See, you dont have to concoct a story just to prove a point, reading through the story shows it's fiction. Bring real stories of real people and events that happened if you want to admonish the youth.
fadilaMaikiriki: Yes. Want to know how I can come in or be there for him/them in my own little way so as to show my appreciation.
Be careful not to show yourself too much or even at all to his family. His wife will definitely misread your good intentions and before you know things will go south. Stay behind the scenes and pray for him only...
Nicepoker: I have during my service year. Infact in the morning the lady said I shouldn't visit her anymore. Always think twice before you use your device.
Heheheheeee.... had the same experience in my younger days! The lady actually came to test my resolve, and learned that not every man will lose self control! She vowed never to visit me again!
kestolove95: Girls no go still learn... Dem won use iPhone, wear expensive cloths.. Na the result bdat
Dem go read this article, come read your comment, hiss and still fall for the next guy showing off wealth! Ladies should ask questions about source of wealth before falling... wait, why am I even saying this... lemme just keep my smelling mouth ..
Funny how when you're successful your bad habits are not frowned at! The side effects will bring his mum crying to the world and playing innocent one day!
"I am a Nigerian student living in Scotland, A Nigerian Christian guy got in touch with me via WhatsApp and asked for a relationship, saying he got my number off a church whatsapp group that I haven't been to for almost a year now. He said he's prayed about me and God has told him we are good to go. He is a student too. I was single at the time and haven't been with a Christian brother before, so I decided to give it a chance. It's roughly 2 months and I am at the point where I want to quit.
We got talking on the platform and also through calls, about a week into our relationship/talking stage he asked me to come to his place and cook for him so he can have enough food for the coming week. I was surprised because we hadn't even seen each other at that at time. I told him I cannot, he made a big deal out of it and said stuff like it's not a big deal for me to do that as his wife to be. We got over that and arranged to see for the first time, he suggested my house and I said I don't feel comfortable with either of us seeing for the first time in our houses and we finally concluded on a Bugger King outlet which isn't far from my house. This didn't go well with him tho.
We met for the first time and talked, after that he said he wanted to know my place as it isn't far from Burger King. He came to my place and stayed in my bed till around past 10pm, he tried touching and kissing, I told him I wasn't comfortable and he needed to leave because of time. He got annoyed said his intentions was to stay over at my place, he already told his housemate he isn't coming back home and it's so late now to go back. I told him I cannot allow him sleep at my house for the first time we're meeting, I have a small single bed and you intentionally didn't even say you'd sleep over before. He grudgingly left and dropped 3 packs of youghurt and a bag of unfried chips which I later discovered where all expired at the time he dropped them.
I told him about it and he made a mess out of the situation. He attends a pentecostal church and critisizes other churches, he doesn't really believe in adult taking responsibility for their actions as the devil is most likely responsible for everything, we simply have to pray against the devil. He's asked for sex multiple times in less than 1 month, I stopped talking to him one time for about 2 weeks and we picked up again. He said he doesn't have to penetrate, we can do every other things to satisfy our flesh. He said doing all that with him is the proof of my love for him which I have strongly disagreed. Sex isn't a prove of love, we are adults and can have protected sex with anyone without loving them. The only single thing I enjoy about him is that we communicate well, he talks a lot too and that makes our communication half argument, he finds fault in any little thing and blows it out of proportion. I have told him I don't have strength for argument in marriage since we won't be arguing over minute things that get him pissed off now.
Both of us have been getting multiple 12 hours night shifts from work and two nights ago, he asked me what he was going to eat when he gets home the following morning, I knew he was up to something. I told him I can't say, we don't live together and I don't know what you currently have at home. I suggested he buys bread on his way back home. He then asked me to cook for him to eat the following morning, I sincerely let him know I have no soup or stew myself. His response changed and he later called me on same subject, citing how I don't care enough about him to be concerned about how he is gonna eat since he's been working few nights now, he compared himself to a married man that always brings food to work at his workplace. Even gave the guy his phone to talk to me, that one too said I should do things in my power to make my man happy.
I tried to make him understand he isn't married and it might be difficult to enjoy what his married frnd is enjoying. Youve never bought me foodstuff, you haven't worked before and sent me 50 pounds or less for groceries, we are both working night shifts and I sort my own food, why are you angry I can't make out time out of my rest period to come cook at your house to stuck your fridge?
I have been in relationship where I cooked, I personally enjoy cooking, but I have never been with a man that feels to entitled to me doing that for him. He says I'm supposed to be the one cooking for him. He also believes in women abroad sharing bills, but he is too traditional to share house chores"
All the signs of a narcissist displayed! Sister jus pick race leave that guyman! Conji hold am tight and he knows no female citizen of that country will take it lightly with him it's why he chose you!!! Run!!
Stawner16: The difference between flirting and harassment is looks. A good-looking guy would get away with pushing societal boundaries with his flirting with women. That being said, flirting is an art, there’s a time to be subtle and a time to be explicit.
Flirting is an art.... confirmed!! I personally have used it since I'd known myself! Everything you said is correct... time and the subtility of flirting... to the approach of flirting, when doing it the object should go home wondering... "WHAT HAPPENED!!"
RecentHistory: I was surprised when someone from Benue told me that most of the killings there are not done by Fulanis but by ethnic militias fe Benue fighting a never-ending war of reprisals.
That's a fact. Yes Tiv and Fulani have had issues over land for decades even before independence but you see the tiv, they're quite agressive and are land grabbers. Have you asked why these deaths are ALWAYS in Tivland? Why not in the land of idomas and Igedes? Had the killing of this young man not been posted on FB, Ortom would have called Buhari and said Fulani herdsmen were the culprits!
Built2last: Why are we hearing of demolitions and demolitions.
Not a singke news of building anything
Why does most FCT ministers think that demolition is an achievement?
This is how we will be blowing hot air till 4 years is gone.
FCT lack proper pipe born waters in many areas. Good roads are only in city center FCT lacks good recreational centers, no Zoo. No children fun centers
All we hear is demolition
sad thing is, demolition takes place and one director in FCDA will go behind to buy the land.
let's keep playing
Generally, illegality is usually how we love to play! Top to bottom we thrive on circumventing anything that builds positively around us, as though we are allergic to neat and organized society! Those who have allowed these slums are benefitting from the arrangement. Those who allow darkness to prevade are benefitting, those that allow taps to remain dry benefit from it, and so on and that's the majority thought! The only way forward is going backwards by demolition! We will get it right only when we decide that development must be in the proper manner, first!
The bishop should talk like someone with sense at least. If you remove fuel subsidy and dollar subsidy, there will be difficulties at first because the economy will have to readjust.
We cannot continue to borrow to pay salaries and use 90% of our revenue to service debt.
I even thought removing subsidy would make everything skyrocket to like 500% but I am surprised it’s not that much as expected. If past president since the days of Obasanjo have been bold to remove the crippling subsidy without cowing because of protest, we wouldn’t have been here.
You're right! Not many will agree with you because they just want to lay insults all over! Go to nations where there's no subsidy on petrol and see how much it's been sold...problem with nigerians is everyone wants to benefit without sacrifice, starting from ALL politicians!
naptu2: I keep seeing posts (on Nairaland and Twitter) by people who claim that foreign football, especially English football, was not shown on Nigerian television before the year 2000. This is very shocking to me because I watched Brazilian, German, English, Dutch and other foreign football matches on my TV here in Lagos in the 1970s, '80s and 1990s. It has shocked me into creating this thread about football programmes (both foreign and local) that were shown on Nigerian TV in the 1970s, '80s and 1990s.
1) Brazilian Football: You did not watch television in the late 1970s and early 1980s if you don't know about Brazilian Football. It was a tradition. It was produced by O'Rede Globo and shown on the NTA at 10pm on Sundays. Vasco da Gama, Flamengo, Fluminense, Sao Paulo, I watched them all. This was a popular programme in Nigeria back then, so you did not watch TV if you don't know about it.
This was during the era of Zico, Socrates, etc. Do you remember that chewing gum that had pictures of the players (especially players at the 1982 World Cup)? I can't remember its name, but I remember that the pictures of Zico and Paulo Rossi were in high demand.
O' Globo also produced a variety programme called Fantastico, which was also shown at the weekends in the late 1970s and early 1980s.
2) Football Made In Germany: This was initially shown in the late 1970s and early 1980s, then it was stopped in the mid-1980s, then it was started again in 1990 (after Germany won Italia '90)and ran till almost 1999. Bayern Munich, Borussia Dortmund and all the Bundesliga teams featured on the show. The commentator was Tobi Charles and this was the format:
They would show short clips of last week's matches, then they'll show about 30 to 40 minutes of one of this week's matches (that would be the main match of the week), then they would show highlights of other matches that took place that week.
It was on Football Made in Germany that I watched Karl Heinz Rumenigge, Franz Beckenbauer, etc in the late 1970s and early 1980s and the fantastic teams of Eintracht Frankfurt, Dortmund, Bayern Munich, Stuttgart and Cologne in the 1990s.
There were Anthony Yeboah (the Ghanaian Yekini), Jay Jay Okocha and Maurizio Gaudino in Eintracht Frankfurt. I remember a match in which Okocha dribbled the entire Bayern Munich defence and beat Oliver Kahn, only to miss the goal by less than an inch. The momentum of his run took him behind the goal and Jean-Pierre Papin (the legendary French striker who played for Bayern at the time) came to meet him and pulled his shirt over his head (Toby Charles said that it was as if Papin was saying, "How can you dribble everybody, beat the keeper and fail to score?" )
I watched Jonathan Akpoborire (Johnny as Toby Charles called him) play for Hansa Rostock, watched Sunday Oliseh at Cologne, etc. I remember how the fans would chant Heeeiiiiiiikkkkkoooooo Heerrrrrrllllich.
I remember Andreas Moller and Julio Ceaser at Dortmund, etc,
Football Made in Germany was produced by Transtel Cologne and they also produced TeleMatch and Musicladen (which was called Top of the Pops in Nigeria), both of which were shown in the 1970s and early 1980s and again in the 1990s and many detective shows that were shown in the 1990s.
This (in the video below) is basically the same programme, but this one was produced for the United States, so the name is Soccer Made in Germany. The version that was produced for the NTA was called Football Made in Germany.
3) Big League Soccer: I remember this, although I did not watch it as religiously as I watched Brazilian Football and Football Made in Germany. This is English football and I remember watching Kenny Dalglish, Ian Rush, Kevin Keegan and Bruce Grobbelaar (the Zimbabwean) on this show. The NTA also showed a lot of other English football games (FA Cup final, etc) but they were often irregular (not at set specific times).
4) Serie A: Serie A was the best league in the world back then and I believe that this show was also started because Italy was going to host the World Cup in 1990.
5) Segun Odegbami: NTA2 Channel 5 began a breakfast programme called Morning Ride, so NTA Channel 10 started a lunch programme. It was perfect for Channel 10 because Channel 5 had a habit of going on break from 12pm till 4pm during the weekends, so this was an opportunity for Channel 10 to steal some viewers.
The lunch programme was called The Sunday Show and it had celebrities that hosted segments in the show. Fran Kuboye hosted the art segment and Segun Odegbami hosted the sports segment.
Big Sheg had a habit of showing lots of clips of Belgian, Dutch and French league matches. This wasn't a surprise because Nigerian players were flocking to Belgium and Holland in the late 1980s.
The Sunday Show was shown on NTA Channel 10 from around 11am or noon on Sunday.
This segment became a separate show of its own around 1990. That was where I first saw Tony Akiotu. He was Segun Odegbami's assistant. It was now a one hour show and they showed lots of clips. I remember that they had a competition for goal of the tournament after Senegal '92.
Big Sheg also hosted a Serie A show on NTA2 Channel 5 from 1989 till 1990.
6) Sports World/Sports Spectacular: This programme had different names, but I call it Sports World because the BBC also had a similar programme that was called Sports World.
This programme was shown on the NTA from 4pm till 7pm. It featured any kind of sports. The show usually started at 3pm if Nigeria was going to play a match that Saturday.
Like I said, this show featured any and every kind of sports. If Nigeria was playing, then the live match would be on the show. Nigeria often played junior world cups in places with odd time zones like China, Canada, Japan, Chile, etc in the 1980s and the matches took place at night, Lagos time, so there would be a repeat of the match on Sports World on Saturday.
The Champions League was shown on the NTA beginning from 1994 and the matches were usually repeated on Sports World on Saturday.
They also showed documentaries about European football, Brazilian football, etc. If something significant had happened elsewhere, there would be a short clip of it on Sports World.
7) UEFA Champions League on CFI: Canal France International had the rights to the UEFA Champions League and the NTA began showing it in 1994. The commentator was usually Archie Macpherson.
I remember that this was where I watched that epic match between Barcelona and Manchester United in 1994. Romario and Stoichkov combined to punish United.
I remember that there was an instance when Stoichkov failed to pass to Romario, even though Romario was in a better position. Romario complained and Stoichkov said, "F**k off" and Archie Macpherson said, "Well I hope you can't lip read". But Stoichkov and Romario combined to score another goal just moments later. Barcelona beat United 4-0 at the Camp Nou.
8 ) Bournvita Match of the Day: Of course there was the Nigerian league and from c1986 till c1988 this was shown at 10pm as part of Bournvita Match of the Day. The intro was fantastic. Part of the intro featured an old man that was at the stadium. He was so engrossed in the match that was taking place in front of him that he was moving his hands and legs as if he was a player on the pitch.
I watched stars like Uwem Ekarika (Calabar Rovers), Osaro Obobaifo (Bendel Insurance), Bright Omokaro, etc on this show. It was hosted by Akinloye Oyebanji and others.
9) The Best of Football: Godwin Dudu Orumen's Pepsi The Best of Football began around 1992 and continued into the 2000s. They also showed lots of clips of European league matches. They had a news segment, they had discussion segments and they also had a match of the week.
10) Rothmans: English football made a comeback with Rothmans English Premier League around 1994 or 1995. The format was very similar to Football Made in Germany.
11 ) Satellite: Of course, in the late 1990s you could also watch the English Premier League on Supersports.
Multichoice came to Nigeria in 1993, but they didn't prioritise the kind of sports that Nigerians loved (that is, football and athletics). People complained, so eventually, sometime around 1997, they created Supersports 3 to show football.
12) TV Africa: TV Africa was a free television service that came to challenge Multichoice in the late 1990s (around 1998). It was based in South Africa, but registered in Mauritius. They syndicated their programmes to terrestrial TV stations across Africa and many of the new private TV stations in Nigeria showed their content. They got the free to air rights for the English Premier League and even the NTA took footage from them.
13) Mastersports: This show was created by Danladi Bako, who also created Morning Ride. It began in 1990 or 1991 and it was shown on NTA2 Channel 5 from noon (after the news) on Saturdays. The hosts were Paul Bassey (aka Sports Bassey, he was the sports editor of Champion Newspapers), Chris Eseka, Mitchell Obi and Sam John. Paul Bassey was the main anchor. They often showed clips of Nigerian professionals abroad, reviewed the sports pages of the newspapers, discussed important issues in Nigerian sports.
Something very funny happened one day in 1990 or 1991. I was watching the show with two people. I was sitting on the chair close to the TV, while the other two were on a coach at the other side of the room. Then Paul Bassey said, "We are still expecting our guests Mr *** and Mr ***". He mentioned the names of the two people on the coach. I looked at the couch, then looked at the TV. I looked at the people on the coach and then looked at the TV again. They started laughing and one of them said, "Don't mind them".
This list is not exhaustive, but it should give you an idea of what I mean when I say that Nigerians did not just start watching foreign football in the year 2000.
I read every single word of your article, I'm crying with nostalgia! Kaaaaaaiiiiii.... We were once children, now we are almost fossils!! Thank you for bringing back this sweet memories of yester years! Thank you sir!
This their case and most of the ones I've seen is not money. The men have clearly lost interest. You'll see them sitting with other people outside gisting and laughing while their wives will be alone sitting all by herself. So sad.
Look again carefully, wives become a bore by themselves by acting suspicious, being too clingy and driving wedges of silent treatment, complaining unnecessarily, and see finish... Women largely love to be with the wealthy husband while disrespecting the one who's not wealthy You self know.
Dreal1247: At times playing cool is not weakness but strength
The Hallmark of a married man is playing cool.... Women don't know that cool playing has saved many situations they just shout weak man not knowing it's the strenght within and she's still in that marriage because of that...
Dogalmighty17: Your situation sounds just exactly like mine. I have never believed in divorce. But God knows I have been pushed to the wall. I won't tell you to be patient and understanding. I know that for you to make this post now shows how deeply pained you are. At the end of the day, the question we should all ask ourselves is this: Is marriage worth it?
I come to realize that 95% wives don't make efforts to make marriage work as long as they feel they're earning... They only pretend before outsiders, inside the house they don't care!!
Mikagrace: who do you go to when you need to vent about Marital issues and communication with spouse is not there? Because keeping everything in will only lead to more frustration. Most men will leave the house, start keeping late nights and they will give you silent treatment.
You're right. Men love conversation with one who will return interesting answers and not view each comment with suspicion and jaundice. Once that starts, surely anyone will go to the listening ear, even the wife would, that's why it's easy for trap a woman whose husband doesn't have time for her, or man keep away from wife once she comments negatively on his statements...
So now, he'll open this his big old body before this small girl and be having fun?? Some things shouldn't just be at all.
I dey shame for am.
In fact, I'm still tryna understand o! One gal of 23 has been trying to gain my attention since last year I've been imagining her age difference with my 20 year old son, I just told her even if I want to cheat no be with small girl . .not to come marry 21 year old!! Too bad ..
Have you ever thought about those who are less privileged than even you? What kept them going? Have you tried giving a few naira notes to someone who hasn't had anything for days? Watch AA. CLOWN'S videos on Facebook maybe you will understand life's good when you give even the least! Think again
Religion / Re: She Lured Him Into Sex, And This Finally Happened To Him by jaszplus12(m): 12:26pm On Oct 29, 2023 
