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Keep consoling yourself with that. Maybe someday you will believe it.

ComeToJesus:
Clubs that perform at elite level don't necessarily have to win every 3rd class silverware that exists..they operate and conquer top tier only while the other downgraded medals go to Chelsea.

I believe this mentality is flawed. Sometimes, a missionary’s role may be to strengthen what others have done. It isn’t about setting up your own church, it is about Jesus glorified. Sometimes, they even set up crusades and direct souls won to other churches for discipleship.

The last Reinhard Bonnke is an example — He had a ministry that held crusades and souls won were discipled by other ministries. He was a member of a church he didn’t pioneer.

So please, honor yeh sacrifices the woman made for the faith and stop with this what is the ministry she founded called? I don’t think her dad even founded any ministry but his impact in illesa—Osun state still speaks volumes.

MaxInDHouse:
What is the name of her church since we all know that there are thousands of sects with contradicting teachings and conflicting doctrines today?
In the first century a Christian missionary must be able to mention the name of the church he established so that it may be in record that so and so person founded this church after preaching and teaching in that area.
That's what apostle Paul did in Rome, Corinth, Galatia, Ephesus, Philipi, Colossea and Thessalonica.
So what is the name of the church she founded so that everyone can see how members of that church are zealously preaching and industriously teaching from house to house and door to door just as Jesus commanded his disciples? Matthew 10:11-13

Blasphemy of the highest order. Which Bible ever referenced that the Holy Spirit slept with Mary? Are you high or something?

In the Bible, the conception of Jesus was a miracle, not a physical union. Luke 1:34–35 explains it clearly:

Mary asked the angel, “How will this be, since I am a virgin?”

The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God.”

This means:

“The Holy Spirit will come upon you” → God’s Spirit would act in her life.

“The power of the Most High will overshadow you” → God’s creative power, not human intimacy, brought about the conception.

Virgin birth → Mary remained a virgin; no sexual act took place.

So, Jesus’ conception was a divine act of creation, just as God spoke the universe into existence. It was not sexual.

geoworldedu:
You didn't understand the story. Check Google, check online, read your Bible, Joseph hasn't married Mary before Holy Spirit slept with her and impregnated her.
His mother Mary was engaged to marry Joseph, but before they married, she learned she was pregnant by the power of the Holy Spirit. Because Mary's husband, Joseph, was a good man, he did not want to disgrace her in public, so he planned to divorce her secretly.

Lol…the things we bother ourselves with sha.

Lonely for life kwa?

Marriage is beautiful and it should happen in its time—-all the reasons I see is why we put singles under pressure.

There are married couples without kids and there are married couples with kids who haven’t set eyes on their kids in decades. They are all grown and have left home.

So kindly reassess your definition of lonely for life as a single.

quote author=Bahamas95 post=136520159]What's satanic about that advice?

So you prefer them to remain childless for life after hitting menopause while waiting for a prince charming that never showed up?.......You must be joking.


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For those who made a mistake listening to this kinda advice in the past and have been hit by menopause I advice they adopt a child. (If you have good heart to take care of children that ain't biologically yours)

It's better than remaining childless/lonely for life.[/quote]

A male manipulative chauvinist narcissist spotted.

“My wife still has some of these issues“ “They never want to learn” “I will send you certain things ladies need to know and follow”

How about the guy? What is he following? What issues do you still have that your wife had told you about?

Very self-absorbed individual you are.

I don’t know you, but I can almost pity your poor wife as she has to work with your list to keep you and still never gets commendation as you try and make her your puppet.

When does she get an opportunity to be herself as all you do is complain and try to change her.

What some people call ‘marriage’ is pathetic. A great marriage isn’t what you just portrayed.

You even mentioned your wife on a strange platform expressing that she has issues; while you form saint just to score cheap point on an irrelevant conversation.

If you truly understand marriage and respect your wife, you won’t even do this; whether you are anonymous or not.

And the same you wants to give someone a list on how to be irresistible and attract men like you.

How sad!

And a single lady is supposed to be crying that she isn’t married to someone like you or envy your wife?

Sicklebear28:
Pocohantas. I hold you in high esteem. Ladies are mainly the architect of the situation. If I had you on my WhatsApp. I would simply send you certain things ladies need to know and follow. I tell they will become un-resistable from potential suitors. Till now my wife still has some of these issues. They never want to learn.

Salvage response👏🏻👏🏻

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pocohantas:
Lol! Either you guys don't have sisters or your sisters are all married to Tier1 men. I wonder whose sisters are the ol*shos you bash everyday. Unfortunately for me indeed. Like anyone noticed your sister is missing.

He is full of God. Fears God. Loves people.

He gives to the poor without being asked. He’s generous. You’re in a courtship with him.

But here’s the twist:

You’re the only one always talking.
You talk about your day—both the hurt and the highlights.
He just smiles, maybe laughs, and says little.

You’ve noticed he never shares anything vulnerable.
No matter how many times you raise it, his response is always:
I don’t just know how to share stuff. I prefer to listen."

And somehow, you’re okay with it. You’ve convinced yourself that he’s just a quiet, gentle man.

But pause.

You won’t just be living with this Spirit-filled, God-loving Christian man.

You’ll also be living with his emotional disconnect. He has built an inner vault— a space within him no one is allowed to enter.

How did this happen?
Maybe it began with trauma. Heartbreak. Rejection. Disappointment.

Or maybe he was raised hearing:

“Don’t cry in front of a woman.”
“Don’t let a woman see your weakness.”
“Don’t ever let a woman get too close.”
”Don’t ever apologize to a woman. You are the man and you’re always right”

So now, whenever a female presence enters the room, he automatically shuts her off in his subconscious.

For others, the conditioning was about money:
“Give a woman whatever, but never make her your next of kin.”
“She’ll kill you and inherit your property.”
“Hide your finances from your wife.”

Or house chores:
“Don’t lift a finger to help a woman.”
“She was made to serve you.”

So he grew up watching his sisters carry responsibilities while he relaxed.
Even his mother worshipped him like royalty.

And now?
This same man has proposed to a Christian sister.
He’s speaking in tongues, serving God, attending vigils...

And somehow, everyone expects that because he’s “spiritual,” his mind must be right.

But how?

Let me ask again:

How?

His spirit got born again—not his mind.

The mind only transforms through intentional renewal. And the Holy Spirit won’t force you to surrender your mindset. That’s not how He works. That would be witchcraft. He convicts but He won’t coerce.

Someone asked me recently:

“Why do so many good Christians have failed marriages?”

And I replied plainly:
Unrenewed minds. Born-again spirits.

Marriage doesn’t override the law of seedtime and harvest. It doesn’t operate on your church attendance or the number of scriptures you quote.

Good marriages aren’t gifts from heaven. They are the fruit of intentionality in applying marital principles.

Unbelievers who apply those principles—consciously or unconsciously often enjoy better marriages than believers who don’t.

Just like you won’t become wealthy simply because you’re a Christian.

Yeah! You become wealthy by applying financial principles.

So if anyone tells you that being faithful in church guarantees financial breakthrough, I’m sorry—that’s a scam. It’s not scriptural.

If you don’t sow, you can’t reap. Don’t sow prayers and expect to reap dollars.You sow value to reap money.

It’s not always the devil. Sometimes, it’s simply a lack of application of principles.

So, what’s the way forward?

For the Woman(Man) in Courtship:

1. Don’t ignore the signs.
Love is patient, not blind. Don’t use prayer and fasting to silence what your eyes already see.Don't spiritualize red flags.

2. Ask the hard questions early.
-How do you process pain?”
-Who do you talk to when you’re hurt?”
-“How did your upbringing shape your views on marriage, money, and women?”
-“What does emotional intimacy mean to you?”

3. Let your peace—not your feelings—lead you.
Peace is not the absence of butterflies; it’s the quiet confidence that you’re safe in your decision.

4. Understand that love won’t fix his mindset.
He must be willing to do the work. You can’t "support" someone into healing if they don’t see their brokenness.

For the God-loving Man (Woman) Who Struggles to Open Up:

1. Own your wound.
Stop hiding behind “That’s just how I am.” That’s how trauma trained you. But you can unlearn it in Christ.

2. Get help.
Start small—maybe with a mentor, men’s group, inner healing session, or Christian therapist. Seeking help doesn’t make you weak. It makes you whole.

3. Let the Holy Spirit into your mind.
Not just your tongue. Not just your spirit. Let Him deal with how you think.

4. Redefine vulnerability.
Jesus wept.
David danced, wrote psalms, mourned deeply.
Paul shared his fears and weakness. Emotion is not weakness. It's humanity in its most honest state.

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For Both:

Before saying “yes” to the altar, ask this:

“Can I live with this version of this person if nothing changes?”

Not:

“Will marriage fix this?” “Can I change them?”
But:
“Can I still honor God and thrive if this is who they remain?”

Because you’re not just marrying a praying, tongue-speaking Christian. You’re marrying their mindset, emotional patterns, habits, and traumas too.

Shalom.

🤣🤣🤣🤣where are they supposed to set up the zoo without the government coming to claim the aquatic creature as its own?

kettykin:
Nigerians always in a habit of eating their future, who else realizes that they could have made much more setting up a wild life park or a zoo of exotic animals than this one time plate of protein

Who have the Igbos always voted for before 2023? Who got 95% of their votes? Was there any other Igbo man aside Obi who has commanded that percentage from the SouthEast? I just think you are being myopic.

The Igbos voted Obadanjo enmasse not their APGA.. The Igbos voted MKO Abiola of SDP enmasse— Nigerians did.

When they chose to vote a man they believed in, it became tribalism. You guys should let the Igbos breathe.

If you have always supported others in a country you call your own and your tribe isn’t given an opportunity, it is only wisdom to start pitching your tent for your own. It is common sense.

If they are tribalistic, we pushed them to be.

And any Nigerian who believes in equity and fairness wouldn’t find my position strange. Of course those who don’t see differently. Everything isn’t politics. Don’t sell your soul for crumbs.

I am not Igbo. Just so we are clear.

quote author=Goodvibes007 post=136275276]
And guess what, they project it on others. The 2023 election is a very good example. They gave Peter obi over 90% of their votes. The Yorubas and the North gave Tinubu and Atiku just over 50%, guess who they were calling tribalist?[/quote]

I think the solution is finding out the root cause:

Why do you care about what people say about you?

If you can tackle why you care, you can then deal with it.

Some of us grew up lacking validation from our parents whilst some grew up hearing too much validation so our lives are built on it.

Christianoir:
I see people saying you shouldn’t care about what people say but I’ve been trying it not working because people might say bad thing about me and I will start thinking about it for days

How do I get that I don’t care attitude
I know inot possible not to care but at least I don’t want people opinions to weigh we down

How do you guys do it
Please suggest guys
It weighing me down

Really? So who are his Obidient clan made of? People who fell from the moon?

If And you are wrong that he won Lagos beczuse of people's displeasure against the Muslim Muslim ticket-- PDP would have been a fancier option for most of that was the case.

Keep deluding yourself that Obi won Lagos by sympathy votes against Muslim Muslim ticket,

If you say it long enough, you may start believing it.

BlakKluKluxKlan:
Peter Obi lacks the appeal and Charisma to attract votes outside his obidients clan.

Virtually all the votes he got in Lagos, Plateau, Venue and some other states in 2023 were protest votes again the muslim-muslim ticket of APC.

I think this is why Trump wanted the US to stop being Father Christmas to the nations and forming big brother.

See how you laugh at their plight when over the years they have literally being a responsive state to the nations.

A real story to learn here-- focus on building your house.

Trump just came into power and hasn't spent a year yet before you claim he caused acquired the debt.

WriterNig:
Broke ass nation! Evil nation 🇺🇸 👿

This is why they used Ukraine to fight Russia, hoping to split Russia in the end and take control of Russia's vast resources. To be able to pay off their debts.

Russia has over $75 trillion worth of untapped resources. Excluding the ones in the newly liberated territories in Ukraine.

And untop of all that, only $280 billion debt. The lowest among white nations. Even lower than some African nations.

Dear Natasha

There’s so much beauty in being dignified. Why reduce yourself to the level of your oppressors?

Are you sincerely doing this for the Kogi people? If you are, I’ll urge you to go home because there are better ways to fight.

You blew all this out of proportion by your lack of tact and wisdom, don’t keep at it. Akpabio could be a jerk but you know you didn’t have an issue with his philandering until it stopped favoring you.

If your accusation was true, all you could have done was rope him and gather proof but you couldn’t because you were too hasty. Now, accept it or not, you are at his mercy. It could have been the other way round.

Accept that you have flopped on this one, count your cost and move on— your six months suspension expires in a few months.

Hopefully, they won’t come up with more stuff after their recess to keep you still grounded. Akpabio ha the backing of the Commander-in-chief and Mr Projects. These guys are lawless and would do anything to keep you out of the senate till your 2 years expires.

Just thought to mention.

Bye Natasha.

Wow…Charles Okafor is 65 already. How time flies. He just disappeared from our screens. Mehn… this man graced our screens with all kinds of roles back in the day. Do age gallantly, sir. Congratulations!

Rapmoney:
Veteran Nollywood actor, Charles Okafor turns 65 today. He was born on 23 July, 1960. Happy Birthday great man! I cannot forget his role in the movie, 'Rituals'.

I think that’s where you are wrong. You gats celebrate grace when you see it. A gold fish has no hiding place—that’s the case of Obi. Don’t get too evil at heart such that you think everyone is fake or has to fake things. Obi is just who he is.

This isn’t about him vying for the presidency. His life just makes news even when he isn’t trying it is grace.

9jatriot:
I do not care about what Wike said about Obi serving food or not, but I am sure that lamba king's antics of serving food and doing all these things to make him look humble are just to distract us and prevent any discussion asking him how he fared as governor.

If Obi was a president by mistake, the kind of achievement we would have been hearing in our airwaves would be irrelevant things like "Aso Rock kitchen wanted to serve me fried rice with 2 pieces of meat, I ask them to give me white rice with cray fish".

Compare that with the news from Tinubu talking about foreign reserves climbing to above $40 million dollars for the first time in a long time at the same thing has cleared up all backlog of airline payments. Those are the kind of news leaders worth their salt brag about.

There is no CEO who brags about being also the best cleaner in his company. Even CEO who join the work staff to do low level jobs either do it if there is a sudden burst in workload or they are trying to identify bottlenecks so that they can streamline the bottlenecks and improve efficiency.

Lamba king's own is just for eye service, which is why he always goes with camera men. Even that event where the rich were called to serve food to the poor, the others went there to do their thing and go home, but Obi must find a way to ensure his own picture shows up online.

I received the exact same message last week. The reasons I didn’t think too much about it aside from knowing I didn’t do anyone evil is that:

They sent it to a number no one has access to. You can’t even call the number. So I knew they were gambling. No details in the message that showed they knew anything about me.

gracie007:
So this is a message we just got. I believe this is could easily be a scam but better safe than sorry. They called my sister's name the way it was registered on Truecaller. Here's the message below. Has anyone seen a message like this before?


*They reached us with this number on Whatsapp *+234 701 892 3612**

> The reason why am talking to you now is because of the way you be to me. Na person wey dey close to you, na him wan kill you. All wetin him talk, I record everything on my phone here including the video play and the voice note, him no know say I dey record am as him dey talk, and I know the reason why I recorded everything.
> The money wey him pay us no mean anything to me or shey na because of 500k wey person pay me na him, I go take go take someone life and family life? NO.
> I know the reason why I told my boy’s to calm down dat I will call you because I know you very well, and that’s the reason why I’m asking you that who did you have issues with? I don’t want you to hide anything from me

**Call me on this number**
09076454185 (this is a different number they now gave asking her to specifically call them back on this particular number alone)

She called the number and the guy asked, "have you seen my message and she asked what it was about . The guy change am and dropped the phone. Her husband now recorded a vn thanking them for helping with the information, then asked for 2 things
1) the video (not audio of the clip) of the person planning the dastardly act while still thanking them for being patriotic.
2) He then mentioned that in case this was one big joke or format, then they didn't know them well enough because if they knew the support around his wife, that type of joke would never come up as a threat to his wife and family meant he needed to rise up to the occasion. He said if this is a format, then it has to stop immediately. (He then took the screenshot of the message before sending his vn through my sister's phone.

As they received the message, they quickly deleted the first threat message and sent a VN back that was supposed to be for people who threatened them back. Because he did not engage them in that expected angry level, they had nothing else to continue with but still send their counter threat. A recorded message that had words repeated back to back. The next thing they did was to now write a message saying they were blocking her. Which they did. After that, she blocked the number and by the next morning they had also deleted the threat VN they dropped.

]Abeg make we track this number know who dey behind all this.

Very honest comment, but clearly borne out of ignorance. I'm sorry.

This is the attitude that will keep us forever at the mercy of our corrupt and irresponsible leaders who keep taking Nigerians for a ride and believing they can do anything and they become saints once they die.

Very faulty mindset.

We are not called to speak evil of anyone-- living or dead, but speaking truth to power doesn't have to be until they die-- that's cowardice.

We should speak to power so they stay accountable. It is our responsibility.

Death doesn't wipe anyone's slate clean. The dead don't read tributes.

Every statement made about the dead is so the living can know that posterity will judge us when we have departed.

This ensures we live intentionally.

Did you see the comments made on Yaradua's son's wedding? If you try your best, the people you lead will know. Leadership isn't about I am good but people don't know.

Buhari failed as a leader-- woefully.

True. We all will die someday and people will talk, and they should be free to display our score card. What's the fear about?

Death isn't a punishment. It is a course we will all undertake. So live purposefully.

People have simply displayed Buhari's scorecard and they have the right to do so.

Those talking about David not rising up against Saul are misinformed. Saul was David's benefactor-- there was a relationship. There were lots of God's prophets that spoke truth to power-- Jehu, Elijah, Elisha. in fact Jehu was anointed to go sanitize the government and he killed Jezebel.

So Nigerians wake up and stop being gullible by the same people who have made a mess of our nation.

Gadaffi9ja:
Even though everyone is entitled to their opinions, I will never mock a dead person none matter the situation. So also those who chose to do that should be left with their own cross, at the end of the day we will all die. And one way or the other you will also hurt someone while you are alive.

You truly are a beast. I'm sure you know it. Being a beast is a function of the heart not the looks.

If you look at the state of the nation with poverty all over and you stake your neck for Tinubu's policy be due to tribalism and the benefits you are getting, then my calling you a beast is justified.

I pray someday you realize that we don't have another nation and that what affects Nigeria affects us all -- may your children not become strangers in another man's land as you keep joining forces with those tearing Nigeria down.

Posterity will come judging and the peanut you are clinging too will hardly matter.

Stand for truth. Stand for justice. Stand for a pure conscience-- that's how you can truly find peace cause you know you have lost yours years ago.

I'm not Igbo. I'm not Obidient. I'm a speaker of truth.

helinues:
Then he's not popular as you people claimed. With the 6 million votes Peter Obi received in 2023 plus the popularity he has gained since after the 2023 election ( According to you guys), then he should retry the stunt he pulled in 2023 and let see if he would receive 3 million votes in 2027

I'm not Igbo and neither are some of friends.But I can tell your for free that the guy is 99.999% correct.

GodPunishOsu:
I've helped you correct your comment,hope you will be great ful to thank me later

Did he mention that he was married? Isn’t that an assumption on your part and secondly, how are you sure his wife isn’t an orphan? Sometimes, we just jump into conclusions. It is always best to know that everyone has a rationale behind their actions.

quote author=marticeus post=135640513]Your sharing pattern na wa, Your dad and mum are one, they deserve one ram, your inlaws one ram, then you deserve one yourself, based on principle of equitable distribution. That your mother in law na person she be, treat her like your own mum if you know.[/quote]

Which America, please? You’re misinformed, please.

Only a first degree murder with clear proof of premeditation would be considered for death penalty. Not a clear case of self defense— premeditated murder— a murder with intent is what is considered for death or life sentence.

And yes! Not a case that certainly occurred from someone trespassing on another’s property.

Now, let me ask:

What premeditation existed here. What intent did the farmer have to kill?

Ikaeniyan0:
Even in America, he will be sentenced to death. It's left for the state government to rightfully pardon him

Like they said:
You don't have to use USSD code.

Now, you need to know that using your bank's app doesn't attract any charges.

nwirinedu:
This is an unfortunate situation that happens when we have a weak bank regulator ,that is failing in its oversight function and its statutory duty of customer protection. What happens when incompetent people are at the helm.

Sam banks that create money out of nothing by ripping off customers. Why should customers be forced to pay for bank services with their airtime? What is the cash in the bank balances then used for?

They wont even pay up their obligations to the Telcos who provide services to them.

You have been paying N6.9k for every transaction initiated using any bank's USSD-- whether It is successful or not.

Once you type a USSD code to make a transaction, you are charged N6.98k from your bank account.

I had complained severally to my banks with loads of emails as to why I am billed, they said it isn't them, it is my service provider.

I called MTN call center and they said they have a contract with banks to charge N6.98k for every transaction initiated using USSD code.

Now, that is aside the bank's charges.

I had taken it up, but there was nothing I could do so I accepted my fate, as I didn't want to download any bank's app.

Barely a month later, I'm reading that the charges was me paying the debt my bank owed the Telcos-- and we will keep paying until the debt is cleared.

Then, the new bill will take effect where we will only be billed for successful transaction directly from our call credit instead of our bank account

Nigeria, my country.

No accountability to subscribers or customers by both the Telcos and the Banks. They wrap up their exploitation in a bunch of high-tech grammar so you are unsuspecting.

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Let me add:

I had told them they had no right to charge for failed transaction-- These telcos charge you N6.98k even when the issue is from their end-- once you type your bank's USSD code and type what you want to do, you are billed even if you change your mind about the transaction. This has been going on for years in a country we are supposed to have leaders.

Daylight robbery. And the thing is:

The N6.98k charges notification isn't sent to your SMS. It is sent to your email. So most people don't even realize that each time they initiate a USSD transaction, they were billed.

They only see the bank's charges as SMS.

RealityKings1:
6:98 is stylishly 7 naira...
Why are we paying 6:98

I wouldn’t call 192,000 not like traveling. That’s a lot of South Africans.

quote author=Sonnobax15 post=135603848]
Hmmmm......with the way the media do paint us, Nigerians,one would think we'd top the japa list . But here it is,at least we still dey for top-4 for the list cha

But it seems south Africans don't just love travelling . Or is it because they're so addicted to their white masters? [/quote]

I feel like he was ashamed to say the real story but the man of God discerned it and mentioned that he went to source for wealth and was given that charm that requested for his sister.

That’s my understanding.

The point is someone wanted salvation.

If it is fake, leave that to God—because what if it isn’t.

quote author=werisetogether post=135587046]

Who else noticed how disjointed the young man's story was?

- Deity didn't belong to him

- The family members weren't aware he had it

- It was given to him by one spiritual man

- It belonged to his grandfather..

Had to stop watching so I don't further waste my precious data...[/quote]

Well said.

CommonSense1967:
Pedophile.

Ojuwkwu and Obi married underage girls, but you love to cry out about these Northerners as if it doesn't happen in your area too.
You can marry underage girls in many countries, even in the US.. In some States, the parents just have to give consent.
You cannot have sex with an underage girl whom you have not married. That is considered RAPE.

Dr. Ben Carson's mother, Sonya Carson, was 13 years old when she married his father, Robert Solomon Carson Jr.
Till this very day, in some States in the US, you can marry an underage girl with the consent of the parents.

These states technically do not have a lower age limit, although they require parental consent and/or judicial approval for minors to marry:
California
Mississippi
New Mexico
Oklahoma
States with a Minimum Age of 15
Hawaii
Kansas
States with a Minimum Age of 16
Many states have a minimum age of 16 for marriage with parental consent.

These criminals are always looking for excuses once they are caught. This guy should be locked up for RAPE.

As long as you are hardworking and trusting God fully, your time will come. Keep trusting and make service to God and humanity your goal. Your day will break in a way that surprises you.

The heavens are taking record and seeing your heart to help the downtrodden. If it is genuine, not too long from now, your hand will be given what to grant your heart’s desire—if it is genuine.

Only God has the ability to lift a man. No man does. ProMotion only comes from Him. Keep the faith, sir. It is your waiting season. Ensure you don’t waste it.

Sparsy:
Big Men dem.

When will I ever get to a point in my life where ordinary food will no longer be my problem? A level where I can reach out to the downtrodden?
Life isn't easy on me at all.

Dry kitchen, Dry stomach, Dry pocket. No family. Struggles everyday. What a life!

Why call him that when he stated his source?

Don999:
Copycat...I read that on pulse news two days ago.