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ubunja:
yes. "some men"....not boys at home left with Aunty the whole day to protect them. Grown men can like that. But don't presume boys do. Remember boys mature waaaayy slower than girls. Their mind and body is nowhere near able to process whats happening. Most abusive men have a history of child sexual abuse. While sexually abused girls will more often grow up to be sluts with hyper sex drives. Its not good for no one.

Now I understand. you're right

ubunja:
since when was molestation a cause for being thankful? Most of these cases are rape. And subconsciously the negative results will bear fruit.

But it's a thing of joy for the guy. Isn't that what men are looking for? Some men can do anything for it. He should be grateful

ubunja:
smh

why

Money give a man confidence, and the ability to reach anywhere. I can Never stoop so low of marrying a broke boi. Who cares if Wizkid is a small boy?. I know some idiots Will comment on this post to shame me but I don't care about their opinion

Instead of ubunja to be educating the women folks about improving their self worth too, he won't. his loyalty is only to the brotherhood. selfish lot.

Thank you OP, I have gained one or two things from this write-up

I think some people still don't understand the " chosen miseducation" . The post was a blessing to men and women (generally). Women learnt something extraordinary in that Post. Now I understand what it takes to be that trophy wife I've ever wanted to be to him. It's all about" did he chose me"? did he want me so crazily to ignore everythin so that only me will matters to him?. I've never agree with ubunja; but chosen is one write-up I've only ever related with. 100%, it's the truth.

Martinez39:
Those who think village is the abode of good girls are fooling themselves. The girls there are pretending similar to the way the op described. Who is to say that that good girl a man has his eyes on is not pretending in the way similar to what op outlined? The fact that a thread like this exists shows that most of these girls are pretending. Little wonder many recount tales of their wives changing for the worse after marriage.

Shut up Martinez, you have been brainwashed. There are many good Ladies out there who support their men. I don't know where u lot are getting women from. When I love a man, I give him full support

Good morning all. Who can dash me a flash drive with OTG. I'll really appreciate

Geminita1:
how so? my bf is white and you will lick his ass when you see him because white men are the definition of excellence and grace. Sorry You can go and get a beautiful white woman to compensate yourself. But the white man would still be your Lord.

and u sure he'll marry you with this ur small breast?. the whole breast no even reach the tip of my breast sef

This'is because that's where they came from and that's where they shall return

This guy is so handsome. I'll denounce my child to fuvk and run away with him. Seeing his pics alone makes water come out anyhow. Unlike broke and ugly looking nairaland Bois

Fabolousibk1:
Show plenty for this DEC but our street transformer don pack up that's why sometimes I prefer my relationship to spoil than my street transformer✌️.

Another weak man spotted

Ariza:
Nothing there just a simple No and that's it. However I would be concerned if I get this often, that means something is wrong somewhere.

What if he's good looking? lol

thebosstrevor:
men also have options

it is also similar with men,

many men have pursued after women because they choose her and want to be with her, it is up to their persuasion for her to agree soboth sex choose who they want to be with

See I'm not a fans of ubunja and I had on many occasions differ and argue with his idea. But when I read the chosen miseducation, I had no choice but to screenshot and read over and over.

When women chose you, it's a different Ball game.

I'm saying this because I understand what I can do when it comes to the person I chose. I can go miles for him

thebosstrevor:
thanks for writing this

i have noticed that the women who choose their men are looking for the nice guys, looking for men to control. a woman who chooses a man knows her game plan, she is looking for a last resort, men might find it intriguing but in reality most of the women who do this choosing are former bad girls looking to settle down.

A man can be the prize and still choose the woman he wants to be with

being the prize has to do with your behavior during the relationship not the pursuing stage

don't be mislead. women are the choser. If you chose her and she still don't chose you, there's Little to nothing you can achieve. Let's be frank, the chosen write-up is true.
. women have options. women chose always

This' COZA pastor makes me wet anytime I see him . he's too handsome. God, give a handsome man like this, even if the relationship will be abusive. Unlike the idiot and broke boys. Many of them are ugly and broke

BigIyanga:
Some women want to have it both ways.. an honest guy.... but not to hurt their feelings. It was a consensual sex and it was fun to both parties... that’s why they kept knacking channels open

You might be right. but the girl in question is already attaching feelings with the sex thing. Why can't the guy do the needful and set her off for good even if she reignite contact

Ladycewhy:
yeah, most narccissits are chronic liars and master manipulators which this guy has just exhibited. This is a classic covert narccisists, they are like green snakes,they come on to you and you dont even realise it until you start second guessing and being confused.


The first mistake the op made was not pulling out when he said "i don't want something serious". That was his way of not being held accountable for whatever he does to her unfortunately she fell for it.

I think the op needs to head to youtube and watch videos on gaslighting. Because from my view point and the guy's view point ,there was never a relationship to begin with.

you're probably a psychologist. Narcissists are far dangerous than psychopath, ADHD and other traits which shows behavioral abnormality.

Those that'll love bomb you first , only to leave you in a limbo later when they see you're into it much more than they are, are the deadly type. I've been with people like the OP's boyfriend, and I tell you it was the most devastating point in my life.

I advised this woman to let him go. The man already cleared himself of any responsibility when he told her he's nor ready for commitment. He'll keep gaslighting and coming back for sex and validation. That's there way

Ladycewhy:
This is what i call "GASLIGHTING"

Narcissist use it more. the guy seems like one

Myhusband:
if you're my sister ehn! I will force you do igbele for 7days in cele to rebrand and reinstate your lost self esteem


you lack self esteem, self value, inferior for another gender, knowledge About love and self respect


you've no right to be making a lead in a relationship in the first place

secondly you've no right to be accusing or monitoring a guy that's not committed to you, the guy made it clear that he doesn't want something serious, so why monitor him

thirdly, you might continue being a victim of exploitation if you don't work on your value. I'm sure you're kind of people that want tall, handsome man, his feeling towards you doesn't matter


in conclusion, apologising is unnecessary as he was never in a relationship with you and him blocking you means he thrash and rubbish you, so leave him and move on

The guy is probably very handsome, that's why the op couldn't leave. women will stay in an abusive relationship if the guy is good looking. forget about what we used to show here

INSTANTCASH345:
I don't pray you are used for anything bad next year with this your mental state.

Na your type people dey use do ritual upandan.

And the funny thing is that as you are now,you may not even have #50,000($150) in your whole Nigerian account but you want a guy to spend #30,000($100) for you in just a day.

What a Nicompu!

Smelly girls with no brains...

noted sir

SkinnyNigga:
I just want to know if i did it wrong or right..

there's this girl in my department.. we are very close. she visits me, and I visit her.. I don't have romantic interest where she is.. but I just like cos she is nice and generous.. I notice she is proud because she is beautiful and has guys doing her biddings..I used to call her regularly. so I just stopped. I got tired of the whole thing.. and started withdrawing . on her birthday, In the morning. I viewed her status, but didn't comment or wish her happy birthday.. she was angry.. and said she thought we were friends but she was wrong. I viewed her status but. kept mute.. this vexed me, cos it was still morning.. next day at school. she saw me and walked past.. I didn't call her either. I told my guys about it, they said I failed it. I should beg her . that she really cares about me that's why she acted that way.. I got home.. chatted her up. she starting talking shiit. that' I have changed , I no longer call her to tell her what's happening in dept. it seems like I got many friends now.. I told her to forget everything. but she said no, that she is no longer comforta being my friend. that she chooses her friend. I got tired of begging and stopped. so am I at fault here or not ? we are strangers now

How does skinny nigga like you get a girl to fall for you sef? Fine, you no fine

cucumbae:
Girls are cunning.They know how to manipulate weak guys into dropping cash.Na so this gel go dey call me" dear'my love.
Ok,I come toast her she say she get guy wey she dey roll with.Why you come dey call me your love?I noticed she did that whenever she want to tax me or she need recharge card.And me wey mumu go give her.Though she would say it romantically.
The last one wey I treat her fvck up be say she say make I borrow her #5k.You know gels na.Any money wey a guy borrow them na dash.I meet her for her location with the #5k.But I talked for my mind say I go romance her before I give her because e no easy to collect back your loan from a female friend wey come be your toaster.When I say make I romance her she bluntly refused.And I really wan give her the money.Na there I changed my mind.I tell her say make she text me her account details say I go wire her.She send am the next day begin call me I blocked her number.Truecaller just dey update me of several miss calls.Since 3 weeks she never call.

Another broke boy spotted

INSTANTCASH345:
Who are you addressing as having problem?
I guess you must be very sick...

See them. texting to form defense

INSTANTCASH345:
Take am easy na...u know how e easy to make the money?

$100 to spend in a day for an average Nigerian who isn't a politician/yahoo guy/NNPC worker wouldn't be that easy.

My younger ones work on Fiverr and make a lot of monies but they don't spend lavishly that way.

How will you advice your own son if he were in his shoes?Would you tell him to spend that way just to impress a lady?

I am not saying you should give him pu..na oh,but from your msg,I can see you are looking for one who can lavish monies on avoidable expenses.

NL ladies no dey fear God at all...that's why I have never asked anyone out nor even have a friend from here.

most of u have prob accepting reality

Jewessgratitude:
Lmao..omor...na you fit dem abeg.
Dont mind him, girlfriend my foot! This one that argues with a woman, can he have a girlfriend. Mtchewww...

Dint mind them jare. Na here they get mouth.

just ignore him. Men can't handle a woman smarter than them. they find ways to avoid an intelligent lady like plague

Nat404:
Not sure I should tell you. Do you think of yourself as being nice or naughty?

I'm a very very nice girl. Very homely. hope no problem sir?

Nat404:
Continue to insult me, no problem.

Heaven knows that I am not broke. It's people like you that we delay their projects and make them to pay more.

what do u do?

Nat404:
Hallo, he's not broke. He's made lots of money more than I do through this social network.

Another broke idiot spotted.
Broke idiot pacifying his fellow colleague

iLegendd:
Ok.

.. Mtchew

iLegendd:
I'm sorry for being broke. I sincerely apologize.

Thank you for admitting. Instead of finding ways to impress girls, dress nice and look good, then Make money, you're here arguing with a lady who's far better than you in all ramification