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I just used ma common sense

Liars lie about anything and everything
Player's lies are restricted to relationship shitzo
A player is most certainly a liar whilst a liar is not necessarily a player

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[quote author=BABE! link=topic=672650.msg8369989#msg8369989 date=1306048864]Babe, fashi the guy's side abeg. See all the wrong signals left and right. Yahoo yahoo is very addictive just so you know. It's like smoking. Yh, that kind tin.
You don't even like him "like that" so what's the deal-- [/quote]d freebies it seems
Red flags from all possible angles.
Dude does't even respect your sisters and neither do u. so what they never actually dated, are u the only girl he can now find in town?
Some things are meant to be outta bound mehn.
It's funny how the G boy thing is not even enough grounds for u to say mba.
Na real wa

^^^^
r u cheating on me via fb?

Meldrick:
So because he is a man of God, he should live from hand to mouth. You will feel celebrated seeing men of God begging you for food to eat. Only Bill gates is working, they are not working. shhhh

Damn, no one is asking him to live from hand to mouth. Common sense is just making us question the display of wealth when it's quite obvious majority of the congregation falls under the category of "Nigerians living on less than $2 a day"
Na real wa oh

r231:
thank youuuuuuuuuuuuu


MADAM. . . . . she can NOT get a job if she don't have PAPERS

which i believe they are still working on

She probably thinks it's something that gets granted that easily.
It also appears that either husband doesn't have papers himself or they got married via the back route cos if either of ma intuiton is wrong then the OP should have no working papers worries.

violent:
It's shocking really, and that's why leaders can get away with soooo much!

Tell me about it, Next door neighbour suddenly becomes stupendously rich and you had see troops worshipping him instead of questioning his wealth.
As they say, anything and everything goes in naij. No be naija?

Ujujoan:
Exactly!

Which is why my suggestion to her was to get a job and then dump his sorry a55. That's what I'd do!

It's not that straight forward heheheheheh

Jumping the broom is aiiight

It funny how the don't ask/question attitude has contributed immensely to the current state of affairs in Naij.

I don't share

Ujujoan:
Hi darling . . .

So when are we getting married? You have to promise not to do behave anyhow when I come to join you in obodo oyinbo oh.

I must be allowed at least 2 years to learn how to speak like an oyinbo and sample all the food and flex the town tight . . . before I even consider working.

Very soon oh ma darling. Me i no get stress at work oh so na so so smily face i go dey bring come house.
U gats to dey shine ma congo wella though. U know nau. lool

Ujuuuuuuuuu
hmmmmmmmmmm

Ujujoan:
She is in sq one. She's not married . . . she's just living with a man!

I think it's time for her to cut her losses.

Her husband not her fiance  

Ujujoan:
Oh pls JB, I can be hard working enough for myself and my familt so that will NOT be an excuse for a man to treat me that way!

Yes you can be hence the reason why most people here are going on about her working once she is able to.
The husband action is not excusable though but the advice is on best way to go about making her relationship work.
Breakup shouldn't always be next order of event, IMO it should always be the last  

r231:
its not that easy darling

except if she wants to go back to sq one

Uju probably thinks it's dat easy to pick up any hard working man on the streets of london

Ujujoan:
An adage says, what an elder sees sitting down, a child cannot see it from the highest ladder!

Meaning they are always right

Ujujoan:
Granted, it's their life, it's their wedding bla bla bla . . . . But this is their parents we are talking about.

Not disputing that fact but the wedding is going to be between Mr A and Miss B

Ujujoan:
No parent will want something bad for h/her child. She's the girl and it's only natural for them to insists, lest they have their young daughter raising a child all on her own . . .

Ok this is not part of the script. We are talking about having a wedding before or after giving birth

Ujujoan:
The uncertainty of the relationship is great enough,without the guy going off on his own!

So does having the wedding before the child birth guarantees he would not run off if that has always been his plan?

Ujujoan:
And yes, they have the right to dictate. They are her parents . . . .

No they don't if they aren't paying.

Memunah:
Today is my birthday,ma bf outta town.kinda lonely.

Can i come celebrate it with ya?
Happy b'day

Ujujoan:
It's not a completely ignorant tradition either . . . I mean if they are going to get married anyways, then pray tell, why should they wait?

The baby is coming already so they can as well forget the princess wedding and get it over with! My opinion . . .

They are meant to have own choice not parent's choice => Ma point
They are the ones getting married not parent hence going along with what's comfortable for 'em both. At the end of the day they are paying for it so why allow parents dictate?

^^^
She doesn't live in Nigeria so less obligation to follow the crowd.
Do you even know why most parents frown at the idea? They probably do cos of what people will say not because it's a tradition or what not

aminalib:
slap urself, he lives in my state, 2 hours is not long distance, maybe to u

Like seriously?
It's like living in phoenix and dating someone in vegas or there about.
Anyhoo, if phone communication is important to you then let him understand that. Don't think their is any other alternative workaround.
I personally ain't really into phone convo so i make that known before venturing into any relationship

Migration office?

How about our way?
Is he OK with the idea of having the wedding after you give birth?
At the end of the day it's you guys wedding not your folks so do whatever u guys r comfortable with.

hmmmmm okiessssss
Both at wrong IMO
Dude's action suggests it's not the first time he has done such whilst the wife is just errm errrrm errrmmmm.
They need prayers like for real.
Their is a probable cause for divorce but why trick your wife? She might as well claim she knew it was him all along and only trying to figure out what he is always up to on FB.

Mehn what dis FB is gon cause. Na real wa

Thought it was concluded that long distance thingy wasn't for you.
hmmmmmmmm

[quote author=lily, 145 link=topic=671614.msg8358289#msg8358289 date=1305888117]@Jaybee,
I am a sit at home wife, though I am processing my docs to enable me work.
Then I am working on my accent because my accent  is certainly not the best.
I certainly aint perfect, but he is not making it any easier.[/quote]Some men usually get stressed out when they see their woman sitting her behind at home all day watching all sort of TV whereas the other half is stressing his butt out (regardless of the situation either being ur choice or not).
I appreciate you not having sorted out your papers and i'm not guessing that's the reason why he acts up all the time but all these things do add up.

Question is do you want your relationship to work? If yes then surely you should be asking for things to do so as to change the current situation.

As per the accent, it's something that's difficult to change especially when one is already an adult. you can however improve your communications skills by taking on short communication skills whilst you are still at home.

You can also try making sure he doesn't come home seeing you watching nollywood or being on the phone acting like you don't care.

At the end of the day though, he doesn't have a right to be treating you that way but i'm sure dis dude is someone u once loved vice versa so look for solutions rather than calling it quits

Probably a medical doctor, Don't know why i had to listen to the advice of not wanting to have 2 docs in a fam.
Do y'all know that medical doctor is about the only profession one is guaranteed a job after graduating.

I think only 0.1% of graduates with a medical degree are without employment 6 months after graduating in the UK.

They also earn big bucks

Are you a sit at home wife?
You have to open your heart out to him though by making him understand how his various nagging and complaints are making you feel low on confidence.


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