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😀😗😌 it’s actually true that men who invest in their wife that much are men who succeed easily abroad because women contribute a lot to their financial success. Women are better planner and manager so it’s no surprise. Contrary to popular opinion from Nairaland men, men who take their wife abroad achieve more succeed than men who don’t. Nairaland men are liars when a Nairaland man tells you it’s raining outside please confirm my sister 🙏. 😅very deceitful men

Our relationship just ticked the 1yrs 3months mark. I told him at the beginning that I’d love for him to propose to me b4 we start getting intimate as most relationships built on intimacy don’t last. He agreed. But as we get along, we eventually started having sex even tho it’s not how I pictured it. But I had to because I didn’t want him to leave.

At the start of this year, I made a resolution to stop giving in to sex and see how much affections he has for me looking at the fact that he’s not even asked me to be his wife. It’s always promise here and there.

If he initiated it, I always find an excuse..and most times he convinced me and I’ll give in. I won’t lie I know it’s hard because he’s had to initiate a couple of time which I denied and he’ll mostly beg and assure me of his commitment to our relationship.

However, I noticed since the beginning of the month of May, he’s stopped showing concerns. When he asked And I said no to sex, he will just say “ohh okay” and then sleep if it’s night time or pick his phone and off to gym. Nowadays he doesn’t even initiate anything nor ask for it. I asked him if he’s okay and he told me “he’s having some heavy back pain due to his recent workout routines” but I know he’s lying. He’s always like sex even after workout.

My intuition says he’s cheating and my friend confirmed same since her last relationship also ended the same way.

Tbh, I’d just stop getting worried about this and stop asking him since he’s decided to keep mute.

gracealonev:
Abi o!
That was what I had in mind to type.

Meanwhile, this type of announcement is a trap for those jackals. If NFIU means business, they would just get the analytics of withdrawals immediately after the announcement.

But they couldn't seal the accounts against the reckless spendings of Yahaya Bello and Wike on campaigns and frivolous donations.

Why are u calling my name

goldfish27:
yes no one is worth even a dollar here but we aren't 2nd class citizens down here nor do we hide when we see the popo

That's not true tho. Don't believe what you see on social media. Nigerians are doing well and fine. In fact, some Nigerian are doing better than most people abroad. I don't even see myself leaving nigeria for anywhere but that's just me and I don't speak for everyone else

You've not even travelled and you're this pompous

Men!!. Very confused gender. Most don't even know what they want. See, my sister, don't allow the devil to use you . That man want you to mess up and frustrate him so he can find excuse to dump your sorry ass and continue his wayward life abroad. Tell him how you truly feel about him and don't fight it. Stay awake at night and pray for him.

Ednut1, come and delete this thread. Dy ar oppressing us ooo

Surf01:
ObeOkehie, And I saw in one of your post about your wife . Nice submission. But that's your wife. She love the US, great. Most people do. Got married sometimes last year to the only daughter of a highly placed politician in NG. My wife won't probably leave her career in Nigeria only to come here permanently. She's a British citizen too. Although here in the US now,but still can't wait to follow me to naija in December. Everyone's experience is different bro.

And you said one person earn $1M per year Here in the US? Is the individual a CEO? Most of the highly placed engineers I have as friends here don't earn near that. Most don't even earn better than me. $1M/year is possible but that's if your wife is a doctor and your earn damn well too as family

U r not single right �. You seem � like a very cool man. And u can't marry two wives? Ahah �

Pringles101:
You will do well to tick the cum bucket box.

When we want to marry, we know not to do so to a public vagina holder.

I know that I'm beautiful, reasonable, marriageable and submissive. Most men respect a woman that has these qualities. I'll find my own man, I only need to work on some of my childish behavior �����

Pringles101:
You forgot ask her why men suddenly tick all the boxes when they are doing financially well

Just the way a beautiful woman tick all your boxes too. �. If I'm not attractive, he won't look at me twice.

Thanks

Met a guy of recent who seem to tick my boxes. He's sound, smart and doing well really financially. Didn't take him serious initially cuz of where he works. Guys that work there always think they're a catch to every woman in Lagos and all that.
We got talking around last month and I've really gone deep and the feelings have started developed. I know he has interest in me. Can tell from the way he talk to me, look at me and always offered to help. But I didn't want to show too much interest for reasons best known to me. At least it's good if he's the one that express his interest first. He's not saying anything in that direction.
Placed his message on read from Sunday till late Tuesday. I noticed he didn't bother to send any message. Because I check our chats all the time. If he cares he could have thought I'm unwell and call. Replied yesterday and told him I was a bit sick and that's why I didn't reply. He has read my message since yesterday and didn't reply. And WhatsApp show he's online even as I'm writing this. I learnt my lesson because this is not the first time I'll mistake a man's intention for likeness. I'm usually one that Bleep up sometimes with unnecessary play and drama in relationships. For people that gets a right man, how do they go about not messing thing up?

I know I should not think of calling him, but my brain isn't resting fr. And there is nothing to imply if he even has interest in me.

Thank y'all. He responded to the message I sent to him in the morning and we talked a lot over the phone. I made it known it was my insecurity getting the worst of me. And he already fixed to see me during the week. We're in good term now.

I'm not one that undermine the effort of a man. I was just scared he might Become uninterested if I start to throw myself too much. However, I learn from that and I believe such thing is of the past.

Thanks everyone. And to those that insulted me, I want you to know that nobody is above error and we live to learn.

Jacqueline cares ��

Idaytesj29:
Now that I read this, let me see if this will help.

You have a golden chance at getting married now, font waste it. And he is a good man and has capacity to further make your life more beautiful.

If its not too late, dress up fine. Wear a beautiful smile. Give him a visit.
If you are lucky to meet him, explain to him what happened, do not lie.

He is an intellectual person. He will understand.

Apologise for not picking his calls. Tell him that won't happen again.

He sure will allow you a second chance.

Cos at the moment, he is thinking of why you acted that way. So you need to act fast as he would dwell on that for too long.

He is an hotcake. Has a lot of better ladies on his tab disturbing him.

Thank you so much for this. I never know such action could send him off. He stays in an hotel for now with a friend, before the place he is moving into get done (as he said the last time). I'll call him first. And if he's cool with me being around, I'll know from there.

Thank you ❤️��

godofuck231:
dm me , you can't put your business all in public first you are compromising your relationship

Thanks

godofuck231:
what attracts such men is your mindset and you just blew a fuse dm me am not going to force you into a relationship thats toxic you need your father , call him and talk to him , father and daughter thing

I made sure I communicated very well on our first meeting. And we've been chatting about 13 days before he came in. So I made a good impression.

godofuck231:
its normal for you to fall head over heels for jim at first , its your emotions , but men who have been burnt usually suppress their emotions and reason with signs and signals , your withdrawal was a sign of deceit ,and deception is close to witchcraft, am not saying you are a witch, am saying witchcraft is rebellion, so he sees you as a woman who could turn against him in future , mind you , you're dealing with an extremely intellectual person and you are dumping tons of information and he has been processing , your reaction came too quick you didn't have entire to observe him too , he's not all matured and he's had issues with toxic women , you need a man who understands your emotions not just you getting married

.I was just expecting you guys to drop something. How to fix this. Since you're Men and you know what attracts you aside from beauty and body....

Why do y'all sounds to make me unhappy. I'm not happy with how things turn out with him not getting back to me as I had hoped. And now you guys are compounding my issue.

Thanks anyways

Puskas:
Vagina people and their victim mentality. Imagine how this one is blaming the innocent man for not being interested. You shunned his WhatsApp messages for two days and you still expect him to be crawling on his knees begging you to reply his chats. Who does that except a man suffering from Simpson disease. If you are beautiful with a good character just like you described yourself you should have married in your twenties and not being desperate to marry in your thirties. Let me ask you one question. If the man is foolish enough to continue chatting with you and later marries you what exactly will you offer him apart from your worn out pussy? Be truthful and answer this question

I'm a submissive woman, appreciative and also have my own things going on for myself. I don't bag and I'm peaceful. Thanks �

Franky70:
You read his chats but not replying them for 2days
He will think you're a witch
He will think you don't like him
He will think you just wanted to go out with for fun
He will think you're really not serious
He will think you're with another man
He will also think maybe you're married self but lying to him
Men once you don't pick or reply their messages our first thought is you're with another niqqa

Someone like me you read my message and did t reply I will block you straight that's just me Sha

You're yet to fully understand him and you're already trying to form for him lol

Baba fit don move on Sha
No time to waste time

.I was just being careful of not making it look like I'm desperate to have him. I already showed him I like him. I think if he wanted things to escalate, he wouldn't back out that way

Franky70:
You read his chats but not replying them for 2days
He will think you're a witch
He will think you don't like him
He will think you just wanted to go out with for fun
He will think you're really not serious
He will think you're with another man
He will also think maybe you're married self but lying to him
Men once you don't pick or reply their messages our first thought is you're with another niqqa

Someone like me you read my message and did t reply I will block you straight that's just me Sha

You're yet to fully understand him and you're already trying to form for him lol

Baba fit don move on Sha
No time to waste time

I'm not with any man. Men have an habit of underating you when you show them how much you care. Between, I just wanted to see how consistent he is. I just dropped an SMS for him on his local number hoping he reply.

I'm a beautiful woman in my 30s (33 precisely) with a good career and a budding startup in the make-up business. I'm also very humble and I'm one that appreciate the little things a man do. Recently, I got linked to a guy who just came back from the US and have the intention of settling down just like me. He's successful and very respectful the First time we met, and I was already looking forward to something meaningful with him.

Last week Sunday, he took me out. When I got back home, I noticed I've embarrassed myself too much by literally throwing myself at him. I withdrew and form busy by not responding to his texts and calls for two days. WhatsApp message read but not replied.

On Tuesday, I noticed he didn't message me for the whole day. But I became bothered. Up till now, he has not called me nor message me. I didn't want things to be like this, I just didn't want it to be like I'm desperate of his attention.

Is he that he has moved on or not really interested

How can you all know about women this much? Huh . Well, that aside. There are some guys here that reading their post make me wet. So much intelligent. Pansophist makes me drip, lol. But he seems to understand more about women and I don't know if my look and appeal will work on him. Somehow sha

favoryte33:
lol,you see what i mean? may be you girls should focus more on developing yourselfs both in character& occupation. If you have those 2 things any responsible man will bow on your feet.

Seems like a girl Just break your heart. kpele

[quote author=favoryte33 post=85306044][/quote]Mtchew

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Bleep her as in? Are you not a female?

@ OP, you bleeped up big time.I believe you have always been cheating on her. Be it as is now,your only remedy is to use reverse phycology on her.

Call her, apologize and finally tell her to forget about you,that you are not worthy of her love. Tell to go find another guy and watch her tell you that it has not gotten to that.Mind you this will only work if you act it well

Op,you are a brostitude Walahi.

Manipulator hmmm. This thing will work tho most especially if the girl likes him

And to think I have never cum in my life still painful. Even one yeye boi that I thought had this great skills dissapointed me after he couldn't last 2mins

You guys are actually so petty and insecure. Y'all think women only care about your look. What about loyalty, commitment, brain, compassion which for sure most of u lack. women care about these. While the 18yrs old me drool for handsome guys, the 28yrs old me care for compassion and commitment not ur funky look

Mrshape:
Martinez39 can only beg her
If she has the solution to a mathematics problem.
How many of them fit even draw circle with compass . Let alone solve maths

Your own life revolves around book. Mtchew

Aunty Linda as rich as she's cannot hold a man to herself. And me that's very broke ASF has like 10 boyfriends to myself.

confirmation that money cannot give u a man

Is it only me that noticed the moniker jewessgratitude and fansofmyself are one and same?

one idiot girl is behind the moniker Just trying to troll and trend. she suceded