Celebrities › Re: Actress Rosy Meurer Show Off Her Cute Daughter, As They Both Hangout by jeff1607(m): 12:48pm On Feb 17, 2019 |
Onyi22: Wow, they look good together n am very sure d dudu behind their spending is a rich guy....... Unlike some broke ass guys we have on this forum... bro , Take am easy |
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Julius Ekweozor ~ Election Postponement Prophesied & Confirmed (Video) by jeff1607(m): 11:52pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
tubolancer: We have light from 3am down to 5pm, no blinking. this is ojoro |
Politics › Re: Osaretin Igbinedion Dies In Car Accident In The US (Photos) by jeff1607(m): 11:51pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
kengeorge2013: where did your father get money buy you akara. Foollll if you grew up in benin , you would understand their pain, countless of people died on a roads that this man ignored to fix, flash floods that could have been prevented , public schools were the worst hit and his kids went to the best of schools. lands were forcefully grabbed for their own benefits (GRA), in benin the indigenes mostly get their wages either from working in a hotel establishment or working for the government. companies are just springing up. |
Politics › Re: Osaretin Igbinedion Dies In Car Accident In The US (Photos) by jeff1607(m): 10:02pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
kengeorge2013: where did your father get money buy you akara. Foollll if you grew up in benin , you would understand their pain, countless of people died on a roads that this man ignored to fix, flash floods that could have been prevented , public schools were the worst hit and his kids went to the best of schools. lands were forcefully grabbed for their own benefits (GRA), in benin the indigenes mostly get their wages either from working in a hotel establishment or working for the government. companies are just springing up. |
Christianity Etc › Re: Prophet Julius Ekweozor ~ Election Postponement Prophesied & Confirmed (Video) by jeff1607(m): 8:11pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
phcn no just try today |
Celebrities › Re: Sophie Alakija Celebrates Her Son's 1st Birthday by jeff1607(m): 8:05pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Delivar: Why is this girl always on front page? What's special about her? an appendage of Wizkid |
Celebrities › Re: Sophie Alakija Celebrates Her Son's 1st Birthday by jeff1607(m): 8:05pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
victorvezx: This girl wan resemble porn actress Mia khalifa fear God bros |
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Politics › Re: Breaking: INEC In Emergency Meeting Over Presidential Election by jeff1607(m): 9:43pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
let them give us electricity tomorrow o |
Celebrities › Re: Juliet Ibrahim Speaks On Not Dating A Broke Guy by jeff1607(m): 9:38pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
Onyi22: No lady wil like to associate with a poor broke nigga... I wish the poor, frustrated, broke guys on this forum will take note n stop sending me mails...... kindly define who is a broke guy in your own terms cos u have been at it for quite awhile now even guys who warn 200k per month are always broke, 15th of every month na IOU Dem de rush |
Celebrities › Re: Juliet Ibrahim Speaks On Not Dating A Broke Guy by jeff1607(m): 9:37pm On Feb 15, 2019*. Modified: 5:10am On Feb 16, 2019 |
mmclatino: Get married when you're financially OK ☝ when is a man financially ok? also note that even landlords borrow money |
Pets › Re: New Boerboel Owner; Suggest Feeding And Care by jeff1607(m): 5:22pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
Acheron: Oh I see, thanks bro. Can I start feeding her chicken parts? I was advised not to give meat until she's 5-6 months cos of worm but is chicken parts okay? remove the bones , boil the meat , don't feed raw till you are certain of the source n health of the animal before it was killed |
Technology Market › Re: Upgrade Your Laptop Memory (ram) At Cheap Prices by jeff1607(m): 5:00pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
the price sir |
Pets › Re: Ghana National Dog Show by jeff1607(m): 4:25pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
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Pets › Re: New Boerboel Owner; Suggest Feeding And Care by jeff1607(m): 4:11pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
Acheron: Pls, am I the only one whose dog likes pouring her water so She can lay on it? Why do they do this? to cool off, the heat might be the cause |
Pets › Re: Ghana National Dog Show by jeff1607(m): 4:09pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
BlackSaints: i have enough data I don't want to watch it simple. watch it bro ,it's worth it the last swift turns really caught my eye, agility is the word |
Health › Re: Sick Baby, Benaiah Monday, Dies on his way to Dubai for his heart surgery by jeff1607(m): 3:38pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
I pray this ain't true |
Nairaland General › Re: 5 Secret Life Lessons To Learn From The Chess Game - Become Successful In Life by jeff1607(m): 2:52pm On Feb 15, 2019 |
Draft or checkers nko? |
Celebrities › Re: Sophia Momodu Nude Valentine's Photoshoot by jeff1607(m): 9:43am On Feb 15, 2019 |
she looks like a man with makeup |
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) › Re: BATE Borisov Vs Arsenal: Europa League (1 - 0) On 14th February 2019 by jeff1607(m): 9:41am On Feb 15, 2019 |
ikechemez: And the most useless inconsistent and unserious club goes to.......?. Your guess is as good as my can you coach arsenal fc and bring desired results? |
Celebrities › Re: Cossy Orjiakor Recites The National Anthem In Style by jeff1607(m): 4:25pm On Feb 14, 2019 |
it is finished |
Politics › Re: Shakar El Comes For Nigerians Without PVCs And Yet Talk Politics by jeff1607(m): 12:49pm On Feb 14, 2019 |
take this
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Travel › Re: Lottery Winner Shows Up In Scream Mask To Claim His Price (Photos) by jeff1607(m): 6:38pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
chai! |
Pets › Re: Diary of my Caucasian Roscoe by jeff1607(m): 6:16pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
IamAnderson: in my area there aren't many dogs and the few dogs that are their don't come outside.....so the chances of him getting parvo are slimmer. I also made sure he got vaccinated against parvo and other things so he has a better chance of preventing them. I haven't met any local dog on our walks before so I don't have any experience dealing with them, the only local dog I see is always chained in front of one compound and the dog always tries to attack him any time I pass but they haven't fought before. I think I can ward off a local dog if it tries to attack him tho, I'm ready to do anything. for now, he's the only dog that get's walked in my area so the parvo transmission scare is not a big fear of mine, infact I'm taking him to the vet on friday for his rabies vaccine. cool |
Pets › Re: Diary of my Caucasian Roscoe by jeff1607(m): 5:51pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
IamAnderson: I managed to take a pic of Roscoe, he never stays still for pictures so all his pics come out blurry. someone had to keep him distracted so I could snap him. what do you think of his growth?, I've been checking his growth chart and it seems normal to me what do you think? he's 5months+ now wanted to ask , how do you summon courage taking your dog out for walks knowing the chances of contacting parvo is high especially this period? also when local dogs come near you during walks how do you send them away without them coming close or allowing him attack them for fear of contacts |
Romance › Re: One Corner Crooner Patapaa And His Very Well Endowed Girlfriend by jeff1607(m): 4:20pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
snowxandria:
all I see is a chimpanzee and a hippopotamus
We now have a verified Google Adsense for sale fear God na savage. lol |
Romance › Re: My Friend Brings Ladies To My House For Sex. I'm Depressed Now by jeff1607(m): 4:15pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
I see ladies call the OP weak and here I thought they want a man they are either equal with or one they can control |
Family › Re: I Am Conflicted: Please Advise Me. by jeff1607(m): 3:18pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
Lukewarm: I posted this on a thread last month, and I was happy about the good albeit few advice I got. I feel creating a thread will make me reach out to a larger audience.
A little into my background
I am a 23 years old lady that has been in a 3 year relationship with my guy. I am an introvert, quite reserved and have little to none friends. I've always kept to myself and found it hard opening up to people, maybe that's because I'm an only child.
So, I believe an anonymous platform like nairaland will be the best way for me to get advice on something I've never voiced out on.
I should also mention that I'm a Muslim and early marriage is really encouraged.
To the issue
I am at crossroads in my relationship life right now. On one hand, I've got this great dude I've been with for some years. Everyone thinks he's perfect for me because he's ready to be responsible and settle down, then he also plans for the future.
But the problem?
We don't seem to have that connection or chemistry. I find it hard just telling him I love him. But everyone keeps ringing it into my ear that he's one of the good guys and there are quite a few out there. So I promised myself to respect him and hope that is enough to keep a marriage going.
Then on to the minor things: 1. He's a traditional guy. He believes all a woman needs to do is cook, clean, and conceive. A woman shouldn't be ambitious as her responsibility lies in taking care of the home and bringing up the children morally and in the way of the religion.
2. He believes a lot of things are frivolities and a wife has got little to no say in the house. I'm naturally quiet and easy going, and I never complain about anything. But, there are times I like to experience new things. For example, I wanted to go to the north for my NYSC, but he didn't want to hear of that and wanted Ibadan because it's close to Lagos (where we both live). I ended up picking 2 of his state choices and 2 of mine.....and I was posted to Ondo.
Then another issue was I registered to be an INEC ad-hoc staff for the forthcoming election against his wishes. I don't see any thing bad in it, and I really needed the allowance.
These issues always makes him say I have a mind of my own and I'm stubborn....which are all bad wifely traits.
These makes me wonder If I'm actually a stubborn person overdoing things.
This really badgers me.
But hey! He's one of the few good ones available.....right?
Then I got a shocker. I met someone in camp in November and its been a totally crazy and new experience for me these last few months. It's the first time I'd meet someone that I'm so compatible with. It's the first time I've seen someone share the same warped sense of humour I've got. First time I'd meet someone that shares a lot of common interest with me. First time someone will creep into my subconscious and make me smile or even lol at something goofy he did or said.
Now, it's got me thinking: Is respect really enough?
But my family is having none of these second thoughts. Everyone thinks Im crazy to be having second thoughts about a guy with so much potentials. It so happens they'd conveniently bring up the story of a really distant aunt that lost her opportunity to marry by saying No to someone and is still a spinster at 45. And it really isn't helping matters that my new POI is a northerner, stays thousands of miles away, a struggling corp member like me and isn't set for settling now.
My real guy wants us to get married before he leaves for his Masters abroad. And if that will happen it will be before November.
So conflicted. Please, advise me. no one is perfect , some nysc relationships don't last , don't throw three years away, but just in case you want the fault to come from him like him leaving you, kindly give his contact so I recommend him to someone who values what you claim is old fashioned, pls mention me here a girl just lost her boyfriend who helped her from beginning to getting her nysc PPA and a job but yet she went ahead dating the head of accounting in her work place, the guy just did nikkah with her friend after discovering. don't worry he will leave you to settle with another person so you can move on with your life |
Family › Re: Happily Single And Happily Married by jeff1607(m): 3:10pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
nothing gives more joy than going home to a happy wife
peace of mind guaranteed |
Crime › Re: Fake Soldiers Escorting Politician In Imo Arrested (Photo) by jeff1607(m): 2:56pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
let them join the Nigerian army for real |
Crime › Re: FUTO Undergraduate, Chitere Okoronkwo Kills Her Boyfriend. Photo by jeff1607(m): 2:50pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
A face a brother won't love |
Romance › Re: The Boob Movement Founder Goes Completely Unclad On Instagram by jeff1607(m): 2:48pm On Feb 13, 2019 |
in baba suwe's voice; ele bo lo! how much e go pay! |