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Romance / Re: I Love This Guy But We Can't Marry by jearile(m): 11:49am On Apr 22, 2015 |
EroticAngelina:Most childish comment I've ever heard... My dear you lack knowledge of God. When sex has blocked the brain, this is the kind of result you get - smh |
Romance / Re: He Ended Our Relationship Few Days To Our Wedding.......... Lady Cries by jearile(m): 6:57am On Mar 25, 2015 |
dre11:A broken relationship is better than a failed and devastated marriage - blessing of sign of futility in disguise |
Romance / Re: Is Love Sex! The Difference Between Love Making And Sex. by jearile(m): 5:26pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
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Romance / Re: RE: What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? by jearile(m): 11:32am On Feb 12, 2015 |
stillchris: So that's how it is, you both come to an agreement not "she said and I agreed." Stop seeing sex as a trophy you get for spending your time and money on a girl else it's no longer a relationship but a game. Sex is a choice and no one has the right to crucify anybody. The million dollar question we all fail to ask ourselves is this: right now, is it the right choice |
Romance / Re: RE: What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? by jearile(m): 11:16am On Feb 12, 2015 |
stillchris: Now that you've slept with her, has it stopped you from sleeping with other girls? Be sincere... It makes no sense having sex outside and then decide to do a "no-sex" relationship. When a relationship is defined it is not done to please one party but rather both parties involved else it won't work. Anyway, it is a mentality thing - there are things a "child" just won't understand until they grow up... We go for knowledge because we desire to know how it ought to be done and not how others are doing it - these are two different things. If you want sex go for it; if you don't want, steer clear because you choose to not because she/he chooses to else you'll just keep telling stories. |
Romance / Re: RE: What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? by jearile(m): 8:24pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
jnrprof: Thanks man but no insults please... It's a free world |
Romance / Re: RE: What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? by jearile(m): 8:22pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
MzNelly: Thanks... Good to know the truth still sells even when it seems the whole market place is full of adulterated jingo here and there 3 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / RE: What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? by jearile(m): 2:59pm On Feb 11, 2015 |
What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? >>> www.nairaland.com/1915219/what-boys-gain-relationship-without <<< Below is an excerpt: Ezegozie:An icon of blessed memory, Dr Myles Munroe said and I quote: "when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable." Most of us just jump into things or occasions without discovering the truth behind their existence. There are very few people doing the right thing and the falsehood spread by the myriads of companies who've fabricated the truth behind the creation of this things seem to have more followership because "everybody" is doing it and the need to investigate or ratiocinate seem useless. May I boldly state this fact: Relationship is not for sexual escapade! Girls are not intimacy gadgets or merchandise that you get in exchange for a deal or deed. This mentality of "I must have sex with her" has incapacitated the destinies of bunch of dudes - the consequences go way beyond the fun/pleasure. What is Relationship? The word is actually a derivative of Relate. It is basically and ideally between two complementary sex who from friendship have began to develop some kind of (mutual) emotional attraction for each other. These feelings are not overrule by reasoning. Such reasoning demands that at least there should be chances of compatibility based on information and interaction before commitment. It is not a transfer of personal or family responsibilities to the other; ownership is not a part of it. Now, let me say this very clear... Everyone has the right whether to obey or disobey God. So sex in relationship is a choice. It's like every other choice we have to make - to love or to hate; to forgive or to hold grudges etc. When Should I get into a Relationship? Age is not just a number in this case. Sometime ago I was conversing with a 14 year old and I was baffled that she's been involved in not less than 4 guys. For the guys btw the ages of 0 & 19 you have no business whatsoever meddling in it. Use this period to build your muscle (knowledge, academics, skills and IQ), focus on vital priorities that will make your would-be lady respect and place value on you. Responsibility go way beyond finance even though finance is sacrosanct. So discover yourself first and foremost before you get blinded and confused by the idea of being in love with the thought that you are in love. For the ladies, btw the ages of 0 & 18. It is your life we are talking about. As a girl, the first thing you do to your "land" is not to plant on it. Identify your land by knowing who you're and then you build a wall/fence/security around your land. If two people have sex, who gets pregnant - boy or girl? If they decide to go for an abortion, who goes for abortion - boy or girl? If during abortion somebody dies, who dies - boy or girl? If there's no death but there're complications and somebody loses her womb, who loses the womb - boy or girl? If they didn’t go for abortion, somebody needs to drop out of school because of pregnancy, who drops out of school - boy or girl? If somebody needs to begin to sell on the roadside to raise the child, who does that - boy or girl? If the society would knock somebody off his/her perch, who do they stigmatize - boy or girl? So who's the fool, boy or girl? And who should be wise, boy or girl? WISE UP & ZIP UP! Women hear this: Marriage is not your destiny! Please note that the age benchmark notwithstanding does not connote maturity. I only used them based on personal view considering the state of our society. When a guy goes into a relationship with the mindset of having concubines, that person still needs to grow up. When a lady thinks her happiness and life depends on a guy in spite of his savagery or when she believes it an avenue to inherit what her father does not have and cannot provide for her, then it's about time she grew up too. Love begins with you! Finally, Why get into a relationship? This was the very question I asked myself before I joined the number. Oh! She loves me and I love her but can't we just still remain "good" friends without the lovey-dovey in it. In search of answers, I walked up to somebody very close who happen to convince me. Worthy of note is the fact that I knew my onions to a reasonable extent because I was well fed with materials from proven and reliable sources, so I wasn't just popping in half-dressed or half-baked - I knew the DOs and Don't. I'm in a relationship and April 8 this year will make it 3 years old. From the start, it was defined to be platonic and it has remained so till date without any force of pressure. It didn't come by luck or lack of opportunity, we'd to come up and agree on some HARD but needful decisions to in order to remain chaste (in every sense of the word). Over the years, I've learnt how not to be selfish. When you are in a relationship, you not only think about yourself but also you consider the woman you love. You may not feel like "loving" but you put yourself in the mood because it might hurt her. I've learnt how to forgive in advance because whether we like it or not issues must come up and you have to overlook some things for peace sake. I've learnt to know what it means to be cared for by somebody who loves you. At first, I wasn't used to it and would react but later I grew up and accepted been treated like a baby sometimes. I've learnt how to give and make sacrifices sometimes. She doesn't need to place any demand; giving according to my size is what love is all about. Knowledge has thought me that whatever I give out should be something if in a different occasion I can as well do for another. So at the long run, no hard feeling or heartbreak peradventure things go sour. I've also learnt how to take certain decisions as a man for the good of each other and stand by them. I've learnt how to control my immediate gratification; to fall and get up stronger and better. Most importantly I've learnt how to love and be loved by that special one... It is not what I can get but what I can and willingly ready to give. I was raised by a Queen so it's a wonderful privilege showing someone she's a Princess and how precious she is not just to herself or in the sight of God but also to me. What Do Boys Gain In A Relationship Without Sex? Actually boys gain nothing without sex but gentlemen gain much more than sex is worth. Sex will keep you more than you are willing to stay and cost you more than you are willing to pay. Experience is not the best teacher in matters like this... But it is a CHOICE! Finally, no relationship leaves you neutral. It either adds something to you or substracts something from you. Learn the lesson and forget the details. Your preparation will determine your performance - things will change when I/we get married is a mirage. Hope it does not become a reality after divorce/separation. Whatsoever a man sows that he will certainly reap. 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Want To Give Me Bj by jearile(m): 11:03am On Jan 26, 2015 |
CallMeBIRA:Okay, I apologise... I take back my words especially the part that sounded mean |
Romance / Re: My Girlfriend Want To Give Me Bj by jearile(m): 6:28pm On Jan 25, 2015 |
Ladies seem to be more offended and disgusted by the op's post... Hmm! Anyway, I must admit this sounds childish and can only come from an oaf. Your private business should remain private bro... Common sense unfortunately is not common anymore - too bad! 1 Like |
Romance / Re: How Can I Make My Boyfriend End Our Relationship by jearile(m): 10:33pm On Jan 18, 2015 |
tainee:True love is reciprocal - to love and be loved in return. Ignore the aforementioned insulting statements cus indirectly u'll not just be doing yourself a favour but also the guy. We don't love out of sympathy, thatz one of the cruel tinz u can inflict on a man. But my problem with you is your inability to hurt the guy with the truth rather than make the guy feel kinda guilty peradventure he calls it quit if the deceit you are concorting works out. If the chemistry btw u n the guy aint bonding and even with time you feel it won't get bera den babe u owe no one any apology but the truth cuz it shows u've a bit of sense of maturity. Talk to him politely and let it be that at least there could still be some kind of cordial relationship btw 2 of u. There is certainly someone somewhere made for u - perhaps he's somebody else's and you're someone else's. I just sincerely hope you won't be wrong few years from now. Think! 1 Like |
Romance / Re: How To Catch Guys Who Only Want Your Body! by jearile(m): 8:45am On Jan 09, 2015 |
crazysaint:OMG! Love don suffer... Confusing lust for love is now the in thing - if no be panadol, e no fit be like panadol o. When the creature thinks he is wiser than the Creator |
Romance / Re: He Broke Up With Me Because Of SEX by jearile(m): 10:16pm On Dec 28, 2014 |
mizkeleke:There are some questions you ought to have the answers to before you embark on journey like this. Sex might be necessary to keep some relationships but sex does not necessarily build relationships @ D'lite, mizkeleke |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 5:29pm On Dec 24, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:The truth may not sound comfortable and practicable even to the extent of being overlooked by the speaker but that does not invalidate its authenticity. But on the contrary, I speak of what I believe and I'll practice if I find myself in that mess |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 5:21pm On Dec 24, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:Concerning the latter, it was a typographical error... I meant "...provided she wasn't..." instead of the former. I thought going through those preamble would have given you a clear picture as regards the answer to your question, but obviously I was wrong. I thought a quick 3-letter word makes it look easier said than done. Anyway, if I were in her shoe be it as it may and believe it or not I won't give up on my marriage. The same thing I'd suggested all along would be the same step I'll go. |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 12:53pm On Dec 24, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:Action speaks louder than words... So the fact that I give an emphatic YES to your question right now does not really stop me from acting otherwise if peradventure I'm faced with that kind of challenge. You know when I said I've a deep understanding about this sanctimonious institute called marriage I didn't say to mince words; within this short period of my life I've seen and heard things that just keep echoing the need for one to be prepared with the help of God before saying "yes I do." Giving up on your marriage is not the same thing as staying away from your wife/husband for awhile. It is not a matter of proximity but attitude. Do all you can to win your wife/husband back; we're not talking about a boyfriend/girlfriend, for crying outloud it's your bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh. I'll take my time with the help of God to choose my wife and nothing come what may will make me to give up on her, and I mean it provided she wasn't forced into my life. All God needs is a sincere heart! #youmustcarryurCross |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 12:02pm On Dec 24, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:Though, not married yet but there's a deep understanding I've as regards to the issue of marriage and that's why I'm not surprised if my view sounds "illogical" to you. I've seen marriages that went through worse case than this and are now fixed; and marriages that also faced lesser predicament that's dead and buried. The difference now is in their approach and mentality. Love will surely prevail and triumph - the devil is not that powerful to turn a prince to a beast overnight. |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 6:37am On Dec 24, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:What God has joined together, let no man (husband/wife inclusive) put asunder. It can be fixed! |
Family / Re: Sad Marital Tales From My Friend by jearile(m): 7:16pm On Dec 23, 2014 |
aameyah:If she has a prophet, one who speaks into her life, I'd advice she seek advice from him. There's no perfect marriage and there's no marriage that can't be fixed. Problems in marriage is like a chain reaction and not one sided as many thinks. Permit me to deviate a little... Don't say yes to a man or propose to a lady if you can't identify one person he/she has this awe for, that no matter how angry they bend to the instruction of this person. Preferably a mentor but not their parents. If her husband does have somebody like that who can speak some sense into his head, call for him asap. And, if she and her hubby are members of the same denomination, I think it'd be easier for the pastor to address him... Most essentially, she shouldn't stop asking God for help and showing the husband love. All will be well - IT IS POSSIBLE! |
Romance / Re: I Waited For Him For Over Two Years by jearile(m): 9:06pm On Dec 15, 2014 |
Most times events/incidences take place for a reason which comes along with lessons to learn. Thinking is not really a hard thing to do but we assume everything looks like it seems out there. Love is not so theatrical; if you don't have it within no matter how much you try, you can't give it or sustain it without. True love pays less attention to feelings and pays much more attention to reasoning but nowadays the reverse is the case. If the "house" has been put in order without any iota of self deceit then this might help... Mistakes are part of life and nobody has the right to exempt you or the guy. Perhaps it was a case of "you don't know what you have until you lose it" and that's why he's trying to find his way back to you or a case of "a fragile bird at hand is better ten in the bush" and at the blink of any major misunderstanding, he aloof. Now it's up to you to find out. Listen, money is not evil but the love of it and same goes for electricity. It serves a great purpose but if you place your hands on the wrong wire, boy you'll get electrocuted. Love hurts no doubt but not in the degree it's been perceived by people who're trying to justify their ignorance. If you don't know your worth somebody will come and price you down - "if you don't know who you are the devil will tell you are who you are not." Doing the same thing, in the same manner and expecting a different result is another definition of insanity. What am I driving at? Identify your loopholes based on the past and address them before you give him a second chance provided you're convinced he has good intentions. Test him, take your time without any hastening and have fun. I think the aforementioned will only be maximally effective if you guys can start all over again by been just friends without any special preference especially from your end. You can try even though it might not be easy... True love rocks! #GodisLove 1 Like |
Dating And Meet-up Zone / Re: TELL US WHO YOU LIKE ON NAIRALAND, ME I LIKE SEUN by jearile(m): 3:57pm On Dec 01, 2014 |
Julieee: https://www.nairaland.com/1973037/how-old-first-time-sex#27579755 |
Romance / Re: For How Long Should A Guy Chase A Girl by jearile(m): 8:09pm On Nov 23, 2014 |
Maamin:Hell is nearer than you think when you marry the wrong spouse... Marriage is not a thing of luck! BTW if you'd read carefully, you'd have noticed this part: jearile: ...So if what's really driving/motivating you is indeed L 2d O 2d V n2d E and not just what seems to be it (it's either you are in love or with the idea of being in love)... |
Family / Re: Help by jearile(m): 7:35pm On Nov 22, 2014 |
Givemejoy:You can be a friend without being a lover but you can't be a (true) lover without being a friend. Though it's a very difficult call but a true friend will prefer to hurt you with the truth rather than comfort you with a lie even if the future of their relationship is at stake... Bad odour might be a turn off but who says it can't be fix. This is how ample of ladies have easily lost real gentlemen because of temporary disability - only one with an Eagle eyes will see beyond their nose |
Romance / Re: For How Long Should A Guy Chase A Girl by jearile(m): 9:50pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
DAVE5:Wow! I could sense your rage from a distance, you're throwing tantrums as if u've once been in this kind of situation. Anyway, I'm sorry if I've offended you, please forgive me o...Well, if you were careful enough, you'd have noticed I used the word "ideally." But not to worry, to say what I think you want to hear, I think you should or can chase the girl for as long as your mind/stamina/desire can carry you - one minute, one hour, one day, one week, one month, one year or even forever; it's individualistic... abi dem say "winners don't quit" |
Romance / Re: For How Long Should A Guy Chase A Girl by jearile(m): 4:02pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
Rapsodee:Ideally, the word/idea "chase" when it comes to true love is incorrect. True love "waits" and not "chase." For God so love the world... still, He's not chasing anyone but rather waiting until you acknowledge His love for you. Jacob waited for 14 years for Rachael. So if what's really driving/motivating you is indeed L 2d O 2d V n2d E and not just what seems to be it (it's either you are in love or with the idea of being in love); then as long as it takes you gotta keep and keep waiting. It's one thing to marry a woman and another thing to marry your woman. #HappyWaiting 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Without Regular Sex,he May Die by jearile(m): 3:38pm On Nov 14, 2014 |
engrtee:Op obviously didn't complete it... My REPLY:https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=801197909922966&id=206598242716272&refid=17&ref=stream |
Romance / Re: Her Ex-Boyfriends All Ran Away Because Of Sex by jearile(m): 11:02am On Nov 13, 2014 |
Beehorn:When the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable. The world today is filled with mediocre, ignoramus and ample NFAs (No Future Ambition.) My deepest apology if I sounded a bit harsh but I can't help the disdain I feel when I read or hear of some things like this. Anyway, I wish somebody will learn one or two things from what has been said, mine inclusive. When we ignore principles whether on purpose or by default, we would most likely end up a prey because there're umpteen predators and scavengers waiting to get you into their snare. There are principles guiding true relationship. Search and be in the know about these principles, convince yourself about them before you jump into any relationship so that you do yourself a favour by relinquishing these unwanted insecurities because you've decided to be in the divide of the minority taking your stand on what is honourable and dignified. At this stage of your life (op and cousin), this is what you should be doing - understanding the purpose of a thing, developing and increasing your capacity in that area and then settling with the truth though it may not be convenient. Most times we only get to hear only the juicy part on airwaves but people conceal the repercussions and consequences to themselves. Your future will require more than your present requires. It's so unfortunate that nowadays a lot of us work before we think; so it is when the damage has already been done that's when our eyes become open. You train a person how to treat you, by the way you treat yourself. It takes knowledge to know the POWER you possess as a woman over a man. And if you're a woman and you don't know this yet; you are standing on a long thing... Idleness breed loneliness. People whose mind are chunk/preoccupied with the idea/thought/talk of sex is a valid proof of idleness, mediocrity and self-satisfaction. So tell your cousin to be redefine her mentality and it'd greatly affect her priorities in life. Ps: Please let's stop deceiving ourselves. When you define your relationship as platonic, then leave it at that. You disagree to SEX and yet you engage in all there is that leads to SEX - who are you deceiving? After browsing, you say make guy man no download - e no make sense na. #ChastityOrNoChastity |
Romance / Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by jearile(m): 7:48am On Nov 13, 2014 |
oracle009:Wisdom is profitable to direct. Wisdom demands that we do not play with fire because we're presumptuous of not getting hurt. Desist from compromising situations (close door location or romantic advances etc) that can trigger fire (the urge) we might not be able to quench on time. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Is It Possible To Love Someone And Not Have The Desire To Sleep With The Person? by jearile(m): 10:23pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
faithugo64:Having read through some comments I found out there's a misconstrued on the topic. In as much as I presumably get the notion you are trying to send across, I think the word "desire" was kind of inappropriate in this context. I would have preferred you used the word "urge" in place of "desire." I won't want to dip into its meaning to save us time. Now, it's a natural phenomenon to have urge for intimacy with your complementary sex let alone with somebody you feel something 'special' for. Celibacy, whether ordained or imposed didn't stop the hormones in your body from functioning and for goodness' sake it is not a sin - so all the holier than thou sycophant with their "phariseeism" mentality can now drop all the pretence. Refusing to dishonour your temple is a journey that begins from your mind and your ability to put it under control through the help of God irrespective of your feelings is what true love preaches. Instead of satisfying your immediate gratification, you choose to knock it off. So in nutshell, having sexual urge is only natural - you can't stop, you can't kill it but you can suppress it until it's the right time to express it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Appreciating Sexual Experience by jearile(m): 9:47pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
undercat:I only tried to quote a context from one of Paul's epistle. When you marry a wife you can get all the sex you need if promiscuity seems to be a daunting task. Ps: Please nobody should marry mainly for sex |
Romance / Re: How Do You Know A Man That Is God Fearing? by jearile(m): 9:29pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
contactmorak:It takes a person who's God fearing to identify same virtue in somebody else. To be God fearing is simply being easily corrected by the word of God - all your decisions are bounded by His word. You prefer to be obedient to His instruction than fulfilling your will. Ps: It's not just by going to church or singing hosanna in the highest with hands lifted high 22 Likes 5 Shares |
Romance / Re: Appreciating Sexual Experience by jearile(m): 9:03pm On Nov 12, 2014 |
undercat:Simply ask yourself if this your proposition sounds honourable... Your emotions (hormones) are meant to be controlled by you and not you being totally subject to it. Apostle Paul said if you cannot hold body, go and look for a wife. |
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