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WebSurfer: Please i need an estimate in building a 3 bedroom bungalow. the land is ready and somewhat developed to an extent..at least 5mill for that standard... Could cost more |
It’s time to care less. Yep, that’s right. Sometimes we take the world on our shoulders, and instead of making the world a better place, all we end up doing is creating more stress for ourselves. Here are simple tips to ease that heavy mental load and feel more carefree. What's Next? If You Don't Do These Now, You'll Regret 10 Years Later 1. What others think Dance to your own beat. Act dumb. Do whatever you have to but don’t take on board what others think. It’s your life, your decisions and choices. Others love to judge, and why should you care if they do? Only you define yourself, so let them be amused if it makes them happy. When you care too much about that others will say, you live your life for them and not yourself. 2. Past mistakes We all make mistakes and mess up in life. That’s just how life goes. Don’t be hard on yourself, though. Accept that everyone gets it wrong sometimes; it’s part of the human condition. You really are allowed to cut yourself some slack. Learn to forgive yourself more often. 3. Failure The big “F” word that everyone fears. It doesn’t have to be a scary concept, though. Ultimately, it depends on your attitude to failure. If you see failure as not being perfect, you’re going to be permanently miserable. A more realistic idea of failure is giving up. If you haven’t given up, you haven’t failed. See failure as a learning curve, a trial and error process. See failure as your friend – it’s no big deal unless you allow it to be. 4. What you don’t have The human default position tends to err on the side of lack rather than abundance, which is not conducive to feeling carefree. We focus on what we don’t have and end up feeling thoroughly deprived. What’s the point of that? I often tell my clients to focus on the positives of what they have and the negatives of what they don’t have. Why would you want to torture yourself with all the things you don’t have? That type of thinking will not serve you in any productive way at all. Make a list of all the things in your life that you appreciate. There will always be others with more and others with less. What you have is enough. 5. “What Ifs” We can drive ourselves crazy worrying about what might happen in the future. No one can predict the future (psychics might dispute this), and there is no point in torturing yourself unnecessarily about things that may never come to pass. Remind yourself that this type of worry is wasted energy and distract yourself. Face worry head on – if you can do something in the present moment, go for it. If not, distract yourself and ‘shelve’ the worries. 6. “I’ll be happy when…” thoughts When we believe that we will be happy once something has happened, we effectively put our life on hold until the event happens. Wishing your current life is away is a precious waste of happy moments in life. Be in the moment more and care less about being happy in the future. Decide to be happy now. Happiness is not a destination, it is a manner of traveling. 7. Regrets Regret is a part of life. The past cannot be undone, so it pays to look at what you have done in life philosophically. Did you learn something from it? If you learned never to do it again or to try a different approach, then you’ve ended up with a positive result. Accept what has gone before, make allowances for human error and move on. 8. Rejection Many of us are so afraid of rejection that we stay in our comfort zones and never risk true intimacy. Wear your heart on your sleeve and risk being vulnerable. The more you hide out of fear, the greater the fear will grow. Show yourself that you can express your feelings and live with the consequences. You will conquer fear of rejection in this way and feel more carefree. Even if the outcome is not as expected, you will soon realize that it wasn’t as bad as you anticipated and that you can deal with it. Be a little more thick skinned, be brave and see life as an adventure. 9. Society’s expectations Be thin, be beautiful. Show off your wealth and status and then you’ll be adored. What nonsense. When you like and accept yourself as you are, you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Don’t buy into the constant media images of perfection. Most of the images are airbrushed and lead us to believe that we should all look as perfect. Try not to take it to heart. We all like to see perfect images, but don’t lose sight of the fact that most of it is digitally enhanced and not natural. Love yourself, imperfections and all. Self acceptance is true freedom. 10. Being good enough It’s easy to feel that we don’t measure up somehow. We live in a competitive world. It’s okay and even healthy to want to improve and grow as a person. It becomes unhealthy, though, when we internalize negative ideas about how we aren’t good enough. Always challenge this type of thinking. What is “good enough”? Where is the international rule book that clarifies what “good enough” is? As long as you feel happy with who you are, where you are and how far you have come, that is all that matters. We all worry unnecessarily and create inner misery for ourselves. Remember the above ten points, as they are definitely items you can immediately remove from your worry list. Hopefully you’ll feel a little lighter and a little more carefree too! We waste so much of our lives caring about unimportant things, foolish things, and unchangeable things. |
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Nigeria has been named the 144th most corrupt country in the world. Afghanistan, North Korea and Somalia are seen as the world’s most corrupt countries while Denmark and New Zealand are nearly squeaky-clean, with Nigeria ranked 144th, graft watchdog Transparency International said in a survey Tuesday. Worldwide, almost 70 percent of nations are thought to have a “serious problem” with public servants on the take, and none of the 177 countries surveyed this year got a perfect score, said the Berlin- based non-profit group. Transparency International’s annual list is the most widely used indicator of sleaze in political parties, police, justice systems and civil services, a scourge which undermines development and the fight against poverty.”Corruption hurts the poor most,” lead researcher Finn Heinrich told AFP. “That’s what you see when you look at the countries at the bottom. Within those countries, it’s also poor people who get hurt the most. These countries will never get out of the poverty trap if they don’t tackle corruption.” TOP TEN =1. Denmark 91 =1. New Zealand 91 =3. Finland 89 =3. Sweden 89 =5. Norway 86 =5. Singapore 86 7. Switzerland 85 8. Netherlands 83 =9. Australia 81 =9. Canada 81 BOTTOM TEN =168. Syria 17 =168. Turkmenistan 17 =168. Uzbekistan 17 171. Iraq 16 172. Libya 15 173. South Sudan 14 174. Sudan 11 =175. Afghanistan 8 =175. North Korea 8 =175. Somalia 8 |
homesteady: Younger ladies of course! I just don't really fancy older ladies! At some point, she will like to use her age to bully you!that is if you chose to be bullied or intimidated... Younger girls are pains for a man with a matured mind . |
so will they just pay upfront? |
1)they should seek the help of successful hollywood producers 2) they should start introducing teenage and child actors into movies not allowing overgrown actor to play their parts its embarrassing 3)they should think up better names or titles for movies titles that would captivate the average movie watcher 4)change the mindset of the movies we are tired of knowin the same manner every movie wil eventually end |
.Hello please i just had to find out. I don't know if anybody here has been a benefactor of scholarships of the likes of Nlng , shell, Total .and the rest of them . I would like to know if they pay without seeking your sessional result for the academic year or they pay after they have seen and have been satisfied with your academic performance. Please help me comment. I am bleeping anxious and very much expectant . Thanks for your feedback |
IGBO-PRESIDENT:bro to err is human to FORGIVE is divine. Forgive them both but cut any relationship you had with them.. It is said a smart person makes a mistake . Corrects it and never makes it again. I trust u will b smart about ths |
all what you just posted partains to a girl with a weak mind and an eye for materialism.. If you take a look at girls that fall for such boys u will see they are cheap and can be victimized by any such boys.. Plus boys tend to pass weak minded girls round the table .. I knw ths to b true |
lol lwkm.. My first weed experience wasnt bad infact weed hasnt done anythng bad to except the day i and 3 of my friends bought 11 wraps of weed with 4 bottles of codeine. We put the weed into indomie and drank the codeine with coke.... Well luckily i slept off in my room. For about 8hrs.... Woke up weak couldnt move.. Slept again same cndition but managed to open my room door...we took the stuff at 9.30pm on tuesday night But my friends slept for a whole Day and woke up 9.35am on thursday morning ah no fit laff them scarra when i told them they couldnt believe it .. Hehehehe lol. |
bad meat: Ikwerre by Tribe!OROHUO,the house won't get lost!I.e the lineage. |
she got fatter at the stomach.. Ewwwwwww ah dont like tummy fat so much. Am not married tho... Hehehehehe |
jump up slap her then sit down like nothin happened... |
if this kind of advice get K _leg o |
dgb4: hello phone gurus,advice go for the note 2.. Its way better and the q5 is just junk coz its nt as efficient as the note2 also android os is quite easy to work with... .. Plus the note2 has better ba3 life |
brothers and sisters nobody need to tell una say that money done enter VOICEMAIL stop asking questions nobody go answer you o.... **Coughs** Dats all |
[color=#990000][/color]please use [b]please use [/b]please use Diamond Bank they are reliable nd fast |
hmmmm hip!!! hip!!! hip!!!! hurraaay!!!!!. Front page .... Techno should improve their ram ooo others r nw going 4 2gig ram they are stil on 1gig .. |
emmanuel ewumi: A share is a unit of ownership in a company. In other words, when you buy shares of a company you become part owner of the company and have the rights to share from the fortune of company and contribute to major decisions at the Annual General Meeting of the company.guy good one how can i buy share wil i just walk in to a bank and buy? |
twas a wonderful service rccg victory centre zone rivers province 1 we had pastor ayo bello as our minister today |
babangida is a bastard after wrecking our country he is coming out to say nigeria is greater than pdp is he not ashamed... With deep pains in my heart i wish him and all other corrupt people who have plunged this country into this state a sad , painful and slow death #PlsDONT JUDGE ME |
don_salvy: A guy shoots himself 3 times in d head ( awon werey)lwkmd seriously.. Lmaorotf |
great1: Love means different things to different people. But what we all agree on is that, we've experienced it one way or the other. Whats your idea of love?? how would you share it??in my own words i will say love is God and that is the only true love... B4 i used to hate love cuz it was carnal all love in the ''world'' leads down to sex and all that . I've bin a player before so i knw |
jimmyroger: Looking at the manner of jersey adidas produced for our beloved super eagles[/color] at the last world cup which is very poor compared to other teams,i took it unto myself to designed this jerseys for the team...and i wish it can be adopted by adidas for the team.....all effort to get to them and NFF was fruitless!!!good job i like the first two best |
ameeennn . But them for leave january we kukuma start na.... Na wa 4 them o.. Good sha.. |
gratieao: God is all powerful. Yet He allows Satan to carry out his deceitful and destructive activities |
lorretta u: Is marriage a do or die affair? Why can't you just leave if your life is at stake? WTFwell my dear divorce should not and never be an option dont let the white people fool you .. Divorce is a sin against God and the marriage vows since u said 4 better or worse all u have to do when it gets worse is have faith and pray.. Read ur bible more miss and get enlightened God's foolishness is wiser than man's wisdom |
good one poster google should be feared coz when time for the great tribulation comes they will be like the search and destroy team no one will be able to hide from them .. So be careful |
babyBB: Ladies beware of guys when dey do u a favour, try to be nice to u because if they have the opportunity irrespective of the fact dat he claims to be d church going type, hmmmm, he can go down with u. A word is enof 4 d wise!personally i would say u have jst experienced and u r here to share the fact that you stupidly fell .. Abeg go and lament else where |

