. Don't dump the girl yet,don't surrender your heart yet incase of heartbrake,put a hold on your emotions,don't spend overboard,spend only what you can afford to spend without regrets later. But definitely talk with your babe,tell her what's on your mind. I have been in a similar situation and still is. The ex of my gf,they broke up 9 months ago b/c she caught him cheating but till now he stills comes to beg and sometimes to pester the girl and is always trying to force her to collect one thing or the other from him. He has met us sometimes fooling around and he will still come tomorrow. Now he tells my girl , that he has accepted that she has a new bf ,but he still want to be friends with her. I have talked with my girl at length and she told me that even if she didn't fall for me that she can't accept him back. So just still your heart ,be with your babe.time will tell. It's all about experience and maturity. Be sharp,don't be in river and soap enter your eyes. Its innocent till proven guilty not the other way round.

davidcobi: Dude, I didn't read your story and all; but DUMP the chick... She's a sick retard!!!

people and their advices ,na so you dey dump your gf at the slightest hint of trouble. Muchedy

For arsenal selling van persie is not good at all. Everything is not about money,if he doesn't want to play then he should train with the reserves and we allow his contract run down,so that no player repeats that rubbish next year. You don't keep selling your best players each season to your stronger opponents and you are talking of wanting to win the league. How will you claim to be a big club. Selling him will be writting in stone that arsenal is a selling club/feeder team to the bigger teams ,it will affect our reputation and possible the calibre of players that will want to come to us in the future. We should not mature players and then sell them. We still have some rough gems in our pack like ox, wilshere, ryo . We should not sell. We should use this ,to make a bold statement that we are not a breeding ground for any darn fucking team.

Yield: I don't see why you should let distance get in the way of you continuing a r/ship with someone you supposedly love.
But it's your choice, of course. You should definitely let her know. A week beforehand is good.

i may want to but i know myself. "Am a classic case of out of sight,out of mind" even to call my family is war.

Caracta: Tell her

when ? Now or later. Will it affect the quantity/quality of time she will be spending with me

I have decided to leave my present job and go back to school to do my masters . Am from ánambra but presently based in ikom. So i have to go back to my people in onitsha and from there ,plot my next move . I love my present gf notminding her troubles. I plan to stop work this month end. Should i tell my gf at all or allow her to find out when i have gone or do i tell her now and try to cussion the effect of my leaving her. I don't do distant r/ship . So if i go the r/ship is over. Do i tell her later maybe a day or a week to my departure. Telling her that am going will it affect our relationship i.e will it make her to avoid staying around me so as feel less of my absence when am gone. For the past 3 months we ve found a way to stay atleast 30 minutes with each other and sometimes the whole day depending our work and day.

[quote author=Raw.]just 1 and u r happy. [/quote]him for ask for 3.

[quote author=Nerdy_Poet]The harm has already been done.
But look at the bright side though, you wont have to use condoms anymore... [/quote]is there not something like secondary infection.

joudini: She 'refused' N5k so she can bug you for N2.2k and then sleep with you? You don't need a crystal ball to know she is a desperate slut. Her going rate is that N2.2k

she definitely is not a slut,that much i can say for her. She says my giving her money to do her convinces her that atleast i am spending something for her . Her man should be doing something for her apart from sex .does it really make meaning ? Well am begining to follow her logic abi na kongi de hold me ?

freecocoa: 2,500 for hair?what kind of hair will she make with that?

And how come she can't provide the money when she has a business that brings her income?she's a gold digger and a stingy girl for not wanting to spend her own money on herself.

OP its okay to spend on your woman but she should be able to support herself and understand when you can't provide for her,her asking her ex for money as little as 2,500 and recharge card shows she's a cheap sucker.

due to the type of work i do when i am balancing my books ,money is scarse in my hands and for one week now ,she has saying money for hair and i have told her that i don't have ,i shouldn't give her money that i would use to feed myself to do her hair and she has denied me access to her body and she said she will do so till i give her #2200 for her hair or else we will be just ordinary friends . And that this morning another person was giving her #5000 and she refused because of me and that if i don't comply and she make her hair by herself that she will be scarse to me.

eunisam: U are not secured! Get yourself secure by eyeing that girl next street.

how would that solve the problem that will be confusing myself ,adding to my problems ;cheating and still spending my resources.i believe in a r/ship its only trust on your partner that will make you, secure and your partner herself begins to sow the seeds of insecurity in by her own actions and word . How then ,will you feel secure in it.

Yeah! I should have followed you guys advice but i didn't as i was following my heart. Well my head has won the battle btw it and my heart. I will allow the r/ship to die. It really takes money to sustain and maintain a r/ship

M M M: The kind of thread/topic I see in romance section dis dayz,I guess d mods should change romance section title 2 kids/boyz or children section.

Or

Only member from 25yrs & above should be allowed in romance section.

No more 18yrs teen

yes so many young and confused adults who entered into r/ships before they are due for it and yet they need help and solution for their problems . Where better to ask than here that they can ask and nobody will know who they are.if you have a solution for them ,please offer them.

I don't know for others but for me ,you write well atleast you have a passion for it,even though you may need brushing up and improving But practice makes perfect and here is a good place as any to practice and you won't lack audience nor critics. I love your story ,its real and full of insights and hindsight and even now are so many young men passing through what you just described. Your story could show them a way forward. Am waiting to read more from you.

Basildon1: LOL! U are here catching feelings on another individual's grammar and you wanna talk about having a boring an pathetic life. Life's ironies!

Kindly consider sandcounting as a new hobby!

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