Darren95:
I had femur fracture on my left leg and it’s been difficult to move around the house and get things done because I can’t put weight on the operated leg until the fracture heals.

There is this lady friend I knew last year. Back then I tried persuading this lady friend to let me have a shot from her honey pot but she refused.
Honestly back then I was only interested in her honey pot nothing more because I’m not ready for a committed relationship at this stage of my life.

Nearly 2 months after I had the surgery, i called this lady friend (we have not been talking for close to a year) and told her I had accident. She immediately book a car and came to my house to see me. I was surprised and appreciated her quick response. I told her how it happened and that my two friends (guys) have been the ones helping. I told her I would be glad if she comes around to care for me while I heal as I can’t get food from the kitchen myself because I can’t step on my both legs due to the surgery. I live alone in my two bedroom apartment.

Omo starting from that day she started caring and didn’t leave until 5 days later. She said she was going to her home town and she needed to see her 2yrs old daughter (she got pregnant while in a relationship with her ex).

The issue on ground now is that, ever since she returned she has not gone to her own house where she rented. She has been in my house doing virtually everything and my both friends have left (they are business men). I was tempted to approach her for sex and she gave me smoothly without complain unlike before. I was like, look at you when I was healthy you didn’t let me have your honey pot, but now you gave it to me without stress! Hmmm we laughed over it.

But the rate at which this lady friend is taking care of me is scaring, she does everything to the point that I can’t remember the last time I opened a bottle water myself. She does it for me, the only thing I do is bath myself!
Few days ago my guy who was with me came with his female friend to pay me a visit and omo this my lady friend was looking at this girl with all force and frown on her face. I mean the looking was like; ‘’who is this girl, does she have parol with me’’ you know that kind of look.

It pissed me off and since then I have been feeling irritated. I mean we are not dating, has she taken this too far inside her heart!

I’m thinking of moving her out but I don’t have a perfect option In getting someone I can trust like her to take care of me especially because I’ve not started walking.
Will this turn out to be a problem tomorrow? I only had sex with her ones and refuse to ever do it again because of this.
I always tell her I will appreciate you with something very nice when I heal completely, that I appreciate her support and that if she has anything to do, she can go and do it and come back but NO she never left my house and i asked myself what was she doing before I called her??!!
To even ask her say Watin you Dey before I call you, tire me because e go look like say I dey tell her to go!!!

I do not comment on posts like this but I am breaking that rule for you simply because I just wanted to let you know that that you are plain Stvpid and Karma must get you.

FreeStuffsNG:
This was exactly how they killed Twitter with their bigotry and hatred for Asiwaju Tinubu ( and President Buhari) because he is not from their tribe and religion.

These minority hate him so much and have hated him since 2015 as he keeps defeating them and their sponsors. So they will go to all evil extent including bringing down the labour of others just to blame him for being better than those less competent candidates they support. Yet they will still lose.

The website obviously does not own the documents it purportedly uploads. It must have been catfished. They are going down.

They are welcome to ipob terrorists and their co-conspirator's brand of badluck. They have not even started their lamentation yet.

The website owners will watch their descent into badluck after badluck in the same way these same set of losers afflicted Twitter with badluck upon badluck.

Before their very own eyes, they will see how everything they have built will be wrecked with badluck. They do not know how to build o but they know how to destroy the platforms others have built.

To my fellow patriotic Nigerians, please ignore the naysayers, bigots and hate-filled terrorists losers and their sympathizers and vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.

Asiwaju Tinubu is the most capable and the most competent among all the Presidential candidates. Vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.

All the enemies of Nigeria and all the enemies of Asiwaju Tinubu will lose las las. They always lose.
May God bless Nigeria for ever.

Why do I want you to vote for Asiwaju Tinubu?

Please vote for Asiwaju-Shettima if you want the best and most competent pair to take Nigeria to greater heights.

Read Tinubunomics: Dissecting Tinubu’s economic track records https://www.nairaland.com/7222062/tinubunomics-dissecting-tinubus-economic-track

Asiwaju Tinubu deserves your vote because he is the best among them.

Asiwaju Tinubu towers over all of them in terms of competency and illustrous records of feats in public service
Please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.


Asiwaju Tinubu is extremely competent and capable to lead Nigeria to greater heights. He is an excellent experienced public administrator and a Patriot to the core.

Asiwaju Tinubu is a brilliant visionary leader who will keep his promise to take Nigeria to greater heights.

I may need to take you down memory lane of his account of stewardship in public office in case you do not know or trying to ignore the significance of Asiwaju's sterling performance in office as a reason he is being rewarded with support today.

As the Executive Governor of Lagos State, Asiwaju Tinubu recovered what is now called Eko Atlantic from the raging Atlantic ocean Lagos Bar beach coast line flooding (for decades that problem even some of the more developed nations explain away as climate change problems) defied all solutions by FG and the highbrow strategic Victoria Island was deteriorating fast with businesses, embassies, hotels etc exiting VI in droves. During that time, the Atlantic ocean flooding reach the fringes of Ozumba after the flood completely take over Adetokunbo Ademola. Lagos State Government under the brilliant , resourceful and hardworking Asiwaju Tinubu solved that herculean challenge and today, VI is back to its glory.

It was Asiwaju Tinubu that brought back the Lagos Central Business District and Broad street commercial nerve centre of Nigeria back to life after it was abandoned, it's Asiwaju Tinubu who built major roads from Oregun to Lawanson to Igando LASU to as far as Badagry etc.

Asiwaju Tinubu is the one who fixed the horrible waste problem we had in Lagos and that LASTMA and BRT you see were created by Asiwaju. Asiwaju Tinubu was the one who got Lagos State to be part of the owners of Econet and unlike Delta State where the shares were sold and funds pocketed, Lagos State Shares were warehoused with professional investors in the state investment agency called Ibile holdings.

Asiwaju Tinubu increased bursaries to students of Lagos State origin (NULASS) and made public schools free for all Lagosians regardless of your tribe, religion or political party affiliation after his administration had successfully returned missionary schools to their original owners( other states later copied Lagos) . It was during his tenure that Ikeja General Hospital became a teaching Hospital, upgraded most of the clinics to General Hospitals giving free health to the 5 years and below and Lagosians of 65 years and above age group. .

The fund that BRF used to quickly build infrastructures were the LGA funds withheld by Pa Obasanjo and despite that Asiwaju Tinubu never owed salaries.
When the purchase of FG refineries by Alhaji Dangote was cancelled by HE Yardua, Alhaji Aliko Dangote ran to Asiwaju Tinubu after most state governments and governors in the SS gave Dangote a cold shoulder. Today, through the assistance Asiwaju Tinubu gave Aliko Dangote, Dangote Refinery is taking off to help us stop the petrol subsidy killing our naira and public finances.


Asiwaju Tinubu is loyal to those who paid the ultimate price for our democracy and today heroes like Bagauda Kalto, Pa Alfred Rewane, Pa Abraham Adesanya etc are immortalized in Lagos . One of the most memorable achievements of Asiwaju Tinubu for me was helping to stop the blood letting and recurring Hausa-Yoruba/OPC war in Idi Araba and Agege. Those hellish period of unrest defied even the effort of past military state administrators of Lagos but Asiwaju Tinubu was able to solve it.

That Lagos State Government civil service is regarded as the best in Nigeria is due to the hardwork Asiwaju Tinubu did to reform it, created Tutors-Generals offices, improved harmonized pay structure, best pension scheme for civil servants etc.
I can go on and on to educate you on the legacies of Asiwaju Tinubu still standing till today as my reasons for my confidence in Asiwaju Tinubu sir/ma

That's why my appeal goes to you my fellow patriotic Nigerians to please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.
Please vote for Asiwaju Tinubu.
-Sunkanmi Vaughan
Meanwhile, if you want free business ideas and directory of money sources, please check my signature. Cheers.

Mr Vaughan
A short prayer for you.
May you household, family, business and every matter related to you be governed and administered in the manner Bola Tinubu wants to governed Nigeria and may your affairs reflect the energy and decision making skills of Bola Tinubu, Now and forevermore

Amin

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Now I see why you were busy defending Wale Tinubu’s illegal takeover bid of Oando in the stock thread.

Instead of coming out to say you have a stake in the tomfoolery, you are busy begging aggrieved shareholders to go to the court of arbitration that you know is not binding and that cannot force wale to do the right thing.

The money that you are getting from Tinubu and family will surely be your undoing In Jesus Name

This thread is in response to comments from the following thread: https://www.nairaland.com/6910634/hr-expert

When I joined the labour force in Canada after years of working in the same industry in Nigeria, the first thing that struck me was the fact that hierarchy was very fluid. You will see your boss suddenly downgrading and taking a lower role, thereby becoming your junior, and no one will bat an eyelid.

Coming from Nigeria, this seemed very strange and difficult to understand as I was used to people working while getting promoted and retiring at their peak to go live out their old age in supposed peace with friends and family.

When I braved it to as my experienced manager why this was happening, she was kind enough to break it down into bits for me. Turned out she herself was a Vice President at some point before downgrading to become a manager.

Her explanation:
Life is a cycle and it varies from human to human. As you grow on the job, you require more strength to keep performing at the expected level with each elevation. When you get to a position where you are personally unable to keep up and it feels like your age, health, relationships, etc., are being affected by position, the best thing is to downgrade to a level with acceptable stress to you.

So in the real sense of it, Canadians never retire. You only adjust to your strength level and keep adjusting until you die.

This is done for the following reasons:

1. You have acquired a great wealth of knowledge by working in the industry for a long time and have invaluable transferable skills which you will pass on to new hires ( who are also going to become leaders soon). This experience will go to waste if you just retire and become idle when you still have the strength and stamina to continue working, and this will cost the company in terms of lost human assets , retraining costs and time.

2. At the supposed age of retirement, you might have little to no family /friends around you to keep you company and help you enjoy the supposed retirement. Spouse might be dead/divorced/incapacitated; kids will have grown and left home to start their own lives; friends might have moved on with their lives, changed locations or even be busy with their jobs.
If you force such an individual to retire, you are only preparing them for depression and early death. But letting them do a job at their capacity will ensure they still have a tomorrow to look forward to and something to wake up for.

3. The individual will still be useful to the society as he/she will earn income and pay tax. As such, there will be less dependence on the pension and more funds for government/private sector spending.

4. Keeping the individual busy will also help with their health as their brain will keep functioning and their muscles will be put to use constantly. Their health will decline at a gradual rate as they age unlike the rapid health decline most Nigerian retirees suffer once the retire. Thats why there are more aged people in the the spheres that practice this type of retirement than in Africa.

So reading through the comments in that thread, I feel there is a need for social reorientation in the aspect of labour and retirement.

The man should be encouraged to look for another job and be active, as long as he is still physically fit and healthy to continue working.

I understand that unemployment is off the roof in Nigeria but experienced manpower should no longer be allowed to go to waste. Rather than the discouraging comments, the individual should be advised on areas and ways to apply his experience outside the civil service.

If not for the present unemployment levels, such an individual should not retire yet.

I rest my pen

alphaNomega:
I don't think they should change the mentality. It keeps them from procreating and spreading their stupidíty. Let it end with them

Wawuuuu

I feel it’s a learned habit

Hence it can be unlearned

depato88:
Just like someone stated here, such behaviour by them is due to past experiences and stories, so they are being protective of themselves but being over protective is to their own detriment on the long run, infact it's already happening cos there are many ladies in thier late twenties, thirties , forties lonely, fustrated and single crying for marriage(husbands), partnership etc

My advice to ladies is not to follow the stereotype, rather be open minded while still being careful while dating and vigilant to watch out for redflags cos there are many many genuine newcomers wanting true relationship with them, they chasing or rejecting every Tom and Harry due to the already bad stereotype is to their own detriment. They should know that even in every stereotypes there are always exceptions.

And in the case of the argument about unconditional love in this thread, facts, events and nature have shown that that MEN truly in love, love UNCONDITIONALLY as compared to WOMEN (Am not saying women doesn't love genuinely, some do but the number is very minute ) WOMEN are generally HYPERGAMIC in nature.

Exactly my point bro

NayTayMan:
@Jasmine. I see your point. I recall when we (myself and 4 of my guys) just arrived Yankee to school (different schools, different regions), our experiences were pretty similar. At that time, none of us had time for girls not to talk of relationship. We were laser focused on the goal. As it happened, the most sincere friendships that we had were with Naija guys and US- born Naija females. Those were the people who took to us and showed genuine interest in helping us navigate the system and integrating with less hassles. The Naija girls that immigrated with their families were in a totally different category- they considered us as JJC’s and honestly were not as friendly or helpful. They always had this air around them but we cared less. Even in the Naija churches, some of them Naija born ladies still have those dynamics in their interactions with us but man no send- there was too much energy invested by us into the dream for there to be any time spared for random issues.
As it turned out- one of my guys eventually married one of the US born naija girls and she has been amazing (they have been married for over 10 years now). She has raised their children with solid decency, risen in her career to an executive position (with 6 figure bonuses, not to talk of base pay/salary o), and she still treats my guy like a King. You need to see the way she respects and treats my guys family members whenever they visit Yankee or my guy goes to Naija with her. My guy has done extremely well for himself too! I think like lost people have stated, character and upbringing is the main thing. As per we the 3 other guys, our story Na for another day- but it was all a happy ending!

Wish I could like your post more.

Glad you guys are securing the bags

More grace

revolt:

As usual I gave you empirical facts and history to read yet as typical blue pill ediots always do, they argue with emmotions and abuse/ shaming tactics ... NEVER debunking facts or putting up superior points. Lol scientific comm indeed...

You really have time to be typing these long epistles for such an unruly fellow.

Dont give her attention henceforth please

Hyerin:


Defence is another thing entirely, it's not an indication of this supposedly unconditional love. How many laymen are willing to fight and shed blood for their country? With this logic then politicians, senators, presidents, doctors, lawyers etc and all other professions that deals with people or impact their lives all have unconditional love for people since their line of work affect them in some way. Men getting drafted into war are forced to, there's no altruistic motive on their part. What about interpersonal relationships? Men are the perpetrators of intimate partner violence; domestic physical and sexual assault; familicide; incest etc. Upholders of infidelity and are six times more likely to leave their wives if she gets sick or disabled so were exactly is this unconditional love coming from? Some parents don't even love their own children unconditionally not to even talk of men, the worst of the worst in showing genuine affection. Almost everything men do is primarily motivated by selfishness; he is self-seeking. All the prerequisites and demands in being "wife material" you lot enjoy disturbing the peace with are what? Not conditions abi? You must have constructed your own reality because what you asserted doesn't align with objective facts.

"Argue with the void" is an expression signifying a disinterest in furthering discourse, dimwit.

Simple question, and you called him a dimwit

Shows your mentality and upbringing.

I wonder why you are so pained and bitter by this topic.

Better go get a life outside Nairaland and stop displaying your unruliness.

Hyerin:


Pained over what? It appears you're projecting those feelings onto me. You act like you're doing the hypothetical woman any favors by marrying her but you're not. You have other options of women to choose from but you've decided to limit yourself to Nigerian women, purposely settling because you know you can't get deified by other women. If you do see a Nigerian woman to be with, there's likelihood you'd cheat because your heart isn't in the right place.

And btw, what guy even names himself "jasmine"? Lmfao.

Na illiteracy dey worry you. Sorry o

kunle75:


You are very right, na so I meet this chick for Georgia during one of my visit but I live in the Midwest.
The next thing she said immediately she realized I have everything going is ,if I will help her with her paperwork, I just blank out straight.
They want to reap where they didn't sow.

I met one in my first month here.

You need to see the care and love she showered at first. I immediately started dreaming marriage and long term things.

Then the bombshell drops; she came with a visitor’s visa 3 years ago and have overstayed her visa. She doesn’t want to go back and apply for PR the right way. She needs a guy with papers that will marry her and legalize her stay.

Because of the care she already showed, I was willing to do that for her. But she was not able to convince me that her love was not because of her ambition. And other wise counsel prevailed.

Funny thing was if she was legal, she would have had this same character I talked about in my first post.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Nope

Will you agree before?

Your lot are the unruly ones jare.

Una go dey alright last last

shaybebaby:

You say I'm making it about you ( meaning it's not about you) then turn around and type about yourself

Which is proving the fact that it IS about you despite your protests.

If you truly believe your views and have non Nigerian girls at your beck and call. Then exercise your choice and choose of them.

Why are you here whinging when you have other choices? Except ofcourse the reality is that none of them ( even with the dodgy weaves) will have you.

Only you know your real truth.

As one of the naij girls you are subtly shading, I jump the entire naij men pass, plus the fresh- off - the boat ones o and the seasoned ones. All of una, I jump pass.

What you don't see however is me creating a thread bashing those I've rejected personally for myself. One man's trash/ another man's treasure tins.

Find your spec, stay there. If your spec don't want you, fish in other oceans.

E pain this one die

Go continue your Tinder hunt jare. You go dey alright

siofra:


See this one.

Go and date your foreign women and leave Nigerian women the Bleep alone.

God forbid!!! All these stupid Nigerian men. I pity the Nigerian woman that will mistakenly marry you. I really pity that woman. Do you know how expensive it is to braid hair in the US?

Wait o!!! And you think white women are after your ass? I'll give you a thread that shows that white women and women of other races rate black men at the bottom of the dating pool. Entitled modafucka!!!!

God!!! The ego of these men!!

Your confusion is obvious ; and it is clear you are one of the shallow oblongata I am referring to.

When you don’t even know the gender you belong to

Spits

Hyerin:


I still think you should go for a foreigner because the disgust you feel for Nigerian diasporan women is deep seated. scratch that, not only diasporan, but Nigerian women as a whole. Someone in this thread even suggested you date from home and bring her over but you waved the idea off which shows that you're not actually operating from a place of good faith. Your excuse is flimsy because if that's what you truly wanted, you won't be acting like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. Even if you eventually (hopefully no woman will fall victim to this) find a Nigerian woman who checks all your boxes, that disdain will always be at the forefront of your emotions and override reasoning.

Then again, anyone with eyes and a functioning brain can tell why you hold so dear to "Nigerian values". Other races of women have zero tolerance for any display of chauvinism unlike African women who live and breath with it. At the slightest provocation or mishap, they're already filing for divorce. Your reasons for wanting a Nigerian woman is actually underlined by fear. Your actual preference are other races of women but you're too scared to deal with them.

Chai E really pain this aunty see as truth dey bitter?

No worry, you go dey alright las las

DrFunmisticGlow:
Please, let them date and marry, Rebecca, Maria and ling ling. We wish them good luck. Let them leave us alone.

Glad you know yourselves

That doesn’t mean the good ones do not exist.
Its just that your population is making it hard to find them.

DrFunmisticGlow:
you sound like a bitter incel

Hahahaha

In-cellophane

DrFunmisticGlow:
there's a movement gaining momentum among black women. Very soon a number of black women will stop this blind loyalty to black men.

Are you talking about the new movement that calls themselves “unruly Nigerian women in diaspora?”

neyoohhh:


You're honest.

Although I've seen more bw with foreigner's lately. It seems those white boy's have a type when it comes to bw. You must be very dark, skinny and be a professional.

Also, white guys dont have age preference like Nigerian guys.

So the trend is that most naija ladies waste their time doing what I said in my first post while praying a made Nigerian guy snaps then up and then miss out on their life partner.

When they now turn 35 - 40 and nobody is looking at them anymore (even with big degrees in courses with no economic value), they face whites who most times don’t want to have kids and just want to flex for life.

Go to FB dating and other dating apps, the least age of any Nigerian lady there is 30-35. Looking for made guy after wasting their youth chasing flashy life.

AkhereOkaka:


He said most(most doesn't mean all) most and all are not synonyms.


We rise by lifting others

Thanks for pointing that out �

shaybebaby:


Don't know why you don't understand his point. It being, the behaviour of many men before you when they were new to the west has left a bad taste in women's mouth.

If you are not getting a look in, it's because no one can be bothered to find the exception to what is a general rule, majority are unscrupulous and these women don't even want to wait around to see if you are an exception.

Unfair to you, yes but it is what it is.

Love the way you are subtly making it about me. But unfortunately, its just a reflection of you and other naija ladies putting up such behaviours.

I get looked in constantly, go on dates constantly and if i wanted, I will marry a very beautiful non-Nigerian right now.

Your class of naija babes in diaspora are one of the most un-prettiest (if the word exist) class. Even jamos and East Africans fine pass una.

Once you see any lady on the street with an old looking lagos-style braids or shabby hair, 9 out of 10 times, she turns out to be a Nigerian lady cos una no even get money to take care of una sef and when una manage get, stinginess no dey let una spend on unasef.

Me looking at the way of Nigerian ladies is just for 3 reasons:
1. To Help you guys ministry and reduce the population roaming out there.
2. To keep the wealth within the Nigerian circle and not work for another country’s benefit
3. To raise my kids with Nigerian values and a partner who understands the way things work in Nigeria

If not, who get una time?
Nobody dash monkey banana joor

ednut1:
stop making excuses for them. Other african ladies and whites usually dont mind if you have a car or not. They will even come pick you. Many Nigerian babes wont even talk to you. These same babes will cry and lament of no husband. They cant be saved sha. So none of my business

This and their pride. Very very proud

White ladies will make the first move if they like you.
One very pretty white lady once stood up from her sit to come stamp her instagram handle on my palm.

But you see our sisters, na to measure you with how long you don spend here.

I first you come mentality �

bukatyne:




The OP is not wrong however isolating the problem.

If Nigerians are naturally classist, it is only natural that:
1. Women would be classist to men who woo them;
2. Men would be classist to women who marry them;
3. Parents classist to their kids, friends, neighbors, colleagues etc.
4. Leaders classist to followers etc.

The man whining that a woman treated him shabbily because he is poor is treating someone else like poo.

The woman whining that her husband bullies her is flogging her help for existing.

Great points

Gerrard59:


To be fair, not all American cities have good and reliable public transport systems. So, it depends on the city you reside. Also, it depends on immigration status she's. A Nigerian lady who is a naturalised American has attained a level of comfort over a lady who emigrated recently and still possess the Nigerian passport. You don't expect the former to suffer from immobility when she's so used to the comfort of mobility. These things have more to do with economics than just them being "Nigerians".

Another great perspective

pansophist:
I know at least two black women (one Cameroonian and a Nigerian) that gave their heart to freshies guys, they got used for papers, got them dumped, and even worse, one was made baby mamas against her wish (the Cameroonian). It is not always about the ladies, some Naija guys are also not nice, and high in the freshie circle. Also, other African women do it too. When I first landed, there was this Congolese girl I was dying for in my school, she got the creamy, dark, and shiny black shades, with bad-ass curves, and a killer ass. Damn. but she didn't send me, I suspect it was because I was a freshie. And she told me about her sister in South Africa, that her Nigerian boyfriend impregnated, left, and went back to Nigeria. Would I blame her? hell no. She was looking out for herself, and that is reasonable.

The sad truth is that women do not have much shot after making mistakes, and a single pregnancy to the wrong guy may cause untold damages, she cant afford that. So everything should not be analyzed to blame women, at least not this one. Again, one needs to travel a lot, to see a lot of mulattos with African fathers, who used them for papers and dump their mother. As someone that have toured almost all the countries in Europe, I see this a lot. Especially in Russia, it is so much there. Too many mulattos with mothers, but absentees African fathers. I tried to be friends with some, but they usually have this kind of disgust for anything African and trust that their mother would have done a good job to make them dissociate with anything African.

These women see all these things, and they ain't dumb. New immigrants are most likely to see a woman as an object for legalization, they are most likely to be in a survival mode and at that period, make so many mistakes. Women don't have time to wait for a man to stumble from one mistake to the other before he got it right and even if he does, what is the guarantee that she is not being used? The men saying that they won't look at a Nigerian woman's face if they move abroad, are the same that would want to use her first for papers, they dump her for his imaginary nonblack woman. How is that fair? Nairaland is filled with the advice of men saying that they will never come home to pick a wife, but can't stand being rejected by the same women you don't want over there? These women are human too. They know the game, and one thing you can't beat a woman at is in the social game, it is their workshop.

You obviously didn’t read my post and only responded to the topic.

Read the post and stop ranting about paper.

What about those that came in with the paper?

I wonder why you guys always think everyone is illegal. People get the almighty US green card before leaving their country. Its all about the value you are bringing to the table.

ednut1:
Unfortunately this is true. No matter what you say they wont learn. The high value guys or yahoo guys are passing them around fucking and dumping them. They are not wise

Coming from you, then I guess its now a fact as you have an authority to speak on this, living in the same community.

JeffreyJunior:
This is not to defend our sisters in the West but I've heard of cases whereby our brothers who just arrived, professed fake love to them, marry and get papers with their help only to dump them afterwards, then go back to Nigeria and marry their long time girlfriends.

Oftentimes also, most if not all of our brothers that just arrived especially the undocumented ones move to the I must make am fast lane thereby involving in dubious activities. So I will assume that our sisters like to be with someone who already has a record just in case. Record can make or ma one in the US so everyone is being careful of his/her activities.

A good number of the crimes committed in the States today by our brothers are committed by those without documentation so it's not rude if a lady decides to apply caution when dealing with one.

Lastly, some of our brothers who just moved to the States need sometime to settle down and if I were a lady, I would give them that space and time to figure themselves out before jumping into the arms of one of them.

My point is this. Inasmuch as some of our sisters are rude to Naija JJCs, we shouldn't lump them all together without putting some issues into consideration.

Nice perspective. But my point is that it is not every one that relocates undocumented. My friend left Nigeria for Canada as an economic permanent resident, got a job before landing, paid for his house cash and is better of than most of those who have been here for more than 10years.

It is not everyone that leaves Nigeria because of money or hunger. Some of us left because of security and to be able to enjoy ur hard work without being kidnapped for driving a car you bought with your sweat.

So how will a lady know such a guy has this capability without being friends first and finding out for herself?

Making it a rule that you must look for old timers will surely get you players and make you lose the few good guys coming in.

revolt:
bros go n hustle forget about women for now. We all passed thru this stage now na dem dey chase men. Go hustle

Still boils down to what I said in my first post. They are chasing you because you are displaying wealth and showing comfort. Not because they truly love you.

By the way, I know for sure that I am wealthier than you can ever dream of. Made it in naija. Still making it in jand. But wont live a flashy life to impress anyone.

AutoChick4U:
Why? Some do so and not all ladies will get there and turn into a monster.

How will you know the one that will not become a monster? That’s living a life of chance

AutoChick4U:
Can't you date one in Nigeria and bring her over there as things progress?

Would have done so but there will clearly be an agenda from the beginning of the relationship. How will I know she is not in for papers? She might have a good heart and want to be real but with the state of things in Naija, the doubt will always be there that she has an economic agenda.

GreaterFuture:

I will help you Save money on one thing at least, and that's cable
All your TV, Netflix and movies/series entertainment, don't pay monthly again
Cos no how no how, you go wan watch football and one or two from time to time

I have Netflix and IPTV sorted.

Vulcanheph:

My brother, you literally said my mind.
Why would I leave this country and still go over there to get involved with a naija babe.... God forbid.

Op just fall the hands of all of us that have plans to JAPA ....

I am still Nigerian inclined and want to raise kids with Nigerian values. Thats why I still dey eye Nigerian ladies.