₦airaland Forum

AfroKnight:
You don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s about an imaginary pecking order. It’s typical Nigerian classism. “I first you come America” mentality. They do it to both men and women. Very dirty behaviour.

Exactly my point. You are totally correct bro

siofra:
It's not only Nigerian women who do this, all Nigerians in America do it. Chimamanda talked about it in her book Americana.

When Ifemelu first arrived in America she noticed that in a gathering of Nigerians when asked when she arrived America and she revealed that she was a newbie they looked down on her, until her aunt told her to start lying.

Stop trying to blame Nigerian women for everything. Nonsense.

You can’t say its all women in America. You don’t have the research or data to back that up.

Petyprincess:
Hehe, I dnt blame them though, because a typical nigerian newbie is looking for someone to use for green card, with the reputation of Nigerian men abroad even our sisters are afraid of you not to talk of foreign women, only men that have never moved out of their home town are claiming foreign women love Nigerian men whereas it's total opposite.

I get your point but that’s why I said in doing this, they miss out on greater opportunities.

First and foremost, what happened to being friends and finding out if one is coming close because of some hidden motives? You cant know if you dont probe deep. You are not a witch.

This last lady I spoke about is an international student and is hustling a WFH job and she assumed I do not have what it takes as I said I do not have what it takes. Whereas, I am a PR already eyeing citizenship, have a great job with one of Canada’s top organizations and have a great life too.

Anyway, its just because I want to marry a Nigerian for personal reasons. If not….

Idamond:
so Nigerian girls outside still go with this mentality of "if you don't have a car you're not worth"..
if I leave Nigeria today I'm forget no need of going close to a 9ja babe outside, I need white and red puzi no need of still mingling with black ass...

You will be shocked to know its worse out here. But you see them trekking with dirty white boys and you imagine the hypocritical nature within.

Ekejoestar:
Nigerian ladies and their in-built/ follow come entitlement mentality is so sad that they lose good men just because of that.

Most Nigerian ladies will prefer an already made man who is comfortable and well do to while they themselves bring absolutely nothing to the table.

Material gains is their first priority when going into a relationship with a guy, thereby driving the foolish guys into fraud and all forms of vices just to impress them.

Yet if you marry them, they won't stay faithful in the marriage, with all our religiousity in this country we have the highest infidelity rate in the whole world.

You have said it all

I normally would not create a topic on this but the last encounter I had made me do this.

Met this girl on an online space. Reached out to her and we got talking. Then I invite her for a date (was going to spend my money on her o) and the next question was “are you mobile?”. I purposely answered no, just to see her reaction. Next thing, she stopped replying till date. I just laughed and moved on.

PlayMaker14:
This is where Distinguished Senator mosdii can tell you more about Nigerian girls.

Who is mosdii?

thesicilian:
Most Nigerian women are naturally parasitic, no matter where they are in the world.

I don’t want to believe its all. I also believe its a learned mentality. Hence it can also be unlearned.

I want to briefly share my dating experiences with Nigerian ladies in the North American sphere. I have also asked several of my paddies and it seems like a norm amongst our Nigerian sisters.

Once you ask a Nigerian lady out in this space, 9 out of 10 times, the first question you are going to get from her is “when did you arrive here?” Once you are perceived as a newbie, you will automatically be blanked out. Hence most times, you will have to lie in other to continue the conversation.

Unfortunately, most guys who arrive single are normally serious at first, as they feel that one hurdle (relocating) has been solve and the next hurdle after getting a good paying job is of course to settle down with a Nigerian sister.

But this mentality of looking for old comers with the mindset that those are the only ones who are comfortable enough has robbed many of our sisters great opportunities, and continue to push black brothers into the arms of non-judgemental white ladies.

Another funny question you will get is “are you mobile?”
A “No” to this question will automatically earn you a blank.
A such ladies are so shallow minded not to think that there are several reasons why a serious minded guy will not want to buy a car yet in his first years living in the west.

Cars are very cheap unlike in Nigeria. A very good high value toks will cost you far less than what you pay in Nigeria. But there is the issue of insurance, parking space payment, parking tickets, traffic violation tickets, etc. Hence if you buy are car just of ownership sake, you are only getting another human to take care of. And when you compare the transit system and its reliability, you will find it is only sensible to own a car if it is being used to make more money.

Now, why would any right thinking person feel a guy with a car is the key to her happiness if it is not the olosho mentality? Then when they hit 35-40years, they start crying that there is no Nigerian brother available.

I think we should change this mentality in other not to cry foul when black brothers run into the arms of respectful white sisters

Bye for now

Ifeoma77:
God is too good

...Long post alert...

Congratulations to a wonderful woman. The only standup comedian of this thread.

Remember those well dressed shekere dancers i promised?

They just arrived

Amandacanny:
Bros you wicked ooo. With this sweet story fa. Am waiting for your time

raphrulz:
My God ooo!!!!

Una wan finish me with low scores ooo


Make una forgive and forget ooo

Congratulations chief.

Wish you prosperity in Canada

raphrulz:
[color=#000099]Guysssss!!!!


THE EAGLE HAS LANDED!!!!!


ISSA GOLDEN MAIL THINGS!!!

Here is my “brief story”… read at your own risk:

I have always believed that someday I would relocate fully out of Nigeria… whether it was for studies or something.. I just knew that my place was not this Naija. This was some years back.

Congratulations prof

Quite a journey filled with ups and downs, but not enough to be added to our monthly scholarly journal.

I will score you 4.83/10 for your obvious effort and will encourage you to wait a while and improve additionally before attempting our test again.

Jasmine17

Debsify:
Finally ICES completed my spouse's report..after calling them and even went to the extent of twitting BCIT to complain..they answered us..now looking for other ways to boost CRS to something above 460

Congratulations bro. Better late than never

johnnybravo1990:
Cc Ifeoma77, Debsify, Jasmine17, Topsmamen, Zutlin, Somaris, kfrosh, Ontarioissauga, jjohndoe83

Thanks guys for the contributions. I didn’t really consider I could be hampering other people’s chances of getting ITA. But that could be a fact. In that case, I won’t decline my next ITA; I will be wait till the final second before declining should I not get my POF. Ifeoma77, you are my reminder alarm . I will let you guys know when the next ITA drops, just in case my own memory fails me as regards the expiry. Thanks so much for the concern.

Noted bro. Sorry if i was harsh on you. I assumed you knew what you were doing.

Peace

jjohndoe83:
You lie sir! You're not that powerful, don't think too much of yourself. You're still a mere mortal whose breath is in his nostrils.

Oya na. We go see soon

Ifeoma77:
Calm down Bro it's not that deep

Respected senior colleague.

I have rested my case ma.

Praying fervently for your PPR.

I have one special well dressed lady shekere shaker for you already

Topsmamen:
Jeez! Dude! I will reiterate this. I am not encouraging people to decline ITAs at will just because they can. And as you rightly put it, I know the tough times and constant pressure I went through in getting ITA and I would hate to see someone else suffer the same fate. Haba now, me of all people know what that's like. We are on the same side here. Don't get me wrong. My sincerest apologies to you all if I left a bad impression.

For intending pool divers and ITA recipients, please, biko, abeg, ejo, let us be empathetic to another and consider others. Make sure your documents are in excellent order and ensure you have all required documents before you proceed as declining your ITA will definitely deter others from getting their ITAs. Let's all learn from this. Infact, tell a friend to tell a friend.

No hard feelings guys, we're a united family here and we will ALL get there! One love!

@zutlin, @jasmine17, @jjohndoe83, @ontarioissauga, @kfrosh, @debsify, @johnnybravo1990

Noted bro. One love

jjohndoe83:
I concede your point. However, I believe punishment must be proportionate to offence. A two year delay and flagging a person's file for terrorism surely cannot be the consequence of repeated denial of ITA. Such measure is too grave and reeks of vindictiveness and vendetta.

Its only a terrorist that sees what is benefiting others appropriately and choses to damage it because he has a grievance (incomplete POF) and a weapon (high crs score). I still stand by what i said. If you decline ITAs senselessly and i can ban you sef, i will because you dont deserve it.

jjohndoe83:

Thank God you're not! I pray you're not ever in a position to decide people's fate, you'll be so mean and inconsiderate.

jjohndoe83:
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I am in a position where i decide people's fate and i can tell you categorically that I don't condone insensitivity.
I am going to decide your fate soon and if you have that trait in you, better throw it off before then.

Why did you edit your comment out? Guess you realised you were supporting an insensitive and inconsiderate cause.

Happy for you bro

Zutlin:
Calm down. Get a hold of your emotions. You still could have made your point clear without the last paragraph.

I agree with Ifeoma's suggestion that he holds on to the ITA as long as possible, rather than decline every 2 weeks. However, my response to you was based on the extremity of your words - way too harsh and uncalled for.

Bad character is bad character and i won't massage you/anyone's ego because i want to be subtle or be your friend.

Never encourage bad character or behavior. Thats what killed Nigeria and why we are migrating in droves to Canada today. Period

Topsmamen:
Actually, declining ITA several times does not cause applications to be flagged. There can be changes in personal situations and even IRCC understands that.

In the ITA letter, it says - "If you decline this invitation, and you still meet the Express Entry criteria, your Express Entry profile will become active again. Your profile will remain valid until the original expiry date (i.e., the rest of the 365 days from that date of your original Express Entry submission) and will be considered for future rounds of invitation until that time.". Hell, I could decline as many times as I want to, if my situation warrants it. It doesn't say, "if you decline this invitation several times, your application will be flagged as a likely case of terrorism".

It also says "If, at the 60-day deadline, any of the supporting documentation and information is missing and you do not have a valid reason, your application will be rejected".. Wouldn't you rather decline the ITA than have your application rejected?

Edited:

@JohnnyBravo1990: I hope you'd be able to gather your POF in time. If you get ITA on March 6, hopefully, you'd have till May 5/6 to submit. I reckon that should give you ample time to complete it seeing as you're almost there. All the best.

Good point you were trying to make but you completely missed it at the bolded. Did he wait for 60days? Did you even ready his comment that i quoted before typing? I guess not

Somebody who got ITA 2weeks ago declined it yesterday because he has a crs of 465 and wants to submit in a space of 2weeks after ITA Is it a competition of first to submit?

I have a high crs score too and i got ITA on 30th of Jan. I also have pof adequate for my family composition that i cant access. Should i now start declining every 2weeks because i gave myself a two weeks target and the pof is not here before the two weeks elapsed?

Thats plain stupid.ity and a total waste of opportunities which rightfully belongs to others. If every high score candidate continues to return to the on the eve of ITA, will him himself with 465 smell it?

Even you quoting me, just think of what you suffered and how long you stayed before getting ITA. You think you would have gotten it if this behavior you are encouraging is sustained?


Answer truthfully please

Zutlin:
This is uncalled for. Each person's journey is different. He clearly entered the pool believing POF will go according to his plan and so he kept getting ITA. I also had to decline an ITA and others have done so too. Luckily, you're not a case analysts and applications are not flagged for having declined ITAs.

Nobody is saying he cant decline but he should do it with sense. You dont decline every two weeks because you are lucky to have a crs of 465. Who in his right senses does that.

There is a reason you have a 60days window. If you are not done on the 58th/59th day, you decline. Its shows you have sense and is aware that ITA is a privilege, not a right. People fast, pray, pay 1500cad or more, follow PNP for 1yr+ just to get that privilege.

For every multiple ITA he gets, he denies a person, family, who desperately needs ITA the chance to the better future which himself is looking forward to.

As for you supporting his shenanigan, you are as sensible as he is. Goodluck

Debsify:
It'll come soon by God's grace

Amen bro. Long time

Hope ICES don surrender?

Finally caught up with you guys. It has not been easy but God has been faithful.

29 days left to submit my application, all areas duly taken care of to the best of my ability except for POF.

Now funds is not a problem but they are tied up in one investment which i dont want to claim POF with, though i mentioned it in my application.

Trusting in God that the expected POF i want to use come soonest.

Gracias

johnnybravo1990:
I declined because I am sure to get another ITA. Also, I wasn't sure of when I was going to complete my POF; even now, I am not 100% sure. From my knowledge, it is better you decline ITA than let the ITA expire; if your ITA expires, your profile will be scrapped, and you can run into trouble when you later apply.
I know myself; I may become nonchalant and forget the exact day my ITA would expire. I didn't want to take that chance, and so I declined quickly.
What I have resolved to do is this: for any ITA I get, I'll wait for 2-3 weeks, and if there is no hope of completing my POF soonest, I will decline. If my CRS was 450 or below I wouldn't decline so fast, but with CRS 465, I strongly believe I would always get the next ITA(so far I decline 24-48 hours before the next draw; that is the time, I think, it takes to get back into the pool whenever you decline an ITA.
Lastly, after I apply, if the visa officer requests for an explanation for my previous ITA declinations(which I doubt they would ask), I will gladly explain why I declined as thus: 'I was not sure of when I would complete my POF'.

My only prayer for you is that your final application is not affected by your many ITAs decline.

Sometimes, just because you have a chance or loophole to do something doesn't mean you should do it out of control.

Each time you are issued ITA, parts of your profile is locked and i want to believe your details are stored somewhere not necessarily in the GCMS.

If i were to be the case analyst that will check you initial application and i notice you declined more than once, i will flag your application for all the necessary checks including security and terrorism.

By the time it takes 2years to process, others will learn from you.

Tojued:
Extremely long post alert. Please skip to the last line for a summary.

Fortunately, I typed this announcement on 30/10/2018, I’m sure the heavens were just looking at me and laughing. If na to type am now ginger no dey I for just drop timeline. But as e be I’ll simply edit what I have already.

All glory to God, all thanks to my real life family and friends, all appreciation to the elders, class prefects, onlookers, provokers, etc. on this thread. Gratitude is my second name.

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Timeline
Family of 3, Ottawa VO
IELTS – 24/04/2018
ECA – 24/04/2018
ITA (CRS 454) – 24/04/2018
AOR – 30/06/2018
IP1 & ADR – 17/07/2018
Response to ADR – 23/07/2018
MEP – 27/07/2018
IP2 – 29/10/2018
PPR – 26/02/2019

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TLDR: It was a long wait but PPR is here and I glorify God, thank you for your service to this thread, and pray MAY YOUR DREAMS COME TRUE.

Congrats Toju

magnificientzaz:
You like?

If its what i am thinking, yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

magnificientzaz:
Hello e-family,
Just for those of us still at the ECA stage... i applied for my transcript online since 3rd of December 2018 but

Ur user name though

Ifeoma77:
As in! Maybe IRCC agents read this thread and have seen such posts before - moneybags who are looking for young people to 'be the PA'.
Scrutiny has sha increased, everyone should just be careful

The thread is not hidden. A Google search of most express entry questions brings out:

Canadavisa
Quora
Nairaland (this thread)

Debsify:
cc Jasmine17 I didn't know you're a divorcee

Not yet. Still in the process