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To add to all I've said before i leave work, I have also experienced g/f's paying their cheating b/f's back and i know how them guys felt. A friend of mine almost killed himself cos he just couldn't accept the fact that the g/f cheated.

Play them at their own game if u wanna accept the status quo like a no-hoper and if not move the heck on. It's really a free world. No one was born to suffer in pain

That's not an excuse hun. . What happens when it's too late for her to leave?
Listen i know what i'm saying cos i'm speaking from personal experience. My mum never stayed when ma dad cheated. She left and brought up all the kids by herself. I can boldly say i turned out good.
Initial step is the most difficult one but once it's done then everything becomes easier as you get used to him not being there

Omolola1:
jaybee, what you are saying nao is if a guy cheats, the lady should cheat on him as well~

Yes and NO
If a guy cheats and the lady seats and accepts the trash then in ma books it's acceptable for her to cheat as well.
no point feeling sorry for yaself if you can't dust ur bag and move the heck on if u feel ur being wronged in any way.
We are in the 21st century for crying out loud where women go it alone. We have a female chancellor in Germany and many more powerful women in the world so no point sitting back and hoping for the best.

Can you pray for a nympho or serial cheat to change?
Last time i checked, changes occurs from within when the party in question is ready to accept change. ain't no miracle happening. It's just like praying for a drunk to forget the bottle when that bottle is all that makes 'em happy


That's the whole point hun. Her best bet is to leave but what do u tell a woman that has decided to stay with someone that has cheated 3 times?

Some women have dignity and aren't afraid of going it alone cos of self respect whilst others are afraid of the unknown cos the present is convenient even if they are dying within

Seriously, wots the point of dis thread
since when did hygiene become associated with tribe?

madlady:
Could be the way to go but, how many people can really cope with that .

I bet you a dollar if she availed herself of the OPEN RELATIONSHIP the guy would scream blue murder.

Well that's the thing. Men do it but frown upon it when cheated upon. So play us at our own game and see how it goes.
Forget about morality as it's your happiness that matters.
If you don't want to go via that route then just sit and accept whatever comes your way. I hear prayers can remotely work as well but then again can prayers heal the past?

Why is she complaining? She is cos the dude is a serial cheat and i bet if she plays him at his own game then he had come back to his right senses.
Dude is never going to stop as long as the woman worryingly continues taking it cos of the kids.
What happens when the children grows older, able to fend for themselves and he his still a serial cheat? She becomes miserable old hag.

Life is too sweet for one person to make the other person's life miserable. Take control of your life/destiny. It works all the time

What does the woman want? Convenience or Love
Having it all can be a tall order dis days. If that's the only weakness he has then surely their are better ways of dealing with such.
They could both decide to have open relationships thereby no party feels cheated.
They could try counselling
They could move away from his familiar surroundings

So your point is?

Her choice hun
I don't drink not because of religious beliefs or what not but simply because of getting smashed. No point trying things that are way above ur limit.
Shez probably old enuff to know how and when to say NO
What if she got raped and dumped in the lagoon

First of all it ain't a Nigerian thing. Men are born cheats even though it ain't right

Secondly women love to be lied to. If you tell a close minded woman all you wanna do is bleep her what will she do? Slap d silly bleep outta ya mouth hence the need why they navigate through the deceit method.

Thirdly, why are some women just too silly to know they are being played? You don't have to open that legs on the first date, Watch him and tick all the crosses before you give in if it worries you that much.

Lastly, it's all about sex isn't it so y'all should stop attaching too much significance to it. It's either you are game or become a celibate until u find that man. Don't go playing sexy games with the hope of using it to tie him down.

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More: Princess, precious,romeo

made-believe dude but law of karma is a real schitzo though
Treat others d way u want to be treated

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Agege (I made dis up)

Most certainly NOT.
CAN'T WON'T consider such.
Haba. . . . where is d pride? don't wanna feel less of a man. If u aren't man enuff to marry then stay single.
A sweet recipe for disaster

awww poor tiger with >900 mil bank balance.

Lord abegi make me a tiger 

oya no vex. i go ask missy b and yme make dem cook u correct food

dis week na real wa.
thnx for the flogging tboogie

who dey vex u again ma guy

madlady:


That's not true , I just thought his reply seemed very thought provoking.

OK. oya come here for a hug

tosyne007:
if u check my post properly, i never said it is taboo or it does not happen but it's a belief. I am very sure u know the difference between a "norm" and a "belief". Moreover, apart from your sister, how many examples of such relationships can u cite, even from your family. The bottomline here is that, i and a larger number of other posters believe this relationship aint gonna work and its better for HER to look elsewhere for her hearthrob.

And i ask whose belief cos u seem to be speaking for the yorubas. I know quite a few actually. Another girl friend of mine just married someone she is 2 yrs older than 2 months ago. The point is it won't work cos of greater age gap rather than her just being older than him. That's the difference

I will happily marry someone that's 2yrs older than moi. It's kool and sexy to grow old together. hahahhahahaha

I hope shez not talking about me
I am in the ready to explode mood. ticking time-bomb kinda mood. hahahahhahahahah

tosyne007:
@poster, forget his friends or wateva business he is doing. the fact still remains that u are lot older than he is and he's gonna change his mind very soon when the pressure from his family becomes unbearable. It can be painful but the truth needs to be said. I will advise u let go and look 4 somene who is thesame age bracket.

I want to blv u've got a yoruba background too if your profile name is anything to go by and whether u like it or not, age means a lot to the yorubas. It's believed the husband should be older than his wife, not the other way round. Moreover, he is the only SON of his mother. If u really care for him and urself, it's better u start planning on how to end the relationship b4 it gets out of hand.

Believed by who? the yorubas? never heard of such and i'm sure it ain't no taboo.
My sister is 2 years older than her husband and they have been married for 20yrs.
My point is age difference of <4 yrs is somewhat same age group and more acceptable than 11 yrs.


I c u madlady. look at u quickly agreeing

Age gap is just too big.

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