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Juliearth:
Reminds me of the movie " the brothers grimsby"

Brothers Grimm I'm sure you mean.
And ah, was a grim night for United...

SAMBARRY:
oga rest.you are not a woman. You don't have womb or vagina, you don't menstruate or deal with hormonal issues so if you're not happy that she's a mother, if her new motherhood status is paining you, it will pain you till die.shes now a mother an there's nothing you can do about it .stop getting angry at others celebration and if you want to use panadol for tokes headache ride on

Stop sweating oga, is it your pregnancy? Or you're hoping to be the nanny, or babysitter? Haha!!

SAMBARRY:
ok so wetin make she do as she no see husband? Why does everything a woman does angers some of you? As she no see wedding shey make she no experience the joy of motherhood again? Some of you are so impossible

I think you are the impossible one here, who's preventing her from getting married? Did we say she should not experience motherhood? All we are saying is, don't feel you're going to defy the norm so easily, it's going to be an uphill task!

autoez:
Many modern women are choosing to have children without fathers. They seem to believe that providing financial luxury is all that matters for their kids. They don't know, this could lead to raising children who miss out on the benefits of balanced parenting. The emotional challenges a child may face, seeing others with two loving parents, can be disorienting. Many of you reading may dismiss my perspective, but I believe many understand where I'm coming from.

Anyone who hasn't understood your perspective has not opened his eyes to see what's happening with the black community in places like the USA! Many single mothers roaming around leaving "fatherless" children going down the road to perdition!
Some say we're "hating" on a successful woman! Hmmmmm...I smile in Xhosa!

QuinModah:
I get your point, but honestly, it’s not just about giving children phones early and monitoring them. The truth is, no parent can fully know what their kids are doing on a phone all the time children are often two steps ahead when it comes to gadgets.

Taking a phone away doesn’t always create a “vacuum”; sometimes it actually gives room for a child to focus on healthier habits, social skills, and values without being glued to screens. Not every child who delays getting a personal phone grows up behind in tech, many catch up quickly once given access, and often use the tools more responsibly.

Also, forcing siblings to share a single phone may only breed resentment, secrecy, and competition among them. It might be healthier to delay personal ownership until each child shows responsibility and maturity.

At the end of the day, technology will always keep evolving. What matters most is timing and balance—ensuring kids are emotionally and mentally ready before giving them access, instead of rushing because of fear they’ll be “left behind.”

Thanks for the response...I think it's all good...we pray for our children to be useful and dedicated to good virtues and morals.

Onegai:
I'm not a fan of gadgets but it's not the gadgets causing the mass failure of Nigerian students. Finland, South Korea, America, China and Japan are all gadget-heavy users and the average 15 yr old there is better educated than even a 20 yr old Naija university student (go and verify, we're in deep soup).

Our society is so broken, it's ridiculous.

We have NO morals: parents will literally bribe schools to make sure their kids pass exams;

Our Educational curriculum is so backwards (honestly we should really stop graduating kids from at least 60% of STEM courses);

Private schools are too plentiful and are a BUSINESS (which means kids rarely get failed)

Then add on the distraction of gadgets= recipe for disaster.

The issues in WAEC and JAMB have been growing steadily for at least 2 decades and the brain drain has made it worse (I can't tell you how heartbreaking it was to see some of the best teachers and lecturers I knew leave Nigeria to be replaced by less competent persons).

And it's not going to get better.

So get your kids a smart device and do something even better: sit down with them and use that device for deep learning.

Because your kids aren't learning anything in school.

I love your last statement...kids aren't learning much in school, and honestly when I see tutorial on YouTube etc on maths science and other subjects I begin to wish these were available to me when I was younger too!

QuinModah:
“This Is Why Our Children Are Failing WAEC”

I always say this with my full chest 💯 — no child of mine will get a gadget at an early stage, and no child will ever dictate to me how to raise them. I’m African — blood hot, brain correct — and I’ve seen enough to know where this road leads.

I didn’t come to this decision by accident o. I learnt the hard way. My own teenage sister lives with me. When she first came, I gave her freedom — gave her a phone to feel among. But before I knew it, this girl turned into someone I could barely recognize 😔.

She wouldn’t sleep at night. Instead, she was always online, in secret teenage groups watching adult content, sharing inappropriate pictures of herself to boys. I almost ran mad. I cried. I blamed myself. I took that phone and made a law in my house:
No child under my roof will own a phone until they finish secondary school. Period.

Some people around me think I’m too strict. In fact, they’re now telling me to give my 16-year-old niece a phone.
Phone ke? Even when we tried giving her a small button phone, it still became wahala! The girl doesn’t act her age. Always behaving like a 1-year-old with no sense of responsibility.

But let’s call a spade what it is. Look at the WAEC results that just came out — pure disaster for so many students. Why? Because most of them are more active on TikTok and Telegram than they are in their schoolbooks.
They know how to “soft launch” and snap perfect selfies but can’t spell simple words in English or solve basic math.

Yes, society has changed — smartphones are now used for everything. But at what cost?
The line between usefulness and destruction is very thin for these kids, and sadly, many parents are too tired or too distracted to draw that line.

Until we wake up and take back control, this failure trend will continue.
WAEC will keep reflecting not just academic weakness, but parenting failure. And guess who suffers the most? The children.

Depends on value system. My children have always had phones from childhood and all they do I'm aware of!
Keep engaging them on things that will build them and pray along with them, your own values will impact on them.
I'm sorry your niece put you in a spot, but taking away the phone indefinitely will create a vacuum she would fill when the time comes and she will do so too quickly.
Gadgets are changing continuously don't let your children be left behind thinking they will catch up suddenly...you can let them have only one to share among themselves...that way no one can have monopoly and engage in silly vices.
Best wishes

lordm:
Russia's greatest love machine.

Rasputin the bad man

Ooooh those Russians!

CharlotteFlair:
These shoes were once a sign that you have money.

A long sleeve shirt, starched and ironed on top of material trouser, then cap it off with mauri shoes and you are good to go.

the trouser was the classic "shaking material"!!!

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
Imagine how this one go dey constitute neusance in SA, having stolen monies, they will be forming big boy dey misbehaving ups and downs

that is if he does not tell us the SA guys are jealous of his success!

OlawaleBammie:
I don't even know jare...

Any small move to protect the citizens the next phrase is "seems someone is afraid of competition"

In the first place must my citizens compete with you??
Must they compete in their own enclaves?

This is what a lot of Nigeria people going to other nations don't want to hear. If your country doesn't protect you by staving off other nationals from the basic and grassroots business how will you feel? Abandoned? Right?

ufotunang:
..the left wing back and right wing back is a very difficult position...they have to run to the front to support the attacks and also cross ball to the attackers in the box 18 and they also have to run back to defend when the team they are playing with are attacking and want to score

But do you know they don't have to do so all the time during a game ? Depends on tactics... but for midfield positions...you gotta dictate the pace, always! And it's your promptings that gives a wing back more jobs to do...

Warrior99:
All positions are mentally and physically tasking, but the most MENTALLY tasking is the converting of chances and scoring of goals as it comes with tremendous pressure and so little time to act.

Hence the most difficult is the position of the striker particularly the CENTRE FORWARD 9...

Mentally tasking if you don't score often, so who creates the chances? Surely the midfield man! Those tailor made through passes and lobs have origins...so I ask that you see my point of view and agree with me Cheers

obembet:
Given that association football — otherwise known as soccer — is the world's most popular sport, it's no surprise that the beautiful game is the subject of near-constant debate from global fans of the game. And it's not just teams, managers, and players whose performances and skills get dissected by the masses, it's also the specific tactical roles they are supposed to be occupying on the soccer field.



Football divides people (often in the most entertaining ways), and positions are one of the many elements of the game that cause people to argue and debate amongst themselves. Both elite-level performances and disappointed displays from professional players can get fans considering the question


1. Goalkeeper

The amount of pressure that plagues the goalkeeper in soccer is what makes it such a difficult position. If a striker makes a mistake, the worst thing that happens is they don't score a goal. If a goalkeeper makes a mistake, it's highly likely that the ball will end up in the back of their net.

2. Centre Midfielder

The duties and responsibilities of a central midfielder in soccer are far-reaching; they regularly receive the ball under pressure and are tasked with constantly recycling possession and making dozens of pinpoint passes each per game. Not only do centre-mids need to provide protection for the defence and break up opposition attacks, they are also relied upon to get the ball forward to attackers and contribute in a creative sense.
Getting up and down the pitch in a dynamic, targeted way requires huge levels of stamina, and central midfielders are typically the most physically fit players on the soccer field, with some centre midfielders capable of running up to 12 or 13 kilometres per match. It's a tough gig, that's for sure.

3. Striker

It's very difficult for a soccer team to win a match without a striker who is capable of finishing chances from a range of different positions. Top strikers need to be able to put the ball in the back of the net even during games when they've received very little service, and if a team isn't scoring regularly, the pressure ramps up on the people at the top end of the pitch.

Forwards are not only relied upon for finishing chances and securing wins, but also for linking up with other players, holding up the ball, putting pressure on opposition defenders, and battling physically with centre-backs who are often big, bulky and commanding. As a result, this is one of the hardest positions in soccer, and it's very difficult (and expensive) to find a top quality striker.

4. Centre-Back

The amount of pressure piled on centre-backs is massive; they regularly have to face up against some of the best players in the game, marking speedy, strong, powerful, technically excellent forwards while leading a backline and communicating with both full-backs, defensive midfielders and goalkeeper in order to keep things as tight as possible.

In the modern game, central defenders at the top level are typically excellent on the ball as well as being some of the best athletes in the game. However, this position can still be occupied by some slower, less dynamic, and less technically gifted footballers, even in top flight football, and it typically involves less running than most other roles on the pitch, so for those reasons, there are other positions that are, on the whole, more difficult.

5. Full-Back

Back in the day, full-back is often where you'd find the game's less dazzling players, the kind of operators with strong positional awareness and decent technical ability but perhaps not the skill or footballing brains of a creative midfielder or forward. These days, things have changed and the demands placed on full-backs are far more extensive; alongside having excellent technical skills and passing ability, they also need serious stamina and are required to run up and down the flanks contributing both offensively and defensively.

6. Winger

First things first, it's important to note that every single position on the soccer field has its own stresses and demands, and anyone performing these roles at a professional standard is clearly a hugely talented athlete. But when it comes to the level of responsibility associated with an individual position, wingers and wide midfielders perhaps have the most license to focus on the glamorous side of the game without applying quite as much hard graft as certain other positions.

Wingers sometimes operate on the margins of games and are relied upon for moments of attacking quality, rather than being constantly tested and placed at the centre of their team's exploits. For that reason, it's one of the more easy positions in the sport.

"What is the hardest position in soccer?"

Source: obembet

Definitely the midfield position.
You do all the thinking for everyone else! Planning playing and pressing...all are for the midfield man.
Even when a game is started by the goalkeeper the midfield man already begin to position himself to dictate pace, pass and punch to the opposition!

spinna:
so do you know more than the police that said its human meat. Very weird response

Obviously by looking at the skin portion of any meat you can tell the animal or being it is from.

he was only defending the indefensible...just ignore him

franchasng:
Them no born me well to try cuddle my father, Idi Amin of Uganda and Adolf Hitler joined together


But my son will even tell me that he wants to sleep on my bed today and he won't even be scared, he would carry his tab and mount at the middle of the bed watching cartoon and expecting me not to complain but to comply by joining him to watch cartoon or play game, they are lucky generation sha, it's their luck lolzz

Na waaaaaa oooh! Combo of idi Amin and Hitler The man must have been tough!!

Catacomb

franchasng:
AMEN sir.


What a great thread, just refreshed my brain, it was nice reading from real fathers, gave me some relief cos at some points, I do feel like, na WA oh, did I disturb my parents like this when I was young?

Took the words right out of my mouth!!
My parents self no really get my time back then and truly it affected us as children. That's why I vowed to let my children be close and I will learn to help them learn!

franchasng:
lolzzz

It may not work oh, just prepare for the worst case scenario, how?


Save enough.


Invest in landed properties aka real estate, not really tenant house cos that's another problem bigger than the one you are running away from.


Just have enough properties if you can acquire them now, please do.


Have a retirement savings plan with any of the pension funds mgt firms if based in Naija.


Before you turn 65, startup a small business and have few trusted staff, if possible ladies.


Invest gradually in the business so it can be your next job where you will be going everyday to keep your brain busy cos moneymaking and the stress that comes with it makes the brain active. Avoid sedentary life.


Religious activities is another good way to keep busy and build strong, reliable second family after retirement or towards retirement.



Bottomline, save, save, invest so that with or without kids, you can still take good care of yourself and your responsibilities.


I just pray for long life and good health, I know my old age with be very sweet, sweeter than my youth

Thanks for the solid advice, I'm on that path as well... May God bless us and help our children to be a source of praise and blessings to us in our old age!! Amen!!

franchasng:
Hehe no be small thing


I pray my own workload on them will reduce as they grow older Amen. God abeg oh, I no kukuma get strength

No worries, I know where you can buy strength....you will be needing it, only pray that they keep making you happy!! 😄

Nnamdipapa:
When I go near the door, I always get the question, ' dad, where are you going?" I am being constantly monitored and surveiled.

When I travel for business, the next day I have to answer "When are you coming back?" My belly will begin to be water water!! Especially if my daughter asks...😆😆😆😆

franchasng:
I think the best thing men should do is to take pills or use injection cos not all men have the heart to go for vasectomy, so pills and injection should do the magic.



Dear Nigerian ladies, please stop birthing more than 2 kids, whether they are all girls or boys doesn't matter, they are all kids.


The days of looking for a male child is gradually going extinct cos most people no longer live in the remote villages where they want to have a male child to inherit their farm lands.


Boy or girl, train them well, wherever she is, as they tell her story, your name as her father and mother will be mentioned and that's enough. Besides dead people don't know who inherited their name abi wealth or not.


Too many kids can reduce ones lifespan whether rich or poor. If you think money will fill the gap, they may end up becoming societal vices that you will forever regret having.

I strongly believe that 15 years from now no one will advice anyone about number of kids, the world economy will be the "adviser"!

franchasng:
Hahahaha, funny enough when they grow up and become successful, they move in with one boy or girlz enjoying their lives and forget their Papa's sweat



Highest they call once in a while to check up on the old man.


Honestly, I wouldn't blame those that don't want to marry in this our generation cos the stress of raising kids nowadays is not for the faint hearted.


My son will be narrating some carton movies he has watched or watching and expecting me to know the characters and flow along. Sometimes he will even direct a question about one carton character to me, expecting me to answer what I have never watched or heard about before

Hehehehe, I have a plan, this plan is to "secure" my future that they won't forget me once they hook up with their respective spouses....tell me if this is a good plan, I will make sure I make good friends with their boyfriend/girlfriend whom they hope to marry, treat them well so when my children marry them they as children inlaws will always want to visit me!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Do you think it will work??

franchasng:
hahahahaha

Funny enough, it's mostly women, Nigerian women especially that insist on having more kids. Some see it as a great achievement while some want to have a battalion of children to discourage their husbands from ever thinking of marrying a second wife


God help me, I don hang boot.


Vasectomy, I am scared of anything surgery no matter how minor if not, I would have gone for it honestly

I tell whoever cares to listen never to have more than two children, some listen, nod and ignore my advice, in fact one guy avoided me for almost a year, he couldn't bear it till he came to me asking for forgiveness, shocked I asked for what, and he told me he'd been avoiding me because after the talk we had he impregnated his wife again and he regretted cos money was hard to come by!
And yes, mostly it's the wives that continue to get pregnant for one reason or the other but tell you it's your fault when it becomes hard to take care of the family!!

Nnamdipapa:
I was forced with witness the birth of our last child, the doctor told me I was free to faint if I felt like. She said lots of men would pass out witnessing child birth. I quickly went for a laser vasectomy after that harowing
experience.

Hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha hahahaha
Today I'll freely faint from laughing at your comments!!

Nnamdipapa:
But my sister, wealth alone in not enough to raise kids as I find myself emotionally unavailable lots of time for all of them. My last want to swim everyday, my first son wants to play basketball, daughter has to attend dancing classes. At the end it's like you never get to have a life of your own. Even if you have all the money, you are still completely drained.
Once, I was at a PTA meeting till 10.30pm for one child.

My footballer son needs my attention, advice, scorecard, wants to know how far about the scouts, he's schooling, he's trying to develop one app or the other, ....all na me dey "advice, counsel, pray with, talk with"!!
My senior son, needs advice on how his plans about setting up a business, his courses in school, I should edit his planned stories he's interested in developing into 3d cartoon...all na my table....
My darling daughter, 15 y/o, need me to check her physics, chemistry and mathematics lessons etc to be sure she's doing it well,...na my table, and not as though I was good at these subjects when I was in secondary school...and me self get work outstanding on site, drawings, reports....
But guess what, I am enjoying the fact that they feel I know all....and we're all good!!
I tell myself I have to enjoy myself with them as the best thing that I can treasure! Phew!!

Omihanifa:
Dey play. If only you know how western culture don penerate into nigeria. You wint be saying what you are saying.

Nowadays you go dey see women of 45 upwards dey openly flaunt their relationships with younger boys. When i say younger boys, am talking of guys in their 20s or early 30s

It's even worse among all these rich lagos women. Go festac and lekki make you see as e dey go.

You know the younger age goes in more times than an older age...if you know what I mean...

Trymeee:
95 percent Nigerians are victims of abuse, they just won't admit it.

Again you're absolutely right!

rickyrex:
Whenever i am around my children dont allow their mother to prepare them for school or bath them. They will insist i bath or prepare them for school. I do it with Joy. Even if you wake up on time as a mother to bath them, there is one child that will make her shout

Hehehehe.... you just reminded me about my kids when they were still toddlers, once I'm back home from my business trips, they abandoned their Mom I I became full carer! I made it a play work and happiness for them...the bond still dey strong...now they're all in the university!!

Trymeee:
You said it all. Most of the things we call training here is low-key abuse. Screaming, body shaming etc. such child won't even function well in the society. I had a friend who suffered so much abuse that will always kneel down even while talking to her mother on phone. Y'all call that training.

I'm very glad you understand my point. Low-key abuse is what it is!
I'm or let's say I was a victim now all grown yet subtly I know what I went through just trying to get over this. When I see women talking down their children I imagine the future of the children... thanks again for the point. Cheers

pdppower:
Tenant don dey eye am even before then. She just lucky that night.

I think that she may have seen what the wife didn't see in him! And once the opportunity knocked, she opened both doors wide!!