Ibiyomee:
As for me, 3 is enough n vice versa.
Slap your lover and get $1,000,000
Romancelanders, how many romantic slap will you give your lover?
I believe this kind of slap is romantic cos money is involve

Waiting for your hilarious reply
Be sincere!

Only a desperate slave to money will go against his/her principle to get rich quick...

Morrie:
do guys say what they mean?

They say what they mean but don't mean what they say

Thoniameek:
None

Just realised am blessed

Cause I have all three

Enjoy all my dear... count your blessing

A. Virginity (I crave for Chastity)
B. Job (mine is Work, not a job)
C. True love (I see it everyday when I sleep and wake up because He sustains me.) No Agape, No Eros

An excerpt from the book title, Waiting and Dating by Myles Munroe. He talks about the need to be whole while single which makes dating a choice and not a necessity.

It is the same way with dating. The time you are most prepared for dating is when you don’t need anyone to complete you, fulfill you, or instill in you a sense of worth or purpose. You are ready to date when you have first learned how to be single.

LEARN HOW TO BE ALONE
Contentment with being alone involves learning how to be fulfilled in your singleness. A truly single person is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually without dependence upon anyone else. Successful singles find their personal identity and sense of wholeness within themselves and in relationship with God. Because they are complete within themselves, only whole individuals are fully comfortable being alone. They can thrive and prosper whether or not they are involved in a relationship. For such people a relationship is an added blessing; it is icing on the cake.
A truly single person is one who is complete physically, emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually without dependence upon anyone else.
A whole person is one who has, first of all, a healthy self-concept. Many people struggle with feelings of inferiority and self-hatred. Such a person will have problems in any relationship. Healthy self-love is critically important to personal wholeness because it affects every other relationship.
Someone once asked Jesus what was the greatest commandment of all. Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart
and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first
and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments” (Matt. 22:37-40,
emphasis added).
Our first responsibility is to love God with our whole being. Because He first loved us, we are able to love Him and, in turn, love ourselves in the sense of having a positive self-image as someone who is loved and valued by God. If we do not love ourselves, it will be difficult for us to love others, or even to relate to them properly.
Secondly, a whole person has a clear and solid faith. When we know what we believe and why we believe it, when we know what the Word of God says and are committed to obeying it, and when we have a good grasp of God’s standards for our personal lives and are determined to live by them, we are well on our way to wholeness.
A third characteristic of wholeness is growing one’s own roots. To grow your own roots means to have your focus of motivation and control within yourself rather than in other people. Many people allow others to control their lives. They dress to please other people, they buy what others are buying, and they think the way others think. Uncertain and uncomfortable with their own thoughts and ideas, they simply acquiesce to the thoughts and ideas of others. Whole people are self-motivated, internally-directed, comfortable with themselves, and rooted firmly enough to stand strong and confident in the values they live by, even if at times they seem to be standing alone.
Being alone as a single person has many advantages, especially for a believer. One of the greatest of these is the opportunity to give undivided attention to the pursuit of spiritual growth and a deep relationship with the Lord. Married people, even committed believers, must divide their time and attention between spiritual pursuits and the everyday demands and challenges of married life. In his first letter to the believers in Corinth, Paul made that very point in describing the value of singleness: Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. Are you married? Do not seek a divorce.
Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.…
I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs -how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord (1 Cor. 7:26-28;32-35).
Paul’s counsel to singles is to use this time in your life to pursue “the Lord’s affairs,” to grow in “undivided devotion” to Him. Unfettered by the ties of marriage or other serious relationships, single people are free to concern themselves wholly with the things of God. Make the most of this time in your life. Learn to grow deep with God and to love Him by yourself first. Don’t be in a rush to get into a relationship. Get your spiritual roots
firmly embedded in God now, because once you get seriously involved with another person, particularly in a marriage relationship, your time and attention will be divided between that person and your devotion and service to God.
Work to develop yourself fully as a single person. Learn to be like Adam; get completely lost in God today. Become so consumed by God that He will have to interrupt you to bring another person into your life. Think of singleness as a blessing and a perfect opportunity for character development. You will have fewer distractions, a single-minded commitment, and a more open attitude because you will not be pressured by the need to please anyone except God.
Become so consumed by God that He will have to interrupt you to bring another person into your life.
Learn to be an asset first. You should be preoccupied with preparing yourself for whomever God is preparing for you. Most people are so busy looking for the one God has prepared for them that they fail to prepare themselves for that person. Don’t make that mistake. Use this time in life to prepare yourself.
True singleness is a sign of spiritual and emotional maturity. When you can be alone and enjoy it, you are a self-confident and self-aware person. You are well adjusted, not needing other people’s approval to feel okay about yourself. It means that you have your act together and are ready for a deeper relationship.
You have discovered and accepted who you are and can now truly give and share yourself with others. You are ready to relate (effectively).

Whose fault is it actually? The GUY who thinks because she often initiates a chat on social interactive platform with him (provided he's not the only one she creates time for), means she's eyeing him OR the LADY who thinks if she initiates a chat with a guy (especially when he's not a stranger), it's a sign she's seeking for "attention" but it's ridiculous this particular thought does not pop up when they need assistance from this same guy - he's only good at rescuing; a simple hello that's not accompanied with SOS seems impossible nowadays.

"Hello" does not mean he/she is asking for a date - capisce!

This misconception that relationship preceeds friendship in the attitudinal disposition from both sexes makes the girl feel the guy must ALWAYS take the lead. For the record, in the spirit of friendship the interest is mainly mutual because it's a choice and not a chase. It's "give and take" and not "wait and take."

This sense of inferiority is also been exhibited in marriages today where the wife will not (not that she cannot) initiate sex with her husband even when her hormones is screaming for IT - you go roll for bed tire.

~Sir Jerry.com

Ladies that always like to be only on "asking & collecting" side more often end up becoming stingy and greedy wives and mothers. Learn to also give tangibly to your male counterpart without them asking because most times no real dude will even ask from you. It is an act that shows you belong to a different class of ladies and not to be taken or misunderstood as a gesture to minister your "in love" emotions towards him.
Guys that have turned their girlfriends to house helps; she cooks, clean and wash for you because you are the boss. Men with this mentality end up acting like prison warden to their wives and children. Even if a woman lacks self-respect, you can culture her to place herself in such a high esteem by treating her the way a lady ought to be appreciated. That's what makes you her right man.
For those of us who wish to raise our own families sooner or later, the reason why we weren't born married into this world is so that as we grow, we learn to become more repsonsible; not just for our own benefit per se but also for our unborn children and the society at large. Your action(s) at this present moment puts you in a better position for the next moment that is to come. Let's leave frivolities and concentrate more on life threatening priorities that we need to conquer now before they conquer us in our quest of being champions as fathers and mothers. That you crave to be allowed to enjoy your youthful age shouldn't be an unreasonable licence for you to build up past and habits you may eventually have to fight with thereafter at the detriment of your comfort and longevity.
Some are learning, some are playing; some are changing, some are just there - how you prepare, will determine how you'll perform.

The world in dire need of better men and women - apply now!

~Sir Jerry.com

LesbianBoy:
Just like dami and chris attoh, i think these couple are in lust not in love! He is probably marrying her because she is cute and has a big buttocks while she is marrying him because he has six packs

The best you could have done was to wish them well in their marriage. Your opinion may be true and at the same time may be absolutely very wrong.
BTW nice profile pix

eleojo23:
OP, jearile, there is no need to argue with or try to explain yourself to anyone on this thread because it will be a waste of time. We've been over this before on this forum (in one of my topics) and I saw how many people think.
Just leave everyone to believe what they want to believe.
It is true that things don't always turn out the way we want them to but there is nothing bad in hoping for the best. It is always good to hope for the best because I believe in the law of attraction (what you think and believe is what you will get)

I pray that you will have a good home when the time comes.

Tanx... I predict the very best for you too

lofty900:
I beg to disagree with ur philosophy. Truth they say is bitter but must be told, good folks also attracts bad partners. Sorry for bruising ur ego

Who you are is not a function of "goodness" but of knowledge. A man is only as ignorant as his mind is. So you can be 'good' and still be BAD ...might sound hard for you to understand

KanwuliaJara:


If your father could not accomplish all that, please go and sleep!
Talk is what the BLACK RACE does best!
Yet DOMESTIC violence is the MOTTO!
Na wetin consine LOVE with POVERTY?

I am done trying to educate you!
Enjoy your dreams that can never come true!

Real lovers DO NOT ADVERTISE on of offline!
Only YAHOOOOOISTS do, to disguise the REAL FACT that they are SOCIO-PSYCHOPATHS!!!!!
I PITY DESPERATE girls and LONELY old CARGOS who fall for words without actions!
Bye!!!!

When pessimism eats up the entire faculty of the mind of a man, it would take only a miracle to reorganise and fix that mind rightly. He has been so accustomed to failure in his life that the idea of one succeeding sounds outdated. Achievers don't ignore critics rather they recognise their plight and understand their resentment for trying something their pessimist minds never thought of. They see the world only through their parochial eyes; ignorant to adhere that the revelation of their mindset is the genesis of someone else's.
The world may be full of shit but there are few left who haven't allowed themselves to be used as tissue papers. Speaking of poverty, a man is as poor only as he can think and that's why wealth is the ability of a man's capacity to think. That you were born and bred from a broken home doesn't mean your mindset should be broken and please don't blame it on the 'black race'. The prayer of every good father is for his son to see farther, dream bigger, and achieve greater feat than he could. So I wasn't brought up to stop where Papa stopped; I was born to begin from where he stopped actually. A close mouth is a closed destiny - what is too heavy for your mouth may be too big for your hand. So what you call advertisement, on the contrary, is what I call faith-based proclamation. I'm a product of a blessed marital union. Notwithstanding, I still desire more...

lofty900:
stay there and be writing letter while another guy is busy shining her Kongo

You do not attract who you want but you attract who you are... Keep that in mind

KanwuliaJara:


Your journey will be tedious and HERCULEAN at best!
Pele o!

It's a pity I'm not relying on your strength... It is infinitesimal and inconsequential right now, so pocket it

KanwuliaJara:

Till then!

Yep, I'm getting there...

KanwuliaJara:
Not intended for THE BLACK RACE!

As he thinks, so is he... I have a dream that one day man will not be judged by the colour of his skin but the content of his character

To my future wife:

I do not promise to be perfect but I promise to do all I can and my best possible to be near perfect. Every effort and sacrifice I'm making now to become a better person daily is for our future. I want to be the husband you will be proud of both indoor and outdoor; a father you'll pray our sons will grow up to become and the kind of a husband you will wish our daughters would marry. Nothing will ever change the way I'll feel about you and think of you. I'll be a mother to you when you need one, a father to you and a friend that lasts forever. I can't promise not to make you cry but I can promise it will be full of tears of joy. I don't wish to be your Romeo, I want to be your hero. With you I dare to dream the impossible - they marriage is full of ups and downs but ours will not record a better yesterday; they say in sickness and in health but ours will know no pain or plague; they say for richer, for poorer but ours will surpass even the wealth and wisdom of King Solomon; to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy law.
Well, I'm not in a hurry to find you, at the set hand of time when am awake from my deep sleep, there you will be shining in front of me and I shall say this is the bone of my bones, the flesh of my flesh; and I shall call you my WIFE.

~Sir Jerry.com

petux:

Buh u shuld no wat courtship means. dae are yet to b husband and wife....if possible d relationship shuld go soul, can d gift b taken back..... Nd normally as a chronic believer, its nt proper

I'm trying hard not to sound derogatory but this height of ignorance is preposterous.
It would be colossal and a fiasco lurking around if somebody with this kind of mentality is already courting - if the foundation be destroy what can the righteous do.
I'd advice you go back to be basics - what is love.

petux:


Wah I mean iz DAT buying anytin 4 her all in d name of love...like phones,clothes shoes e.t.c

Haba! The best way love is expressed is through giving. Haven't you heard "you can give without love but you can't love without giving"?
Ordinarily you exchange gifts with somebody you like let alone somebody you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. It's either he's stingy to a fault or doesn't understand the meaning of love.
Notwithstanding, you are expected to give with the right motive. Giving should be a lifestyle and do it within your capacity (purse), don't over-exaggerate because you are trying to make a statement.

Wonderfully amazing... provided they are facts

petux:
Personally, I think it is wrong to exchange gift when they have not been Joined together. It is clear that many xtian cannot do without exchanging gift.
I want matured christians and my fellow nairalanders to shed more light on this.
Thanks.

What do u mean by exchange of "gift"?

tohpahz:


Yekpa and u remembered my face

Y not?! Av bin following u frm afar... Funny break up lines - hope gabby didn't say those cuz I showed him d post

tohpahz:

Now i get,Thanks... wait!! Gabi asin ab*zu??

Good to know... asin yepi

tohpahz:

Wonderful, u clarified me to confuse me again..
So u mean one can't fall in love or Love doesn't exist

Love exist when you grow in it not when you fall in it... Capisce!

tohpahz:
Now this is something that has been on my mind for quite a while..

I hear people say they fell out of love with their partner, and I've also seen cases where attitude and everything just changes because of the same reason..

Personally, i don't know and it's getting me a lil bit confused here and there..(i sometimes think the person never loved the partner )

So i want to ask,
Can someone fall out of love with his/her partner
Isn't love supposed to be a forever thing..
What causes this?
Can it be prevented(if it exists )

Thanks...

Figuratively, we say people "fall in love" but in reality and ideally people actually grow in love. Love is not something you fall into otherwise it is very certain you'll fall out of it sooner than you think. The reason why there're so many break ups boils to the fact that more often than not people "fall in love."
To "fall in love" is simply an infatuation. Infatuation is simply being ignorant of who you are - what your values are, what you really want, who you really need and the why's of them all. So we fall for "packaging" not actually love. Appearance creates opportunity for likeness.

missclasssy:

Love is an emotion and like all emotions, it is capable of wearing off.

Love is not emotion (feelings). Feelings are subject to change but love is not subject to change. Feelings are ways in which we express love and that's why especially in marriage you are adviced to love your wife at all times even when you don't feel like it (not in the mood). You know Hollywood has so redefined the true concept of love to make it look comical so much that people "fall in love" with their common sense on sabbatical.
Notwithstanding, all relationship don't last forever. We most times call it quit when there're huge incompatibility differences; some negotiable with time if you can wait, some nonnegotiable and that is not to say they "fell out of love" provided it wasn't for any selfish reason. Part of this is why overdue years of long relationship is unsuitable because people change and alongside their values. Go into relationship when you are ready and prepared for marriage - experience is a student teacher when it comes to LOVE matter.
In summary, you "fall out of love" only when you "fall in love." Husband stops "loving" the wife after she drops two - but he "loved" her when her figure 8 was still perfect. So that he married you is not a guarantee is really truly loves you.


LOVE FAILS NOT!

Ps: The difference between a bush and a garden is order. Like a garden, if you don't sustain its beauty it looses order and becomes unpleasant. Likewise, if you don't want to loose "order" in your relationship, as a matter of priority you must learn to spice it once and again and not once and for all.

safarigirl:
I never said having sex was bad, it just shouldn't be justified. I said people should stop making excuses for it. If you read the last part of my write-up, you'd see where I said that.

Electricity is not a bad invention yet you can get electrocuted if you play around with it.
Truth never gets outdated, it never gets out of fashion, it remains truth any day, anytime and anywhere no matter the level of civilization. It's our effort to redefine the truth that brings us into trouble - "we cannot do anything against the truth but for the truth." Sex is strictly for a husband and wife and anything else makes it bad - void of its original purpose. That you and I are guilty of violating it does not impede the authenticity of this truth so it's high time we stopped perming counterfeited philosophies and ideologies to silent/calm/ease our consciences or that will suit our actions. Some things are bigger than religion and this (sex) happens to be one of those things - the foolishness of God is wiser than men and only a FOOL will say there's no GOD!

Man, thou hath inexcusable! Accept that it's wrong even if you don't wish to change or stop it.

Buttressing your point @OP...

This may sound hard and dangerous...
When you advertise or place more value on your FACE far much more than your VOICE then just know from now that you belong to the conference of AVERAGE Homo sapiens. The average woman would rather have beauty than brain because the average man can see better than he thinks - by their fruits (Facebook wall), you shall know them.

The world today is governed by dead men whose voices (ideas) still controls the affairs of the living.

"I have a dream.." - Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr
"Not all of us can do great thing. But we can do small things with great love" - Mother Teresa
"The greatest tragedy in life is not death, but a life without purpose" - Dr. Myles Munroe
"If ye love me, keep my commandments..." - Jesus Christ, Saviour of humanity

How many faces of so-call beauty queens/kings can you remember?

My dad told me, "I've never laid my hand on your mother ever since we got married. Don't think it's because she has not wronged me but I love and respect your mother." That voice alone changed my perception about women.

Start training your VOICE now, you just never can tell whose heart it would be imprinted - Positive SOUNDS will always produce positive SIGNS!

~Sir Jerry.com

o42austino:
I bought that book 12years Ago and it's still in where I keep book, I read it every year to make sure that the message and the wisdom of ancient city of Babylon is is with me in this present day.

I don't joke with that book and books like the millionaire next door, Rich dad poor dad, Awakening the giant within by Anthony Robinson, Talent is never enough, the power of positive thinking and soooo many others.

Wow! quite interesting... To be informed is to be reformed

Readers are leaders. But to be an outstanding leader, one must be a practical reader.
Below is excerpt from the book, The Richest Man in Babylon, authored by George S. Clason.

Money is the medium by which earthly success is measured.
A man's wealth is not in the purse he carries. A fat purse quickly empties if there be no golden stream to refill it.
Reason why we have never found any measure of wealth, is because we never sought it.
I desired wealth but if I was to achieve what I desired, time and study would be required. As for study, learning is of two kinds: the one kind being the things we learned and knew, and the other being the training that taught us how to find out what we did not know. As for time, every man have it in abundance.
I found the road to wealth when I decided that a part of all I earned was mine to keep.
Seven (7) Cures for a Lean Purse
1. Start thy purse to fattening
At least one-tenth of your earnings is yours to keep for savings.
2. Control thy expenditures
Live and budget within the other percentages left from your earning. On no account should you touch your savings in order to gratify thy wants.
3. Make thy money multiply
Invest wisely from thy savings to reproduce after it kind by producing children and grandchildren via that same source.
4. Guard thy money from loss
The first sound principle of investment is security of thy principal.
5. Make of thy dwelling a profitable investment
Own thy own home. And greatly will it reduce cost of living, making available more earnings for pleasures and gratification of your desires.
6. Insure a future income
A man may buy houses or lands for this purpose. If wisely chosen as to their usefulness and value in the future, they are permanent in their value and their earnings or their sale will provide well for his purpose.
7. Increase thy ability to earn
Preceding accomplishment must be desire. Thy desire must be strong and definite. As a man perfect himself in his calling even so does his ability to earn increase.

Good luck waits to come to that man who accepts opportunity. To attract good luck to oneself, it is necessary to take advantage of opportunities. Men of action are favoured.
Without wisdom, money is quickly lost by those who have it, but with wisdom, money can be secured by those who have it not.
Wealth that comes quickly goes that same way. Wealth that stays to give enjoyment and satisfaction to its owners comes gradually, because it is a child born of knowledge and persistent purpose.
To earn wealth is but a slight burden upon the thoughtful man. Bearing the burden consistently from year to year accomplishes the final purpose.
The man who seeks the advice of men wise in handling money soon learns not to jeopardise his treasure, but to preserve in safety and enjoy in contentment its consistent increase.
If you desire to help thy friend, do so in a way that will not bring thy friend's burdens upon thyself - the oxen and ass tale.
Better a little caution than a great regret.
He who spends more than he earns is sowing the winds of needless self-indulgence from which he is sure to reap the whirlwinds of trouble and humiliation.

THE SUCCESS SECRETS OF THE ANCIENTS - AN ASSURED ROAD TO HAPPINESS AND PROSPERITY

She said "you are too nice not to be faking it. I thought guys like you have become extinct because frankly it's like forever since the last time I met a 'perfect' gentleman."
Then I replied, "there's something called 'training yourself for the future'. You don't wish to be a good father/husband because if you are not a good man, you cannot be a good husband/father - you can't give what you don't have. So if I want to be a good husband, I must start now by being a good man - 'perfect' gentleman."

Thinking outloud - My humble opinion:
Marriage is a 'school', the preacher said and many more preachers will keep saying but notwithstanding, personally I think they are not referring to a 'kindergarten school' - it's not a creche. You know, I believe it's even bigger than a "high school" because you don't get the kind of freedom from your parents like the one you get in college; so I believe it should be seen as a College that you've made up your mind not to graduate from save death. While some went through Jamb (courting, in the right sense of it) before marriage, others went through common entrance exam (dating, as in, I see you today, sleep with you tomorrow) before marriage. The issues that come up in marriage are way too complex to be term as "subject". The appropriate term that match these issues is "course". In marriage, we expect our spouses to have had at least no matter how little an idea about how a 'school' is - the husband knows his responsibilities and the wife knows her responsibilities. Listen, this is not a prayer but a fact; if you think it's a kindergarten kind of school these preachers are talking about, marriage will certainly bore you but it's never too late for you to redefine that thought because not everyone will appreciate a wife or husband that lacks knowledge of his/her duties. You allow your husband to ask for his meal and when he does, you say "honey, please help yourself in the kitchen" because you are watching Telemundo - just one month old marriage. When he gives you money, he expects you to know what to do with it especially when it's for the family. In kindergarten, they teach you everything but in college it's really the opposite; more often than not, what they do is called lecturing. They expect you to have got some level of maturity and strength - you don't cry or run away over every little thing that hurts. That you paid her bride price does not make her your 'property', she's your life partner. She shouldn't just be seen as the mother of your children but as your wife. Men please let's know this.
In nutshell, a better way to put it will be: marriage is a 'school' not meant for boys and girls. It is meant for men and women who already know (in considerable extent) and are still willing and ready to know more than they do from their spouse and emulate genuine neighbours (who can be liken to fellow college mates - married people)... Learn to forgive, learn to appreciate, learn to compromise, learn to apologise, learn to tolerate, learn to plan, learn to live your size, learn to hold on to love, learn to stay together and happily forever, and most importantly learn to depend on God in your marriage - a family that prays together, stay bonded forever.
A woman beater is still a boy; a man that engages in throwing tantrums with a woman, is still a matured boy... Any woman that depends on a man, even for recharge card, is still a girl; a woman that easily insults and rude to a fault is still a matured girl.

Let's embrace knowledge. God frowns at divorce. Married men and women praying to be single again is enough. Heaven is tired of hearing such prayer point.

CHANGE is the only constant thing. Change for the best - it begins now!

Copyright 2015 - Sir Jerry.com
I Listen! I Think!! I Learn!!! - That's my signature

Nobody can do your thinking for you in as much as they won't bear the brunt with you. Sit down and settle it until you are convinced of what you want. Love is beyond feelings, reasoning plays a huge role. Undergo all the necessary test (though, with or without any confession is always the needful thing to do before marriage). Abortion is beyond terminating a foetus in the uterus; every action has its consequence(s).